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Posted: 8/8/2022 3:34:15 PM EST
[#1]
Just wait until you are in your thirties to get married. It won’t solve everything but you’ll choose better and younger (woo hoo) and are more capable of saying “I’m just going to fix this”.
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Posted: 8/8/2022 3:36:11 PM EST
[#2]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Would you be willing to give a little information, like are you married, how many years, how many times for us to consider if your opinion is valid in comparison to those who say marriage is hard work and have 20 or 30 years experience with their first partner? Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: i never understand this. Why it should be "hard work" to stay together. A good relationship doesnt need hard work. A mediocre or poor one sure does though. Would you be willing to give a little information, like are you married, how many years, how many times for us to consider if your opinion is valid in comparison to those who say marriage is hard work and have 20 or 30 years experience with their first partner? I agree with Pickles and I've always said the same thing. The marital relationship should be the safe space for both people. The place they go to get away from everything else in life that IS hard. It should be a respite, not more work. I'm not saying that if a couple has to work hard at their marriage that it isn't a successful marriage. But *hard work* and *good marriage* seem antithetical to me. |
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Posted: 8/8/2022 3:51:26 PM EST
[#3]
I suppose it’s a combination of time and chance combining to create the right circumstances, personal standards of both parties as well as the examples (good and bad) that they’re exposed to.
I was raised by my parents to have an eye out for what kind of wife I wanted. My wife’s parents barely prepared her for marriage at all, other than by modeling how bad marriage could be. I had a very clear idea of what I wanted and did yeoman’s work convincing her that even though I was 2 years her junior at 19, we were well suited for one another. My wife had a very clear idea of what she didn’t want. Hard work was done, for sure, but the majority of it was by my parents and grandparents as they modeled Godly marriages for me over the years. By the time I reached adulthood I knew what that looked like and knew that’s what I wanted. |
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Posted: 8/8/2022 3:53:33 PM EST
[#4]
Findin her is luck. Recognizing what you have found is not.
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Posted: 8/8/2022 3:54:19 PM EST
[#5]
You guys don't have women flirting with you everywhere you go?
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Posted: 8/8/2022 5:55:51 PM EST
[#6]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Partially genetic luck. You can find exceptional women but if they are not interested in you, you won't end up with any of them.  Attached File |
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Posted: 8/8/2022 5:57:34 PM EST
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Posted: 8/8/2022 7:03:36 PM EST
[#8]
Fortune favors the bold.
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Posted: 8/8/2022 7:05:35 PM EST
[#9]
Quote HistoryQuoted: You guys don't have women flirting with you everywhere you go? No women in mom's basement. |
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Posted: 8/8/2022 7:11:10 PM EST
[#10]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Luck. You can do all the homework in the world and she can still change on you. |
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Posted: 8/8/2022 7:46:24 PM EST
[#11]
Quote HistoryQuoted: No women in mom's basement. I totally get it now! 
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Posted: 8/8/2022 7:55:41 PM EST
[#12]
 Most choose poorly |
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Posted: 8/8/2022 7:56:22 PM EST
[#13]
Luck, my wife found me.
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Posted: 8/8/2022 7:58:35 PM EST
[#14]
Maybe it's not about you finding the wife. Maybe it's about the wife finding you?
I know, I know, your minds are blown. I'm sort of like Confucius except I'm not stupid. I'll give you all a few to collect your thoughts. |
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Posted: 8/8/2022 8:52:01 PM EST
[#15]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I agree with Pickles and I've always said the same thing. The marital relationship should be the safe space for both people. The place they go to get away from everything else in life that IS hard. It should be a respite, not more work. I'm not saying that if a couple has to work hard at their marriage that it isn't a successful marriage. But *hard work* and *good marriage* seem antithetical to me. That was well said. Having been married to an incredible woman for over three decades, it has never taken work. I'm very thankful for that. |
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Posted: 8/8/2022 9:00:18 PM EST
[#16]
Both.
Choose wisely is good advice for what you know now. It doesn't help for after 10 to 20 years shits gone sideways. |
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Posted: 8/8/2022 9:06:42 PM EST
[#17]
I 100% lucked out on my wife. If anything ever happens to her I ruined for life with other women. Outliving her is my single greatest fear.
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Posted: 8/8/2022 9:16:57 PM EST
[#18]
Quote HistoryQuoted: It was either God or luck. I prefer to look at it as God. Almost 33 years. Not perfect. Lots of work. Lots of blessings. Amen, brother! Almost 38 years for us. |
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Posted: 8/9/2022 12:32:50 PM EST
[#19]
Quote HistoryQuoted: No women in mom's basement. I thought that was what the shackles bolted to the wall and the floor drain was for…? |
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Posted: 8/9/2022 2:02:08 PM EST
[#20]
As for you people who say you can't find hot not crazy women in their 30s, it's because you aren't looking in the right places.
They aren't gonna be whoring around at the slut huts. You have to work the social circles. It's easy here in town, plenty great single go to church...big french and itallian population. Catholic church is big. Family is big, you are gonna have to figure out your way in. you gotta network |
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Posted: 8/9/2022 2:56:36 PM EST
[#21]
Quote HistoryQuoted: As for you people who say you can't find hot not crazy women in their 30s, it's because you aren't looking in the right places. They aren't gonna be whoring around at the slut huts. You have to work the social circles. It's easy here in town, plenty great single go to church...big french and itallian population. Catholic church is big. Family is big, you are gonna have to figure out your way in. you gotta network A lot of these folks don’t want to do that. They don’t want to talk to or befriend a woman they aren’t actively trying to fuck. They don’t want to take the time to try an activity outside their wheelhouse. That’s too much work, so better keep swiping in hopes of finding a magical DoorDash delivery service where they can pick their perfect wife off a menu and she shows up at their door 30 minutes later. |
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Posted: 8/9/2022 3:24:37 PM EST
[#22]
Divine intervention and luck.
First you have to manage to evade the crazy while having fun in your youth and then find someone that isn't crazy. My 2 cents. |
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Posted: 8/9/2022 5:21:35 PM EST
[#23]
You make your own luck to a large degree IMHO.
Getting married a little later in life means you get to level up more, and women generally appreciate an older more mature man. Furthermore, if you take physical fitness and training seriously, you won't age as much. People generally assume I'm in my mid 20s by my looks, but I'm coming up on 40 lol |
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Posted: 8/9/2022 5:34:51 PM EST
[#24]
The more attractive, taller, or richer you as a man are exponentially increases the likelihood you will find the "right" wife because your pool of potential mates to sample from is much larger. Men lacking the above attributes simply have a much, much smaller pool of potential mates and therefore are more likely to settle for something less than they would prefer.
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Posted: 8/9/2022 5:42:06 PM EST
[#25]
For me it was neither luck or hard work. I got married for the first time at age 42. I knew before marriage that I had chosen the right woman for me and that we would have a good life together. I wasn't wrong. We've been married for nearly 40 years now and I love her more than the day I married her and she feels the same way.
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Posted: 8/9/2022 5:58:14 PM EST
[#26]
Work, I put in the time and effort to get what I wanted.
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Posted: 8/9/2022 6:51:08 PM EST
[#27]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Finding her is luck. Keeping her is hard work. This! |
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Posted: 8/9/2022 7:23:29 PM EST
[#28]
Luck...because she found me. But we dated for 9 years and lived together 3, before we got married.
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Posted: 8/9/2022 7:35:35 PM EST
[#29]
You should ask this in Team.
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Posted: 8/9/2022 7:43:05 PM EST
[#30]
A good portion of the men & women have the beginnings of a personality disorder when they are young, but does not manifest itself until later in life, when its too late.
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Posted: 8/9/2022 7:52:35 PM EST
[#31]
Win at life and women will find you.
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Posted: 8/9/2022 7:54:11 PM EST
[#32]
Every GF or wife is a trade off, non are perfect, just need to find one that checks 80% of the boxes.
I was looking for a orphan, deaf mute but it didn't work out that way. |
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Posted: 8/9/2022 7:57:56 PM EST
[#33]
Def takes some good luck and hard work. Even if you put in the work, you can still get played.
That being said I have seen some friends and acquaintances make some really bad choices despite numerous red flags and family friends telling them to not do it |
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Posted: 8/9/2022 8:39:02 PM EST
[#34]
 (I wish it actually applied to me. )
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Posted: 8/9/2022 8:41:42 PM EST
[#35]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Win at life and women will find you. 
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Posted: 8/9/2022 8:42:40 PM EST
[#36]
Quote HistoryQuoted: https://i0.wp.com/toptiertears.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/08/luck-is-one-of-my-skills.jpg (I wish it actually applied to me. )@RTX  |
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Posted: 8/9/2022 8:43:07 PM EST
[#37]
I married the one I love more than myself. Its hard work at times. Shes the second best committment Ive made. Second only to the Lord.
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Posted: 8/9/2022 8:46:10 PM EST
[#38]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I agree with Pickles and I've always said the same thing. The marital relationship should be the safe space for both people. The place they go to get away from everything else in life that IS hard. It should be a respite, not more work. I'm not saying that if a couple has to work hard at their marriage that it isn't a successful marriage. But *hard work* and *good marriage* seem antithetical to me. Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: Quoted: i never understand this. Why it should be "hard work" to stay together. A good relationship doesnt need hard work. A mediocre or poor one sure does though. Would you be willing to give a little information, like are you married, how many years, how many times for us to consider if your opinion is valid in comparison to those who say marriage is hard work and have 20 or 30 years experience with their first partner? I agree with Pickles and I've always said the same thing. The marital relationship should be the safe space for both people. The place they go to get away from everything else in life that IS hard. It should be a respite, not more work. I'm not saying that if a couple has to work hard at their marriage that it isn't a successful marriage. But *hard work* and *good marriage* seem antithetical to me.  Dawes - If I Wanted Someone |
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Posted: 8/9/2022 8:50:28 PM EST
[#39]
I’m inclined to say it’s both. I was a wreck when I met my now wife, she wasn’t much better. We were young and stupid and had some really difficult times, but somehow we stuck it out. Now we are happily married Christian conservatives with 5 kids. Going to be married 10 years next month. If you told me 15 years ago I’d end up happily married with 5 kids I might have died laughing.
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Posted: 8/10/2022 5:33:43 AM EST
[#40]
Quote HistoryQuoted: make your own luck, brotato chip. @RTX I have assembled at your request, homie. I think Walkure will make it one of these days, but the bigger question is, what the fuck are you doing in a thread about finding a wife? Have you decided that the MGTOW stuff no longer interests you as you mature and find yourself unable to keep up with your wild side? Maybe hearing your biological clock ticking a little louder and ready to settle down? We all know you're seeding the country with a bunch of little Jamal LaKendrick Pettimores anyway, so you may as well keep them all in one household to help law enforcement find them. It's okay, bro - find you a good woman and settle down. It ain't as bad as GD teaches. |
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