Posted: 1/31/2005 11:19:53 PM EDT
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I have a question for all willing to answer. Do you consider yourself direct? What I mean by this is does how you truly think of a person how you treat them? If you hate or have nothing but contempt for them, do you let them know it or do you play nice? I have always believed in being strait with people no matter what. This is often percieved as not sugar-coating things or being hostile or just having a lack of tactfulness. If I see someone as a friend I will treat them accordingly, and if I don't like them I will not hesitate to tell them right to their face. I caught some bullshit recently when after a co-worker now former co-worker screwed me over, and after the shift needed her car jumped. She knowing she fucked me over earlier had the nerve to ask me if I had jumper cables. I replied yes, got in my car and drove off, I don't know how she got home but the car was their the next morning. |
Figured I should share the story, just kind of ran together. I guess its just a instance of not putting up false pretenses or being nice to someone I despise. What she did in short without going into a longwinded story was cheat me out of easy money. |
You shoulda faked reaching into your trunk for cables, and instead pulled out the louisville slugger and beat that witch with a bat. |
No I have yet to hit a woman at any point in my life, except my sister once. Generally sisters are excluded but I was a teen at the time. |
Different incident, unrelated, got an additude with the manager. You know how some people know they are wrong and still argue, well the manager canned her I believe for making a scene/insubordnation. |
What do you think? SGatr15 |
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"Being Direct", "Telling it like it is", "No BS"..... All admirable qualities I guess but to a man every person I've ever known who claimed to be a "direct' person was really just an abrasive asshole and they got off on it. They beat their chest, they preen and postulate that the everyone is a pussy but them. They consider tact a coward's tool. They are the types who tell off a waiter because the food sucks, lambast the check out girl because something is tagged wrong, and berate their wives for putting on a few pounds or tell their friends (if they have any) that they don't like their girlfriends. Do some people need telling off sometimes? Yup. Do some situations require curt answers and no sugar coating? Undoubtedly. Do some people just foam at the mouth to strike at anyone they feel they can get away with it? You bet, there are alot of people like that. They're called douchebags. Not every person who is direct is a dickhead, but all dickheads are direct...if you follow. |
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People call me blunt. No dancing around the issue, no sugar-coat, no political correctness. However, I do choose my words to give the exact effect I intend. Often that is putting people in their place. In this PC world people have forgotten how to deal with people like us apparently. |
I agree wholeheartedly. Water is arguably the most powerful force in nature, because it has the ability to take on any form and become either strikingly violent or captivatingly serene. Even at it's calmest it is still entering or eroding just about everything it contacts. Lacking tactfulness is the same as admitting to being hot-headed or rash to act, you are simply recognizing a shortcoming in your character (we all have them) that once properly diagnosed and assessed, can begin to be remedied and improved. I must admit to preferring overly direct people to overly passive ones. |
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I treat people as I want to be treated. Direct, blunt, straight all have their place. If your flies open or you have a bogger on your nose I will tell you. If you show me a pic of your ugly kid and say " Isnt she a doll " I'll answer " Your very lucky". Direct NO but there is no reason to hurt someones feelings when a diplomatic approach is gentler and kinder and costs me nothing. |