[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Dying..... (Page 1 of 4)
Posted: 7/11/2017 12:35:26 PM EDT
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Not sure if I am losing it or what, but for the last few days I wake up at about 4:30 a.m. and lay there thinking about death. I absolutely HATE contemplating my final days/moments, and I can't get it out of my head. I have a pretty fun/good life, I cannot stand the thought of it all coming to a screeching halt.
What the fuck is wrong with me? 
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"Death? What do you all know about death?" -Staff Sgt. Barnes.
"..only worry you got is dyin' and if that happens, you won't know about it anyway." -Bunny. Those are normal thoughts, OP. Speak with a clergy member or a doctor if it is bothering you too much. Usually these things just go away. Best wishes for you, though. |
| Why worry when everyone dies? It will happen regardless if you are ready or not so why worry. What if I told you something better lies beyond and this life is just a part of a longer journey? I just live this life the best I can day by day. Death is NOT the end, just another beginning. |
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Sucks, but I try not to think about it.
Some people delude themselves by clinging to ancient beliefs backed up by no tangible evidence, but the truth is that nobody knows what happens. Except for this dude that died and saw nothing at all. |
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Live harder/moar.
Sounds smug I know. But the point is that instead of focusing on The End [TM], you need to focus more on the journey (present and near future). Make a bucket list and focus on checking the things off that list. The wife and I have been increasingly knocking things off the bucket list this past couple of years. She's 55 and I'm 49. We've had a fair bit of early death in our families, so we're VERY aware of the borrowed time that we're living on. So we try to stay busy and make the time that we have count. |
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Sucks, but I try not to think about it. Some people delude themselves by clinging to ancient beliefs backed up by no tangible evidence, but the truth is that nobody knows what happens. Except for this dude that died and saw nothing at all. Plenty of NDEs and lots of people say different. Something to think about. |
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How old are you? Normally when someone tells me this I say "welcome to 50" and I'm right 9 times out of 10. 
Indeed. I've close enough to the half century mark that those feelings have certainly tried to surface in me. One day you realize that your life is over half way over and that's sobering to many. On my worst chronic pain days... I'm more than fine with that and don't want to live to be old. I figure that if I make it to 70 I'll be doing well. But that's 20.5 years away and I know how fast that time can fly. 
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Plenty of NDEs and lots of people say different. Something to think about. In the meantime... I'm just trying to packing as much living as I have left in me into the short time I have left here. |
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Live harder/moar. Sounds smug I know. But the point is that instead of focusing on The End [TM], you need to focus more on the journey (present and near future). Make a bucket list and focus on checking the things off that list. The wife and I have been increasingly knocking things off the bucket list this past couple of years. She's 55 and I'm 49. We've had a fair bit of early death in our families, so we're VERY aware of the borrowed time that we're living on. So we try to stay busy and make the time that we have count. I'm 54, so "welcome to the 50's" is pretty appropriate. I'm really not that religious, and this has got me thinking about that. I was raised Catholic, but got a sour taste not only because of the way they handled the molesting stuff, but from my own families example of hypocrisy. Maybe some time reading the Bible would be well spent. All of this seems odd as I write it, odd because I think it is driven by having a pretty good life. As I get older I realize it WILL end, and I don't want it to. Thanks for the responses. |
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I hear you. I have been consciously trying to do MORE each day since this has been in my head. I'm 54, so "welcome to the 50's" is pretty appropriate. I'm really not that religious, and this has got me thinking about that. I was raised Catholic, but got a sour taste not only because of the way they handled the molesting stuff, but from my own families example of hypocrisy. Maybe some time reading the Bible would be well spent. All of this seems odd as I write it, odd because I think it is driven by having a pretty good life. As I get older I realize it WILL end, and I don't want it to. Thanks for the responses. |
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I figure that I'll be about as bothered by it as all of the millennia that passed before I was born, only on this side of it you know it's coming, but no one gets out alive.
At 55 I also give it more thought, the key is to don't let that thinking become debilitating....it should push you to get as much living in as you can, while you can. My only issue is that financial obligations keep me working as much as I can, and that limits the time available to enjoy as many life experiences as I'd like. Just think, go back enough years and people didn't live much past their 40's....so we at least have that whole longer life expectancy than then going for us. Correct use of than and then in a thread, some posters just gigged on that. |
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"Philosophy itself is but a meditation upon death. We live our entire lives to do it well but once." Baltasar Gracian From "A Pocketbook For Heroes" Also currently watching my MIL head towards the end with dementia, she wasn't pleasant in her best days, horrible now. I can't imagine putting that burden on my kids. |
| That had me laughing out loud at work....human plinko!!!!! |
| The Fabric of Space & Time. |
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“So live your life that the fear of death can never enter your heart. Trouble no one about their religion; respect others in their view, and demand that they respect yours. Love your life, perfect your life, beautify all things in your life. Seek to make your life long and its purpose in the service of your people. Prepare a noble death song for the day when you go over the great divide.
Always give a word or a sign of salute when meeting or passing a friend, even a stranger, when in a lonely place. Show respect to all people and grovel to none. When you arise in the morning give thanks for the food and for the joy of living. If you see no reason for giving thanks, the fault lies only in yourself. Abuse no one and no thing, for abuse turns the wise ones to fools and robs the spirit of its vision. When it comes your time to die, be not like those whose hearts are filled with the fear of death, so that when their time comes they weep and pray for a little more time to live their lives over again in a different way. Sing your death song and die like a hero going home.” ~ Chief Tecumseh |
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I think about it sometimes too. My biggest fear is dying early. Not so much worried about old age though, I think by the time you get old you're ready to go. Heard it so many times about old people ok with dying because of their ailments or just tired of living.
The biggest thing is whats after? Absolute nothing or...... Im a christian and sometimes struggle with my faith. What if God and the afterlife is just a huge fantasy propaged by mass hysteria or collective obsession because of the fear of death. One thing I always have to remember when I get bogged down loke that though is Bible prophesy. If there's any proof to be seen its prophesy thats come true. You know why the devil doesn't show himself? If he did that would prove Gods existance. Not saying thats a solid thing to go by, but just something to think about. When you see the evil in a world wide religious system thats suppose to be Godly and Christian you have to wonder whos really behind that. |
 Sam Harris - Death and the Present Moment  death — part one [cc] |
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Not sure if I am losing it or what, but for the last few days I wake up at about 4:30 a.m. and lay there thinking about death. I absolutely HATE contemplating my final days/moments, and I can't get it out of my head. I have a pretty fun/good life, I cannot stand the thought of it all coming to a screeching halt. What the fuck is wrong with me? Gay? |
 A Far Green Country |
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I've never done that, but then again I don't really care if i live or die.
More often than not, i think about how I've wasted my life in a job i hate. I've really let myself be miserable. Now that I'm near the end of it all, i think about what I've missed, and what i am missing... I'm tired of missing it all... |
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I've never done that, but then again I don't really care if i live or die. More often than not, i think about how I've wasted my life in a job i hate. I've really let myself be miserable. Now that I'm near the end of it all, i think about what I've missed, and what i am missing... I'm tired of missing it all... |
| My only fear concerning death is that it happens in my sleep. I want to be able to hock a loogie in Death's eye one last time and face it with my eyes open and my head held high. Kicking the bucket while asleep or by wasting away from an incurable disease seems like being cheated to me. |
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How old are you? Normally when someone tells me this I say "welcome to 50" and I'm right 9 times out of 10. Couldn't stop thinking about my inevitable death. It is a real bummer. |
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My only fear concerning death is that it happens in my sleep. I want to be able to hock a loogie in Death's eye one last time and face it with my eyes open and my head held high. Kicking the bucket while asleep or by wasting away from an incurable disease seems like being cheated to me. When it's your turn, it's your turn. |
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My FIL fought in Korea, gaining a bronze star with valor. He had a heart attack at 60 and had 5 bypasses done. He lived to be 80 and passed away in his sleep, as he had said he wanted to. He deserved some peace. When it's your turn, it's your turn. Quoted:
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My only fear concerning death is that it happens in my sleep. I want to be able to hock a loogie in Death's eye one last time and face it with my eyes open and my head held high. Kicking the bucket while asleep or by wasting away from an incurable disease seems like being cheated to me. When it's your turn, it's your turn. |
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what I want to know is right after you die, do you know you are dead? is your soul floating around above your corpse and can you see your loved ones?
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