[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Negative / Judgmental Personality? (Page 1 of 2)
Posted: 9/14/2011 5:41:28 PM EDT
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Hello all, I can't imagine I am the only one with a somewhat negative / judgmental personality.... I never thought too much of it until my GF tells me how I am this way, now that I think about it I think most everyone is a waste of life (I know I am wrong...) My mission is to not be so judgmental about others when I don't know them.
My question to you guys is as soon as you see someone else do you immediately disregard them as to having no importance to the world? I am somewhat of a loner (NOT a nerd, or "loser" ...) I have the feeling that others on here feel this way. Maybe I'm a stuck up prick and feel I'm better than everyone..... but I don't think thats it. |
| You guys aren't helping... I knew this place was full of my kind. I really DO NOT want to be this way but it is truly how I feel almost all the time. I feel most everyone is a idiot for whatever reason. Now a lot of people are useless idiots but I am sure half of the people I think are, are actually useful to the world and a bit interesting.... who knows. |
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Hello all, I can't imagine I am the only one with a somewhat negative / judgmental personality.... I never thought too much of it until my GF tells me how I am this way, now that I think about it I think most everyone is a waste of life (I know I am wrong...) My mission is to not be so judgmental about others when I don't know them. My question to you guys is as soon as you see someone else do you immediately disregard them as to having no importance to the world? I am somewhat of a loner (NOT a nerd, or "loser" ...) I have the feeling that others on here feel this way. Maybe I'm a stuck up prick and feel I'm better than everyone..... but I don't think thats it. I am that way. I can sometimes hide it when I am with "positive" women, but I am eventually outed as a "hater". lol. However, I have found that it is MUCH more fun to have friends who are just as negative and judgmental. 
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| Join the club, general distrust of people couple with dealing with idiots will make you like that. My boss who is 1000 miles away picks up on it. I do not see it as a bad thing though, it makes life easier when you can cut through all the BS and just call an idiot, an idiot. |
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Quoted: You guys aren't helping... I knew this place was full of my kind. I really DO NOT want to be this way but it is truly how I feel almost all the time. I feel most everyone is a idiot for whatever reason. Now a lot of people are useless idiots but I am sure half of the people I think are, are actually useful to the world and a bit interesting.... who knows. You sound like a typical 20-something that thinks they're the smartest person in the room. You're the smartest guy in class, the hardest working guy on the job, etc. Hopefully you'll outgrow it and not become an obnoxious old asshole. |
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You guys aren't helping... I knew this place was full of my kind. I really DO NOT want to be this way but it is truly how I feel almost all the time. I feel most everyone is a idiot for whatever reason. Now a lot of people are useless idiots but I am sure half of the people I think are, are actually useful to the world and a bit interesting.... who knows. You sound like a bundle of joy to be around. You must work in IT. Don't take this the wrong way, but it sounds like you have a bit of a superiority complex. Most of us feel people with superiority complexes are useless idiots, though I'm sure some are useful to the world. Though not very interesting. Or.........you surround yourself with useless idiots and need to find better company. You've come to GD for advice, so yeah....you surround yourself with useless idiots. You shouldn't do that. As mentioned earlier, some bitterness comes with age. We all reach a point where we just get sick of other people's bullshit. Now get over yourself. Like I tell my daughter whenever I catch her looking in the mirror - "You shouldn't stare at yourself in the mirror. You're not as pretty as you think you are." 
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Society and the way things are going political, economically and financially... It's hard not to develop thoughts or mental anxiety. Social seperation is not healthy. The more you distance yourself, the stronger the feelings become since you're not encountering positive influence that could change the way you think of people. It's perfectly normal to form an opinion of somebody based on stereotypes and the such, it doesn't mean it's the right thing to do, it's just human nature. Your actions/reactions is what defines the abnormality of the situation. You're probably also in the mindset that people are judging you as well.
Just focus on positive aspects of the world around you, do your own thing and be your own person.. And socialize. |
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Another way to move through the world is to understand that everybody is a child of God, and is (also) to a greater or lesser extent inwardly kinda broken, and in pain––and that a simple kind word or a sincere validation can actually help to call them forth out of that, even if it is just a little. Of course, that would require you to have a little love in your heart, I guess.
Give it a try. You can still be a loner––but you just kinda walk through the world like Kung Fu, doing noble deeds. But also––and just out of curiosity––exactly what is so fucken special about you, asshole?  j/k
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I would like to look at things this way.
Here is an example. Men wearing flip flops..... in my opinion it is totally unacceptable and I can't imagine why one would. What if your car broke down, you had to run, blah.... also all the tree huggers and fans of organic food?? We farm and if someone is a vegetarian or prefers organic food I immediately disregard them. I'm generally nice to people I encounter because that was how I was raised. But I can't help the negative thoughts that flood my mind. 
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Another way to move through the world is to understand that everybody is a child of God, and is (also) to a greater or lesser extent inwardly kinda broken, and in pain––and that a simple kind word or a sincere validation can actually help to call them forth out of that, even if it is just a little. Of course, that would require you to have a little love in your heart, I guess. Give it a try. You can still be a loner––but you just kinda walk through the world like Kung Fu, doing noble deeds. But also––and just out of curiosity––exactly what is so fucken special about you, asshole? j/k
––Eight_Ring As a side note, do you ever wonder why all of the children of God are broken? Something to think about. |
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Quoted: I would like to look at things this way. Here is an example. Men wearing flip flops..... in my opinion it is totally unacceptable and I can't imagine why one would. What if your car broke down, you had to run, blah.... also all the tree huggers and fans of organic food?? We farm and if someone is a vegetarian or prefers organic food I immediately disregard them. I'm generally nice to people I encounter because that was how I was raised. But I can't help the negative thoughts that flood my mind. Everyone has negative thoughts. You are free to reject them. Your examples are really petty.
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Quoted: You guys aren't helping... I knew this place was full of my kind. I really DO NOT want to be this way but it is truly how I feel almost all the time. I feel most everyone is a idiot for whatever reason. Now a lot of people are useless idiots but I am sure half of the people I think are, are actually useful to the world and a bit interesting.... who knows. It's not just you, people are idiots.. |
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You guys aren't helping... I knew this place was full of my kind. I really DO NOT want to be this way but it is truly how I feel almost all the time. I feel most everyone is a idiot for whatever reason. Now a lot of people are useless idiots but I am sure half of the people I think are, are actually useful to the world and a bit interesting.... who knows. After you have freshman Psych, you'll be much more careful not to share these feelings. They say a lot more about you than you realize. I'm embarassed for you. I hope you feel better about yourself someday. |
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I would like to look at things this way. Here is an example. Men wearing flip flops..... in my opinion it is totally unacceptable and I can't imagine why one would. What if your car broke down, you had to run, blah.... also all the tree huggers and fans of organic food?? We farm and if someone is a vegetarian or prefers organic food I immediately disregard them. I'm generally nice to people I encounter because that was how I was raised. But I can't help the negative thoughts that flood my mind. See a shrink. You're not going to improve on your own. |
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You guys aren't helping... I knew this place was full of my kind. I really DO NOT want to be this way but it is truly how I feel almost all the time. I feel most everyone is a idiot for whatever reason. Now a lot of people are useless idiots but I am sure half of the people I think are, are actually useful to the world and a bit interesting.... who knows. After you have freshman Psych, you'll be much more careful not to share these feelings. They say a lot more about you than you realize. I'm embarassed for you. I hope you feel better about yourself someday. I feel wonderful about myself... Always have. Have a close group of friends, and an amazing girlfriend. Just being in college seeing 75% of the males dressed in sweatpants and flip flops 75% of the time doesn't allow me to take them seriously. They look like absolute bums, I can't see why someone would want to go out in public like this, or why anyone else would want to take them seriously. |
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Eh, same here. I can generally tell if im going to like someone within the first 30 seconds and im usually proven right to be uneasy or suspicious of those who raise that alarm.
I also believe that nothing is ever completley perfect and there is always room for improvement or a slight change. There are always other avenues of thought. For me its both outward and inward. Im very judgemental and critical of myself and my work and im pretty outspoken on my thoughts. It does suck sometimes. |
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Quoted: The reason I don't go to sporting events etc. is because the place is full of assholes. I don't even like to drive downtown for the same reason..  Maybe it's just my nature, but when I'm at Cleveland Browns Stadium for a game, I feel like I'm surrounded by people having just as good a time as I am. It's always friendly (disregard if you're wearing a Steelers jersey). |