[ARCHIVED THREAD] - How old? (Page 1 of 4)
Posted: 10/21/2015 12:57:17 AM EDT
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How old were you when you met your SO as well as where? Having issues convincing a buddy that it isn't too late. |
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Here's the thing guys, he's 20. He and his SO of 4.5 years split up about a year ago and he is now starting to worry. He dated a few others in this time but hasn't found anything worth pursuing. One of which just plain wasn't right and the other wouldn't deal with his fall and winter schedule being predominately hunting and fishing. I guess she also had issues with how much time he spent with his friends. He's now thinking he lost the one, so to speak, who was his HS sweet heart.I've told him there are tons of fish in the sea and so on but it doesn't seem to be making a difference. |
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21. College. Married her at a few weeks past 24. Still married with 3 kids and been together 15 years this month.
My mom got married to the man I consider my dad at 45. She's 62 now, he's a few years older, but they still act like two high school sweethearts and spend a lot of time backcountry hiking, fishing, cross country skiing, hanging out with grandkids, and traveling. It's never too late. |
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Here's the thing guys, he's 20. He and his SO of 4.5 years split up about a year ago and he is now starting to worry. He dated a few others in this time but hasn't found anything worth pursuing. One of which just plain wasn't right and the other wouldn't deal with his fall and winter schedule being predominately hunting and fishing. I guess she also had issues with how much time he spent with his friends. He's now thinking he lost the one, so to speak, who was his HS sweet heart.I've told him there are tons of fish in the sea and so on but it doesn't seem to be making a difference. Eh, true high school sweethearts are overrated IMO. You really don't mature enough until your early-mid 20's to really know what you are looking for in a mate. |
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27. We got snowed in together. Quoted:
Here's the thing guys, he's 20. He and his SO of 4.5 years split up about a year ago and he is now starting to worry. He dated a few others in this time but hasn't found anything worth pursuing. One of which just plain wasn't right and the other wouldn't deal with his fall and winter schedule being predominately hunting and fishing. I guess she also had issues with how much time he spent with his friends. He's now thinking he lost the one, so to speak, who was his HS sweet heart.I've told him there are tons of fish in the sea and so on but it doesn't seem to be making a difference. 20 years old and he's worried? He should be living the hell out of life for all it's worth. Go smack some sense into his stupid head and tell him Smashy sends his regards. |
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Quoted: 27. We got snowed in together. 20 years old and he's worried? He should be living the hell out of life for all it's worth. Go smack some sense into his stupid head and tell him Smashy sends his regards. Quoted: 27. We got snowed in together. Quoted: Here's the thing guys, he's 20. He and his SO of 4.5 years split up about a year ago and he is now starting to worry. He dated a few others in this time but hasn't found anything worth pursuing. One of which just plain wasn't right and the other wouldn't deal with his fall and winter schedule being predominately hunting and fishing. I guess she also had issues with how much time he spent with his friends. He's now thinking he lost the one, so to speak, who was his HS sweet heart.I've told him there are tons of fish in the sea and so on but it doesn't seem to be making a difference. 20 years old and he's worried? He should be living the hell out of life for all it's worth. Go smack some sense into his stupid head and tell him Smashy sends his regards. |
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Quoted: Here's the thing guys, he's 20. He and his SO of 4.5 years split up about a year ago and he is now starting to worry. He dated a few others in this time but hasn't found anything worth pursuing. One of which just plain wasn't right and the other wouldn't deal with his fall and winter schedule being predominately hunting and fishing. I guess she also had issues with how much time he spent with his friends. He's now thinking he lost the one, so to speak, who was his HS sweet heart.I've told him there are tons of fish in the sea and so on but it doesn't seem to be making a difference. 1) 20 is way too young to worry about missing "The One" 2) In 99% of cases, he wouldn't have even met "The One" when he was in HS, and possibly not for years or even decades yet. 3) He has a year (or less, probably) before he can even go to the bars, bars generally don't lead to "The One," but sometimes quantity has a quality all its own. If he goes out there looking for love he probably won't find it, but at the same time if he thinks he has no chance to find it he may miss it. A See What Happens With This is usually the best course of action. If you go in with too high (or too low) expectations then you're boxing yourself in, he needs to realize this. 4) If he is in college, or the military, or gets a good job in a place where he didn't grow up he's going to meet all manner of interesting women who he didn't see every day when they were awkward teens, he wins and misses all that. Ever have a girl you met 2000 miles away from home show you her yearbooks and you say,"Woah, you definitely changed for the better..."? Yeah there will be guys from 2000 miles away from where you grew up saying that to girls you remember playing kickball with too. 5) Related to the one above, when he goes to his 10th Class Reunion he will see chicks that are hot as hell, and then read their nametag and realize they aren't the awkward 14 year old with braces he remembers and discounted. Been there, done that, and a good time was had by all; even though no, not "The One." Seriously he just needs to relax, and go with the flow he's about to hit primetime when it comes to women. |
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Here's the thing guys, he's 20. He and his SO of 4.5 years split up about a year ago and he is now starting to worry. He dated a few others in this time but hasn't found anything worth pursuing. One of which just plain wasn't right and the other wouldn't deal with his fall and winter schedule being predominately hunting and fishing. I guess she also had issues with how much time he spent with his friends. He's now thinking he lost the one, so to speak, who was his HS sweet heart.I've told him there are tons of fish in the sea and so on but it doesn't seem to be making a difference. WTF? Only 20 years old? Guy, I was 'dating' different women every week up until just a few years ago. If your friend thinks that he is too old to find a woman, he might be trying to find a nice way to tell you that he is actually gay.... 
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Jesus yes help him enjoy his pussy hunting prime. For fuck sake
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Quoted: Here's the thing guys, he's 20. He and his SO of 4.5 years split up about a year ago and he is now starting to worry. He dated a few others in this time but hasn't found anything worth pursuing. One of which just plain wasn't right and the other wouldn't deal with his fall and winter schedule being predominately hunting and fishing. I guess she also had issues with how much time he spent with his friends. He's now thinking he lost the one, so to speak, who was his HS sweet heart.I've told him there are tons of fish in the sea and so on but it doesn't seem to be making a difference. He's currently 20 and pining over his lost high school sweeheart? Dude's life is just getting started, lol. Just get him to go do fun stuff where you both just interact with people without making it about meeting people. Go take up some sports leagues, volunteer somewhere, whatever so long as it interacts with other humans of both genders in a non-creepy manner that isn't exclusively geared towards couples or singles. |