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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:28:33 PM EDT
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Define sexless.
once a month, once a year, once a decade? Did you have a health and active sex life and then gone? Kids taking up all the time? Age? There are so many variables to consider before giving any usable advice. that being said, here is my advice based on absolutely no information fire off some knuckle children in her hair while she's sleeping. In the morning tell her she can have it there, or inside her guts, but either way you're taking care of business 
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:28:35 PM EDT
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My wife has offered, and I think she would go through with it and hate me/herself afterwards, to get me a hooker. We've had sex maybe a half dozen times in the last 15 months since our 3rd child was born. Her hormones have been off this time around. She didn't breastfeed for very long with the 1st two and I've read that can cause hormone issues resulting in a lower libido. I'm hoping once she's done with breastfeeding it'll get better.  Quote HistoryQuoted:
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seriously, ask her if she cares if you jack it to porn then. im genuinely curious to see what she says to that. assuming the issue isnt that she sees you as disgusting in some way. are your teeth nasty? breath stink? dress/act like a slob? get some exercise and be more healthy? what have you tried? My wife has offered, and I think she would go through with it and hate me/herself afterwards, to get me a hooker. We've had sex maybe a half dozen times in the last 15 months since our 3rd child was born. Her hormones have been off this time around. She didn't breastfeed for very long with the 1st two and I've read that can cause hormone issues resulting in a lower libido. I'm hoping once she's done with breastfeeding it'll get better. For the love of God no - that will translate to "He went to hookers and didn't even care if I found out" at the divorce. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:31:05 PM EDT
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I have the exact opposite problem. Mine wants sex all the time but not really for fun as she keeps reminding me how much she wants a baby. Now I'm the one that doesn't want sex lol |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:31:10 PM EDT
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HONESTY, honestly.
You need to talk to her and you need to be honest about what is going on and how it is affecting the marriage. Tell her that she needs to be honest too. If you do, the situation will do one of three things; 1) Greatly improve. Often married couples forget the importance of talking to each other. 2) Realize that the marriage is over and mutually agree on a separation plan. 3) The status quo continues and you quietly and carefully fashion you own exit strategy to keep yourself financially and mentally sound knowing that the problem is her not you. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:31:13 PM EDT
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Switch her birth control out with a placebo and give her some wine.
or, jack off in the shower and at work. Those are your only real options. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:31:49 PM EDT
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My wife doesn't seem interested after she had the baby 13 weeks ago today. We've messed around but no fulfilling action. Sucks because fapping does get old. I'm not the kind of guy to cheat so I guess I'll wake her up one morning with my dick in her face jacking off. That should get the point across. This is how you deal with an issue folks. Make sure to time it where as soon as she opens her eyes you're flooding her face with about 2 1/2 gallons of spooge. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:35:03 PM EDT
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There is no easy answer. I have dealt with it for a long time now. Been through rage, hate, anger, numbness, etc. She did not care. For me it was the kids and they deserved both parents, basically, I have had to roll with it and take one for the team, put the kids before me. Also, after you are in long enough, the costs become too high to change it.
I empathize with you, I hate it, but my kids well being means more. Most women do not get it that sex with your wife means she loves and when she won't, then it means they don't to you. Her words to the contrary are meaningless. If you don't have kids consider bailing, if you do then you need to decide which takes precedence. Sorry, it sucks. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:35:13 PM EDT
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I have the exact opposite problem. Mine wants sex all the time but not really for fun as she keeps reminding me how much she wants a baby. Now I'm the one that doesn't want sex lol You and I have a lot in common.
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:35:45 PM EDT
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HONESTY, honestly. You need to talk to her and you need to be honest about what is going on and how it is affecting the marriage. Tell her that she needs to be honest too. If you do, the situation will do one of three things; 1) Greatly improve. Often married couples forget the importance of talking to each other. 2) Realize that the marriage is over and mutually agree on a separation plan. 3) The status quo continues and you quietly and carefully fashion you own exit strategy to keep yourself financially and mentally sound knowing that the problem is her not you. And by "honesty", he means HONESTY. "I'm not happy about the frequency of our sex life" is "honest." HONEST is "I am angry and upset at the fact that we only have sex X times a year, and we either need to work on fixing it or go our separate ways." |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:35:45 PM EDT
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For the love of God no - that will translate to "He went to hookers and didn't even care if I found out" at the divorce. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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seriously, ask her if she cares if you jack it to porn then. im genuinely curious to see what she says to that. assuming the issue isnt that she sees you as disgusting in some way. are your teeth nasty? breath stink? dress/act like a slob? get some exercise and be more healthy? what have you tried? My wife has offered, and I think she would go through with it and hate me/herself afterwards, to get me a hooker. We've had sex maybe a half dozen times in the last 15 months since our 3rd child was born. Her hormones have been off this time around. She didn't breastfeed for very long with the 1st two and I've read that can cause hormone issues resulting in a lower libido. I'm hoping once she's done with breastfeeding it'll get better. For the love of God no - that will translate to "He went to hookers and didn't even care if I found out" at the divorce. Oh it's not even in the realm of possibility of something I would do, but she still offers every once in a while and I honestly believe she would let me if I'd do it. Our anniversary is on Halloween, so we went to an awesome steakhouse Sunday, got her a bit liquored up. After an hour of banging like a fucking rabbit neither of us could, ummmm, "cross the threshold" to to speak. So fucking disappointing...
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:35:50 PM EDT
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She can't shut you off if she doesn't know where you're getting it. Po-Et-Try |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:38:36 PM EDT
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There is no easy answer. I have dealt with it for a long time now. Been through rage, hate, anger, numbness, etc. She did not care. For me it was the kids and they deserved both parents, basically, I have had to roll with it and take one for the team, put the kids before me. Also, after you are in long enough, the costs become too high to change it. I empathize with you, I hate it, but my kids well being means more. Most women do not get it that sex with your wife means she loves and when she won't, then it means they don't to you. Her words to the contrary are meaningless. If you don't have kids consider bailing, if you do then you need to decide which takes precedence. Sorry, it sucks. I thought the same as you re. kids, until my lawyer asked me "When you get home, what kind of relationship do your children see?" The only answers I could come up with were anger, bitterness, sadness, and regret. I moved out soon after that. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:38:56 PM EDT
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Switch her birth control out with a placebo and give her some wine. or, jack off in the shower and at work. Those are your only real options. Had a guy here beating it in the men's room, constantly. Finally one of the supervisors waited him out, discovered who it was and went to HR. Buh-By. Don't do it at work. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:39:11 PM EDT
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No matter what some might say, you can always base the content of a marriage / relationship on their sex life. It's a reflection.
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:41:27 PM EDT
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I got rid of her. bu-bye.... I got rid of HIM. C'Ya!!!! |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:41:50 PM EDT
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Had a guy here beating it in the men's room, constantly. Finally one of the supervisors waited him out, discovered who it was and went to HR. Buh-By. Don't do it at work. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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Switch her birth control out with a placebo and give her some wine. or, jack off in the shower and at work. Those are your only real options. Had a guy here beating it in the men's room, constantly. Finally one of the supervisors waited him out, discovered who it was and went to HR. Buh-By. Don't do it at work. must have been a hard thing for your Supervisor to do. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:44:09 PM EDT
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I have nothing to say ...same situation
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:44:38 PM EDT
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I got rid of HIM. C'Ya!!!! Quote HistoryQuoted:
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I got rid of her. bu-bye.... I got rid of HIM. C'Ya!!!! Was he gay? |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:46:45 PM EDT
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Oh, yeah - also take a REAL good look at whether she is *really* not having sex. Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:47:00 PM EDT
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im leaning to hookers at this point
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:47:13 PM EDT
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I got rid of her. bu-bye.... I got rid of HIM. C'Ya!!!! Was he gay? I'm not really sure what his problem was, I gave up on trying to figure it out. The next guy who came along prospered greatly with 2 and 3 a days... 
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:47:19 PM EDT
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good options please Back before she finally filed for divorce, I beat off a lot. It was actually better than having sex with her, so it was kind of a win for me. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:47:24 PM EDT
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Have her hormone levels checked. If they are out of whack she will be too.
If she wants the marriage to survive she has to do her part too. Is it you? Do you have any skills? Do you listen to what she wants? |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:47:26 PM EDT
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must have been a hard thing for your Supervisor to do. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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Switch her birth control out with a placebo and give her some wine. or, jack off in the shower and at work. Those are your only real options. Had a guy here beating it in the men's room, constantly. Finally one of the supervisors waited him out, discovered who it was and went to HR. Buh-By. Don't do it at work. must have been a hard thing for your Supervisor to do. On of hour contract security guards was doing it into trash cans of several women in our building. His employer was Wackenhut Security. Turned out he was the same one that was calling in bomb threats. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:47:26 PM EDT
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No sex = she goes away or she gets right with me finding fuck buddies.
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:48:47 PM EDT
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Find a hobby. Go into debt. Cheat. Get addicted to drugs.
You're only limited by your imagination. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:49:17 PM EDT
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I have pretty good circumstantial evidence, but no concrete proof, that when my wife stopped having sex with me she was banging some other guy.
Throw your bedding away, OP. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:51:16 PM EDT
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There is no easy answer. I have dealt with it for a long time now. Been through rage, hate, anger, numbness, etc. She did not care. For me it was the kids and they deserved both parents, basically, I have had to roll with it and take one for the team, put the kids before me. Also, after you are in long enough, the costs become too high to change it. I empathize with you, I hate it, but my kids well being means more. Most women do not get it that sex with your wife means she loves and when she won't, then it means they don't to you. Her words to the contrary are meaningless. If you don't have kids consider bailing, if you do then you need to decide which takes precedence. Sorry, it sucks. I'm right there with you, dude. I've made the same decision for my son. I will not leave him. It's not easy though. The high cost part is accurate too. I've worked too hard to have a divorce hit the reset button. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:51:45 PM EDT
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You don't. You change it or get divorced. I changed it. You have some reading to do:
No More Mr Nice Guy Married Man Sex Life r/MarriedRedPill These will help. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:52:28 PM EDT
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This is how you deal with an issue folks. Make sure to time it where as soon as she opens her eyes you're flooding her face with about 2 1/2 gallons of spooge. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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My wife doesn't seem interested after she had the baby 13 weeks ago today. We've messed around but no fulfilling action. Sucks because fapping does get old. I'm not the kind of guy to cheat so I guess I'll wake her up one morning with my dick in her face jacking off. That should get the point across. This is how you deal with an issue folks. Make sure to time it where as soon as she opens her eyes you're flooding her face with about 2 1/2 gallons of spooge. 
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:52:51 PM EDT
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I'm not really sure what his problem was, I gave up on trying to figure it out. The next guy who came along prospered greatly with 2 and 3 a days... Quote HistoryQuoted:
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I got rid of her. bu-bye.... I got rid of HIM. C'Ya!!!! Was he gay? I'm not really sure what his problem was, I gave up on trying to figure it out. The next guy who came along prospered greatly with 2 and 3 a days... Call him and have him talk to a doctor about getting his Testosterone checked. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:52:52 PM EDT
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your only real options that don't include you know, talking to your wife Rarely does that work, she will most likely turn it into an argument and then shes in it to win it. http://therationalmale.com/2015/11/03/christian-dread/ |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:54:56 PM EDT
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Back page
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:55:06 PM EDT
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in before 'tongue punch the fart box'
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:55:07 PM EDT
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Has anyone pointed out that the OP had a mis-spelling in the title, so it says "fuction?"
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:55:28 PM EDT
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Tell her this... I'm getting laid one way or another, whether if it's with you or not, is your choice. If she still doesn't respond. Divorce. I know that I wouldn't put up with it. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:55:32 PM EDT
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I was on the fence a bout posting a thread like this since i am in the same situation. Before we got married our sex life was good. Every other day. After our son was born 3 years ago it dropped to once every month and half to two months. And that was after begging her for it. and when she did give in it was her laying there telling me to hurry up. Major turn off.
I blew up at her one time in a restaurant about the issue and walked out. Things improved after that but for a short period. Went to twice a week and its now down to once a month again. I am not sure what to do anymore. I get depressed and so frustrated at times. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:56:26 PM EDT
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Had a guy here beating it in the men's room, constantly. Finally one of the supervisors waited him out, discovered who it was and went to HR. Buh-By. Don't do it at work. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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Switch her birth control out with a placebo and give her some wine. or, jack off in the shower and at work. Those are your only real options. Had a guy here beating it in the men's room, constantly. Finally one of the supervisors waited him out, discovered who it was and went to HR. Buh-By. Don't do it at work. A guy, huh? It's ok, you're amongst friends. How long did it take you to find a job afterwards? |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:56:31 PM EDT
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Call him and have him talk to a doctor about getting his Testosterone checked. He's someone else's problem now. I couldn't care less what he does. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:58:24 PM EDT
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He's someone else's problem now. I couldn't care less what he does. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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Call him and have him talk to a doctor about getting his Testosterone checked. He's someone else's problem now. I couldn't care less what he does. She even uses "couldn't care less" correctly - man must have been unstable, gay, AND have low-T. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 3:58:49 PM EDT
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I love my wife lots and we have been together since our teens, with that said I wouldn't stay in a sexless marriage unless it's due to a medical condition.
She knows this also and after 16 years she keeps my happy even when she isn't in the mood. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 4:01:00 PM EDT
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good options please Sexless because one party is intentionally withholding or because of a physical deficiency? |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 4:04:19 PM EDT
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You find them in dark alleys and offered in bars.
What is Hookers and Blow for 200.00. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 4:04:49 PM EDT
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Take care of yourself. Whatever you do you'll need to make a strong effort to not develop resentment. It can burrow and lash out. That is an unacceptable solution. If she doesn't want to have sex, she should be compassionate enough to throw a handjob or beej on him. These questions are all based on assumptions. For all we know, she is a vegetable or OP has no penis. More information is required. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 4:06:01 PM EDT
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I love my wife lots and we have been together since our teans, with that said I wouldn't stay in a sexless marriage unless it's due to a medical condition. She knows this also and after 16 years she keeps my happy even when she isn't in the mood. Yeah, gotta watch that "medical condition" thing though. Mine sometimes blamed her anxiety, depression, and ADHD. And yes, they were genuine diagnoses - for which she wasn't seeking treatment. She didn't view our sex life as a problem that needed fixing, so she had no incentive to get healthier. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 4:06:45 PM EDT
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She even uses "couldn't care less" correctly - man must have been unstable, gay, AND have low-T. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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Call him and have him talk to a doctor about getting his Testosterone checked. He's someone else's problem now. I couldn't care less what he does. She even uses "couldn't care less" correctly - man must have been unstable, gay, AND have low-T. I can identify with a lot of the guys here. We didn't have sex for approximately three years. The longer it went on, the more I begged him to do something about it, the more he refused, and the angrier I got. I will only stand for being put off for so long. I'd had enough, and I was tired of pleading for my most basic needs to be met. It isn't hard to find a man who will accommodate a 30-something woman who is in good shape, owns her own place, has no kids and has a well-paying job. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 4:07:10 PM EDT
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You find them in dark alleys and offered in bars. What is Hookers and Blow for 200.00. 200? Shit i got 200. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 4:08:45 PM EDT
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good options please Counseling for you both. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 4:08:49 PM EDT
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good options please She doesn't have a monopoly on poon, outsource the job. |
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Posted: 11/3/2015 4:09:18 PM EDT
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I was on the fence a bout posting a thread like this since i am in the same situation. Before we got married our sex life was good. Every other day. After our son was born 3 years ago it dropped to once every month and half to two months. And that was after begging her for it. and when she did give in it was her laying there telling me to hurry up. Major turn off. I blew up at her one time in a restaurant about the issue and walked out. Things improved after that but for a short period. Went to twice a week and its now down to once a month again. I am not sure what to do anymore. I get depressed and so frustrated at times. I just don't get it. I am sure when your old lady has a sore back, you rub it. This is supposed to be reciprocal. If she doesn't want to have sex, why can she not at least perform a service in a slightly less intimate fashion? |
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