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ahhhh youth is wasted on the ignorant

they were really nice too, like at least a D cup

Since this is basically our defacto dating thread in GD now, I thought I'd share this little gem of a profile I just came across:



Based on her photos, she's actually really hot, too.

But no, I did not reach out to her. I mean, her profile did grab my attention enough to read the whole thing, but based on what's there, I can say with confidence that it wouldn't work out.

I'd have to try me summa that. Seriously, if you bang her head against the headboard kinda like dribbling a basketball, you might make her right in the head.

[Reads her profile]

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Opinion: If this is a real profile and she is pretty (and I doubt the first part)?
She likes testing limits with people to see if they'll set boundaries on her, hold her accountable, or do what eeeeveryone else does for her. Let her skate.

do it.

you're running out of time.  

I agree with that it is likely all a fabrication. I think it's mostly an attention-grabbing device - which as I pointed out, worked in my case. If she did not have her other preferences set in clear opposition to mine (#1 being that she was set to looking for hookups, not long-term), I actually would have said "fuck it I'm foing" and messaged her. But those settings make it clear that she and I would not get along in any type of romantic relationship. (She might be a hoot to have around at the bar tho. )

Ewww yukkk...she just wants to fuck for fun? I swear to God some of you guys are scared to get pussy on you. SMFH

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esh....that's nothing.  especially when you're older.  When I was 23, i was dating a 31 year old.  she was fun for a while but had kids and already had her tubes tied so no chance of my own kids.

So take a look at her individual components here.
- She's VERY attractive, so men will notice her
- She's pretty darn verbal, I'd be floored if she's not an excellent conversationalist.
- She had no problem being a little vulgar/sexual/"shocking" (going for shock value) in what she was writing.

When you add the components, a woman like this can get unreal amounts of attention, whenever she wants it.

I've seen profiles like this one in my travels.
In a case like this I would be looking REALLLLY close for other things.
Even if she didn't put the "nothing serious" stuff, be wary.


If she's quite pretty but not THAT pretty? Sometimes (I'd say often if I'm being honest) this is a "Bad boy leftovers" girl.
She's just cute enough to get his attention.
She "Talks her way" onto his radar. She feels like she's "got him" the way she's "got" other guys.
She ends up getting short-termed by him.
Then she flips her switch and acts out, the free trial has ended and he walks on.
Rinse and repeat.

Yes there are girls with funny profiles (Very very very VERY VERY few).
She was just different enough, just pretty enough, that you were THIS close to jumping into the pool anyway.
And you're an engineer brain person that's pretty reserved.



Be REALLY careful in cases like these.

Once back in my early 20s on one of the sites I was talking to a pretty redhead. We're talking, everything's fine.
Then she starts up with this thing about 9/11 and the Dad was in the army so she couldn't talk about some stuff.



Sooo she's got a family secret, and she'd tell, stranger guy from the internet that she has it.
In conversation one?

Me:





How many dozens of men do you think have thought that? Pretty much most places she goes?
(Not an accusation, just posing this as a question, a thing to think about).

She slips out some sexual topics too, to pique people's interest, even if they're strangers.
(That spice was deliberately chosen, it's effective.)

Be real careful in spots like this guys, look for other things.
Hey look maybe she's just got a funny sense of humor, maybe raised with brothers - those things happen too.
More times than not, in my experience anyway, this girl throws chum into the water everywhere she goes, and has sharks following.

Just can't win - on one hand getting chastised for not being "DTF", on the other the same for considering contact at all.

I'm well aware and agree with most of what you just said, my witcher friend. But if it wasn't an automatic no-go, I still think it would have been worth at least messaging. From that opening alone I would have had serious concerns even if everything else seemed to line up, but not enough to override the intrigue. And who knows if that would even go anywhere. I don't exactly have a great "batting average" as it were - with replies, let alone actually getting real dates.

And RTX, this might surprise you, but some people actually have moral principles that they try their damndest to live by. And they may or may not align with your own.

you're running out of time.

you need to do something, anything.

Some might say I'm already out of time.

Regardless, there are certain things that I absolutely will not compromise.

you need to make some big changes or you're gonna be alone for a long time.  

Just calling it like I see it on a case by  case basis
I trust your observations were true, but in MY mind? I'd be going, "okay what's the defense up to..."






Hey whoa whoa whoa
A girl like this COULD be a man-eater.

This is like being someone that admittedly doesn't work out a ton, but decides they want to enter a Strongman competition
Women like this (if she's like the ones i'm picturing) can have a high difficulty rating.

LOL - nothing surprises me anymore after reading this thread. This is a thread about dating older chicks, and it might come as a surprise to you, but at some point you're gonna have to fuck one of them.

It shouldn't compromise any principles to do a little sport fucking, but you do you. Just keep in mind that memories are made from the ones you actually score with, not the ones you beat off to on your phone.

However, I'll play along with your "moral principles" and point out that if you're really looking for a 'nice girl' that doesn't believe in sex, maybe you should be looking in church? Just keep in mind that the preacher wives and preacher daughters can be a lot of fun!

Yeah, he needs to get in the game. It might not be exactly what he's looking for, but he really needs to get to playing.

Some of these guys need to keep in mind:

Women are a lot like jobs - it's a lot easier to find one when you've already got one.

Get in the fucking game.

clearly he just needs to hit rock bottom.

when you have nothing, you have nothing to lose.  

He hasn't been with a girl in 87 fucking years. That would have met my definition of "rock bottom" a long time ago, but that's just me, and I'll admit - I like girls. (And I like them a LOT.)

well...

at least he ain't GeneralDiscussions.

Yeah, but at least Generaldiscussions got the occasional kiss on the cheek for mowing a chick's lawn.

Some have realized there is nothing to gain.

yo, Machinist.

what's up?

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goddamn.

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Still the voice of doom in these dating threads, I see. Looks like the advice to work on your self-confidence has been wasted on you.

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Attention whoring.

Exactly. I really think a lot of guys like that are actually still in love with their ex, they just don't want to admit it. They're not happy, so they want to be sure nobody else can be happy, either.

Maybe we need to tell the story
Of The Little Engine That Coould


Tooot. Tooot.

Seriously....what value is attention here? And you are literally the first person in my 47yrs that has accused me of that. Sooooo, wrong.




I am quite sure my happiness level has no effect in anyone here. If you are referring to me, I am not. She wants to continue to "date" and I have repeatedly rejected her.

Well, you're the one who keeps posting this debbie downer stuff over and over.

So posting opinions/experiences that are negative is attention whoring, what is everything else? What is the difference between that and the many jokes RTX posts? Are jokes not attention whoring? Or posting dating site profiles? Were we not supposed to look at that and comment?

Posting without adding anything to the discussion, or at least providing entertainment for somebody, could be seen as seeking attention. Especially when posting the same basic thing multiple times, that adds nothing new to the discussion over its previous mentions.

What did you think your "nothing to gain" comment contributed to the discussion at hand, beyond what you already posted in this thread prior?

ETA - Coming in and posting that comment on it's own isn't likely to be seen as attention seeking. Repeating the same sentiment multiple times in the same thread - and across multiple threads, too - can be.

Yall can talk all the shit you want, but you dont know me and dont know my experiences or motivation. Yall can all assume Im a loser and dont know shit about women or whatever but despite your opinion, I have been around the block a time or two. You only talk shit because you dont know me.

Which is exactly why I find your mindset somewhat perplexing. Yes, you have been screwed over. But you have at least experienced some semblance of success, even though it didn't really work out.

I have known none of that. That means I have not know the bad, yes - but it also means that I have not known the good, either. Over the course of my life, I have received virtually zero interest from the fairer sex. And yet I don't have the extremely pessimistic outlook you have. Some might say I lean that way, but I would counter that I have a more realist position - in that I don't believe that all women are bad or any of that garbage, but recognize that my chances of actually having the successful relationship I would like are very slim at this point.

i read all that in an old timey twang as though it was penned by a mustachioed merican soldier during the (first) civil war.

My self confidence is fine. I know what I am. I chose not to play the stupid ass games people ( especially women ) like to play. I can go fake the BS guys fake to get laid. Then I will be just as big a piece of shit most guys are. All for some slut?

Or change myself to become what someone else wants? To be what they want me to be? Yall working out and trying so hard to become what someone else wants just to get your pecker wet? Now THATS pathetic.

I CAN play the game, but then truly WOULD lose my self respect.

My lamentations are the current state of women and their lack of desire for a REAL man and real relationship.

You want self esteem? I am more of a real man than the VAST majority of American men. Women just dont want that. They want a groveling cuck that lives to serve them.

@RTX

we gotta do some kinda podcast on these ARF dating threads with @Geralt55.

So when you graduated high school, she was in the 5th grade??

Walkure

You mean, literally, “virtually zero interest “ from women?

What’s the reason for this?

she had satisfied her biological need to secure resources for her and any offspring, and afterwards, had no need to compete with other women for your resources. so then they go to shit.

RTX and I arguing like Chuck and Shaq on inside the NBA,

There was only illusion of success. Temporary success that ends in failure is still failure.

I do not believe ALL are trash. And I believe you can still find someone at any age, that its never too late if you are open to it.

I believe you are in a much better position than I despite whatever your situation is. I believe that because I have lived and learned. I have heard all the lies, the promises. I learn from my experiences. Only a fool doesnt learn from life experience.

Maybe, just maybe, all these giving advice have less experience than I. Maybe they are ignorant because they just lucked out and found a good one that didnt turn into a skank whore? Maybe some are actually terrible husbands with truly wonderful women? My grandfather was like that. Abusive, mean, unloving asshole basically. And granny stayed with him till the moment he died. I bet he thought he was just an awesome husband because she served him like he was a king.

fuck it.

i'm in.

"literally virtually zero" - that's an interesting phrase there.

Yes, I have received very little romantic interest from women throughout my life. Some, but very little - hence virtually zero, not literally zero.

Why?


Maybe I will share more in the morning - it is getting late for me here. Hmm, maybe that has something to do with it...