[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Does Anyone Else Live Alone? (Page 1 of 3)
Posted: 3/5/2007 11:21:30 PM EDT
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I live alone, off campus in my own place. I had room mates for the first 2 years of college. The past two years I have lived by myself. I do enjoy living alone, nobody touches my stuff, nobody complains about guns littered around the place. I can boil cosmoline off of small parts on the stove top, or cure finishes in the oven and no one complains. Nobody eats my food or inturrupts me when I have female company. Nobody complains when I want to turn down the lights, smoke a cigar, and listen to classical music. In short, I get to do whatever I want, whenever I want. But lordy, It does get lonely sometimes. The solitude allows me to do a lot of thinking, reading and writing. I've filled several notebooks with short stories, some screen plays, musings on history, philosphy, life, and even some poetry. I've read literally hundreds of books. Sometimes I feel like Robert Neville. Past a certain point, living alone seems to lose it's appeal, and I get depressed. It has been worse since I broke up with my girlfriend, and I have visitors much less often. So tell me ARFcom, how do you deal with the silence and solitude? |
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I used to live with 3 other dudes and my girlfriend in a nice 4 bedroom house. i had a fucking blast but i often wished that i could have some time to myself. now... i don't technically live alone, but it's a very rare occasion when i see the other people in my house. broke up with the girlfriend before i moved out the old place and have been single since.. and a handful of friends i used to hang out with all the time fucked me over.. so i'm alone a lot. i hear you on the lonely part of it. it has been driving me absolutely insane as of late. gets sort of depressing when you have so much time to think about everything. |
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for 3 years after graduation, I lived on my own. It was great. Now that I'm back in school, and bills are adding up, having a flatmate is good. Since he's gone most of the time working, it's still like having the place to myself. I will NEVER return to the days where I shared a room. |
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I have lived alone for the past 8 months. First time really get away from "home" for good. I'm 23. I live a couple hours away from my family and friends and know virtually no one in this city other than the people I work with. I'm alone alot. I fill most of my time with work. I commonly work 6 days a week and occasionaly go 3 weeks without a day off. For the most part I enjoy being alone. I have PLENTY of time to think about life. I'm single so I also get to go out to eat alone ect. Sometimes it gets lonely I agree. |
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Cool. I read too much but I enjoy it. I don't sleep much either so the reading passes the time. Or getting on here and being the resident retard. Whatever gets you through the night I suppose. |
I would be totally psyched if you get your waiver. I'm rooting for you, seriously. Back to the Doc: John Voelker: “...only in the woods can I find solitude without loneliness." |
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I've lived alone since 2004, it has its advantages and disadvantages; I do pretty much what you do and nobody bothers me and like you, i get depressed from time to time. But I go to the range, shoot a few mags full of ammo, go home, clean my guns and I feel so much better. I wish I could find me a girl too, it sucks being alone sometimes. 
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I wish I lived alone right now. I took in someone I know who is bipolar and had nowhere else to go. The arrangement was only supposed to be for a few months, it will be 12 months at the end of this month (he was a complee mess and severely unable to copy by himself for a while), but he's already on notice that I want him out by the end of the month and so far he's ok with that. Today has been the most bizarre day so far. I think he overdid one of his medications last night. He was fine when I got home from work yesterday evening and fell asleep on a couch for a few hours. When he woke up it was like he was a completely different person, his speech was so badly slurred that I could barely understand anything he said, he had to really concentrate to speak clearly, he was also staggering around barely able to stand still or walk normally. He wasn't drunk, he was awake long enough before this happened that I could see he was fine before he slept. I was hoping he'd be ok in the morning after he'd had some more sleep. He was in basically the same state when I got up today, but I'm convinved he was having hallucinations as well. He had several conversations with inanimate objects in the apartment (he spent over 5 minutes talking to the toaster. I'm not making this up!), he had several conversations with some of his clothes lying on his bed because he thought they were a person, several times he asked where various people had gone because he was sure he had been talking to them just a few minutes earlier (it was just the two of us there). His speech was just as bad as the night before, he wasn't very aware of where he was or what was really going on around him (which was hardly anything anyway). Fortunately he did seem to be getting better during the afternoon but I have to work overnight. I was seriously thinking of calling in sick just to keep an eye on him. If he's still having problems tomorrow I'll be calling his psych doctor to get some advice about him. This is the strangest behaviour I've ever seen from him, but since he's been staying with me he'd done a truckload of other things at various times that really annoyed me. At least the complaint letters about his behaviour from the apartment management have stopped. I wish I was making this up, I really do. Right now I'm just counting down the days to the end of the month and him moving out. |
I sit and polish my rod a lot. It's probably the shiniest stainless SP-101 I've ever seen. When I get lonely, I go out with other couples. I listen to one or the other of them blather away on the cell phone while the other half wonders why they are even there. I listen to music, and re-arange the Victrola to my own plan, and don't have to worry about WAF if I want to reenact the monolith scene from 2001 with a speaker. Re-reading books I thought sucked when I had to read them for school. It's amazing how much more intersting they are when you don't have to read them. I actually enjoy math when I can take a month (OK, 3) to try to figure out why y=mx+b. When I do think about what I had with my dear ex-spouse, nobody but me sees me chase her around the house with a bat and a cattle prod seeking revenge for the b-fing. Superman called it the "Fortress of Solitude" for a reason. Enjoy while you can. I have learned that when you can live with yourself full time, then you are ready to live with someone else. Good luck. |
Not having a girlfriend, when you had the same one for the past 2.5 years makes it kinda rough sometimes. I still have ladyfriends over, but they are more friends with benefits. People also seem to be a lot busier this semester - it's the final semester of our senior year, so I guess everybody has shit to do. Lotta changes coming. |
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Get a cat. It'll quickly become bored, and blame it on you. You'll now know, every moment, that you are not alone. Once you've been reminded sufficiently that you're not alone, get another cat. They'll entertaine each other, and spend much less time yelling at you. |
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I'm kind of lucky this year... I have a single, on a floor with lots of people. So if I need to be alone, I can go into my room, and if I need company, I can just walk down the hall until I see somebody with an open door and hang out with them. Starting in July, I'm moving into an apartment/townhouse. Still will have my own bedroom, but sharing the whole place with two other dudes and a chick (who's currently taken, for better or for worse). I don't yet know if they'll let me keep some of my guns in the place; we're pretty much all conservatives and gun-lovers on this floor, but one of the other groups I was considering moving in with said no way in hell. Edit: also, no pets here or in the new place... not even caged or tanked pets... I wish I could have a cat, but noooooo.
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Voelker was right - that's exactly how I feel about the matter. It's one reason (besides the $$ factor) that I stopped going to an indoor range and started going to a state rifle range in the middle of nowhere. |
I lived alone for 6 years after having roomates for a few years before that. It was a little odd at first, but I got used to it after a week or so and really enjoyed it. The only reason I don't live alone anymore is that I got married last year. It is nice to have some lovely female company.  |
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been a while. but when i was in college, most of the time i had my own apartment.. IT IS THE ONLY WAY TO FLY.. the only thing a roomate provides on the positive side is money.. loneliness is a state of mind, not the result of not having someone in a relatively close proxmity.. if you have friends, relatives, contacts and places to hang out together you are not alone.. |
 I live alone as well. Where the HELL do you have the free time to read hundreds of books write literature etc? Let me guess some easy major like Poly Sci?  Guess you are not meant to be a lone wolf. Go find a pack ya sheep!  Seriously next semester you need to be taking more classes if you have so much free time as to get depressed about it. I am either doing school work (90% of time) Working out Watching my tv programs (ncis, unit, jerico, csi, rome, bsg) Watching a movie Sleeping Cooking Cleaning the apartment Drinking with friends I rarely have time beyond that other than weekends which I either go to the range or catch a movie in a theater (yes often alone). Suggestions: get out more. Go to park and run or practice some survival forum skills and ruck. Work out with weights more at home. Practice cooking. Drink alone more (its how you were meant to drink)
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You kind of summed it up there. I have lived alone for a LONG time, and I think it would be very difficult to share living space at this point. How I deal with silence and solitude is to a) don't hang around there too much and b) keep busy when I am there. I have a small business, so it's SOP for me to go to work at almost any time. I understand this is impractical for most, so it just comes down to keeping busy with hobbies and projects. Can't you build a suitcase nuke or something?  You sound like you're doing alright, but one thing may be obvious .......... you need pie. A new GF that spends some time there will help tremendously. |
| Living alone is great. If you need female company get a fuck buddy. If you are bored go out and do something, hang out with friends. Get some outdoor hobbies that will keep you away from the house. Bottom line, some people can lone wolf it and some cant. Some people always have to have someone else around. |
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I've lived alone since early 2005. I moved here to go to college and unfortunately, I don't know anyone in town. My only buddy lives 30 minutes away and constantly has his head up his girlfriend's ass so he doesn't go out much. It's really starting to get to me. |
Waaaaay too much information. I've lived alone over 20 yrs now.Never get lonely-keep occupied. I don't know if zombies roaming around outside every night would help you out-"come out ,Doc". You are Legend.
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You do know that if you make it in, to let us know where you are doing boot, and how to contact you, right? Trust me, you'll enjoy mail call as much as we will  TXL |