Posted: 4/24/2009 8:15:20 AM EDT
Of the plastic variety. Just wanted to get some opinions other than those of friends and fam (so tired of hearing "why? you're so beautiful" and "you are the way God intends you to be"). I have my mind pretty set...I never dated much when I was single before my marriage, and after a child and a divorce my body sure ain't what it use to be and, damn it all, I want it back. Tanning helps hide the stretch marks on my tum, but my breasts shrank after pregnancy and I DON'T like it, AT ALL. Going from a 30 G (yes, G, as in, Golf) to a C has not been a happy change. I could live with the other things...but I want my huge boobs back! I have gotten mixed responses...from "go for it" to "you should be ashamed of even considering it". I don't expect to stay youg forever, wrinkles happen, gray hair happens, things sag...life goes on, I'm not wanting to fight nature...I have just gotten TIRED of missing my big jugs. lol.  Thoughts? Comments? Suggestions?
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I have had 3 kids, and I definitely miss my pre-baby body. I know I can change how I look w/diet and exercise, but stretch marks will not go away. Neither will excess skin. I hope I can do something about it sooner instead of later. I totally empathize on missing your pre-baby body. As far as having surgery for bigger breasts, that is completely up to you. Are you worried about the back problems that seem to go hand in hand with very large breasts? Allegedly, after well endowed women have breast reduction surgery, their posture is better and their back hurts less.
I guess the biggest things to consider, if you can afford the surgery and time off from work to have it done and recuperate, are the pros and cons of having large breasts. My sister had hers done, but that was b/c she was only large when she was pregnant. When she is not expecting, she is hardly an A. She did not like small breasts when everyone else got a least C cups. She couldn't afford it, so she borrowed the money from her future FIL and is using child support form her first husband to pay that off. I find that completely reprehensible. On the flip side, I had a friend in high school with large breasts and right at 5 feet tall. When she got out of the army, she had a reduction. She could not have been happier. Men look more at her face, instead of her chest, when they talk to her. She wished she could have had it done before she went in. She said it was very hard with some of the exercises and shootong a gun w/such a large bosom. Good luck with your decision! |
Well, when my breasts were larger I had no problems with my back, even though I was pretty active (when I ran or jogged I did have to "double bag" the girls to keep from being in major pain) my back never gave me issues. I know as I get older that could change, and I may not have them enlarged to my pre-baby size for that reason. And it is kinda nice to have guys talk to my FACE, lol. But, I do miss having them, I miss the way cloths use to fit and I miss having the extra curves...Thanks for your comments, it did give me a kick of reality in my day of wishing. 
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Ashely,
I suppose there are some questions I could ask you to answer for yourself. So, a reply is not expected. First just why do you want some huge boobs like "G" size? Is it really for you or are you wanting to walk into a room and have all males and maybe a few female instantly drop their jaws and want to attack your boobs with hands and mouths. Do you think your boobs are what get you attention and this is the only way you can get males to notice you? Are your boobs what you identify yourself with. Where as some women its their hair or their eyes or their mouth. Now I will admit I like gals with large boobs, D or E. But F and above is even a larger handicap to a guy. It can come to a point where the woman draws to much attention and the guy starts to worry what Tom, Dick or Harry is going to try to make the moves on my wife. At the same time I understand what you are saying about the deflation and loose baggy boobs. Might you consider getting both a little fill along with some skin removal. Kind of a nip and stuff? Bring them back to an E. Didnt your back start to hurt with all that weight up front? I suppose a tasteful picture of before having a baby and a current pic would help us make a comment. Not knowing your body style is hard to agree or disagree with what you are thinking. Oh and one other thought. And I do not mean to get funny about this. But are your nips sensitive? Do you get pleasure from the stimulation of your nips? I am under the impression that the nerves can be damaged and you can loose that stimulation. Sorry if I am correct I just want you to realize this, unless the procedure has improved and this is no long an issue then forgive me for bringing this up. Max |
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Well, when my breasts were larger I had no problems with my back, even though I was pretty active (when I ran or jogged I did have to "double bag" the girls to keep from being in major pain) my back never gave me issues. I know as I get older that could change, and I may not have them enlarged to my pre-baby size for that reason. And it is kinda nice to have guys talk to my FACE, lol. But, I do miss having them, I miss the way cloths use to fit and I miss having the extra curves...Thanks for your comments, it did give me a kick of reality in my day of wishing. Sorry, did not mean to "rain on your parade", by adding a kick of reality. I just know that when I ran into my friend after high school, she was thrilled to not have to special order bras that were worth a damn, it was alot easier to find shirts and jackets to fit right being a smaller size, and she was hit on less. B/c she did not have to buy special order bras she could find pretty ones. Same thing with clothes. My other sister is only 5'1'' and she is very large breasted, naturally. She has to buy shirts and them have them altered. If they are big enough for her chest, they are like a tent around her shoulders and waist. She honestly has the hardest time buying clothes. You are welcome and good luck. 
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Points taken and I appreciate your candor. I have had to do alot of thinking about why I miss them so much...and if I really want to go back to a full G... probably not. I am just still struggeing with the "deflation" as you called it. I thought maybe I would "get use to it" as some other ladies who have had the same experience have told me they did...but after almost 5 years I still roll my eyes at myself in the mirror and have to admit, try as I might, I don't like it. As far as the man factor, I really don't give a flying fornication what they think...I want to like my body again. I have had many tell me that I am just fine and I look great and blah, blah, blah...but it comes down to the fact that I don't like it as is. I am short (5'4") and hour-glass...only I use to be boobs and buttocks and thighs...and now I'm just buttocks and thighs...I've never been a big flirt, and I never dress/ed like a tart, not at all like what I am sure you have in mind, lol. I guess it comes down to; I just miss my shape. I have lost weight post-pregnancy and that helped "even" things out, but I also lost a bit of breast tissue, which was very disconcerting.
As for pictures...Lord help, I will have to do some searching to find any good pre-baby shots of my full figure. |
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Sorry, did not mean to "rain on your parade", by adding a kick of reality. You are welcome and good luck.
[/quote] No, no, that's not at all what I ment, the kick of reality is why I brought this subject here. I wanted more than the generic responces I have gotten elsewhere. If I have learned nothing, I can count on the ladies (ok, and SOME of the males) of arfcom to politely yank a knot in my tail and bring me back to reality. 
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| Last year I had silicone implants put in. I went from an A cup to DD and have never been happier. I told my husband when we met that I planned to do it and that it was non-negotiable. I am 5'2" and wanted to be more proportionate. It's great to talk about beauty being on the inside and all, but in all honesty breast-size is a huge factor in self-esteem for a LOT of women. I got mine done in AZ, was back to work in 1 week and the pain was not intolerable (I got pills). The worst part was not fitting into any of my old shirts anymore, but it's a small price to pay. The procedure was costly, but worth it. I went to an office with an all-female staff and would recommend that you do the same. Feel free to ask questions if you have them. Good luck! |
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Last year I had silicone implants put in. I went from an A cup to DD and have never been happier. I told my husband when we met that I planned to do it and that it was non-negotiable. I am 5'2" and wanted to be more proportionate. It's great to talk about beauty being on the inside and all, but in all honesty breast-size is a huge factor in self-esteem for a LOT of women. I got mine done in AZ, was back to work in 1 week and the pain was not intolerable (I got pills). The worst part was not fitting into any of my old shirts anymore, but it's a small price to pay. The procedure was costly, but worth it. I went to an office with an all-female staff and would recommend that you do the same. Feel free to ask questions if you have them. Good luck! Thanks so much! I have yo-yoed with my weight my whole life, but now I seem to have reached some stability and am just not happy with how my breasts look. I could "live with it", but I just don't want to. I have set up a budget that includes savings for the procedure...and given myself a good time line to really consider and research and make sure this is a good idea. The "prostetics" (basically silicone bra pads) give me the illusion...but I want them to be really there...and be that size always, dressed or undressed (not that I plan to show them off). I have been all over the map with my size, from a DD, to a full C to EE and G, depending on my weight and other hormonal factors. I was a G cup until I was taken off of birth control hormones then the shrinkage really began. Now that I have leveled out and gotten myself in a comfortable and reasonable weight and size I really want to feel in proportion. G may be pushing in a bit...and I can accept that as a fact. And you're right, beauty on the inside is a nice thing to say, and I can agree with it...but I want to feel good about what I see in the mirror. If I never get rid of the stretch marks on my tum I will be just fine with it, but living with deflated breasts is just not something I want to do. My b/f thinks I'm being silly, but he knows that, like you, its non-negotiable. I'm going to do something, a lift, a tuck, implants, something to feel girlish again. Some have said that too much of my self image is wrapped up in my breasts, I am not sure how true (or untrue) that is. I kinda' feel like the best of my beauty was wasted during my time with my ex husband, and one of the things I lost, that I miss the most, was my (excuse the description) perky, rather large breasts....and now I want them back. I don't blame him by any means, life happens...I simply do not see why I should lament losing something so "easily" replaced, especially when they were only enjoyed by that abusive bastard. There, I said it! lol. If you don't mind me asking, you said the procedure was "costly"...I know the general amount I can expect (all things considered) but what was the cost of your procedure? |
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Ashley,
from reading your past few post, I can see your mind set and I would have to say that you would get my support. Go for it. But I also have a saying, moderation. When you do go and do this. I wish you well and I can see that you are going to take your time and select a doctor that has a very good track record. I highly recommend that you demand to speak with some of the doctors past customers. Do not just read any recommendations. Actually talk to these ladies. Ask them how the operation and post treatment that they got. Research this doctor with any boards and google him on-line. Saying this, I am sure you have already decided this anyway. But feel the need to say it anyway. Max |
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Although I can wholly commiserate on not having your pre-baby body after 2 C-sections and nursing...I cannot imagine having G breasts: I went from barely a C to a DD when preggers and although the hubby liked 'em that big, I was quite happy with my barely C's, thankyouverymuch....
Whatever trips your trigger, is my opinion...just do your research and don't do anything drastic. I know a woman who had C's who decided she should be DD...good Lord...she looked ridiculous. 
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Thanks so much! I have yo-yoed with my weight my whole life, but now I seem to have reached some stability and am just not happy with how my breasts look. I could "live with it", but I just don't want to. I have set up a budget that includes savings for the procedure...and given myself a good time line to really consider and research and make sure this is a good idea. The "prostetics" (basically silicone bra pads) give me the illusion...but I want them to be really there...and be that size always, dressed or undressed (not that I plan to show them off). I have been all over the map with my size, from a DD, to a full C to EE and G, depending on my weight and other hormonal factors. I was a G cup until I was taken off of birth control hormones then the shrinkage really began. Now that I have leveled out and gotten myself in a comfortable and reasonable weight and size I really want to feel in proportion. G may be pushing in a bit...and I can accept that as a fact. And you're right, beauty on the inside is a nice thing to say, and I can agree with it...but I want to feel good about what I see in the mirror. If I never get rid of the stretch marks on my tum I will be just fine with it, but living with deflated breasts is just not something I want to do. My b/f thinks I'm being silly, but he knows that, like you, its non-negotiable. I'm going to do something, a lift, a tuck, implants, something to feel girlish again. Some have said that too much of my self image is wrapped up in my breasts, I am not sure how true (or untrue) that is. I kinda' feel like the best of my beauty was wasted during my time with my ex husband, and one of the things I lost, that I miss the most, was my (excuse the description) perky, rather large breasts....and now I want them back. I don't blame him by any means, life happens...I simply do not see why I should lament losing something so "easily" replaced, especially when they were only enjoyed by that abusive bastard. There, I said it! lol. If you don't mind me asking, you said the procedure was "costly"...I know the general amount I can expect (all things considered) but what was the cost of your procedure? The procedure cost me $5,500 and included pre-op appointments, pre-op meds (to prevent bruising, swelling and stretch marks), the operation itself, post-op meds, post-op appointments (over a six-month period), pre and post-op photos for my "personal portfolio"––which was very cool to have) and discounts on any other procedures I decide to have done at the same clinic. Additionally, the doctor I chose had an "insurance plan" that stated that if I was unhappy with the results and it was her fault she would re-operate for free and if I was unhappy with the results for any other reason she would operate for free and I would be responsible for a $700 operating room fee only. I was VERY happy with the results and didn't have any issues at my post-op appointments. The "insurance plan" was free. Oh, the post-op bras were free too. Prior to deciding to have the procedure done at the clinic I went to, they offered classes about and demonstrations of several procedures and provided me with contact info for prior patients (who had volunteered for this purpose––I volunteered too) so I could ask questions. I chose to call this particular doctor because she uses Natrelle implants––the best internationally-used silicone money can buy. I tried on the saline implants, but they felt and looked like water balloons and I wanted my breasts to look and feel real, though I tell anyone who comments or asks that they are fake and worth every penny. There are clinics available that will offer the procedure for between $3,500 and $5,000 if you want to spend less than I did, but they generally use a lesser-known implant and they tend to be less reliable. I didn't want leaks, bursts or sagging––I wanted them to be able to withstand boxing (hits) and rollerblading (falls). I'd spend the extra money for Natrelle if I were you. They come with identification cards that I carry in my purse in case I'm ever admitted to the ER or hospital and I'm not conscious to tell them that I have implants. The procedure took 1 hour to complete and I left within minutes after it was finished––feeling like there was a truck parked on my chest––but I got used to the weight. The swelling was very hardly noticable and there was no bruising at all––thanks to the pre-op meds which I took for three days prior to the operation. I had mine implanted sub-muscular (under the muscles in my chest) because of my small size to begin with, but you may be able to do differently. I went with the under-breast incision rather than through the areola because of the large size of the implants (600cc in each). I didn't opt for the armpit option because I wear tank-tops alot and didn't want the scars showing. Unless I lift my breasts, there are no visible scars (and because of the post-op prescription scar meds those can only be seen if you're looking for them). I have no stretch-marks that weren't there before the procedure and even those didn't become more noticeable after. When considering a doctor, please consider all of these things and ASK ABOUT THEM––otherwise you won't know. I made a list of questions to ask on the phone before making an appointment, used that to eliminate some doctors and then made a separate list to bring with to my first consultation. My operation took place four days later. Hope this helps. |
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Ashely, Oh and one other thought. And I do not mean to get funny about this. But are your nips sensitive? Do you get pleasure from the stimulation of your nips? I am under the impression that the nerves can be damaged and you can loose that stimulation. Sorry if I am correct I just want you to realize this, unless the procedure has improved and this is no long an issue then forgive me for bringing this up. Max Btw Max and ladies, I didn't lose any sensitivity in my nipples post-op. |
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oh I have had some stuff just done 2 weeks ago, be 3 weeks post-op Tues. I am all for fixing or changing stuff.
Need a little tune up here and there! I had a tummy tuck and thigh lift just little while ago but I had 10 pounds of skin removed due to massive weight loss. I had a breast reduction (38 GG to 34 D) 3 years ago and sad thing is since I lost almost 100 pounds I wish I waited to reduce. Now I need implants/lift due to losing all volume. So hey go for it and there is a little secret about implants. They do not cause back damage like real ones do since they weigh less. Most people don't know this. I did one of the hardest surgeries (thigh lift) and I had a small complication but it is healing nice. Couldn't be happier. No amount of working out in the world could fix the mess I did to my body over the years and I am child-free. I also like being a full D cup, hope I get back to it for my bday present. My mom had implants after I sucked the lift out of them and they look real, most men can not tell but she filled up loose skin basically. hope this post made sense. I am still on pain pills 
A forum I am part of and have been for years, great wealth of knowledge for reconstructive, cosmetic, plastics and support is Make Me Heal |
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Ashely, Oh and one other thought. And I do not mean to get funny about this. But are your nips sensitive? Do you get pleasure from the stimulation of your nips? I am under the impression that the nerves can be damaged and you can loose that stimulation. Sorry if I am correct I just want you to realize this, unless the procedure has improved and this is no long an issue then forgive me for bringing this up. Max Btw Max and ladies, I didn't lose any sensitivity in my nipples post-op. I actually had no feeling in my nipps pre-op. When I reduced mine got feeling in them . |
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Of the plastic variety. Just wanted to get some opinions other than those of friends and fam (so tired of hearing "why? you're so beautiful" and "you are the way God intends you to be"). I have my mind pretty set...I never dated much when I was single before my marriage, and after a child and a divorce my body sure ain't what it use to be and, damn it all, I want it back. Tanning helps hide the stretch marks on my tum, but my breasts shrank after pregnancy and I DON'T like it, AT ALL. Going from a 30 G (yes, G, as in, Golf) to a C has not been a happy change. I could live with the other things...but I want my huge boobs back! I have gotten mixed responses...from "go for it" to "you should be ashamed of even considering it". I don't expect to stay youg forever, wrinkles happen, gray hair happens, things sag...life goes on, I'm not wanting to fight nature...I have just gotten TIRED of missing my big jugs. lol. Thoughts? Comments? Suggestions?
Dear Lord, I wish you were my wife  
I say, go for it, if you want it, f everyone else. It's your body, you have to live with it. Whatever your decision, I wish you the best of luck and hope for your hapiness. |