Posted: 1/22/2007 3:51:54 PM EDT
| My wife and her side of the family is filipino, my second daughter's first birthday is coming up and it is their tradition to spend a lot of money on the first birthdays (like a wedding reception), right now Im looking at splitting a $2000 bill with my mother in law and we are looking at places to have this party when I come home on R&R. Right now they want to do it at a place called Sam Snead's Tavern on Pearl Harbor since its close for everybody to get there. The word tavern caught my eye, normally I associate that word with the word "Bar", a place I was never allowed to go as a kid and dont want my kids at either until theyre out of my house. The place caters and is reasonably priced, but would you have your kids birthday at a tavern? |
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First of all, can you really afford it? I mean seriously, if you can't you need to speak up. If you can afford it, why is it somewhere that the ADULTS want to go? Why not the kid. Yes, your child will be one, but possibly there are other kids that will be there? A more kid themed resturant would be more appropriate unless the tradition is for the adults to party on your dime Of course, I might be more willing to go to relatives little kids parties if they involved the adults whoopin it up on the parents dime.....................  Or, have something a bit more kid oriented and put that extra money in a education account. [BORING I know] I'd bet your daughter would appreciate it a lot more at 18 then the typical 1 year old at their 1st B-day party. Either way, grats, and I'm glad you will be there for her birthday. I would not take little kids to a "bar" or tavern for their "lil kid" birthday myself, however only you can make the decision for your family. |
| Moneys not a option, but Im up against a wall with the mother in law over tradition, this is actually one of the cheaper places and Ill get a military discount, I suggested getting a spot at Bellows or something where we could have a few picnic tables and everybody bring food but the mother in law acts like a mother in law when she thinks we are trying to be "cheap". My other daughters first birthday consisted of a cake from the commisary and a candle and presents, but we were in Texas and safe from family. I wouldnt have a issue telling the mom in law to back off but I only have contact with her through the scared wife since Im out here, so Im stuck in a position to pay and get it over with. |