It comes to slow. Like Japan.

In my coastal region it is VERY common to see women "age out" of having kids/their best options in the dating market, holding on for men who were NEVER interested in dating them to begin with.
If I had to give 2 stories to describe "the middle cluster" narrative for people where I'm at, it goes like this:

Men:
- Many young men lack skills, confidence, title, status, money, etc. They haven't been "built" yet.
- They don't dress well, dont' take care of themselves, often lack confidence.
- Note: Tall handsome Chad who was good at sports and had dating options from a young age, has peaked already and can continue being handsome and getting options
- For other guys, it's time and acquisition of skill, and refinement.
- At some point he's becoming "someone" in the tribe. He's either picked up a skill or two, or he's not afraid of his shadow anymore, he's not afraid to be rejected anymore - women can smell this lack of fear of himself and the world
- He has now earned mating rights, and now has options to some degree. In an ideal world he now meets a young lady and they go off and be happy
- At times he may continue to climb, and his options actually get a liiiiiiiiiiiiitttle better over time. Does it mean he can date supermodels now? No it does not. BUT, just maybe, he can date and marry a lady he finds quite pretty, that's good for him

- His friend though kinda stayed out of shape. He never hit the offramp to the "next step" turnpike.
- He escapes into childish hobbies, gets in WORSE shape, stuck on the offramp, he starts checking out.
- At age 40 with a baaad Dad-bod and no hair, women are still picking over him.
- In reality getting in shape and caring about his look, how clean his house is - basically picking as much "low hanging fruit" self improvement things he can would help.
But it feels hopeless, he's checked out - and women don't want a man who in their evolutionary wiring seems like he might check out on her or fall into a ball and start crying if the hilltribe shows up.


For women:
- In my region many women will Find Themselves^TM through their 20s. They look down their nose at women who Settle^TM (on a man who adores them, and she loves him)
- Most women here are viewing dating like a lottery ticket to chad.
Being beautiful? "Well I should have a beautiful man" (valid.)
Beauty at any size! = Translation: Chad for me too plz.

- SOME will sleep around (many do), some will not. Both camps want Chad
- The smarter/wiser women tend to figure out pretty quickly what matters and what doesn't.
She sees that guy that tbh is pretty handsome, and honest, and good to her, acceptable job, and he likes her.
She can tell his intentions are good, she marries him, possibly IN her 20s. Skips dating and dating traumas all together.
- Her friend who WANTED to do that but the search was harder, does this at 31.
- The other friends might give her shit for "settling" on X_____________ category, over the years those friends end up with men who are not as attractive as the one their friend married.
- for the girls who HAD TO have a man who basically didn't exist and would never marry them? It's when their "biffle" has the second child, or she's a maid of honor for the second time, that she begins to go "oh shit..." and scramble.
- This girl used a Deal of ORs to get a man of ANDs.
"I have a nice 10/10 body OR a nice face = I'm a 10/10.
I have something pretty about me OR a good job/title = I'm a 10/10 because men totally add money

using my deal of ORs, I want a man who has a handsome face AND a good body AND a good job AND player tools AND etc etc."
- If she figures out that man has literally never spoken to her seriously to date her, she can move on.
- Some girls hold on to like 39 insistent on that being the hill to die on.
Handsome-ish successful plumber?  "Ew he's bald, and a Plumber. Ugh."
^ women like this can and do age out of having children, and often times age out of their best options.


I guess what I'm saying is, working within your framework:
Men who don't start with or acquire their dating capital - can't afford women and eventually seem to go bankrupt.
Women kinda start with capital, they can't quite tell how much it reallllly is, and there are things they can do to lose it over time - but polite society has a hard time saying what those things are.

In 2022 in my region the reality is most women are pricing themselves WAY too high on the dating market.
I would if I had to pick a problem to be the #1 spot, our coastal dating market problem is that average women don't want to date average men and believe they are beneath them.

If they're ordering more than what their labor is capable of completing, it's either to hedge against inflation-smart, I know someone who did that with shingles and barrel tiles for roofs on new houses here.
Dumped everything into a leased office because beer aids. Former cubicle rat nest, turned supply house for roofing materials.

Or
The labor force is full of retards fucking shit up.

Or accountant said, need more deductibles or tax man will love you.

Soy boys in that  age bracket are interested in two things:   1)  Video Games 2)  Sucking Dick

I spent roughly a decade trying to bang as many chicks as possible.  I nailed everything from virgins to gals that rode every cock they could.  Straight, bisexual, lesbians that dabbled, singles, multiples, polyamory and committed relationships.  I met a lot of interesting women. Some of them had issues.  All of them had something that was interesting to me at the time.  I have exactly zero big regrets about my sexual history, though there were gals I should have had sex with that I didn’t, and gals I should have had more sex with.  When the time was right, I found a gal that I was compatible with and settled down.  I don’t cheat on my wife.  I never “cheated” on anyone with whom I was in a monogamous relationship and never will,  I know celibates that ended up in dysfunctional relationships, sluts that have happy marriages and everything in between.

Glad it all worked out for you.

You've said that a few times in this thread. Seems a bit obsessed.



Get with the times, grandpa. Millenials are now turning 40. Normal college students have been zoomers for a while.

That's about the sort of disconnect from reality I would expect from someone making that comment, though...

I ran through them like books of cheap bar top matches.  I mean tons of great gals.  Good girls who became great wives and mothers.

I still ended up with the best one.  I am so blessed.

Also, the world needs sloots too.  I was personally always a fan.