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Posted: 6/16/2024 11:13:57 AM EDT

[#1]

Sorry man....

Posted: 6/16/2024 11:15:06 AM EDT

[#2]

That's a bummer dude

Was it negligence or just an "honest mistake"?

Posted: 6/16/2024 11:16:06 AM EDT

[#3]

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*Hugs* bro. Sorry for your loss

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This….words escape me.

18Z50

Posted: 6/16/2024 11:18:13 AM EDT

[#4]

I lost my father who had Pulmonary Fibrosis for many years when I was 21. I miss him everyday, remember the good times. Take pride in the fact that you did your best to improve his life everyday and let the pain go. Make his memory a pleasant one not a painful one that's not fair to him. I'll shit my mouth now, I am sorry for your loss.

Posted: 6/16/2024 11:18:15 AM EDT

[#5]

nothing i say will fix how you feel. i’m so sorry, that is a tough role to have and you did it for 17yr.

prayers for you & wife.

Posted: 6/16/2024 11:20:05 AM EDT

[#6]

You’re still a father and you’ll always be your boy’s father. I hate that you lost your son and I hope that you can find peace in this life or the next.

If someone says Happy Father’s Day and it makes you feel feelings, let it. Don’t keep it bottled up. It can be toxic.

Maybe take a half day and spend it celebrating your son, even if it’s painful. If sounds like you’ve got a ways to go in the healing process.

Posted: 6/16/2024 11:20:18 AM EDT

[#7]

I'm sorry to hear that bro.

Hopefully those 17 years were great for you guys.

Posted: 6/16/2024 11:21:31 AM EDT

[#8]

I'm sorry, OP.

Prayers for you and your family.

Posted: 6/16/2024 11:23:13 AM EDT

[#9]

Posted: 6/16/2024 11:24:43 AM EDT

[#10]

Sorry man, i can't and do not want to imagine. I hope you find peace in time and you and your wife heal together.

My wife had breast cancer in 04 and it was shocking at 1st the stupid shit close friends and well meaning people would say. You just have to realize it sounded OK in their heads and they didn't try living in yours because that is a deep painful well that many do not experience.

If I had a $1 to give my one handed coworker every time I said helpfully said, "need a hand" by accident he could buy a couple steak dinners.

Hell I am probably saying stupid shit right now.

Be that as it may, I pray for your family's healing

Posted: 6/16/2024 11:27:05 AM EDT

[#11]

I can't imagine your pain OP. Have a great day for HIM.

Posted: 6/16/2024 11:27:27 AM EDT

[#12]

Your son was lucky to have had you for his short 17 years. Sorry for your loss.

Posted: 6/16/2024 11:36:48 AM EDT

[#13]

Sorry for your loss.

Posted: 6/16/2024 11:37:20 AM EDT

[#14]

Sorry for your loss and remember you always were and will be a father!

I’m sure you were the best father you could be to your son and even though your time with him was cut short the impact you had on each there life’s was immense.

Posted: 6/16/2024 11:38:48 AM EDT

[#15]

OP,

Your son is not gone. If he's in your heart, then he'll be with you forever. And you'll get to see him again, one day. Don't mourn his loss, celebrate that he was in your life, no matter how short of a time it was. Think back on all the memories you have of him and let them make you smile that you were able to be there with him for all those times...even the crappy ones. The times may have been crappy, but not the fact that you were with him and he was with you.

No parent should ever have to lose a child. And I can't begin to fathom what you went through and are still going through. But you are still his father. Adn you will be so forever, no matter what.

Posted: 6/16/2024 11:40:18 AM EDT

[#16]

Your coworker didn't mean any harm or malicious intent, focus on the good parts of the time you had with your son. And accept that he's waiting for you, and he gets to watch grow into the man he always knew you were!

Posted: 6/16/2024 11:43:45 AM EDT

[#17]

Prayers for you and your bride, sir.

My brother lost his 20yo son, my nephew, on Father's Day 2019 to carbon monoxide poisoning while boating.

Although being a father is one of the greatest joys of my life, Father's Day will never be the same.

Posted: 6/16/2024 11:49:51 AM EDT

[#18]

Your son was blessed to have you as a father.

You were blessed to have him as your son.

Whether the love you shared lasted only a moment or a lifetime, it is to be cherished and will exist in eternity.

That is a beautiful thing. Not everyone gets to experience that. Being a father to your son has made you what you are today--and you are loved for who you are.

That said, I hurt for you because I could have been in your position a number of times with our kids.

Posted: 6/16/2024 11:52:03 AM EDT

[#19]

Prayers OP

Posted: 6/16/2024 11:53:48 AM EDT

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Posted: 6/16/2024 11:55:48 AM EDT

[#21]

So sorry.

The pain is also a measurement of love and neither goes away.

Your family are in my prayers.

Posted: 6/16/2024 12:09:21 PM EDT

[#22]

Sending some hugs OP.

Posted: 6/16/2024 12:11:57 PM EDT

[#23]

God bless you.

Posted: 6/16/2024 12:13:38 PM EDT

[#24]

A lot of members are already saying what I was thinking.

You weren't just a "very good father" you worked far harder at being a father than even most "good fathers" ever do.

You might dismiss that, claiming something like: "I didn't have a choice." That you'd say so, that this is what your default assumption is, it's what you simply believe, that only proves the man you are.

Everyone has a choice. All the absent fathers elsewhere are proof enough of that. And there are many kinds of "absent fathers" than just the craven runaway kind that flees. Some live under the same roof as their family. Some are dead from careless, preventable, or self-destructive things.

You chose to stay, and chose to do the work. That you may not even really think you "chose" anything doesn't change that. And it certainly didn't change the effort you made in everything you did, the largest and greatest of which was to persevere.

And perseverance is ultimately what 95% of love really is. Only 5% is actually joy, thrills, or elation. Even for someone or a family with few or no struggles at all.

Posted: 6/16/2024 12:15:28 PM EDT

[#25]

As sure as there is a God in heaven, brother

You and yours are in my prayers

Posted: 6/16/2024 12:16:54 PM EDT

[#26]

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Hey man, you're still a father, and you loved him.

Someone wishing you happy fathers day should also be a reminder of that love.

Stay strong for those who need to lean on someone. That's also being a Dad.

Gonna pray for all of you.

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Could’t have said it better. So well said.

My heart breaks for you and your family OP

Posted: 6/16/2024 12:17:05 PM EDT

[#27]

I'm so sorry man.

Happy father's day

Posted: 6/16/2024 12:19:25 PM EDT

[#28]

My deepest respects and sympathy to you, your departed son, and your family.

Posted: 6/16/2024 12:20:50 PM EDT

[#29]

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Your son was blessed to have you as a father.

You were blessed to have him as your son.

Whether the love you shared lasted only a moment or a lifetime, it is to be cherished and will exist in eternity.

That is a beautiful thing. Not everyone gets to experience that. Being a father to your son has made you what you are today--and you are loved for who you are.

That said, I hurt for you because I could have been in your position a number of times with our kids.

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this too. excellent points.

Posted: 6/16/2024 12:21:02 PM EDT

[#30]

May God grant peace to you and your family

Posted: 6/16/2024 12:23:24 PM EDT

[#31]

You gave him the best life you could. You did your best dad, and he was happy. You gave him a life and fathered him. I’m so sorry that he’s gone. You’ll see him again, he won’t be sick, and he’ll be so proud of you and what you did for him. Live your best life, do your work here on earth and earn the right to be with him for eternity.

We love you too, man. You can be sad, don’t run away from the emotions, but don’t let them control you.

Happy Father’s Day, you absolutely deserve it.

Posted: 6/16/2024 12:23:54 PM EDT

[#32]

I’m very sorry for your loss

Posted: 6/16/2024 12:24:40 PM EDT

[#33]

Can't imagine. Prayers for you and your family, sir.

Posted: 6/16/2024 12:35:07 PM EDT

[#34]

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Hey man, you're still a father, and you loved him.

Someone wishing you happy fathers day should also be a reminder of that love.

Stay strong for those who need to lean on someone. That's also being a Dad.

Gonna pray for all of you.

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This. Know also that he's in a better place, no longer limited by earthly frailties.

You both will see him again, in time.

Posted: 6/16/2024 12:46:33 PM EDT

[#35]

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Hey man, you're still a father, and you loved him.

Someone wishing you happy fathers day should also be a reminder of that love.

Stay strong for those who need to lean on someone. That's also being a Dad.

Gonna pray for all of you.

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Very well said.

Posted: 6/16/2024 12:56:33 PM EDT

[#36]

I’m sorry OP, there are some special fathers posting here today.

Posted: 6/16/2024 12:57:25 PM EDT

[#37]

I'm sorry brother.

Posted: 6/16/2024 1:02:39 PM EDT

[#38]

OP...
You put more work into being a father than most of us combined.
Sorry for your loss.

Posted: 6/16/2024 1:03:11 PM EDT

[#39]

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Hey man, you're still a father, and you loved him.

Someone wishing you happy fathers day should also be a reminder of that love.

Stay strong for those who need to lean on someone. That's also being a Dad.

Gonna pray for all of you.

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Exactly this. You were a great father while your son was around and you will continue to be great. You did everything you could for him and he's proud of you from above.

Posted: 6/16/2024 2:19:42 PM EDT

[#40]

Lots of men can't figure out how to be a father without having to deal with the challenges you faced --but you did, and that is no small accomplishment.

Posted: 6/16/2024 2:24:06 PM EDT

[#41]

I’m very sorry for your loss and can’t even imagine the pain. Try to remember the good times and that you loved unconditional and gave him the best possible life. Prayers sent

Posted: 6/16/2024 2:26:10 PM EDT

[#42]

So sorry OP. You will always cherish your son. He’s looking down proud of all you’ve done for him
over the years.

Posted: 6/16/2024 2:36:11 PM EDT

[#43]

I'm so sorry. I have been feeling sorry for myself all day as my son is dealing with serious mental health issues. In a strange way your post helped me accept where we are. Thank you for that.

ETA: I hope this didn't come off the wrong way.

Posted: 6/16/2024 2:41:30 PM EDT

[#44]

I'm so sorry OP.

Posted: 6/16/2024 2:42:50 PM EDT

[#45]

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Hey man, you're still a father, and you loved him.

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This. Celebrate the life your son had, not the one he lost. Nothing changes father's day for you other than celebrating you son you made you one.

I can't imagine the loss, I can only tell you that today is a day you get to honor your son and thank God for the short few years he blessed you with him.

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