Question about a broken heart

Is it possible to die of a broken heart? Broken dreams? Broken promises and many lies?

Certainly feels that way

Physically , I think not; Although rapid weight loss and panic attacks are not healthy.
Mentally , when we have been hurt bad enough I believe a little something does die inside.

I wondered the same thing a while ago but it was more...If I all of a sudden got really sick would my body just let go and not fight. It gets better.

How can it get better?

How can someone have a change of heart in less than 12 hours? July 22: Marry me, spend the rest of your life with me, let's have kids, what are we going to name our first child if it's a boy. July 23: I was told I want to be single.

Yes - he was told.

I didn't do anything wrong, just love him, be there for him, support him, take care of him, pick him up when he was down, cheer him up when others put him down, make him feel secure.

Dreams we shared, promises on the memory of a deceased loved one were made - someone who mean everything in this world to him.

There is nowhere I can hide and there is no one to tell me the truth.

It doesn't seem like it now but trust me, it gets better with time. I was blindsided after 7 years of what I thought was a great marriage. Focus on yourself, work, hobbies, friends and family. Shooting or exercising regularly helps a lot

I can't speak to his issues or where he is coming from.

good that it happend now not 3 years from now. go enjoy yourself ,how did you get along before this jerk, do it again . i thank god every day that a women totaly hurt me after 4 years with her, .because 6 after months i met my wife of 33 years. carry on

When one door closes another opens.

Wish it was as easy as 1,2,3 - perhaps I am a fool for having hope left.

even thought it's been this long and not a single sign of care or consideration.

Only time will tell I suppose. I know what is in my heart -

Well at least now you know what type of person he is. There is someone better out there for you. Just be patient. I was married to a wife beater for 2years. I divorced him and I found my soulmate 9years later and we have been married for 13years. I think if you let yourself get depressed enough to where nothing matters anymore and you stop caring about you, then yes you could die but it wouldn't be because of a broken heart. It would be that you didn't try hard enough to be the person you were before him. If anything this will make you a much stronger person and you won't fall so hard the next time you find someone. You'll be more reserved. You'll know what kind of guy you want and you won't settle for anything less than what you deserve. Good Luck and Mr. Right will pop up when you least expect him too.

I made the mistake of thinking I didn't love a woman any longer. I kicked her to the curb and didn't look back. She dicided that I was still worth loving and walked back into my life after 3 months, great times, great sex, we were in love all over again. Now she decides she needs space and her heart and mind are in conflict. I feel I got played and now I'm the heart broken fool. You can die from a broken heart, at least I have gotten close a few nights after a bottle of jack. A broken heart is a horrible feeling, but we all find someone better in the end I hope.

You will, Love is a hard road when you are looking for it. But when you find it and it's that kind of love you'd take a bullet for them kind of thing, then it's truely meant to be. But they also need to they also need to have that same kind of love for you as well. You also need to be friends too. My BFF is first and foremost my husband. We can laugh, pick on each other and laugh about the same stupid things. We still sit on the same sofa and hold hands while watching TV. That's what I consider love and I hope we will always have that kind of Love.

You're one of the good ones. A keeper and a true jewel. He just didn't see it..or deserve you.

I, too, know that broken heart place. Hurts like hell. You're in my prayers...keep me in yours as well.

One day at a time...and when you can't do that..one breath at a time. Hang in there. I'm so very very sorry for your pain.

we had all that, and it makes no sense at all what he did and how he did it. He simply kicked me to the curb because he was told to - I didn't do anything to deserve it except love him, support him, be there for him and pick him up when he was down. Sure we had silly arguments every now and then, but in the end laughed at how stupid they were and made up instantly. Nothing makes sense.

I have been praying more than ever in my life. I have been praying for him, I have been praying for a sign, for an answer, feels like God isn't listening.

He knew damn well what he had, nobody could ever love him the way I do, that's for sure, when everyone always gave up on him, i was the only one there to reassure him, pick him up, dust him off, I am the one who never gave up on him and took all the pain away. I'm not perfect, nobody is, but what we had truly was. He was OCD, insecure, but with me, he could be himself, he knew that's what I loved more than anything about him... HIM, not who he thought he had to be around others. all he had to do to impress me was to be him. All the I love you more than anything, all the I would die without you, all the times he cried on my shoulder... all the I want to have a child with you, what are we going to name our first born? all of it was taken away less than 12 hours after the last time he said it.

It hurts like hell -

Broken heart???? Yes... Old married people do all the time after one passes away. Young people??? Never heard of it.

Perhaps you are right. But sure feels like my entire world has fallen apart. And in all honesty, it sure feels like life's just not worth it without him by my side. Cliche, maybe, foolish, maybe. Honest? certainly.

It's going to hurt for a while, sweetie, but you'll get better with time. My last breakup hurt bad. I cried myself to sleep every night, sobbing so hard I thought I'd throw up.

After a couple months, I got angry, and then I got over it. I've been with my current SO for five years now and have never looked back. Frankly, I'm glad I didn't end up with the douchebag who caused me such heart ache.


It will get better with time. I promise.

How can you hate someone you're madly in love with?!

I hope you're right, I hope it does get better with time. Right now, it feels like the biggest part of me is missing.

In my situation... I had done everything right, and he's the one who screwed me over. So being angry came naturally. I found myself thinking, "What an ass. He ruined a good thing."

It's easy to hate someone when they happily used you and then threw you away like a chewed on shoe.

I know how it feels to have the other half of you missing. The silence is never so loud.
For me, it helps me to write. I write letters and poems to him, ones he will never see. They help me get my feelings out; somehow it helps.
I keep a folder in my e-mail box called "Secret Stuff" and I cram all of them in there where no one can see them.

You're not only hurt right now but in shock at what happened because it happened so fast. You're confused and probably hoping he will see what he lost and show up at your door.
It's normal to be angry and love him at the same time. They say it gets better. I hope for you wonderful things, no matter what the future holds for you.
You have such a wonderful heart. Hang in there!

I keep a journal - dedicated to him, every thought that crosses my mind, every memory, every last movie stub, photograph or post it note with directions on it, I keep it all there. Hoping one day he might read it.

Yes. I do hold on to the hope my heart tells me to hold on. I love him more than anything in this world and miss him just as much. And yes, I do pray he will come walking in the door, I keep praying.

I have a better question: why would you love someone who doesn't love you? That's not love; that's obsession. Walking away from someone who doesn't love you is easy. What's hard is walking away from someone who does love you.

Jane

Fine line between love and hate. Me, I'd rather be single and come this Christmas Day I'll celebrate 10 years of just that. Your 12 hours was my 12 minutes.

Feel your pain. It will get better with time. Easy for an outsider to say quit obsessing over somebody or go find a hoby of any of the other inane things people say. None of that crap worked for me. I say what one of my old Squad Leader used to say: Embrace the suck least it embrace you; FIDO (fuck it, drive on).

It WILL get better, you WILL meet someone else, and you WILL look back on this time in your life and chastize yourself for feeling so down in the dumps. Hard to see right now I know but it WILL happen. Have faith and BE STRONG.

Ladies, my apologies for intruding upon your AO. Just hate to see people down in the dumps.

As some already mentioned just take one day at a time and just keep putting one foot in front of the other. Try and not focus so much on wanting him to com back into your life. Give yourself some credit for each day you made it through. I know its hard, I know, but time does heal.

Jane,

I understand what you are trying to say. Did he love me? Absolutely, does he still? I think so - on my end, it is love, it always has been, it is not an obsession. walking away from someone you love and someone who loved you, when your heart still tells you there is hope is not easy, and it is not an obsession.

Am I hurting? yes, I am, deeply.

Thanks for your advice...

To borrow a construct: love is as love does. But you do what you think best for you.

Best wishes,


Jane

I am doing what I have always done. I am following my heart.

I see. That being the case, I'll add "Good luck" to "Best wishes".

Jane

Not sure, but I will say thanks.

You are the only one who knows what your relationship was/is like. You could explain yourself a million different ways and we'd really never know your life and love like you do.
It's hard to offer advice when you don't know the complete "story." After all, you lived the story and still don't understand what happened. I'm so sorry.

I give you a pat on the back for reaching out boldly like you did for some comfort and advice. You are in pain. No matter the circumstances..and the pain hurts.
I'm glad you felt you could trust us here openly like you did and that many here were able to give you some awesome advice. I hope it helps you.

I pray the best for you. Also that you sleep well and that each day your mind will grow clearer so that you finally have some understanding of what happened and that through understanding you will be able
to smile again.

You're worth it.

Thank you for your understanding and kindness. I keep praying, everyday.

If I could I would detail the entire story but 1) it would be too long, believe me, I am writing a book with this journal. and 2) he lurks around here. Perhaps he has read this. What I do know he looks very unhappy these days... and I can't do anything to fix it.

I feel like I am going through much the same thing right now. It hurts so bad I can't breathe some times. I've cried every day like a little girl, even sometimes at work at a place where no one can see me.

I really can't offer any objective advice being where I am with things. I just wanted to say that I know how much it hurts, and how much you need the pain to go away.

I know that not much anyone says really makes you feel much better, just try to take what you can from what people have said here and do your best to get through it.

I understand not being able to get andry at him, it's like you just don't have any anger to direct at him. My friends are all pretty pissed at her, but I can't bring myself to be.


I went through another heartbreak once a few years ago that my current heartbreak finally got me over - apparently so she could break my heart all over again and do an even better job of it. I also wrote my thoughts down in a journal. I'm kind of glad I did actually. There have been times when I have gone back and read it, and I've been shocked at just how upset and really depressed I was. I think it helped me, or at least gave me an outlet.

If you need to talk to someone, PM me and I'll give you my number. Maybe we can cry together.





-K

It's like you took the words right out of my mouth.

I am sorry you are going through something similar. I sent you a message.

Something's gotta give, right?

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