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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:39:04 PM EDT
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I got married on June 4th of this year... so just over 2 months ago... Give yourself time. |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:39:18 PM EDT
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Quoted: I got married on June 4th of this year... so just over 2 months ago, |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:39:21 PM EDT
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Well, for not intending to sound preachy, you did a hell of a job at it.
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:39:31 PM EDT
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Finding your wife sucking another man's dick for starters.
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:40:20 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: Give yourself time. Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: I got married on June 4th of this year... so just over 2 months ago... Give yourself time. Reading comprehension is at an all time low in GD these days... I've been with her almost 7 years. |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:40:26 PM EDT
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For me, its not. I take my vows before God very seriously.
I am not going to judge anyone who gets divorced, since I am not in their shoes, but for me personally I have never let that be an option for me. |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:40:43 PM EDT
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"Eject" is an option for so many people because they believe that they've been sold a bill of goods.
You talk your vows and how you intend on keeping them. There are many that believe that their wife has stopped keeping her end of the bargain. Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:40:53 PM EDT
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Yea, wait until there is a bigtime money discussion, living location, new house......
Then you will understand. We all used to think like you OP, but an irrational argument with a woman can quickly change that. Regardless of how long you have been dating, marriage is a whole different game. Everything you do will be an example of your every future action from that moment on, and you will be judged accordingly. |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:41:13 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: For me, its not. I take my vows before God very seriously. I am not going to judge anyone who gets divorced, since I am not in their shoes, but for me personally I have never let that be an option for me. You and I are of the same mind. |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:41:27 PM EDT
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Finding your wife sucking another man's dick for starters. Or yours in another 4 months 
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:41:37 PM EDT
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Reading comprehension is at an all time low in GD these days... I've been with her almost 7 years. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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I got married on June 4th of this year... so just over 2 months ago... Give yourself time. Reading comprehension is at an all time low in GD these days... I've been with her almost 7 years. I dated my wife for 6 years before marriage. That "I Do" does strange things to people. Give it time. |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:41:48 PM EDT
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Reading comprehension is at an all time low in GD these days... I've been with her almost 7 years. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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I got married on June 4th of this year... so just over 2 months ago... Give yourself time. Reading comprehension is at an all time low in GD these days... I've been with her almost 7 years. oh lawdy you're naive beyond measure 
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:41:53 PM EDT
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sometimes its not your choice.
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:42:18 PM EDT
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Reading comprehension is at an all time low in GD these days... I've been with her almost 7 years. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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I got married on June 4th of this year... so just over 2 months ago... Give yourself time. Reading comprehension is at an all time low in GD these days... I've been with her almost 7 years.  that you think that matters.
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:42:26 PM EDT
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It's not an option. 6 years.
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:42:53 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: "Eject" is an option for so many people because they believe that they've been sold a bill of goods. You talk your vows and how you intend on keeping them. There are many that believe that their wife has stopped keeping her end of the bargain. Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile Your vows are not contingent on her "keeping her end of the bargain". |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:43:09 PM EDT
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Finding your wife sucking another man's dick for starters. This and leaving the kids unattended and throw a cocaine addiction on top of that. Girl went nuts and ended up in a loony bin. OP congrats on your marriage. 
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:43:14 PM EDT
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You and I are of the same mind. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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For me, its not. I take my vows before God very seriously. I am not going to judge anyone who gets divorced, since I am not in their shoes, but for me personally I have never let that be an option for me. You and I are of the same mind. So, when you wake up one day with a knife at your throat, and your wife is fucking other dudes, you're just gonna be all like "cool man". |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:43:15 PM EDT
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You would have to ask my Ex. SHE divorced me.
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:44:18 PM EDT
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I guess you have a very limited experience with cheating crazy bitches. I'm very happily married, but sometimes you have to pull that handle. I got lucky enough to not put a ring on a few that would have ended in nasty divorces for sure.
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:44:34 PM EDT
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She bails out and says "leave me alone" out of nowhere.
Pretty much puts it on the table. |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:44:35 PM EDT
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7 whole years? Wow.
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:44:48 PM EDT
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I really don't want to sound preachy, so please know ahead of time - that is not my intention. I got married on June 4th of this year... so just over 2 months ago, and I just can't figure out why divorce is the answer for so many of you. (Before you say "oh you've only been married for 2 months you don't know what you're talking about".... We started dating in 2009 - going on 7 years together) I'm sitting here looking through GD seeing "eject" everywhere and I just can't imagine ever breaking my vows. What is your word worth after breaking a solemn vow like that? What are you teaching your kids through your actions? Did you not really mean what you said on your wedding day? I vowed to support, protect and nurture my spouse in sickness and in health. It doesn't matter what happens, I gave my word that I would be there. My wife and I have had days, weeks... shoot even months where things sucked - She was bitchy or I was impatient - but I wouldn't ever leave her. So, my question is - How can "eject" be an option for so many of you? I know I'll probably catch a lot of heat for this topic but I really am curious. If your point is that many people are too quick to hit the "eject" button then I agree with you. That being said I've had friends who married women who had deep psychological and drug abuse issues in which even the couples counselor told them "this is never going to get better" At the end of the day you only have one life to live and everyone makes mistakes. Try not to judge folks too harshly. |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:45:04 PM EDT
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Not an option since we never tied the knot. 24 years together 7/20.
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:45:04 PM EDT
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So, when you wake up one day with a knife at your throat, and your wife is fucking other dudes, you're just gonna be all like "cool man". Quote HistoryQuoted:
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For me, its not. I take my vows before God very seriously. I am not going to judge anyone who gets divorced, since I am not in their shoes, but for me personally I have never let that be an option for me. You and I are of the same mind. So, when you wake up one day with a knife at your throat, and your wife is fucking other dudes, you're just gonna be all like "cool man". That sounds kinky. |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:45:44 PM EDT
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That sounds kinky. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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For me, its not. I take my vows before God very seriously. I am not going to judge anyone who gets divorced, since I am not in their shoes, but for me personally I have never let that be an option for me. You and I are of the same mind. So, when you wake up one day with a knife at your throat, and your wife is fucking other dudes, you're just gonna be all like "cool man". That sounds kinky. Yea, it kinda was. |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:45:47 PM EDT
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wow, 2 months, yeah, give it time
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:46:00 PM EDT
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All the weirdness in this thread aside, I also got married on June 4th a couple months ago. Congrats OP!
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:46:21 PM EDT
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lol
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:46:23 PM EDT
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Your vows are not contingent on her "keeping her end of the bargain". Quote HistoryQuoted:
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"Eject" is an option for so many people because they believe that they've been sold a bill of goods. You talk your vows and how you intend on keeping them. There are many that believe that their wife has stopped keeping her end of the bargain. Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile Your vows are not contingent on her "keeping her end of the bargain". She recited the same vows, didn't she? What if she's not keeping them? Do you expect her to stay if you're not keeping your vows? Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:46:43 PM EDT
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This thread is a contender.
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:46:44 PM EDT
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People change, they become a new person which is not the person they used to be. At that point, they are not the person you married.
If the woman you marry stays the same woman (mostly) over time, thats great. However, for any multitude of reasons, they can change. They can become abusive to their spouse, they can become abusive to the children (mentally or physically) At that point, it is almost irresponsible to stay with her and keep the family together. Men can become shitty too. That is why divorce is an option to some people. People change, and they become abusive, or they cheat and break their part of the vow. Divorce can save lives. I am not encouraging it, but sometimes it is necessary. |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:46:56 PM EDT
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So, when you wake up one day with a knife at your throat, and your wife is fucking other dudes, you're just gonna be all like "cool man". Quote HistoryQuoted:
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For me, its not. I take my vows before God very seriously. I am not going to judge anyone who gets divorced, since I am not in their shoes, but for me personally I have never let that be an option for me. You and I are of the same mind. So, when you wake up one day with a knife at your throat, and your wife is fucking other dudes, you're just gonna be all like "cool man". Given that my wife would be breaking her vow by doing so then that would be grounds for divorce. Let me clarify my original statement. There are instances where divorce is morally justified for me, like if my wife were cheating on me. For just being unhappy, or some of the other stuff that often causes divorce then I do not, for me, see that is grounds for divorce. |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:46:59 PM EDT
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Reading comprehension is at an all time low in GD these days... I've been with her almost 7 years. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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I got married on June 4th of this year... so just over 2 months ago... Give yourself time. Reading comprehension is at an all time low in GD these days... I've been with her almost 7 years. Come back when you're at 20 |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:47:24 PM EDT
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Not an option for me.
Better or for worse. |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:47:25 PM EDT
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:47:37 PM EDT
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Given that my wife would be breaking the her vow by doing so then that would be grounds for divorce. Let me clarify my original statement. There are instances where divorce is morally justified for me, like if my wife were cheating on me. For just being unhappy, or some of the other stuff that often causes divorce then I do not that for me that is grounds for divorce. Makes sense to me man. I'm with you. |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:47:47 PM EDT
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Well, it might come down to either D or drop her in a hole somewhere? How is that for justification?
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:47:56 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: If your point is that many people are too quick to hit the "eject" button then I agree with you. That being said I've had friends who married women who had deep psychological and drug abuse issues in which even the couples counselor told them "this is never going to get better" At the end of the day you only have one life to live and everyone makes mistakes. Try not to judge folks too harshly. Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: I really don't want to sound preachy, so please know ahead of time - that is not my intention. I got married on June 4th of this year... so just over 2 months ago, and I just can't figure out why divorce is the answer for so many of you. (Before you say "oh you've only been married for 2 months you don't know what you're talking about".... We started dating in 2009 - going on 7 years together) I'm sitting here looking through GD seeing "eject" everywhere and I just can't imagine ever breaking my vows. What is your word worth after breaking a solemn vow like that? What are you teaching your kids through your actions? Did you not really mean what you said on your wedding day? I vowed to support, protect and nurture my spouse in sickness and in health. It doesn't matter what happens, I gave my word that I would be there. My wife and I have had days, weeks... shoot even months where things sucked - She was bitchy or I was impatient - but I wouldn't ever leave her. So, my question is - How can "eject" be an option for so many of you? I know I'll probably catch a lot of heat for this topic but I really am curious. If your point is that many people are too quick to hit the "eject" button then I agree with you. That being said I've had friends who married women who had deep psychological and drug abuse issues in which even the couples counselor told them "this is never going to get better" At the end of the day you only have one life to live and everyone makes mistakes. Try not to judge folks too harshly. I try! Both of our parents or divorced - mine multiple times. I just don't think you can make a solemn vow before her, god, and your family and then just say "oops I fucked up, can I get a do-over?" |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:48:02 PM EDT
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You've been married for two months. Like you have any clue what you're talking about.
I got married in 2008, we've had a lot of rough patches in this short time. We've both considered pulling the lever. But in the end, we work through our issues and move on. I love my wife and couldn't imagine my life without her. |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:49:01 PM EDT
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So, when you wake up one day with a knife at your throat, and your wife is fucking other dudes, you're just gonna be all like "cool man". Quote HistoryQuoted:
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For me, its not. I take my vows before God very seriously. I am not going to judge anyone who gets divorced, since I am not in their shoes, but for me personally I have never let that be an option for me. You and I are of the same mind. So, when you wake up one day with a knife at your throat, and your wife is fucking other dudes, you're just gonna be all like "cool man". You....have been watching some very odd porn.... |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:49:26 PM EDT
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OP fails to understand that there are two parties involved here and you have zero actual control of the other party. The divorce, or at least the things that directly caused it, are often completely beyond your control even if you do all the right things.
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:49:47 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: She recited the same vows, didn't she? What if she's not keeping them? Do you expect her to stay if you're not keeping your vows? Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: Quoted: "Eject" is an option for so many people because they believe that they've been sold a bill of goods. You talk your vows and how you intend on keeping them. There are many that believe that their wife has stopped keeping her end of the bargain. Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile Your vows are not contingent on her "keeping her end of the bargain". She recited the same vows, didn't she? What if she's not keeping them? Do you expect her to stay if you're not keeping your vows? Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile I absolutely do. Nobody will ever be perfect at keeping their vows 100% of the time. Life is hard, things get better and worse constantly. That doesn't mean you just bail when things get hard. I realize this sounds idealistic but I truly believe it. |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:49:58 PM EDT
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You....have been watching some very odd porn.... Quote HistoryQuoted:
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For me, its not. I take my vows before God very seriously. I am not going to judge anyone who gets divorced, since I am not in their shoes, but for me personally I have never let that be an option for me. You and I are of the same mind. So, when you wake up one day with a knife at your throat, and your wife is fucking other dudes, you're just gonna be all like "cool man". You....have been watching some very odd porn.... ...Or I was marred to a crazy bitch. 
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:50:08 PM EDT
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It wasn't my first thought, or the first option for me. But after one year of bullshit, there is only so much one can, and should take.
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:50:39 PM EDT
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Divorce struck me as a superior option to strangling her and spending the rest of my life in prison.
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:50:57 PM EDT
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I really don't want to sound preachy, so please know ahead of time - that is not my intention. I got married on June 4th of this year... so just over 2 months ago, and I just can't figure out why divorce is the answer for so many of you. (Before you say "oh you've only been married for 2 months you don't know what you're talking about".... We started dating in 2009 - going on 7 years together) I'm sitting here looking through GD seeing "eject" everywhere and I just can't imagine ever breaking my vows. What is your word worth after breaking a solemn vow like that? What are you teaching your kids through your actions? Did you not really mean what you said on your wedding day? I vowed to support, protect and nurture my spouse in sickness and in health. It doesn't matter what happens, I gave my word that I would be there. My wife and I have had days, weeks... shoot even months where things sucked - She was bitchy or I was impatient - but I wouldn't ever leave her. So, my question is - How can "eject" be an option for so many of you? I know I'll probably catch a lot of heat for this topic but I really am curious. I had a wife I loved who was corrupted by my evil mother in law. She would come home and scream at me telling me what a horrible person I was, how I never did anything,and that everything undid was wrong. It wasn't true. When I told her you don't do that to the person you love, she told me I was the only one she can do it to. I spent about 2/3 of one night staring down the muzzle of a loaded Glock 29. The next day I told her I can't take this anymore and told her the things in my life that had to change. I was told nothing was going to change so I ejected. I was to the point where it was death or divorce. If I had known then what I know now I would have made a different choice. |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:51:07 PM EDT
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Huh.
A 13'er from Colorado. |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:51:34 PM EDT
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My first marriage lasted all of 5 months....after dating for 6 years. Bitch sat down one day and said "I want a divorce". I didnt push back at all for some weird reason, I was like ok, fine. I was more worried about what we were going to do with the dogs.
Of course I found out later she had slept around and was married within a year. Best thing to ever happen because my wife of 8 years is a fucking superstar. |
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Posted: 8/9/2016 1:51:44 PM EDT
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I really don't want to sound preachy, so please know ahead of time - that is not my intention. I got married on June 4th of this year... so just over 2 months ago, and I just can't figure out why divorce is the answer for so many of you. Stop reading there...
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