Posted: 5/4/2007 8:24:02 PM EDT
| Im headed for a slow train wreck and am curious... |
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Zero... and don't plan on it ever... ARFCOM has taught me lots of stuff... ETA: www.nomarriage.com/ |
great minds think alike  |
Got Off the Computer..am back now..the Train now has a full head of steam and is running FLAT OUT with no Brakes. Just a Runaway Train... Wife and I just got done talking about how to split up assets, when to put the house on the market; everything. Finally!!! At long last I can be considered NORMAL once I get at least 1 Divorce under my belt! |
I'm my wife's fourth, she finally got it right. 
and this
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Second time for me. Sorry to hear that you are getting divorced. My first marriage is a classic example of what not to do. I was 20. She was 18 and we married two weeks after she graduated high school. Two years later she decided she had missed out on all the fun her peers who were single were having. A baby cuts into party time. I wasn't the model of maturity either. We lasted 4 years, only because I spent 2 years trying not to get divorced while she had me moving in and out at her convenience as she slept around. Twenty one years on the second marriage and everything is sweet.  M2 had several rough patches, but we both were smart enough to know that life is not always honey, a relationship requires effort, and divorce does not always make things better. That said, sometimes divorce is the best thing. Again, sorry that you will be going through it. Kids involved? Tried counselling? |
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3 times for me. "Keep trying until you get it right" just didn't work out. #1 was a daddy's girl - when she realized how much I traveled, she fled. I explained it to her long before we got married. Married less than a year. #2 - still not sure why she left - never got an answer. I've spoken with here at least once a month for the last 20 years in relation to the kids. #3 became BiPolar about 1 year after we married. Then it was 6 years of holy hell. I actually used to pray that 'somehow' our marriage would end. I wasn't about to bail on her, although when she told me and her doc that she thought about stabbing me in the leg with a steak knife, I began to get worried. She moved out on me, saying I was bugging her too much about the money she spent. She DEMANDED that we get divorced. I literally lost my financial ass in the divorces of #2 and #3. I truly hate being alone. But I'm 50 now, and scared shitless of having this emotional and financial fiasco happen again. Nothing ventured gained. My experience show nothing ventured nothing pained. Sadly... |
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Once. We're on 19 years now. And get this, we only dated for two months, and were engaged for less than four months. I'm not sure I would recommend the same thing for my kids, but it worked out for us. Mostly I think it's because we agreed on all the "big things" -- religion, money, kids, sex  , etc. -- before we even got engaged.You're never going to agree on the small stuff, so don't even try. Interesting poll results. Based on what I've read about marriage here in the past, I would have guessed the overwhelming majority of ARFcommers were either single or had multiple divorces. |
That's right, you don't need no stinkin' lawyer just ballz.
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