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FL, USA
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:13:10 PM EDT
An ex who is still a really good friend has an 8th grade son who made honor roll. Was thinking about a monetary gift for the young man. How much is appropriate?
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:14:38 PM EDT
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Not being grounded was my reward.
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:15:35 PM EDT
[#2]
Buy him a rifle instead.
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:16:03 PM EDT
[#3]
I never did money as a reward for good grades, but would sometimes do an ice cream or something like that.
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FL, USA
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:16:29 PM EDT
[#4]
Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By Undaunted: Not being grounded was my reward. |
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TX, USA
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:16:43 PM EDT
[#5]
Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By cycletool: Buy him a rifle instead. The M1 for lawn mowing set the bar. |
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OH, USA
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:19:02 PM EDT
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My dad took me to the local arcade and gave me $20 in quarters to do as I pleased. Man, I forgot about that. Good times.
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:20:41 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By Undaunted: Not being grounded was my reward. No shit. I was taught to get good grades so I didn't end stupid and get a shit job, like fry cook at burger king or professional GD poster. |
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:21:44 PM EDT
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My mother give our two kids $10 for every A. Nothing for B's and below.
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OH, USA
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:24:01 PM EDT
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My parents took me to dinner until middle school. After that point it was an expectation with no rewards.
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:24:07 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By 3BP: No shit. I was taught to get good grades so I didn't end stupid and get a shit job, like fry cook at burger king or professional GD poster. Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By 3BP: Originally Posted By Undaunted: Not being grounded was my reward. No shit. I was taught to get good grades so I didn't end stupid and get a shit job, like fry cook at burger king or professional GD poster. |
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UKR
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:24:34 PM EDT
[#11]
Nothing. Not your kid. If you insist, save up and give him something small for a graduation present.
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:25:54 PM EDT
[#12]
$0, directly.
Good grades should be expected, not financially rewarded. Do something together that they like and frame it as being because of the grades. Fishing trip. Their favorite dinner. Something to acknowledge the achievement. Making money the reward for everything doesn't teach a good lesson. |
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:26:12 PM EDT
[#13]
Give him a younger brother or sister.
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:26:47 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By FuriousYachtsman: Give him a younger brother or sister. 
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:27:35 PM EDT
[#15]
Give that boy $10K for each A on the report card.
I’m sure with incentive like that he’ll turn out just fine. 
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:27:55 PM EDT
[#16]
wait, an ex, so its not your kid?
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AZ, USA
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:31:16 PM EDT
[#17]
I wanna say up till 6th grade, for my report card, I got $5 for every A, $1 for ever B, nothing for a C, grounded for a week for a D and im pretty sure instan-death for an F.
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USA
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:31:20 PM EDT
[#18]
IDK; my kid is holding down a 4.4 GPA (on the 0 to 4 point scale) and we don’t pay her for that.
We have a house cleaner to clean our toilets twice a month. I’ve told my kids since they were toddlers: “get bad grades and you’ll end up cleaning someone else’s toilets.” They both got the message. |
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USA
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:33:09 PM EDT
[#19]
My HS friends dad used to pay her $100 per A on her report card.
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USA
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:36:00 PM EDT
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I was always told of $20 A’s and this was this 80’s!
But i failed to apply myself. But I did end up applying and teaching myself many different skills, but I had to find the right motivation and ways to learn. If No one else can motivate you, only you can! |
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USA
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:36:53 PM EDT
[#21]
Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By 3BP: No shit. I was taught to get good grades so I didn't end stupid and get a shit job, like fry cook at burger king or professional GD poster. 2 out 3 ain’t bad! |
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:38:29 PM EDT
[#22]
If he becomes an alcoholic later in life, maybe OP can offer him a Rolex to quit drinking??
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:50:51 PM EDT
[#23]
I never got rewarded for doing it
It was my job to do so. |
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:52:28 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By MK3110: Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By MK3110: Originally Posted By Undaunted: Not being grounded was my reward. Nailed it. Asian parents. |
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OR, USA
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:52:43 PM EDT
[#25]
$10 per book. Chores and grades are expected.
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:52:45 PM EDT
[#26]
I have 8 kids, now adults, good grades were expected
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CA, USA
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Posted: 5/17/2024 4:53:26 PM EDT
[#27]
Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By FaunaBeware: $0, directly. Good grades should be expected, not financially rewarded. Do something together that they like and frame it as being because of the grades. Fishing trip. Their favorite dinner. Something to acknowledge the achievement. Making money the reward for everything doesn't teach a good lesson. I've let my kids know, from an early age, success or failure in life falls on them. Whether they get good grades or not will have no impact on my life, but will have a profound impact on theirs. Effort is what matters to me. As long as they are giving a good effort the grade is not relevant. Having said that, both my kids are A students and we generally have a small celebration at the end of each semester. |
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Posted: 5/17/2024 5:01:46 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By Mall-Ninja: Nailed it. Asian parents. Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By Mall-Ninja: Originally Posted By MK3110: Originally Posted By Undaunted: Not being grounded was my reward. Nailed it. Asian parents.  Attached File??? |
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FL, USA
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Posted: 5/17/2024 5:02:33 PM EDT
[Last Edit: FMJshooter]
[#29]
I buy my kids stuff, usually smaller things. This year I've changed my mind, my son is getting a gaming PC. He scored 100 on of his state exams and is skipping a grade in math and english next year.
Nobody blinks at buying all kinds of shit for a kids birthday (congrats on being born?) but when they actually earn something they get an ice cream? Seems backward to me. |
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Posted: 5/17/2024 5:04:27 PM EDT
[#30]
Originally Posted By Mikalis: An ex who is still a really good friend has an 8th grade son who made honor roll. Was thinking about a monetary gift for the young man. How much is appropriate? Why? Are you still trying to bang the ex? |
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FL, USA
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Posted: 5/17/2024 5:08:42 PM EDT
[#31]
I have a daughter and she gets $25 per A in core classes and AP electives, plus a $100 bonus for straight A’s. It gives her spending cash through the year, as school is her job. Tried to make it as close to real world as I can.
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Posted: 5/17/2024 5:09:28 PM EDT
[#32]
Good grades were expected in my house growing up and I have the same expectation from my kids, especially since I'm paying for their school. Paying for grades is a dumb idea that makes kids feel entitled.
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Posted: 5/17/2024 5:13:57 PM EDT
[#33]
I remember the local Burger King franchisee gave you a free Whopper if you brought your report card in with straight As.
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USA
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Posted: 5/17/2024 5:14:15 PM EDT
[#34]
Told mine I’d give em $30 for all A+ and $20 for straight A’s
I’m gonna bonus em with $40. YMMV |
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USA
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Posted: 5/17/2024 5:14:31 PM EDT
[#35]
Take him somewhere he can see the rewards of good education and hard work. Or some cool science place that allows visitors. Good grades should come as a byproduct of self-motivation.
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Posted: 5/17/2024 5:15:11 PM EDT
[#36]
Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By Undaunted: Not being grounded was my reward. Funny because true. |
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Posted: 5/17/2024 5:19:01 PM EDT
[#37]
Good grades are expected, unless the kid has a condition.
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Posted: 5/17/2024 5:20:43 PM EDT
[#38]
I'm not buying expensive gifts for my ex's kids unless we share DNA
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NC, USA
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Posted: 5/17/2024 5:21:05 PM EDT
[Last Edit: MFP_4073]
[#39]
we did $10 per A -- $5 per B
pay for performance is a real-life thing. did it with all my kids. i told one i'd give her $1,000 if she scored 100 goals in HS soccer. she way exceeded that. paid her at graduation. it's not all about money -- but hey -- 20 bucks is 20 bucks 
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Posted: 5/17/2024 5:23:15 PM EDT
[#40]
Joe gave Hunter a $50,000 a month job in the Ukraine and some cash for hookers and blow.
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AZ, USA
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Posted: 5/17/2024 5:26:53 PM EDT
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told my daughter get good grades you may get into a good college on scholarship.Well she graduates tues and has a full ride scholarship to john hopkins.
thats better than any money i could have given her.She worked hard for it and its paying off. |
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Posted: 5/17/2024 5:28:55 PM EDT
[Last Edit: Undaunted]
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By MFP_4073: we did $10 per A -- $5 per B pay for performance is a real-life thing. did it with all my kids. i told one i'd give her $1,000 if she scored 100 goals in HS soccer. she way exceeded that. paid her at graduation. it's not all about money -- but hey -- 20 bucks is 20 bucks Paying for B's? oof. The guy that changes the sign from slow to stop during road work got B's. |
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Posted: 5/17/2024 5:35:16 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By Undaunted: Paying for B's? oof. The guy that changes the sign from slow to stop during road work got B's. Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By Undaunted: Originally Posted By MFP_4073: we did $10 per A -- $5 per B pay for performance is a real-life thing. did it with all my kids. i told one i'd give her $1,000 if she scored 100 goals in HS soccer. she way exceeded that. paid her at graduation. it's not all about money -- but hey -- 20 bucks is 20 bucks Paying for B's? oof. The guy that changes the sign from slow to stop during road work got B's. Never seen that sign. Do they wear brightly colored vests? |
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NC, USA
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Posted: 5/17/2024 5:39:13 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryOriginally Posted By Undaunted: Paying for B's? oof. The guy that changes the sign from slow to stop during road work got B's. no that dude is a Mexican who can't speak English. try again. 
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USA
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Posted: 5/17/2024 5:47:02 PM EDT
[Last Edit: Grumple]
[#45]
I'm fortunate to have twin 15 year old boys who have consistently received honor and high honors since 5th grade.
I bring them out for a dinner as a reward. One is also a video gamer, so I get him a small $ amt PS gift card and the other one a starbucks card.... $20 bucks each. It's a well earned reward in my opinion. I'm tough on them academically and they perform. Performance should always equal a reward... even if just a small reward as a means of recognition |
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Posted: 5/17/2024 5:53:01 PM EDT
[Last Edit: Paul]
[#46]
$5000
$4500 goes into a college fund. The kid gets to spend $500 on something you approve of and likely would have bought him anyway but now he worked for it. (feel free to adjust that amount up or down but the key is that the boy feels like he's working towards college and ties his good grades to that long-time reward and the gratification he gets from the 10%) |
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Posted: 5/17/2024 5:57:59 PM EDT
[#47]
I got a banana split if I got an A in conduct
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ME, USA
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Posted: 5/17/2024 6:01:19 PM EDT
[Last Edit: RichHead]
[#48]
$100 for honor roll or $200 for high honors
ETA: I just saw it wasn’t your kid. $20 if you’re feeling generous. |
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Posted: 5/17/2024 6:03:52 PM EDT
[#49]
Ex’s kid? FFS nothing
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Posted: 5/17/2024 6:05:53 PM EDT
[#50]
I was never financially rewarded for getting good grades
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