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Posted: 11/9/2013 5:44:33 AM EDT
Been happily married for almost 8 years.... But saw a women who I used to go to school with the other night and damn she looked good, now I know I'd never cheat on my wife.... But does the urge of thinking about it ever go away?
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Posted: 11/9/2013 5:45:43 AM EDT
[#1]
Probably will if you chop your balls off
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Posted: 11/9/2013 5:46:48 AM EDT
[#2]
Man was given an imagination for a reason.
She can't hate you because you have eyes. I was once told, "At some point in your life, knowing you could have will become as important as having done." |
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Posted: 11/9/2013 5:47:35 AM EDT
[#3]
Urge to kill your wife? It comes and goes
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Posted: 11/9/2013 5:48:57 AM EDT
[#4]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Urge to kill your wife? It comes and goes This. It mostly comes at night, mostly. |
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Posted: 11/9/2013 5:49:55 AM EDT
[#5]
40yrs.in here.......Nope.
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Posted: 11/9/2013 5:51:21 AM EDT
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Been happily married for almost 8 years.... But saw a women who I used to go to school with the other night and damn she looked good, now I know I'd never cheat on my wife.... But does the urge of thinking about it ever go away? http://goo.gl/H9XbG 8 year itch. It must be awfully strong for you to be compelled to post it here. |
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Posted: 11/9/2013 5:51:28 AM EDT
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Urge to kill your wife? It comes and goes |
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Posted: 11/9/2013 5:52:11 AM EDT
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I don't believe that people are monogamous creatures. Monogamy is not real. It's only human to check out a nice ass.
However, commitment and dedication is real and it all comes down to how much you value what you have. I believe that to be a more important and vital piece of the relationship foundation. You don't marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else (and hopefully a much deserving somebody) happy. |
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Posted: 11/9/2013 5:52:18 AM EDT
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At my age, I'm pretty sure I don't want to even look at any of the women I went to school with. 
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Posted: 11/9/2013 5:52:21 AM EDT
[#10]
It will never stop, no. Avoid stupid situations, exercise self control, and you'll be fine.
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Posted: 11/9/2013 5:52:29 AM EDT
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Probably will if you chop your balls off Or if your wife chops them off. 
jb |
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Posted: 11/9/2013 5:53:06 AM EDT
[#12]
It's only human nature to look and think and have the urge.
I'm sure your wife has the same urges, along with everyone else in the world. If you have a healthy relationship then the urge really a none issue. |
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Posted: 11/9/2013 5:53:09 AM EDT
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If you have a good one hang on to her and treat her right. I used to travel a lot. Was in hotels across the country and there were plenty of opportunities but I never even thought about it. Wife ended up taking off with some old flame from high school. I have never cheated though.
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Posted: 11/9/2013 5:53:51 AM EDT
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Just remember the reality of the encounter will never meet the expectation of the fantasy.
Not worth it IMHO. But then again, Im not married and never intend to be again. |
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Posted: 11/9/2013 5:53:55 AM EDT
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Urge to kill your wife? It comes and goes I don't want to kill mine, but I never have a stick as big around as my thumb when I feel I need it most. |
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Posted: 11/9/2013 5:54:14 AM EDT
[#16]
No.
You can never say you won't cheat. You can say that you won't put yourself in the position to cheat. |
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Posted: 11/9/2013 5:55:04 AM EDT
[#17]
Thinking and doing are not the same. I won't feel bad over a thought. Just keep the thoughts to yourself!
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Posted: 11/9/2013 5:59:13 AM EDT
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At my age, I'm pretty sure I don't want to even look at any of the women I went to school with. Funny thing is, just about all the women I went to school with are widowed and on the prowl. Our last reunion was a meat market.
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Posted: 11/9/2013 5:59:57 AM EDT
[#19]
FYI: Women have the same issue...
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:02:57 AM EDT
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Whenever I have that urge, I tell my wife and then we start trying to figure out how we can swing a threeway. Luckily, we both have the same taste in woman.
We have a success rate of somewhat less than 5%, but hey... If you don't ask, the answer will always be no, right? |
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:03:17 AM EDT
[#21]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Or if your wife chops them off. jb Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: Probably will if you chop your balls off Or if your wife chops them off. jb ETA: Our 10 yr anniversary is next Summer, but I met my wife 10 years ago today!
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:04:25 AM EDT
[#22]
We're gonna need a pics of this woman so we can give you a clear yay or nay...
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:04:35 AM EDT
[#23]
If you remove your testicles and penis, I believe you might be able to overcome to the stronger aspect of the urge.
For as long as I live I will never stop noticing attractive women--that's in our nature. The important part is dealing with it when it arises. |
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:05:17 AM EDT
[#24]
Quoted:
Been happily married for almost 8 years.... But saw a women who I used to go to school with the other night and damn she looked good, now I know I'd never cheat on my wife.... But does the urge of thinking about it ever go away? http://goo.gl/H9XbG Only if you are gay. |
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:06:00 AM EDT
[#25]
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This. It mostly comes at night, mostly. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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Urge to kill your wife? It comes and goes This. It mostly comes at night, mostly. Only |
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:07:21 AM EDT
[#26]
I'm 31 and I never see that urge going away. I get caught every on e in a while but my wife knows she is good and has nothing to worry about. She always says LOOKING is perfectly fine.
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:07:50 AM EDT
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Urge to kill your wife? It comes and goes That's some serious truth. |
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:09:44 AM EDT
[#28]
My dad told me it goes away when you die
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:12:01 AM EDT
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Quoted: Been happily married for almost 8 years.... But saw a women who I used to go to school with the other night and damn she looked good, now I know I'd never cheat on my wife.... But does the urge of thinking about it ever go away? http://goo.gl/H9XbG |
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:12:29 AM EDT
[#30]
The saying goes "It's ok to get an appetite.As long as you eat at home."
 Going on 14 years for us.
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:14:15 AM EDT
[#31]
Only if you own a marijuana dispensary in California.
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:17:37 AM EDT
[#32]
NO, it's genetic. No matter what the Bible-Thumpers say man is just an animal. Like all male animals we have spent eons trying to be the dominant male in the pack and to spread our seed as such.
The human part comes in with the restraint and commitment to your wife. |
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:18:53 AM EDT
[#33]
Quoted:
Been happily married for almost 8 years.... But saw a women who I used to go to school with the other night and damn she looked good, now I know I'd never cheat on my wife.... But does the urge of thinking about it ever go away? http://goo.gl/H9XbG Things from the past aren't always as golden as you recall. To include former flings or potential flings. When was the last time you took your wife on a date? |
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:19:45 AM EDT
[#34]
SELF CONTROL.
The thought of raising another child 20 plus years coupled with training a new female help too. |
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:24:24 AM EDT
[#35]
The urge will stay but the temptation will go away with age. It's called being a man.
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:24:34 AM EDT
[#36]
If looking and thinking about pussy were a crime..then all real men would be criminals..
Now go find your woman and rip'er pantys off..go all 'rodeo' on that shit.. 
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:25:03 AM EDT
[#37]
Look, don't touch.
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:27:21 AM EDT
[#38]
Having urges makes you human, controlling them makes you a man.
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:29:01 AM EDT
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I will be honest, I have been struggling more and more with this issue of late. My wife and I have been married for ten years. She is 42, I am 40. My wife was a super horn-dog up until about three years after our daughter was born seven years ago. That is when the perimenopause started and her libido practically disappeared. Since then she gets the "urge" for sex once, maybe twice per year. We still have sex once or twice per month, but I can tell she totally isn't into it and would rather be watching TV or sleeping.
She claims the problem is her work requires she gets up early, is tiring and stressful, but she is a middle school teacher and doesn't really work long hours and gets four months per year off on vacation. I have noticed since the perimenopause kicked in she has far less energy than before. Might just be getting older also. I work long(er) hours than she does, and get up only an hour after she does, but I'm just as energetic and alive as I was when I was twenty. And my libido hasn't diminished one bit in all those years. I've urged her to see a MD, but she just never takes any action about it and when we "discuss" the lack of a sex life issue it just ends up in a fight where she says I'm being selfish and not thinking about her needs. So yeah, my eyes have been wandering more lately, and I've been having thoughts more and more about getting something on the side. But what keeps me from doing it is love for my wife and kids and not wanting to destroy my family. Those of you with spouses who still get that "burning desire down south" frequently are lucky. Never take that for granted. |
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:33:13 AM EDT
[#40]
YOU CAN LOOK AT THE MENU, AS LONG AS YOU EAT AT HOME.
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:33:49 AM EDT
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I will be honest, I have been struggling more and more with this issue of late. My wife and I have been married for ten years. She is 42, I am 40. My wife was a super horn-dog up until about three years after our daughter was born seven years ago. That is when the perimenopause started and her libido practically disappeared. Since then she gets the "urge" for sex once, maybe twice per year. We still have sex once or twice per month, but I can tell she totally isn't into it and would rather be watching TV or sleeping. She claims the problem is her work requires she gets up early, is tiring and stressful, but she is a middle school teacher and doesn't really work long hours and gets four months per year off on vacation. I have noticed since the perimenopause kicked in she has far less energy than before. Might just be getting older also. I work long(er) hours than she does, and get up only an hour after she does, but I'm just as energetic and alive as I was when I was twenty. And my libido hasn't diminished one bit in all those years. I've urged her to see a MD, but she just never takes any action about it and when we "discuss" the lack of a sex life issue it just ends up in a fight where she says I'm being selfish and not thinking about her needs. So yeah, my eyes have been wandering more lately, and I've been having thoughts more and more about getting something on the side. But what keeps me from doing it is love for my wife and kids and not wanting to destroy my family. Those of you with spouses who still get that "burning desire down south" frequently are lucky. Never take that for granted. Get her to see a doc. They have hormone therapy that can help her. And these problems don't just end in the bedroom; decreased energy and the like are also symptoms. Or so I've read... |
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:35:04 AM EDT
[#42]
you are now on a diet...you can look at the menu, but cannot order...
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:36:31 AM EDT
[#43]
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Get her to see a doc. They have hormone therapy that can help her. And these problems don't just end in the bedroom; decreased energy and the like are also symptoms. Or so I've read... Quote HistoryQuoted:
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I will be honest, I have been struggling more and more with this issue of late. My wife and I have been married for ten years. She is 42, I am 40. My wife was a super horn-dog up until about three years after our daughter was born seven years ago. That is when the perimenopause started and her libido practically disappeared. Since then she gets the "urge" for sex once, maybe twice per year. We still have sex once or twice per month, but I can tell she totally isn't into it and would rather be watching TV or sleeping. She claims the problem is her work requires she gets up early, is tiring and stressful, but she is a middle school teacher and doesn't really work long hours and gets four months per year off on vacation. I have noticed since the perimenopause kicked in she has far less energy than before. Might just be getting older also. I work long(er) hours than she does, and get up only an hour after she does, but I'm just as energetic and alive as I was when I was twenty. And my libido hasn't diminished one bit in all those years. I've urged her to see a MD, but she just never takes any action about it and when we "discuss" the lack of a sex life issue it just ends up in a fight where she says I'm being selfish and not thinking about her needs. So yeah, my eyes have been wandering more lately, and I've been having thoughts more and more about getting something on the side. But what keeps me from doing it is love for my wife and kids and not wanting to destroy my family. Those of you with spouses who still get that "burning desire down south" frequently are lucky. Never take that for granted. Get her to see a doc. They have hormone therapy that can help her. And these problems don't just end in the bedroom; decreased energy and the like are also symptoms. Or so I've read... She went once a few years ago when the perimenopause started and the MD told her there was nothing they could do until she entered full blown menopause. She has yet to hit menopause (still in the perimenopause phase), and she won't go to see another MD because she thinks they will tell her the same thing. And when I urge her to go, she just gets mad at me. |
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:36:40 AM EDT
[#44]
Rules OP, we have them for a reason.....now pics or GTFO!!!!!
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:39:05 AM EDT
[#45]
I'm friends with the hottest chick in my HS. I had a huge crush on her.
The years...have not been kind. She's a nice gal and everything, but...yeah. I married well.
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:41:14 AM EDT
[#46]
That's what porn and USB powered fleshlights are for
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:42:08 AM EDT
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Quoted: Been happily married for almost 8 years.... But saw a women who I used to go to school with the other night and damn she looked good, now I know I'd never cheat on my wife.... But does the urge of thinking about it ever go away? http://goo.gl/H9XbG That's called "being human". "Being married" means overcoming that feeling and moving on. If you're lucky, you overcome it because you know in your heart and soul that what you have with your wife is a culmination of mutual love and respect in the physical, emotional and spiritual sense that you will never experience with someone else and you have no interest or desire to ever try. If you're unlucky, you overcome it because you feel guilty, obligated and/or you don't want to risk losing everything in the divorce if you get caught. I consider myself to be one of the lucky ones |
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:43:58 AM EDT
[#48]
Well you see..... it all started when THEY (woman) ate that apple after being told not too....
So if you cheat... it's actually their fault. from a long time ago.
I'm outta here....later! 
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:48:21 AM EDT
[#49]
Doesn't matter where you get your appetite, as long as you eat at home.
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Posted: 11/9/2013 6:49:47 AM EDT
[#50]
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At my age, I'm pretty sure I don't want to even look at any of the women I went to school with. No shit, I used to go to class reunions to see which girls still looked good. At my last one I realized it was...none of them. 
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