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I got divorced last year and have spent the last 12 months dating various women of different cultural backgrounds mostly in Europe but also some in Latin America and a couple stateside.  I hope that by sharing my experiences I can inspire some of my fellow ARFCOMMERs to find success in dating, love and maybe marriage.  Although I'm no expert on a long lasting marriage, others can advise you better there.  I didn't start this thread with the aim of humble bragging as none of you know me in real life but with the hope that we can all benefit from my recent experiences with women across the globe.

Background:

My ex-wife and I were married for 11 years and separated last July and I initiated the divorce.  She did not want to end the marriage at all until she later found out I was already dating.  After years of little to no sex, being constantly disrespected, sleeping separate and largely ignored I told her that I had reached my breaking point.  She made no promises to change so I knew I had to fully commit to ending things with her.  I was totally miserable and hated my existence.  I was constantly made to feel like everything I did was wrong in someway and my happiness did not matter at all.  FUCK THAT.

I am 41 years old now, I retired at 38 with a substantial income, I've mostly kept my looks, I cut 60 lbs of fat with anabolics last year, I'm 6' tall and bench 315 lbs.  I have been involved one way or another with the following women starting in August of 2023:

-D, 31, Colombian living in Florida.  Big naturals, light skin, amazing BJ skills, a real screamer during sex, we dated for 2 months but she backed out of a trip to Europe with me 1 day before we were supposed to leave.  Hands down the hottest woman I've ever seen.  She was totally batshit crazy but a 10.

-N, 25, German.  C cup, Greek/Croatian mix, born again Christian, she moved into my hotel room on the 3rd date.  She ambushed me with a lunch with her entire family.  She seemed to think we were getting married after just a couple of dates.  Later stalked me online for about 2 months.  A solid 8.

-J, 27, Australian.  We met in Amsterdam and I took her first to a sex show then later back to her hotel.  Not the best looking but any hole is a goal, she's a 5.

-V, 27, Albanian.  We met in Geneva, we never slept together, she drained my bank account and strung me along as much as possible for 2 months.  I wanted a relationship with her but she was very non-committal and a shitty communicator.  We took multiple trips together across the globe.  We dated for about 2 months.
Her heart was made of ice but she's a solid 8.

-M, 25, Russian.  We met up in Prague, curly blonde hair, blue eyes, perfect C cup tits.  She comes back from the bathroom on the first date with white stuff in her nostril.  We did coke together and made out in the bathroom of the restaurant.  That night we had sex in my hotel room.  She was totally wild, wanted a relationship with me but she'd be a terrible role model for my future children.  She's an 8.

-C, 23, French.  Met up with her in Paris, blonde hair and blue eyes, wonderful smile, great personality, a flight attendant who loves horses.  Great wife material, DDs and still a virgin.  She's connected to the highest levels of French politics and she's very conservative.  Former Olympic athlete and French Army officer.  Foolishly I broke up with her for the next girl and now I regret it (see below).  We still talk.  She's a 9.

-A, 24, French.  Red hair, green eyes, freckles, amazing body and outgoing personality.  I have never met anyone who made me throw caution into the wind like A before.  We never slept together because I wanted to wait (idiot).  I had real feelings for her and it made me blind to everyone and everything else.  She broke up with me because I had followed C (the last girl) on Instagram and then thought I was trying to date them both at the same time (I wasn't).  She broke my heart.  Pretty crazy, a bit paranoid, bisexual.  She's a 10.

-M, 24, Spanish.  Dark hair and eyes.  Model, B cup, long legs and slender body.  Met up with her in Madrid a week after getting dumped by A (last girl).  She wore lingerie for me and we had sex on the first date in my hotel room.  Rebound chick.  She stopped texting after I got home.  A solid 8.

-L, 34, American.  As American as apple pie.  Home grown Texan girl, blonde hair and blue eyes, B cup, divorced, great body.  We just fooled around a few times.  She was really fun to hang out with but ultimately too old to fire out the 4 future kids I want so I didn't want to waste any more of her time.  She's a 7.

ETA: T, 32, American.  Single mom to two kids, kinda trashy but with big DDs, big eyes and blonde hair.  Took her to a nice dinner then later got a hotel room.  She took her dress off and everything started to sag.  I wasn't so impressed.  She wanted me to choke her but that's a great way to get accused of rape later on.  Totally a rebound chick.  I give her a 6 but in her pictures she looks like an 8.

-V, 31, Belgian.  Tall, slim, big eyes and amazing hair and the best fashion sense I've ever seen.  Went on a couple dates but we never kissed.  We both wanted a serious relationship but she kept spending too much of her time having fun with her silly friend and not me.  She wanted me but I don't like being ignored.  She's a 9.

-V, 27, Polish.  5' 11", works in Finance, long legs, blonde hair, big blue eyes and perfect skin.  I chased her online for 8 months until she agreed to meet me.  I wanted a relationship but she just wanted to bang.  So we did on our third date.  She was sort of a lousy lay but she looked damn good laying there taking it and did everything I told her to.  She still wants me to come back to see her.  Terrible communicator but an all around 10.

-L, 24, Colombian.  Doctor, c cup, great body and full lips.  I flew to Colombia to visit her and we stayed at a resort out in the desert where we fooled around but never slept together.  We talked about being a couple but I wasn't able to get back to see her for a month so things sort of fizzled out.  A solid 8.

-V, 30, American.  Flew out to Utah to see her.  She lied to me and told me she was 23, petite little body with B cups.  She was desperately looking for a way out of her family situation which I didn't want to get involved with.  We just fooled around a bit.  She's bisexual.  I found out on the last day she was a huge liberal with a head full of woke nonsense.  She's a 7.

-E, 27, Russian.  She grew up in Germany.  Miss Europe contestant, tall, massive fake tits, some plastic surgery on her face (I don't like that), dark personality, absolutely killer body, bisexual and batshit crazy but really cool to hang out with.  Very down to earth for a woman with those kinds of looks.  Didn't sleep with her, just fooled around.  She's a 10 but parts of her are fake.

-A, 24, Colombian.  A petite little doll with a big personality.  We agreed to be a couple after a few days of dating.  Took her on a trip to Paris and London for a week.  Doesn't speak a lick of English and my Spanish is poor so it was hard to have a relationship.  I chose not to fuck her but we just fooled around, great BJs.
Things fizzled out after the trip.  She's an 8.

-E, 26, Russian.  We met up in Vienna.  Miss St. Petersburg runner-up a few years ago.  B cups with perfect nipples, long legs, slender body and never wore a bra.  She's bisexual.  We banged on the first date and didn't leave the hotel room for 3 days except to eat.  She was my first and only squirter so far.  I was on a cycle of Dianabol at the time so we ended up having sex about 12 times per day until she told me she had to "retire it".  She became very possessive after we saw each other and it pissed me off but she did later apologize.  She's a 9.

-J, 26, German.  My current girlfriend.  Tall, slim, very fit, high energy, amazingly confident and fun.  A stuntwoman, huntress, EMT and all around cool chick.  She's a 10.  We just got back from spending a week in Miami and Orlando where I watched her frolic on the beach.  No further details than that at this time

Posted with permission.


Things I have learned:

-Woman don't care about your looks unless you're short and weak
-Don't be rude, inappropriate or a liberal faggot.  DON'T BE A PUSSY.  But no need to be a 'tough guy' either
-Making a big effort sets you apart from other men.  Like traveling to another state or country just for them
-Always show up to a date with FLOWERS.  Red roses will make a girl's head spin.  If she asks for gifts before you meet up, tell her to get fucked
-A first date should always be dinner.  Spend at least $150 on food and drinks at a nice restaurant.  So don't take her to fucking Chili's, Outback or just for coffee
-Girls who grew up without a dad are really easy to sleep on the first date
-If she's attractive and over 30 but never married she's fucking insane
-Having money really helps but very few women I've dated wanted any gifts or expensive things.  They just like the idea of security
-Don't waste your time with liberal women unless you're a libtard yourself (why are you on ARFCOM?)
-European women love a man who is ex-military and knows about guns.  They all want to shoot guns with you!
-Being a gentlemen sets you apart from other guys
-Being a good conversationalist sets you apart from other guys
-Dressing nicely sets you apart from other guys

I seriously want a normal, steady relationship that leads to a long and healthy marriage.  I have two kids already but I want to have 3-4 more.  I love the idea of a big family.  I may have missed my best opportunity with "C" as she was the most stable and best fit for me.  I really don't know what I was thinking there.  A lot of these women are great at first then slow roll out the craziness over a period of a few weeks or months.  Are any of them normal?  Am I expecting too much as a 41 year old serial dater of women in their 20's?

But feel free to ask whatever you want or criticize to your little heart's content.  Tell me I'm a woman hating misogynist for compiling this long list of women and rating their looks and personalities or because almost all of them want to fuck me by the 3rd date.  IDGAF bro.  Or stay and learn something and quit being a middle aged loser like I could have been if I didn't decide to end my marriage, hit the gym, buy new clothes and stop being a depressed pussy.

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If my Shrek looking ass can do it, so can you.

Fire away.

No thanks.

Have you ever been to Thailand......for a thing?
Prediction;
Thread will go 8 pages.

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Get over yourself and try to make the world a better place.

Yes.  I was the first guy to go to Thailand and not get laid.  Not even by V who I went there with.  Thankfully I realized there she was full of shit.

How many STDs have you had

Also, do you have a pleasure journal?  You should start one.

In. Should I post my list, too?

Sounds like a blast. Enjoy.

Zero.  And no unplanned pregnancy's either.

Yes.

this

I hope you find what you’re looking for

I used to really enjoy Russia. Still have friends in Moscow. Women tend to be vastly different in mindset between countries

No real obese ones and while they can be blunt, you don't understand they are trying to be helpful.

Going to Turkey in 2 months to spend a couple of weeks with my friend, and son. We are both divorced so should be a blast.

Your kids must be young.  I'm in my mid 40's and banging chicks roughly my daughter's age sounds kind of gross to me.  I hope you're enjoying yourself (safely!) and ultimately find the partner you're after.

#doubt

Also it's 2024, who the fuck still uses dbol

lol dude actually keeps a pleasure journal

I pin 1000mg of tren a day directly into my dick

Well, if so it took a whole lot of planning and filling out different little details and descriptors for each, and is way too much effort to impress a bunch of GD basement dwellers.

OP, you genuinely didn't fear waking up in a tub of ice missing a kidney?

How many planned pregnancies?

I'm all ears if you want to talk PM me your number.  I would love to discuss other options.  I just started my latest cycle a few hours ago actually.

This sounds like a lot of work

Every non arfcom boomer after join date 2011 dream

Is this a copypasta? It is now.

No thanks

I have nothing to gain from engaging in degeneracy.

I have everything to lose by taking in another dependent.

No thanks

Thanks for reminding me how much I love my wife

Awesome! Good for you! Now travel to Australia and tap that well. Argentina is fun too, Eastern Europe is the best.

Probably. And this for the lulz.

How fucking big is your current chicks feet? They look like a mens 13.

He shared it with you in OP.

What’s your test base for this cycle?

Anyone else getting Mr Clean 4 Hire vibes?

Hahahaha it's a "go away ring" she's been wearing for years.  Keeps most dudes from hitting on her.  The coke was a one time deal for me... it didn't help my depression and I'm afraid of it being laced with fentanyl.

PM me.

I appreciate this thread and won’t criticize the misogynistic behavior, because frankly, most guys could use a little more of it.  

Somehow, I don’t think you’ll mind my pointing out, that you sound a little like


How did you manage to retire so young, with so much money?
To me, that’s a far more interesting side of story.   So many of the young guys here, could learn from your experiences.

Have you considered spending all of that skirt chasing time with your kids instead?

I'm not sure I'd qualify as a "passport bro", because I've heard that is when you go to a foreign country and try to meet women there, not when you meet one (however you do it) and then go to her country to visit her. So I don't count myself as a passport bro... but my wife is Brazilian. I met her on a dating site a little over 2 years ago. I wasn't looking for anything serious with a foreign woman, so it didn't start off with that kind of interest. She was beautiful and had very similar wants and values and was interested in something serious. I reflected on it for a couple weeks and opened up to it. She's amazing, and I'm very happy now.

I went to Brazil after knowing her for about 7 months. Got an AirBNB in the little city she lived in and spent 5 weeks there. I worked remote for most of that, and she had things to do so we weren't together all the time. It worked out great. Then in July last year, she flew up to Texas to visit me. She already had a visa from when she visited a friend of hers in NJ in 2014. My family loves her, all of my friends love her.

I went back to Brazil (São Paulo) for Christmas with her family, and stayed until March. Got back home, sold my smaller house and in June, moved into my new, bigger house. She came up here a few days later. We married in July and everything is going great.

So I'm not sure if I qualify as a "passport bro", but meeting a foreign woman worked out for me!

This. Cheating on your wife is the gayest thing you can do.

Dudes like that always end up doing gay shit because they've got an itch that can't be scratched.

cool

i see more and more every time i visit. i hope guys reading about this know that latam isn't really that safe, though. don't be dumb, do some research before going.

We're 7 days on and 7 days off.  I'm with my kids for every fucking second I'm allowed to be.  The rest of the time I'm out having fun and I still speak to them every single day.

I love to hear that brother.  My ex-wife is Brazilian too and while it didn't work out for us I wish you all the luck in the world.  There's nothing like having a good, loving woman by your side.  I truly believe it's part of what makes a man great.

It's pretty normal to feel devalued from a sexless marriage, escape from it, and find that you are valued by the opposite sex. And your list of conquests is your value, both externally and internally.

I hope you get to the point where you feel the list of conquests is a side note on the way to happier fields and you feel more intrinsic value in yourself independently, and also that you find the relationship that nurtures what made you get married in the first place.

Happy hunting!

Who the fuck said anyone should cheat on their wife?

GD is gonna run their mouth just the way they are. Sounds like you’re spending time with your kids as much as possible and looking for a good partner. Until that day comes go bang every piece of trim you can find. Better than sadly jerking off in their basement like a lot of these guys.

I did it on the front end from age 17 up to about 33, but state side, and I've done it;

skinny, fat, broke, not broke, $7 coffee dates, $120 dates, with no financial security, with some, in flip flops, nice clothes.

You can be or act like anyone you want to be for 2hrs up to 2-3 months.  But if you don't enjoy the fancy dinners and nice clothes yourself, it won't stick, and if that's what she's really into.. best of luck.

Be the best version of you, not somebody else; and see what comes back to ya.

This one confuses me.   Horse girl Flight Attendant, Olympic Athlete, French Army Veteran.    Claims to be a virgin.    What are the odds of that, and what’s the rest of the story?    

Do you believe her?
Did you even try?      

C, 23, French.  Met up with her in Paris, blonde hair and blue eyes, wonderful smile, great personality, a flight attendant who loves horses.  Great wife material, DDs and still a virgin.  She's connected to the highest levels of French politics and she's very conservative.  Former Olympic athlete and French Army officer.  Foolishly I broke up with her for the next girl and now I regret it (see below).  We still talk.  She's a 9.