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One of my best friends is a woman. There's nothing romantic between us at all. We hang out all the time. I'm convinced she's secretly a lesbian.
Hasn't caused issues for me. Sitting in the car together at night at work is a little suspicious though. Really depends on the context and if the wife knows. I would default to probably up to no good without anymore info. |
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Originally Posted By psdan000: Would require more context. but, no not acceptable in my opinion. View Quote The only real context needed is whether they are decent people who can be in the presence of the opposite sex without whipping anything out or turning it sexual. Shit loads of people are completely incapable of that, and probably should not be alone with the opposite sex, but a few can. For the few, it's not a big deal. For the many it is probably not a good move. |
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The CEO of my wife's company was pursuing her one time. I alway got creepy vibes from him the few times I was around him. He was single and came from another State to take this job and didn't really know anyone in the city. He was always trying to take her to lunch etc. which she delcined. He told her he got free OKC Thunder tickets through a vendor and invited her to go. He made it sound like other people from the office were going. When she got to the arena it was just her and him. She texted me right away and I was pissed. She didn't want to bail on fear of losing her high paying job and the next day and I really wanted to go confront him but she talked me off the cliff. He was fired a month later.
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Wife: NP However, for "context", we need pics to see exactly how hot the woman is. Wouldn't change anything, but if she's hot, pictures are always nice... |
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Originally Posted By RTX: Admitting you have a problem is the first step toward fixing it. Now get that T checked and get better soon, cause you ain't right. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Originally Posted By RTX: Originally Posted By PikeSlayer: I sit in my car every night after practice with my assistant coach, who is 27, single, and super attractive. Recap day's practice, schedule stuff, etc. Like model attractive. My wife knows too, and doesn't care because she knows I'm not going to try and fuck her. Admitting you have a problem is the first step toward fixing it. Now get that T checked and get better soon, cause you ain't right. |
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Originally Posted By DADGAD: Self control is valuable trait. Some have it. Some don't. I don't hold it against guys who don't have it, but I will always keep them at arms length on anything that truly matters. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Originally Posted By DADGAD: Originally Posted By RTX: Originally Posted By PikeSlayer: I sit in my car every night after practice with my assistant coach, who is 27, single, and super attractive. Recap day's practice, schedule stuff, etc. Like model attractive. My wife knows too, and doesn't care because she knows I'm not going to try and fuck her. Admitting you have a problem is the first step toward fixing it. Now get that T checked and get better soon, cause you ain't right. Forgive me father, for I have sinned - LMAO. Seriously, if you're gay, just say you're gay. Really...it's 2024 and that's supposed to be okay now. So, feel free to continue keeping guys like me at arms length - we appreciate it. Only chicks are allowed in my space, anyway. |
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Originally Posted By DADGAD: Self control is valuable trait. Some have it. Some don't. I don't hold it against guys who don't have it, but I will always keep them at arms length on anything that truly matters. View Quote I agree with you. All a man ever has is his word. It's easy to be a slimy fuck, look at the decay of society. |
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Originally Posted By dbrad197: Probably more context of what they were sitting and doing is needed. I ride to job sites with a female coworker 🤷🏻♂️ If they were sitting there getting ready to smoke crack and then fuck each others brains out then yeah thats innapopriate View Quote Attached File |
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"Now none of the frightened soldiers moved, for they saw that cowardice and valor purchased equal plots in the sniper's killing field."
"A great many men, on the point of taking to the sea, give no thought to storms." |
I am super uncomfortable spending any time alone with a woman other than my wife
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Also, there’s a reason that most companies have clear glass on all offices and doors have to remain open when more than one person is inside.
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"Now none of the frightened soldiers moved, for they saw that cowardice and valor purchased equal plots in the sniper's killing field."
"A great many men, on the point of taking to the sea, give no thought to storms." |
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Originally Posted By webtaz99: Mrbl grbl wok wok rikittypoa solpgin waga waga View Quote Attached File |
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"Now none of the frightened soldiers moved, for they saw that cowardice and valor purchased equal plots in the sniper's killing field."
"A great many men, on the point of taking to the sea, give no thought to storms." |
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Originally Posted By aiba7x: that was oddly specific View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Originally Posted By aiba7x: Originally Posted By T1NMAN: Homeschooled prude checking in but logic seems to point to these stories never ending well. Man looses half his stuff. Wife gets 30% of his check. Kids loose their dad. New girlfriend gets her man but gets bored and moves on to the next married man. Guy ends up in a $850 appartment banging random chicks. Random chicks are killing their babies. Guy slowly becomes an addict to fill the void in his soul. The girlfriend that screwed around buys a cat and starts slamming SSRIs and boxed wine. Guys daughter has daddy issues now ...creating the next girl that climbs into cars with married men. Guys son gets angry at the world and checks out into video games or worst self castration. Dont be the fool...focus and fight for your family. that was oddly specific Not really… |
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"Now none of the frightened soldiers moved, for they saw that cowardice and valor purchased equal plots in the sniper's killing field."
"A great many men, on the point of taking to the sea, give no thought to storms." |
I think context is key.
My job requires me to be alone with the opposite sex weekly. Sometimes in the middle of no where if a client wants a back country trail ride on horseback. It really requires a good marriage and professionalism. I would not want to ruin my life and business over some women I only know from giving riding lessons. |
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Originally Posted By dbrad197: Probably more context of what they were sitting and doing is needed. I ride to job sites with a female coworker 🤷🏻♂️ If they were sitting there getting ready to smoke crack and then fuck each others brains out then yeah thats innapopriate View Quote No extramarital crack smoking, the eleventh commandment |
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Maybe they are just step-siblings, shouldn't be a problem.
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Originally Posted By OverScoped: Same here Well said. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Originally Posted By OverScoped: Originally Posted By Rosta97: Im gonna go against the grain on this one. My best friend is a female. We met through work. She's married. I'm married. I text her multiple times a day. I get drinks/sit down meals with just her. I have spent literally thousands of hours alone with her; and nothing sexual ever has nor ever will happen. Back when we first became friends I offered my wife multiple times full access to our text conversations. She never asked to see them. Originally Posted By Cooper1: Lol. I shuttled a young female coworker around when she needed to do stuff at work. We were friends. I would never be inappropriate to her or my wife. Also discussed work issues because she trusted my opinion. You either have integrity or you don't. Well said. Not really. Anyone who lives in the real world knows that it’s not even close to that simple. In fact, flippantly simplifying the situation with yOu EiThEr HaVe InTeGrItY oR yOu DoN’t shows how ignorant he is. |
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"Now none of the frightened soldiers moved, for they saw that cowardice and valor purchased equal plots in the sniper's killing field."
"A great many men, on the point of taking to the sea, give no thought to storms." |
"Now none of the frightened soldiers moved, for they saw that cowardice and valor purchased equal plots in the sniper's killing field."
"A great many men, on the point of taking to the sea, give no thought to storms." |
As many people have said, context certainly matters.
Some people are asexual, most are not. It is a bad look in most cases. |
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Originally Posted By Explorer225: Married male coworker sitting in a car just talking to a single female coworker. They were noticed by the boss on company property last night. My question for the married guys. Would your wife be OK with this? Are you OK with it? No judgment on my part and it's none of my business, but it definitely not something I would do if married. Yes. I know I'm old fashioned. View Quote No steamed-up windows, no problem. |
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Originally Posted By Rosta97: Im gonna go against the grain on this one. My best friend is a female. We met through work. She’s married. I’m married. I text her multiple times a day. I get drinks/sit down meals with just her. I have spent literally thousands of hours alone with her; and nothing sexual ever has nor ever will happen. Back when we first became friends I offered my wife multiple times full access to our text conversations. She never asked to see them. View Quote There it is folks. Problem solved by the world famous arfcom one-single-example-means-everything. |
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"Now none of the frightened soldiers moved, for they saw that cowardice and valor purchased equal plots in the sniper's killing field."
"A great many men, on the point of taking to the sea, give no thought to storms." |
If I saw 2 coworkers hanging out alone like that with no other context it would at least raise my eyebrows and have me curious about what might be going on.
Which is why I would never do it. He knows he can trust me and I know I can trust him so it would be a non-issue for either of us. But we have zero desire to get any tongues wagging and be the subject of gossip and supposition so we behave accordingly. |
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Originally Posted By OUSooner: The CEO of my wife's company was pursuing her one time. I alway got creepy vibes from him the few times I was around him. He was single and came from another State to take this job and didn't really know anyone in the city. He was always trying to take her to lunch etc. which she delcined. He told her he got free OKC Thunder tickets through a vendor and invited her to go. He made it sound like other people from the office were going. When she got to the arena it was just her and him. She texted me right away and I was pissed. She didn't want to bail on fear of losing her high paying job and the next day and I really wanted to go confront him but she talked me off the cliff. He was fired a month later. View Quote Your wife could have taken this up with HR or sued. Executives are constantly being fired for sexual misconduct. |
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Originally Posted By DADGAD: The only real context needed is whether they are decent people who can be in the presence of the opposite sex without whipping anything out or turning it sexual. Shit loads of people are completely incapable of that, and probably should not be alone with the opposite sex, but a few can. For the few, it's not a big deal. For the many it is probably not a good move. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Originally Posted By DADGAD: Originally Posted By psdan000: Would require more context. but, no not acceptable in my opinion. The only real context needed is whether they are decent people who can be in the presence of the opposite sex without whipping anything out or turning it sexual. Shit loads of people are completely incapable of that, and probably should not be alone with the opposite sex, but a few can. For the few, it's not a big deal. For the many it is probably not a good move. Thats the democrat argument for gun control. |
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Originally Posted By delemorte: Yup. Would I do it behind my wife's back? Absolutely not. If I found her talking with a male coworker not in public I could not care less. If she's gonna cheat she's gonna cheat and I can't stop her. She's welcome to hit the fucking road if that's what she wants View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Originally Posted By delemorte: Originally Posted By UV18: Context matters. And if the wife knows also matters. Yup. Would I do it behind my wife's back? Absolutely not. If I found her talking with a male coworker not in public I could not care less. If she's gonna cheat she's gonna cheat and I can't stop her. She's welcome to hit the fucking road if that's what she wants That’s hilarious because that’s my exact feelings on it. I love my wife more than anyone and we both have a tremendous amount of respect for each other and our vows. That said, if she cheated on me, I’d throw her and her mom tf out. 😂 |
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"Now none of the frightened soldiers moved, for they saw that cowardice and valor purchased equal plots in the sniper's killing field."
"A great many men, on the point of taking to the sea, give no thought to storms." |
Originally Posted By xciapup: If you are not judging and its none of your business then why aren't we talking about guns? View Quote Attached File |
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"Now none of the frightened soldiers moved, for they saw that cowardice and valor purchased equal plots in the sniper's killing field."
"A great many men, on the point of taking to the sea, give no thought to storms." |
Originally Posted By Emeoba69: Ehh if you don’t have a wife and have 6 months of savings if you have to bail on a job. I have shat where I ate a number of times. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Originally Posted By Emeoba69: Originally Posted By thesquidliest: Don't. Shit. Where. You. Eat. And never fuck the help. Ehh if you don’t have a wife and have 6 months of savings if you have to bail on a job. I have shat where I ate a number of times. Seems like a solid, long term plan for a good life. |
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"Now none of the frightened soldiers moved, for they saw that cowardice and valor purchased equal plots in the sniper's killing field."
"A great many men, on the point of taking to the sea, give no thought to storms." |
Originally Posted By st0newall: this. the female co-worker could be a 350 pound whale needing a ride to mcdonalds for a tripple cheeseburger and a large order of fries. View Quote Midcap approves of whales...maybe the coworker does too. Married dude alone with any female is asking for drama, and totally not something I'd do. |
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Originally Posted By Rosta97: Im gonna go against the grain on this one. My best friend is a female. We met through work. She’s married. I’m married. I text her multiple times a day. I get drinks/sit down meals with just her. I have spent literally thousands of hours alone with her; and nothing sexual ever has nor ever will happen. Back when we first became friends I offered my wife multiple times full access to our text conversations. She never asked to see them. View Quote But why? There is nothing a female friend could ever offer that you can't get from your wife or your guy friends. Thousands of hours spent alone with her is time you could have been spending with your wife or male friends. |
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I asked my wife and she agrees that context matters.
She also said she wouldn't worry if it was me because my coworkers are ugly. |
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I wasn't expecting you so soon. Usually I have to say "drunken half-wit" three times before you show up.
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Years ago I worked at a place where several employees met their husbands/ wives while on the job. While they may not work in the same department or work together, I would be friends with both the husband and wife. It wasn't uncommon to go to lunch with someone's wife or have a conversation outside the workplace. I was friends with both parties, and word would get out if there was any screwing around.
On the surface, seeing a married guy with a female co-worker having a conversation in the parking lot is no big deal. If this went on or several days/ weeks and certain body language cues were present, there would be more concern. |
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Originally Posted By Mech2007: I asked my wife and she agrees that context matters. She also said she wouldn't worry if it was me because my coworkers are ugly. View Quote This is what my wife said about why she thinks that show, Suits, isn't realistic in that lawyers don't have hot legal secretaries, like Donna, as the wives would make him hire an ugly one. Lol. |
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IMO that's a tough one, and every marriage and specific scenario is gonna be or can be drastically different. When I worked in the city, I was by far closest to women in my section. Some of which we truly shared trust and love, but definitely love like that for a sibling or similar.
I also had a full blown work wife who was actually my boss. We were connected on a psychic and spiritual level where we knew what each other was thinking and we'd finish each other's sentences. I'm happily married and my work wife was happily married, so neither our spouses were ever jealous. IMO in general, sitting in a car together for a long time after work kinda seems on its face to be odd or unusual to me. But then again, how different is it from being in a closed door office with a female coworker for an extended period of time, discussing work and kids and spouses and pets. |
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It’s not acceptable.
Only time in my married life I did that was with ex wife and I was very unhappy. Zero chance I’d spend time alone with a woman now, as I’m happily married, and even if it 100% innocent/ friends, it would still be inappropriate, create possible rumors, possible problems and I 100% know my wife would totally disapprove, not to mention, I’d 100% be pissed if she was with a man in the same situation. When you cherish your marriage, you protect it from possible issues and opposite sex people are a top 10 possible issue. |
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USA politics dynamic is exactly like the WWF, it’s a total fake fight / soap opera designed to trick you and steal your money, not help you.
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Originally Posted By psdan000: Would require more context. but, no not acceptable in my opinion. View Quote Kind of suspect, but there are situations where it could be harmless and innocent. |
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"Remember, every time a child is responsibly introduced to the best tools for the protection of freedoms, a liberal weeps for the safety of a criminal." Anonymous
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Originally Posted By BigPolska: I agree with you. All a man ever has is his word. It's easy to be a slimy fuck, look at the decay of society. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Originally Posted By BigPolska: Originally Posted By DADGAD: Self control is valuable trait. Some have it. Some don't. I don't hold it against guys who don't have it, but I will always keep them at arms length on anything that truly matters. I agree with you. All a man ever has is his word. It's easy to be a slimy fuck, look at the decay of society. Well said. |
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Before Abraham was, I am. John 8:58
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Totally depends on the context. Anyone know what they were talking about?
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"I guess you already know that there are angels masquerading as people walking around this planet and your mom was the bravest one of those." - Idgie Threadgoode, Fried Green Tomatoes
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Originally Posted By DADGAD: The only real context needed is whether they are decent people who can be in the presence of the opposite sex without whipping anything out or turning it sexual. Shit loads of people are completely incapable of that, and probably should not be alone with the opposite sex, but a few can. For the few, it's not a big deal. For the many it is probably not a good move. View Quote Its really not that simple. A woman can change her mind for a variety of reasons and if the man wants no part of her sexual advances, there's no telling what she might do once you've turned her down. A man has more to lose. Period. Why put yourself in that position? Ya'll could be "just friends" for 10 years and then she decides she wants more during the "alone time chatting in the car". Now its her word against yours. Hint: men usually lose. |
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Nope.
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The value of Freedom is not realized until it is lost
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I'm going to need to look at this from another direction. I was kind of shy when young. The girls were not unfriendly, I was awfully tentative. But I never found being alone with a young lady, co-worker, friend, ride-share, whatever, meant I was just moments away from a blowjob. I guess I don't know if I was doing something wrong, or right. (Or were they, for that matter?)
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"Now none of the frightened soldiers moved, for they saw that cowardice and valor purchased equal plots in the sniper's killing field."
"A great many men, on the point of taking to the sea, give no thought to storms." |
Originally Posted By CPshooter1: I used to take sales rides with my account managers. Some were female. It was just how we operated before meetings with our clients. My wife never liked it, but oh well. Not like I could get away with anything even if I wanted to. She’d smell it on me and proceed to grab a kitchen knife. View Quote As a sales rep, I “rode with” female colleagues all the time. I’d spend entire days going from account to account with female colleagues. I would train them, they’d train me, we’d give presentations and perform lunch and learns. Fellow reps, managers, and vendors. We’d almost always take separate cars and if we were ever together “alone”, it was in a very public place. We definitely wouldn’t park and sit in the car together, alone, chitchatting. It would have been very weird to do so. To those suggesting that those who wouldn’t do that don’t have trust in their relationships or are projecting an inability to not cheat on their spouse, you’re fucking clueless about the way the world works. |
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"Now none of the frightened soldiers moved, for they saw that cowardice and valor purchased equal plots in the sniper's killing field."
"A great many men, on the point of taking to the sea, give no thought to storms." |
Sailors have a different opinion on the definition of the word "acceptable behavior".
Normally I start with did anyone die and then go downwards from there. Nobody's dead, do I have to wake up the command staff in DC ... |
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Celebrating the remains of the Second Amendment one Fine Firearm at a Time. It was better here before and can be again. Bring back accountability. Defund PBS.
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Might be perfectly innocent. But its still a very bad look.
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Originally Posted By JarheadPatriot: No shit. These dudes either married women with questionable morals, or they themselves have questionable morals. To so blatantly distrust their spouse (or maybe themselves) is unhealthy. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Originally Posted By JarheadPatriot: Originally Posted By treelow: Also, lots of insecurity showing from posters. To so blatantly distrust their spouse (or maybe themselves) is unhealthy. I completely trust my wife to sit wherever she wants with whoever she wants. It has nothing to do with trust. She wouldn’t do it because she’s not a clueless moron and understands that, by doing stuff like that, it brings into question her motives. She understands that there’s no reason to ever put herself in that position, even if it raises just the tiniest bit of suspicion from a neighbor or coworker. I’m the same way. Not one single iota of trust issues with my wife. But I’m not going to ever put myself in a situation where anyone can ever question what I’m up to because I know it would be hurtful to her. I’m sorry that you’re too thick and self absorbed to understand that your actions may negatively affect your spouse or family. I’m sure you’ll get it cleared up when you’re telling everyone to “trust me, bro”. (And sounding less trustworthy each time you say it.) |
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"Now none of the frightened soldiers moved, for they saw that cowardice and valor purchased equal plots in the sniper's killing field."
"A great many men, on the point of taking to the sea, give no thought to storms." |
My personal opinion: I think it’s playing with fire. “We’re not romantically involved” and spending an alone time is a lot like having a loaded gun with the safety on and pulling the trigger. The marriage and how you feel about your marriage is the safety. No, it’s not gonna go off cuz it can’t go off. It shouldn’t go off. But it’s still a stupid idea, cuz it could go still go off. Even though it can’t. If you know what I mean.
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