Posted: 9/13/2011 3:10:01 PM EDT
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I just got a new job. My parents obviously wanted to know all about it. They called me the night before I started to wish me luck. Today's my second day, and my mom calls and says she sort of expected me to call last night and tell her how it went, and wants me to call her tonight. I'm 30. Am I being a jerk by feeling like I want to be left alone for a couple days so I can settle into a schedule? I'm married if that makes any difference. |
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Quoted: Wait till you have kids. They will call to ask what color your childs pop was that day and how many times they vomited after eating. Oh, man. What makes it worse is that I'm the only offspring of theirs that's married, and probably will be for a few years. So I get the brunt of it. |
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Wait till you have kids. They will call to ask what color your childs pop was that day and how many times they vomited after eating. Oh, man. What makes it worse is that I'm the only offspring of theirs that's married, and probably will be for a few years. So I get the brunt of it. Look at the bright side they may well turn in to the best babysitters you have. |
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My son just started a new job and I was curious about
how it went as well I was glad he called and let me know I also took him to the airport Sunday as he was flying out for some training. I hugged him, and told him to stay safe Mom and Dad love you and care, I would be very thankful. Enjoy it now, when they are gone you will miss it |
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Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: Wait till you have kids. They will call to ask what color your childs pop was that day and how many times they vomited after eating. Oh, man. What makes it worse is that I'm the only offspring of theirs that's married, and probably will be for a few years. So I get the brunt of it. Look at the bright side they may well turn in to the best babysitters you have. They're 3 hours away. My in-laws are close though. |
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It's only as normal as your existing relationship with your parents.
If your mom is needy, nosy and involves herself in your life most of the time this event isn't much different. If your mom normally treats you like an adult, stays out of your business and doesn't say manipulative things like "I thought you would have called" then I'd say this situation isn't normal. |
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Wait till you have kids. They will call to ask what color your childs pop was that day and how many times they vomited after eating. Oh, man. What makes it worse is that I'm the only offspring of theirs that's married, and probably will be for a few years. So I get the brunt of it. Look at the bright side they may well turn in to the best babysitters you have. They're 3 hours away. My in-laws are close though. Perfect. You drop em off on Friday night.... 
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Re-reading the OP....
No it is not unreasonable or selfish to want a couple days before you give them an update. Besides, you'll have more to share and discuss then than after day 1 (which is usually spent getting tours, filling out paperwork and going to lunch anyway). A quick "so far so good" day 1/day 2 is fine but to expect daily updates is a tad silly for a 30 year old married man. |
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Quoted: It's not normal. But Mom loves you. This. Sounds like your Mom has some lingering separation anxiety.  You could make a game of not telling her. Call her, like she asked. Do not mention work. If she asks about work, a quick "work's fine" followed by something about a completely different topic should be great. Talk for as long as you can, but absolutely refuse to divulge the information she seeks. Could be good for some lulz.
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Wait till you have kids. They will call to ask what color your childs pop was that day and how many times they vomited after eating. Oh, man. What makes it worse is that I'm the only offspring of theirs that's married, and probably will be for a few years. So I get the brunt of it. Look at the bright side they may well turn in to the best babysitters you have. They're 3 hours away. My in-laws are close though. Perfect. You drop em off on Friday night....
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Lol, I called her. How was it? So do you think you'll like it? What time do you leave? What time do you get home? What time do you have to be there? Is that earlier than your last job? What do you do for lunch? Do you go out with the guys or by yourself? Are there lots of places around to eat? Do you have a cafeteria? Do you get an hour lunch? Sooo many questions. |
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Cut the cord. You are married, tell your wife how your day went. Give mom a monthly update, no more. Bullshit. When your Mom is on her death bed you'll wish you'd given more than a monthly update. Don't take family for granted, they won't always be there. |
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No matter how old you are, your parents will NEVER stop worrying about your welfare;
it's what Moms and Dads DO. If they didn't give a dern about you, OP, you'd be in here worrying about THAT, I bet. Hell, MY Mom still bugs me about stuff, and I'm a GRANDFATHER. |
| Think you got it bad? my dad is my mailman.... and they live less then 5 miles from me.... they call I dont answer.... they show up....... sometimes they just show up.... they knock till I answer..... me and the old lady dont even park at the house anymore... that way the keep driving.... Ironcly they love the show everybodys loves raymond..... |
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Seriously, feel glad they are still around to care about you. +1 You are their child, they are interested in your success and probably proud. It may seem irritating, but just play along and tell them about it. Believe me, you don't want to look back on this as a missed opportunity once one or both of them are gone. Time with your family is limited even if it doesn't seem that way. Enjoy every second you have |
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Quoted: Think you got it bad? my dad is my mailman.... and they live less then 5 miles from me.... they call I dont answer.... they show up....... sometimes they just show up.... they knock till I answer..... me and the old lady dont even park at the house anymore... that way the keep driving.... Ironcly they love the show everybodys loves raymond..... You need to sit them down for a talk before your wife starts regretting things. Quoted: is this your first job? did you just move out? I left for college in 2000, lived on campus. This is my 3rd job since college. It's a big increase though. Big jump in pay, big opportunity. I didn't do well in school and have been working jobs at the bottom end of the salary scale. I'm now probably closer to the upper end of the scale, but I haven't looked (lol, just looked, and I'm not at all, but still good pay. I don't really think salary.com is accurate, though). It's the opportunity of a lifetime for me, so that's one reason they're so excited. |