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All of this talk about numbers and levels and qualifications makes my head spin.
Don't people just meet, hit it off, fall in love and get married anymore? I picture people walking around a bar with a checklist and spreadsheets. |
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Years ago I was sitting in the crew van going to the hotel with the FO and 4 flight attendants. They were talking about a football game. One with big hair from TX asks me what I think of the game. I told her I don't watch football. She makes a comment about baseball then. I said I don't follow baseball either. She asks what sport I follow. I told her I don't. She says" you don't watch games on TV" I said no. She asks what I do instead. I responded with, hiking, climbing, shooting, making stuff. She looks at the other FA and says " Damnit, I settled too soon" View Quote That's awesome! |
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All of this talk about numbers and levels and qualifications makes my head spin. Don't people just meet, hit it off, fall in love and get married anymore? I picture people walking around a bar with a checklist and spreadsheets. You're on my spreadsheet... Seriously, it's like there's no balance anymore. Relying solely on following your heart can get you into trouble but viewing everyone as if they're a business asset (what can they DO for me) isn't the answer. Obviously not speaking TO you....just using my reply to expand on my thoughts above a bit. |
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I'm 50, been divorced for 11 years. I'm having a blast.
I've dated a 49 year old, a 36, 34, 33, 32, and a 28 year old. I've been asked out on a date by a 22 year old. It's not hard, and there's tons of beautiful, interesting, smart, and funny women out there. What you bring to the relationship is what you deal with. Expect goodtimes and have a postiive outlook, you'll get it. |
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All of this talk about numbers and levels and qualifications makes my head spin. Don't people just meet, hit it off, fall in love and get married anymore? I picture people walking around a bar with a checklist and spreadsheets. View Quote I've found that a lot of what the media spreads about dating difficulties and "rules" is BS. People are people, always have been, always will be. Might sound cliche', but be yourself, be respectful, and have fun. Always worked for me. |
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Quoted: Every time her videos get posted there are always comments like these by those who never bothered to watch. Makes me wonder just how much of the bitchin' done by men is simply a matter of overlooking the obvious in order to confirm their own bias. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted: Quoted: Needs to spend more time cleaning her kitchen and less time bitchin'. Every time her videos get posted there are always comments like these by those who never bothered to watch. Makes me wonder just how much of the bitchin' done by men is simply a matter of overlooking the obvious in order to confirm their own bias. Shhhhh.... Haven't watched but also haven't bitched. If I can get these 5 kids to calm down and quit destroying the house I'll try. Any female gripes I may post are directed to and about specific females not the gender as a whole.
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Look no further then internet dating sites. Where consumers and goods meet. Where you post your qualities like a description of product so others can shop and hopefully pick you. It is all a numbers game. Ratings and odds. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
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All of this talk about numbers and levels and qualifications makes my head spin. Don't people just meet, hit it off, fall in love and get married anymore? I picture people walking around a bar with a checklist and spreadsheets. That still doesn't explain the *shopping* mindset. Granted, I was married before the damn internet even came out (for average residential use) but I've looked around on singles' sites and, as far as I know, it's not very different from picking someone appealing out from the crowd and approaching them. You're actually a little better off because you've got potential red flags and warning signs right there in the pics/description that you can avoid completely instead of being ambushed by them in a face-to-face contact. I guess I've just never viewed people as something that needs to be dissected and parsed and *graded*. IMO, you either click with someone or you don't and all the numbers in the world aren't going to change that. |
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I've found that a lot of what the media spreads about dating difficulties and "rules" is BS. People are people, always have been, always will be. Might sound cliche', but be yourself, be respectful, and have fun. Always worked for me. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
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All of this talk about numbers and levels and qualifications makes my head spin. Don't people just meet, hit it off, fall in love and get married anymore? I picture people walking around a bar with a checklist and spreadsheets. I've found that a lot of what the media spreads about dating difficulties and "rules" is BS. People are people, always have been, always will be. Might sound cliche', but be yourself, be respectful, and have fun. Always worked for me. |
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Shhhhh.... Haven't watched but also haven't bitched. If I can get these 5 kids to calm down and quit destroying the house I'll try. Any female gripes I may post are directed to and about specific females not the gender as a whole. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
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Needs to spend more time cleaning her kitchen and less time bitchin'. Every time her videos get posted there are always comments like these by those who never bothered to watch. Makes me wonder just how much of the bitchin' done by men is simply a matter of overlooking the obvious in order to confirm their own bias. Shhhhh.... Haven't watched but also haven't bitched. If I can get these 5 kids to calm down and quit destroying the house I'll try. Any female gripes I may post are directed to and about specific females not the gender as a whole. You've got your head on straight then. In spite of the 5 kids. |
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All of this talk about numbers and levels and qualifications makes my head spin. Don't people just meet, hit it off, fall in love and get married anymore? I picture people walking around a bar with a checklist and spreadsheets. View Quote That's what I'm trying to wrap my head around. It's all so People aren't numbers. They don't fit into convenient little categories. Maybe that's where these folks are going wrong. |
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From Kevin Sorbo's facebook page. Yes, the Hercules guy. Conservative Christian 2A constitutionalist guy. Joke of the day: A store that sells new husbands has opened, where a woman may go to choose a husband. Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates: You may visit this store ONLY ONCE! There are six floors and the value of the products increase as the shopper ascends the flights. The shopper may choose any item from a particular floor, or may choose to go up to the next floor, but you cannot go back down except to exit the building! So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband. On the first floor the sign on the door reads: Floor 1 - These Men Have Jobs She is intrigued, but continues to the second floor, where the sign reads: Floor 2 - These Men Have Jobs and Love Kids. 'That's nice,' she thinks, 'but I want more.' So she continues upward. The third-floor sign reads: Floor 3 - These Men Have Jobs, Love Kids, and are Extremely Good Looking. 'Wow,' she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going. She goes to the fourth floor and the sign reads: Floor 4 - These Men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Good Looking and Help With Housework. 'Oh, mercy me!' she exclaims, 'I can hardly stand it!' Still, she goes to the fifth floor and the sign reads: Floor 5 - These Men Have Jobs, Love Kids, are Drop-dead Gorgeous, Help with Housework, and Have a Strong Romantic Streak. She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor, where the sign reads: Floor 6 - You are visitor 31,456,012 to this floor. There are no men on this floor. This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please. Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store. PLEASE NOTE: To avoid gender bias charges, the store's owner opened a New Wives store just across the street. The first floor has wives that love sex. The second floor has wives that love sex, have money and like beer The third, fourth, fifth and sixth floors have never been visited. View Quote LOL. |
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Okay, so where does a- 5 on a good day, financially stable, educated, slightly chubby single mom that doesn't actually expect to get married again- go on that list? View Quote For this sort of stuff, I'd objectively state that people generally deserve where they put themselves. |
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Seriously, it's like there's no balance anymore. Relying solely on following your heart can get you into trouble but viewing everyone as if they're a business asset (what can they DO for me) isn't the answer. Obviously not speaking TO you....just using my reply to expand on my thoughts above a bit. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
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All of this talk about numbers and levels and qualifications makes my head spin. Don't people just meet, hit it off, fall in love and get married anymore? I picture people walking around a bar with a checklist and spreadsheets. You're on my spreadsheet... Seriously, it's like there's no balance anymore. Relying solely on following your heart can get you into trouble but viewing everyone as if they're a business asset (what can they DO for me) isn't the answer. Obviously not speaking TO you....just using my reply to expand on my thoughts above a bit. The spread sheet thing is more of a way to quantify things in an easily communicable manner. Most of my male friends don't care if their wife/girlfriend/random hookup/fuck buddy/what ever is a 6 or a 9. They're happy as it is, so they stick around. The numers are more of way to communicate things in a clear and succinct manner. Yeah, it's not the most respectful way, but it works. That's my take on the manner, at least. Show me a quality woman, and I won't dare throw numbers around to attempt to describe who she is or how she is. But in theoretical situations like this, I don't feel guilty. It's not like we are pinning numbers to any one real individual, as if that is all they are. We could go on for hours describing exactly how unattractive some one is, complete with all the sordid details. Or just call them "a five," and be done with the situation. Let their imagination fill in the details. Some men and women use the numbers system in a way that suggests that higher numbers are all that they can achieve. These people end up lonely and broken. For the average guy in my age group (25 years old), it's just a method of communication. I'm not a big believer in reducing and objectifying people into a number, but some guys are. Stay away from those guys. |
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All of this talk about numbers and levels and qualifications makes my head spin. Don't people just meet, hit it off, fall in love and get married anymore? I picture people walking around a bar with a checklist and spreadsheets. View Quote I did. The second I held her hand cosmic tumblers just fell into place and we've been happily married for many years. We met in a bar, true story. |
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Atleast I can point to this video when someone makes a douche remark about still being single.
It doesn't take but one friends divorce to make the rest of us gun shy. |
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This chick is guilty and annoying and i'm only at 6 minutes.
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Personally I think it lends her credibility amongst the ones who actually need to pick up what she's putting down. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
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she looks like a typical lesbian? Personally I think it lends her credibility amongst the ones who actually need to pick up what she's putting down. Yep it means the ones that benefit the most won't immediately turn it off. |
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she looks like a typical lesbian? Personally I think it lends her credibility amongst the ones who actually need to pick up what she's putting down. Yep it means the ones that benefit the most won't immediately turn it off. It's funny because it's true. |
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I did. The second I held her hand cosmic tumblers just fell into place and we've been happily married for many years. We met in a bar, true story. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
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All of this talk about numbers and levels and qualifications makes my head spin. Don't people just meet, hit it off, fall in love and get married anymore? I picture people walking around a bar with a checklist and spreadsheets. I did. The second I held her hand cosmic tumblers just fell into place and we've been happily married for many years. We met in a bar, true story. Similar story, I met my wife on a contract I was working. Pretty much the moment I met here, I resolved that I was going to marry her. It took almost 6 months for her to give me the time of day, but we ended up dating and are now happily married for 11 years. |
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The spread sheet thing is more of a way to quantify things in an easily communicable manner. Most of my male friends don't care if their wife/girlfriend/random hookup/fuck buddy/what ever is a 6 or a 9. They're happy as it is, so they stick around. The numers are more of way to communicate things in a clear and succinct manner. Yeah, it's not the most respectful way, but it works. That's my take on the manner, at least. Show me a quality woman, and I won't dare throw numbers around to attempt to describe who she is or how she is. But in theoretical situations like this, I don't feel guilty. It's not like we are pinning numbers to any one real individual, as if that is all they are. We could go on for hours describing exactly how unattractive some one is, complete with all the sordid details. Or just call them "a five," and be done with the situation. Let their imagination fill in the details. Some men and women use the numbers system in a way that suggests that higher numbers are all that they can achieve. These people end up lonely and broken. For the average guy in my age group (25 years old), it's just a method of communication. I'm not a big believer in reducing and objectifying people into a number, but some guys are. Stay away from those guys. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
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All of this talk about numbers and levels and qualifications makes my head spin. Don't people just meet, hit it off, fall in love and get married anymore? I picture people walking around a bar with a checklist and spreadsheets. You're on my spreadsheet... Seriously, it's like there's no balance anymore. Relying solely on following your heart can get you into trouble but viewing everyone as if they're a business asset (what can they DO for me) isn't the answer. Obviously not speaking TO you....just using my reply to expand on my thoughts above a bit. The spread sheet thing is more of a way to quantify things in an easily communicable manner. Most of my male friends don't care if their wife/girlfriend/random hookup/fuck buddy/what ever is a 6 or a 9. They're happy as it is, so they stick around. The numers are more of way to communicate things in a clear and succinct manner. Yeah, it's not the most respectful way, but it works. That's my take on the manner, at least. Show me a quality woman, and I won't dare throw numbers around to attempt to describe who she is or how she is. But in theoretical situations like this, I don't feel guilty. It's not like we are pinning numbers to any one real individual, as if that is all they are. We could go on for hours describing exactly how unattractive some one is, complete with all the sordid details. Or just call them "a five," and be done with the situation. Let their imagination fill in the details. Some men and women use the numbers system in a way that suggests that higher numbers are all that they can achieve. These people end up lonely and broken. For the average guy in my age group (25 years old), it's just a method of communication. I'm not a big believer in reducing and objectifying people into a number, but some guys are. Stay away from those guys. Oh, I was talking about the stuff that presumably goes on in peoples' heads (like a 4 thinking she's an 8 and turning down 6s while holding out for a 9) on a day to day basis. And there's that oft-passed around Dear Abby submission from some chick who thinks she's the bee's knees and doesn't think there's anything wrong with being on the prowl for a rich man because she obviously deserves it. It reads like something a bitter man wrote up in order to show what's wrong with women today but I admit there are some disturbed people out there, women included, so it could be true. It just all sounds incredibly unrealistic. I just don't know that I've ever met someone who actually thinks that way. |
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I did. The second I held her hand cosmic tumblers just fell into place and we've been happily married for many years. We met in a bar, true story. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
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All of this talk about numbers and levels and qualifications makes my head spin. Don't people just meet, hit it off, fall in love and get married anymore? I picture people walking around a bar with a checklist and spreadsheets. I did. The second I held her hand cosmic tumblers just fell into place and we've been happily married for many years. We met in a bar, true story. And that's how you do it. |
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Well worth the 24 minutes.
When I was 27 I was finally ready to settle down. I was an E-6 in the USN with a good record and a promising career in front of me. By then I had been overseas for 5 years and had lived in Japan and Australia and knew that the Western Woman was not for me. The American culture has emasculated men and taught women that a man isn't need to the point where too many of the women I had dated were already Oprah's little minions. While living in Japan I toured Korea, Singapore, The Philippines, Thailand, China and Hong Kong where I found societies that still valued man's culture. Traditional male roles were honored and respected. Traditional women's roles were also honored and respected. Simple shit like men working and women staying home raising the children and taking care of the home were still practiced. Hell yeah I grabbed the best female from that culture I could find and married her. I treat her like a queen and she treats me like a king. When I returned home on leave and told my former girlfriends that I was going to marry a woman overseas they were very interested in why. I wasn't brave enough to tell them that the American female culture sucked ... even back then in the 1980's ... and it's gotten worse since then. |
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Shhhhh.... Haven't watched but also haven't bitched. If I can get these 5 kids to calm down and quit destroying the house I'll try. Any female gripes I may post are directed to and about specific females not the gender as a whole. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
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Needs to spend more time cleaning her kitchen and less time bitchin'. Every time her videos get posted there are always comments like these by those who never bothered to watch. Makes me wonder just how much of the bitchin' done by men is simply a matter of overlooking the obvious in order to confirm their own bias. Shhhhh.... Haven't watched but also haven't bitched. If I can get these 5 kids to calm down and quit destroying the house I'll try. Any female gripes I may post are directed to and about specific females not the gender as a whole. I always speak of the opposite gender as a hole. |
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Needs to spend more time cleaning her kitchen and less time bitchin'. She filmed it in the kitchen.... Which is perfectly appropriate...a woman's place is in the kitchen and the bedroom |
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I just have absolutely no idea why some of you fellas can't find a good girl. None at all.
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All of this talk about numbers and levels and qualifications makes my head spin. Don't people just meet, hit it off, fall in love and get married anymore? I picture people walking around a bar with a checklist and spreadsheets. View Quote That's me! I have a long list of things I'm looking for in my spouse and I don't feel like "settling" for the next best thing. Someday I'll find the woman I want and I'll be able to look down the list and see: Want Children? Check Educated? Check Have career and/or can maintain household? Check Physically active? Check Like the outdoors? Check Prefer rural living? Check Similar religious views? Check Similar politics? Check Compatible life goals? Check |
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There is a God ordained role for the sexes. Stay within the parameters and life is good, venture out, shit breaks. Mankind refuses to learn.
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That's me! I have a long list of things I'm looking for in my spouse and I don't feel like "settling" for the next best thing. Someday I'll find the woman I want and I'll be able to look down the list and see: Want Children? Check Educated? Check Have career and/or can maintain household? Check Physically active? Check Like the outdoors? Check Prefer rural living? Check Similar religious views? Check Similar politics? Check Compatible life goals? Check View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
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All of this talk about numbers and levels and qualifications makes my head spin. Don't people just meet, hit it off, fall in love and get married anymore? I picture people walking around a bar with a checklist and spreadsheets. That's me! I have a long list of things I'm looking for in my spouse and I don't feel like "settling" for the next best thing. Someday I'll find the woman I want and I'll be able to look down the list and see: Want Children? Check Educated? Check Have career and/or can maintain household? Check Physically active? Check Like the outdoors? Check Prefer rural living? Check Similar religious views? Check Similar politics? Check Compatible life goals? Check So what happens if you meet someone and feel that thunderbolt but they're short a point or two on your list? Or would you consider it settling if you can check off everything on the list but you don't feel the thunderbolt? |
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So what happens if you meet someone and feel that thunderbolt but they're short a point or two on your list? Or would you consider it settling if you can check off everything on the list but you don't feel the thunderbolt? View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
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All of this talk about numbers and levels and qualifications makes my head spin. Don't people just meet, hit it off, fall in love and get married anymore? I picture people walking around a bar with a checklist and spreadsheets. That's me! I have a long list of things I'm looking for in my spouse and I don't feel like "settling" for the next best thing. Someday I'll find the woman I want and I'll be able to look down the list and see: Want Children? Check Educated? Check Have career and/or can maintain household? Check Physically active? Check Like the outdoors? Check Prefer rural living? Check Similar religious views? Check Similar politics? Check Compatible life goals? Check So what happens if you meet someone and feel that thunderbolt but they're short a point or two on your list? Or would you consider it settling if you can check off everything on the list but you don't feel the thunderbolt? Settling is a wasted life. EDIT: I mean in the sense of settling for someone. If the thunderbolt hits, you are not settling, you hit pay dirt. |
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I just have absolutely no idea why some of you fellas can't find a good girl. None at all. Please refer back to the shower thread. That, or the "shitty things I've said to my honey" thread, or the "American Girls" thread, or any of the other numerous threads we've had recently and in days past. Hell, some of them don't seem to want an actual woman at all. They want some sort of upgraded version of a dog. One that will fall at their feet regardless of whether they bathe, take care of themselves, act rude, shout and scream, or even hit them. One that lets them control every aspect of her life, including what and when she eats. One that knows a few extra tricks in addition to sit and stay, like "Lassie, clean! Lassie, cook! Lassie, blowjob!" |
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There is a God ordained role for the sexes. Stay within the parameters and life is good, venture out, shit breaks. Mankind refuses to learn. View Quote Heehee. If I had to live within those restrictions, I'd have to break some shit. I'll live life on my own terms, thanks. If it works for you and you get someone to agree to it, more power to you. But I'm not even. |
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All of this talk about numbers and levels and qualifications makes my head spin. Don't people just meet, hit it off, fall in love and get married anymore? I picture people walking around a bar with a checklist and spreadsheets. That's me! I have a long list of things I'm looking for in my spouse and I don't feel like "settling" for the next best thing. Someday I'll find the woman I want and I'll be able to look down the list and see: Want Children? Check Educated? Check Have career and/or can maintain household? Check Physically active? Check Like the outdoors? Check Prefer rural living? Check Similar religious views? Check Similar politics? Check Compatible life goals? Check So what happens if you meet someone and feel that thunderbolt but they're short a point or two on your list? Or would you consider it settling if you can check off everything on the list but you don't feel the thunderbolt? Yeah, thunderbolts are important! I think it would largely depend on what points they are and our ability to compromise. I don't expect to find EVERYTHING, but there are limits. I was in a very serious relationship with a girl that liked the big city. That was her thing, going clubbing every night. She wouldn't even compromise on getting us out to the suburbs. That didn't sit well with me, dreaming of getting some acreage and doing the hobby farm thing. We were two people going in opposite directions in life so we separated. Sad, but neither would have been happy otherwise. |
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Needs to spend more time cleaning her kitchen and less time bitchin'. She filmed it in the kitchen.... Bare foot. Holding a BLT sandwich she just made. Honestly, there are times I'd settle for a woman that could actually cook. Don't know how many times I've heard the phrase "I don't cook,'' yeah, that's a dealbreaker right there, EVERYONE, be they male or female, should be able to cook. If you can't, or if that's a phrase to let the other person know that eating out will be the norm or housework is below them, that's a strike against you. [and yes, I DO cook, I don't bake simply because I suck at it because I can't change the ingredient amounts without really bad results happening] |
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Crying bitter tears, "Wah, men aren't valued anymore."
Next breath, "I refer to the opposite gender as a hole." Crying bitter tears, "Wah, American women are entitled princesses so I married an Asian. She threw knives at me. All women are evil." Next breath, "Women are only needed in the kitchen and the bedroom." It would be almost funny if it were actual parody. This is their reality though. Bizarre. |
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Yeah, thunderbolts are important! I think it would largely depend on what points they are and our ability to compromise. I don't expect to find EVERYTHING, but there are limits. I was in a very serious relationship with a girl that liked the big city. That was her thing, going clubbing every night. She wouldn't even compromise on getting us out to the suburbs. That didn't sit well with me, dreaming of getting some acreage and doing the hobby farm thing. We were two people going in opposite directions in life so we separated. Sad, but neither would have been happy otherwise. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
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All of this talk about numbers and levels and qualifications makes my head spin. Don't people just meet, hit it off, fall in love and get married anymore? I picture people walking around a bar with a checklist and spreadsheets. That's me! I have a long list of things I'm looking for in my spouse and I don't feel like "settling" for the next best thing. Someday I'll find the woman I want and I'll be able to look down the list and see: Want Children? Check Educated? Check Have career and/or can maintain household? Check Physically active? Check Like the outdoors? Check Prefer rural living? Check Similar religious views? Check Similar politics? Check Compatible life goals? Check So what happens if you meet someone and feel that thunderbolt but they're short a point or two on your list? Or would you consider it settling if you can check off everything on the list but you don't feel the thunderbolt? Yeah, thunderbolts are important! I think it would largely depend on what points they are and our ability to compromise. I don't expect to find EVERYTHING, but there are limits. I was in a very serious relationship with a girl that liked the big city. That was her thing, going clubbing every night. She wouldn't even compromise on getting us out to the suburbs. That didn't sit well with me, dreaming of getting some acreage and doing the hobby farm thing. We were two people going in opposite directions in life so we separated. Sad, but neither would have been happy otherwise. Ok, that makes more sense. I was just curious as to how the checklist actually worked in reality. Carry on. |
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Crying bitter tears, "Wah, men aren't valued anymore." Next breath, "I refer to the opposite gender as a hole." Crying bitter tears, "Wah, American women are entitled princesses so I married an Asian. She threw knives at me. All women are evil." Next breath, "Women are only needed in the kitchen and the bedroom." It would be almost funny if it were actual parody. This is their reality though. Bizarre. View Quote See my dog comment. Seriously, that's exactly what some of them want. No real need for conversation, complete control, unwavering devotion, and a willingness to follow commands without question or hesitation. All without any real investment on their part. |
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Holding a BLT sandwich she just made. Honestly, there are times I'd settle for a woman that could actually cook. Don't know how many times I've heard the phrase "I don't cook,'' yeah, that's a dealbreaker right there, EVERYONE, be they male or female, should be able to cook. If you can't, or if that's a phrase to let the other person know that eating out will be the norm or housework is below them, that's a strike against you. [and yes, I DO cook, I don't bake simply because I suck at it because I can't change the ingredient amounts without really bad results happening] View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
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Needs to spend more time cleaning her kitchen and less time bitchin'. She filmed it in the kitchen.... Bare foot. Holding a BLT sandwich she just made. Honestly, there are times I'd settle for a woman that could actually cook. Don't know how many times I've heard the phrase "I don't cook,'' yeah, that's a dealbreaker right there, EVERYONE, be they male or female, should be able to cook. If you can't, or if that's a phrase to let the other person know that eating out will be the norm or housework is below them, that's a strike against you. [and yes, I DO cook, I don't bake simply because I suck at it because I can't change the ingredient amounts without really bad results happening] I'm not consistent with baking at all. Mainly because it really relies on precise measurements and I'm too impulsive/impatient for that. I like the freedom for creativity with cooking though. I use a recipe as a guide and change this here, add this there. The good news is that we rarely have exactly the same dish twice. |
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