Posted: 9/20/2008 11:21:54 PM EDT
I've been thinking of putting up a profile on match.com, but to be honest I'm a terrible self promoter and I don't want to sound generic. So I'm wondering, what makes a guy stand out to a woman (aside from appearance  ) in a personal ad?Any insight will be relished~ |
Be honest, be a little funny. Don't be too aggressive in your ad, trust me, women can smell desperation. I'm sure others will be by shortly to give you more hints/insight. 
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Correct spelling/proper grammar! (Intelligence is a turn on, and when you are presenting yourself in writing, that's a key indicator as to whether you are literate.) Other than that, save the self deprecating humor. It can easily be misconstrued via text, and come across as insecurity. Humor, however, is good! Honesty is also important. If you want something serious, say so. If you want something casual, say that too. It will save you a lot of headaches down the road. Mention some hobbies, which will help you find someone that shares your interests (or at least doesn't have issues with your hobbies). Finally, if you are looking for someone on the same page as you are financially/educationally, mention your status in those areas. Alternately, if you are unemployed and living in your mom's basement, consider creating a profile on Monster.com instead of Match.com.  If you'd like some feedback from us here prior to posting, feel free to either post or IM for input.  Good luck! Going to keep us updated with results? |
Ignore that.  I really don't know what to tell you. I tried something like that once just to find penpals as I wasn't interested in dating, and all I got were men who wanted me to know how expensive their surround sound system was and the make of their car. So I'm not sure people even actually read the things. |
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Avoid the usual "email" anacronyms...like "LOL" or stuff like that. It's annoying. Just be honest about who / what you're looking for. List your hobbies, but be generic about them... instead of "I like to stay home and clean my gun every night after shooting squirrels" say "I enjoy the shooting sports" Rather than saying "I gut, cook and eat the deer I shot from my tree stand" say "I love to experiment in the kitchen" Rather than saying "There's nothing better than taking down a 9 pointer in my back yard" say "I enjoy the outdoors" Instead of saying "Women should keep their mouths shut and stay in the kitchen" say "I'm an old fashioned kind of guy" See what I mean? |
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Post a pic....or several. The first step is always attraction. Goes both ways--men and women. Being single is tough. Gotta tell ya though, my friend and I only look at match.com so we can laugh at the losers on there. But we're prolly the ones staying home on the weekends.  Turn off for me would be bragging, as in how much $$ you make or how good you are at everything, etc. YMMV. I suppose there are some women out there that are looking for $$$, but you don't want them to contact you for that alone. You've gotten some good advice above--just be honest and be yourself. Good luck. |
That was good. Made me laugh so hard my roommate had to come see what was the matter. He liked it as well. |
Taking notes...  I appreciate the suggestions so far.  I've been writing up a profile little by little so far, but considering other dating sites. I haven't signed up for match yet (paid for, that is) as there only seems to be a handful of women in my area that catch my interest, and no guarantee the feeling is reciprocal. Any other good sites out there?
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