[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Ladies, name 2 things... (Page 1 of 2)
Posted: 10/6/2007 12:54:30 PM EDT
you would change about your husband or boyfriend to make him perf...make him better. Just 2 things out of a hundred what would change about his habits or dress or attitude or whatever. 
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1. Not leaving water all over the sink when he shaves. 2. Changing his diet so his farts aren't quite so toxic, I'm talking a stench that resembles that of boiled eggs that have been shoved up the ass and left to fester for 3 days. Considering that's all I have to complain about, I have it damn good. |
 
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Mak and Sweety and habsfan...good Lord there's not anything? Like maybe he does'nt help with house chores? Or spends too much time on the phone or does'nt pick up after himself? He could lose a few pounds? Come on chicks, let it rip for all the men to see...they need to hear it. I need to hear it.
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You sure your farts smell like cinnamon buns?  
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well okay then.. i have thought of something... he could put a ring on my finger  that would make it perfect. But it is not a subject that i am going to push. Its just not the time for that right now even though i may want it.
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Gabby's farts are fucking sweet. They smell like choclate chip cookies, and sound like a John Phillip Sousa march. |
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Ahhhh, ha! You know, I am sure the list of things GlockCop would change about me is long -- and getting longer by the minute. AND, it just so happens I also have a list  this way we are both well armed when we, ahem, how shall I say, enter into heated negotiations. Could this be "the list" you are looking for? Let me help you out -- no one is perfect -- certainly not me or my darling husband. Did someone speak harshly to you? Gosh I hope not. I hate it when I tear GlockCop and new one and then have to ahhhh, make amends, shall we say? 
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Nope, I stand by my answer. I wouldn't change a thing. Yeah, sometimes his Army blackberry ties him up more than I would like... but I don't complain because a) the Army keeps him busy because he does such a great job, and I am very proud of him, and b) he is supportive of me and all the time the Guard occupies, and never complains that it takes me away from HIM. Right now I'm deployed at the border. He's home painting our porch, taking care of my kitty cat, and planning our next honeymoon, the day after I get home. He spoils me all the time, doing things like cooking dinner on my drill weekends, planning our monthly honeymoons usually on his own and surprising me, indulging me with symphony tickets, a new knife or gun, Hooah new gear, and other treats. And even more important, he has learned to curtail his independent streak and allow ME to spoil HIM, which I dearly love to do. We even work together, and still enjoy all the time we spend in each other's company. I always tell him what a lucky girl I am. He's thoughtful, romantic, sexy, supportive, funny... just wonderful in every way. He makes me feel loved and appreciated and safe, and happier than I have been in my entire life. What would I ever want to change about that?!?!? |
I had Chinese for dinner; there's a Sousa march playing as we speak. |
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LOL From the expression on his face, it looks like the cymbal player in the front is getting a little to close to the "source"!!! |
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I love my husband more than I can put into words, but I'm not going to pretend he's perfect any more than he would pretend I'm perfect! One of the things I love about our relationship is I know he's never going to "you're perfect just the way you are" me all the way to me becoming a fatass or something. So, here's the first two I can think of: 1) Stop leaving tiny goddamn hairs all over the sink every time he shaves. He keeps using a hair clipper thing to trim his beard, so the hair flies EVERYWHERE. He never cleans it up, and that is disgusting. If I left hair plastered all over the bathtub every time I shave my various shaveable parts, he might get the picture. However, that's disgusting, and I'm not going to stoop so low. (On the bathroom note, close the toilet lid. This is not a seat up/seat down argument, it's a toilets are fucking gross and I don't want to see it, so shut it completely argument.) 2) He has a tendency to dress like a douchebag on occasion. He has this old sweatshirt that can't hold any heat, it's so thin - he won't stop wearing it. He also has these ridiculous shirts from Japan that are written in Engrish and don't really fit right... I understand the sentimental value, but guess what: I don't go out in public wearing my old N*Sync shirt, now do I? That shit stays in the closet for cleaning floors or something. The dress issue has gotten progressively worse now that he's decided to go to OCS next summer - he knows he'll have to dress like a whole new kind of asshole for the next 15 years, so I think he's trying to hang on to his civilian nasties while he still can. All that said: We never have to lie to each other about buying guns or ammo, we vote the same way, like the same food, read the same books, and will eventually have some pretty awesome kids. I wouldn't trade him for the world. :) |
Its a shame that so many people (both male and female) feel this way. I swear for some it is doomed in their mind before the ink from the marriage lic. has dried. it's not if, but when. |
Not all of us, hubby and I took our marriage vows seriously.  Will be married 24 years here shortly.
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I will say I have the most WONDERFUL husband!!! There is only ONE thing I would change about him.. his procrastination.. ugh!!! other than that.. he is perfect and im TOO lucky of a woman... Im sure he could fill up the whole page about me and what he would like to change!!!  But thats okay..
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2 things. hmm.. 1. I wish he'd take the initiative to help out more around the house. 2. The sink thing in the bathroom. how DO they get water everywhere? I've seen a pride of lions at a waterhole that's neater. Other than that, I love him to pieces. There's little things here and there, but hey, noone is perfect, least of all me. |
Message recieved and noted!  My sink is clean every morning...my house is clean everyday! My laundry...well, I am working on that one. Besides that...what do women put in the bathroom garbage can? Honest to goodness, it must be some sort of nuclear waste...and the tissues! Holy cow, why is there 27 million tissues caked with nuke waste in the can? |
It's womanly shit. Would you rather we flushed it? Be grateful we take care of our skin, and hair, and nails. When we're 60 and still look like we're 40, you'll be happy. |
Don't get me wrong...I like freaky stuff like that? All the great stuff women use in the shower!! Man, it smells soooo good in there.
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Hell, we haven't even met.......I didn't even know we were dating!
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oh it's laziness...his whole fucking family has the lazy DNA. Irritating! I even have a name for him..HalfDone. Everything he starts becomes a halfdone job. |
Did he actually tell you he is embarassed to be seen with you? If he did then screw him! I bet he ain't no supermodel...You deserve better! |
Either one would be bad enough on its own, but that is one helluva horrible combination. Sounds like SOMEBODY needs his ass kicked to the curb! |
AGREED!!! |
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Angelfire, his behavior shows a severe lack of respect for you. If you continue to live under those conditions, one day you will wake up and realize that you have lost all SELF respect as well, and then life will REALLY start to suck. My heart truly goes out to you, and I wish you the best. |
AF, I gotta say you are one tough cookie. It is amazing what you do when you feel like you have to for some reason or another (kids, honor, unwilling to admit defeat, etc. -- not saying any of these are bad reasons. I stayed in a bad relationship for 12 years for all of the above and then some). I will tell you this though. Every day for most of those 12 years I got up and looked at myself in the mirror and though "If I change anything about my life today, will it make things better or worse?" The first time I could honestly say a change would make my life better, he was gone. I am not saying it was easier, but it was better. Within a month I met GC -- bless his heart he had to literally had to chase me down and whip me with his asp (ohhh  ). Oh, but I digress. . . There is better than this out there for you. You just have to be brave and trust yourself. Good luck -- you are in my prayers.
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The only.... ONLY.... thing, that I would have my hubby change about HIMSELF, is for him to quit chewing tobacco. Again. I miss being able to kiss him whenever I want to. And I'm scared to death of cancer. And it's expensive as hell. And if he doesn't have it he can have a foul temper. Honestly that's the only thing. I know he has a laundry list of things he'd love me to change though. 
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Hey, FWIW, I was SURE that I would never find true love, and even sure that I didn't want to try, and risk getting hurt again... and then suddenly this absolutely amazing man came into my life and swept me off my feet. But hey, you have made your Declaration of Independence and now you are beginning a new phase of your life! Take some time to heal, and then a whole exciting future awaits you! (((BIG HUGS))) |
Gulp.. I am so sorry to open a wounded spirit. It will be ok AngelFire, I just went through the hardest year of my 46 years of living. I wish I could get to your husband to plead to him the importance of unconditional love. Not comparing, not wanting anyone else and for God's sake don't tear you down in hopes that you will magically be a different woman.I would tell him the grass ain't greener, it's the same, just a different type...if he loved you enough to marry you, he should love you enough to change himself and not you. I do not understand why I could not see myself for what I was...lazy, self-centered and let her carry the majority of the load. Yeah, she definitely screwed up, but I left the door open and a huge gaping hole in her heart. I loved that woman and should have looked at myself to change before I asked anything of her. When you give 19 years of your life, you'd think there would be some greatness in the realationship instead of comparisons, mistrust and finger-pointing. I have seen some incredible turn-arounds, so it is possible. But only a true heart/lifestyle change that can affect the future..and for me, whatever is impossible with man, is always possible with God. If I had a 6 month head start on changing myself, I'd probably still be married..it was in effect my fault not to see the consequences. If I could see the result of not being married to the same wonderful woman that I loved..instead starting over! I would choose to work it out and change me. I blew it but, I will never let the complacency and dullness creep into my life again. I will spend everyday for the rest of my life, trying to make my wife happy. Period. That will be my standard. Everyday, no compromises..just wake up and spend every waking moment loving her. How can I love my daughter like no other but make it so hard to spend the same energy and time to love my wife? No excuses. I aksed the question about 2 things because it is usually the small things that make or break a relationship in the end.
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AF, MM and I must be living parallel lives, because the same thing that happened to her happened to me. I was not kidding when I said GC had to literally chase me down. He spent three months just trying to meet me for lunch (I can come up with some of the most creative excuses not to meet a man!!). He finally just showed up at my office one day and waited in the front office until I went up to get something. He spent the next year trying to convince me he wasn't like every one else out there -- I was not an easy nut to crack. But he has truly been the blessing I had always thought was out there for others but not me. Be strong for your kids. I raised all three of mine by myself with no help from family (his or mine). Like I said before it wasn't easy, but you are strong in ways that will surprise you, even though you don't know it yet. Finally, the shooting community if rife with good men. When you least expect it God will send you exactly what you need. Hugs and prayers with you. IM if you ever need to talk. Patti |
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Hang in there AF,it's gonna be a long road but you'll be suprised what's at the end. I looked for my wife for twenty years,met some errr... interesting women(the one who had a breakdown at her place on our first-and last-date comes to mind) and finally just gave up. Imean it ,I said the heck with it,I just QUIT dating and figured I'd be a bachelor. About a year later,I met my wife by accident. We've been married for 4 years and are raising a 4 y/o son together. What I'm saying is,don't think it's all over,cause it ain't. If you need to talk,p/m me. I'll put my wife on,you can talk to an objective female. Seriously,if you need to talk I'm here as I'm sure are several others. By the way,judging by the pics I've seen he's blind. You may not be a size 4 or whatever-who cares,you're a good looking woman with a good heart. Don't think otherwise. |
No worries...I thought it was funny. |
just kidding...
Have you seen the water in the dating pool? It's murky and there's strange creatures swimming in it.  Most of 'em have a hard time keeping their hats on straight, their britches covering their bumm, and only speak in a dialect that repeats the sound "yo". |
Someone quick! Here's another free Perse quote! There's that girl...
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