Posted: 7/7/2009 7:54:25 PM EDT
My husband have been trying to get pregnant.We have had no luck so far. I was wondering if any of you have any helpful hints for us? 
|
|
I would really recommend going to your OB/GYN for a physical prior to planning a baby, make sure everything is in fine working order for you. Sometimes it takes awhile, especially if you've used birth control pills before etc. Me? I do't stand down wind for men certain times of the month.
But, anyway, see a doctor, get everything checked out, relax and have fun. I can get pregant in my sleep so its not difficult if they timings right.  j/k
|
|
Quoted: Me? I do't stand down wind for men certain times of the month. I can get pregant in my sleep I have a friend like that. She gets within a few feet of a guy and BOOM, she's pregnant. She's very...fertile....or something.  She has five kids. None of them were planned. Smart chick. But...fertile. 101st, good luck with having a little one. I have no advice since all our children have fur or feathers.  |
|
I hate asking this, but when your hubby..........you know.........Are we talking teaspoon or pints? Seriously, because my brother in law was apparently masturbating so often that according to my sister - the well was pretty dry...
Might want to make sure it's not him that's creating the problem. Just sayin... |
| Also keep in mind, something like 80 or 90 percent of the couples who fail to get pregnant in the first year do so in th esecond. Or so I was told by a co-worker who had spent a few grand on fertility drugs etc to no avail for 3 or 4 years and then went the adoption route. That was in 2002 when my ex wife and I were trying. |
|
Quoted:
I hate asking this, but when your hubby..........you know.........Are we talking teaspoon or pints? Seriously, because my brother in law was apparently masturbating so often that according to my sister - the well was pretty dry... Might want to make sure it's not him that's creating the problem. Just sayin... On that note, my wife and I only had to "try" during the first month, then bam, wifey was late... I remember "building it up" for a few days then doing it nice and relaxed, savoring the moments. When it's not rushed, I tend to produce more. Might try being on top for added depth. Also if you can, try to orgasm simultaneously. Supposedly some women's cervices generate suction during orgasm, evidently as a means of drawing in semen. All this and as I said, not even a month passed and wifey's pregnancy test said +. Hell it worked so well we got two. 
<––––––––- ETA: It won't be clear whether it's a problem with you or your hubby if you are having trouble conceiving without first visiting a doctor. Therefore, your goal should be to get your hubby to produce as much semen as possible during your endeavors, to rule out low semen production. Just as important is the quality of his ejaculate. Does your hubby smoke, drink alcohol or caffeine, sleep little, or wear tighty-whities? All these can negatively affect sperm count. My suggestions for you and your husband: 1. Get a good night's rest. Sex is more productive when you're rested. 2. Stay hydrated. Good hydration = good semen. 3. Stay away from caffeine, alcohol, and tobacco. 4. Wear boxers for a while, not briefs (and not boxer briefs) 5. Sex is best at normal blood pressures. Avoid stress and high-sodium foods. 6. Don't underestimate foreplay or mood-setting activities. Simply put, do what makes you horny: wear racy lingerie, watch porn, etc, if you're comfortable with it. Better orgasm for both of you = better chances for success. 7.Take your time. A man can build up more semen by prolonging arousal. Take breaks if necessary. The more you are aroused and don't ejaculate, the more semen you can produce when the time comes (no pun intended –– you can actually do this over several hours, sometimes days). I'm not a urologist or ob/gyn, but I did stay at a Holiday Inn once, and wifey keeps her girly magazines by the john. 
|
I wouldn't go to a specialist unless its been more than a year of trying. I would just go to my family health care provider. He/she can give you a physical and run some blood work and make sure everything is a go. They'll talk with you about your weight, what is an appropriate weight gain, when you ovulate, what to eat, what not too. While its not rocket science to get pregnant making certain your healthy helps insure a healthy baby. Try not to worry maybe somethings wrong with me etc. I was told I would never have children and as I said previously I can get pregnant in my sleep.  A mid wife is an excellent person to contact as well. Your local health food store can give you info on midwifes. Even if you want the traditional hospital, doctor etc for your pregnancy/delivery a midwife is excellent resource for nutrition and birthing.
Hugs, Patty |
|
My wife and I had a problem at the start, from what we heard from the doctor, this is not uncommon. The first thing we were told is to be patient, it can take a while for the effects of the pill to go away. It took us two years to conceive the first, then the second one came unplanned 7 months after the first was born.
However, if you are concerned that there is an issue, I would seriously go see your OB/GYN and work the professional path on this. They will give you the best advice and be able to offer you alternatives before you hit the $600 initial visit route. I think my wife got some vitamins and low grade fertility drugs (and could have gotten something stronger) all without going to a specialist. |
|
How long have you been trying?
How old are you? Have you had your progesterone and thyroid checked? Simple blood test that can be requested by any OB. How regular are your cycles? You may want to start charting them and use an ovulation monitor (i.e. ClearBlue Easy). Those are just some things to consider looking in to that either you can do yourself or you can talk to your regular OB/GYN without having to go through a specialist. |
|
Even if the timing is right, you still have only around a 20% chance of getting pregnant in any given month. It doesn't seem that easy when you're trying to make it happen. The biggest advice I can give you is to relax about the whole thing. You'd be amazed at how stress affects your body. It's cliche and all, but it's the God's honest truth. If you don't obsess over it each month, it'll happen sooner. How old are you? How long have you been trying? How are you timing things? (Counting the days, then having sex when you *think* you might be ovulating?) Get an ovulation predictor kit, or the machine, and it will give you a better indication of when you're ovulating. All my life I thought I was o'ing on day 14 of my cycle, when it was actually day 12. That's a big difference when you're trying to get pregnant. Look into it and give it a few months. (Go check out Fertilityfriend.com. Lots of good info and help there, too). I think that most doctors want you to have tried for at least 6-12 months (depending on your age) before you see a fertility specialist. It took my husband and I a few years to finally have our son last year. We could GET pregnant, but we couldn't STAY pregnant. At 34, all I heard was tick-tock, tick-tock. My doc wouldn't do any fertility treatments until I'd had 3 m/c, which is pretty common (believe it or not). When my son was 8 months old, I got pregnant with my daughter. While breastfeeding. And no period. Go figure.
Good luck! |
|
Thank you all for your help. I admit I am in process of trying to quit smoking. I am wondering if my husband's high blood pressure has something to do with it. I am trying to eat healthy foods more salads. Lower my caffeine intake that is my biggest crouch. I was on the shot for three years.
|
|
How to get pregnant:
(1) be dirt poor (2) live in a really shitty single wide trailer in the scuziest trailer park around (3) be un-married (4) have sex with a guy who hasn't worked in several years and lives with his babies momma in another trailer. Bonus points if he's on SSI because he's mildly retarded. Seriously, I've tried to figure out what environmental factor could be causing fertility problems in the middle-upper class, while in seems like "trail trash" get pregnant so easy? 
|
Too true in most case's (not every case.)
|
Quoted: Hmmm.... Maybe drinking alot of alcohol for several days up to and including the day of the next attempt will help you 101st.How to get pregnant: (1) be dirt poor (2) live in a really shitty single wide trailer in the scuziest trailer park around (3) be un-married (4) have sex with a guy who hasn't worked in several years and lives with his babies momma in another trailer. Bonus points if he's on SSI because he's mildly retarded. Seriously, I've tried to figure out what environmental factor could be causing fertility problems in the middle-upper class, while in seems like "trail trash" get pregnant so easy?  ETA - maybe a couple nights in jail as well...  |
|
Quoted: Not willing to go that route since I'm a corrections officer that would be lethal to me. Well, if you are going to be difficult with this "I won't do that" attitude I can't help you.  Does hubby take vitamins as well, eat his veggies and all that yummy stuff? |
|
Quoted:
Quoted:
Quoted:
Yeah! but he tends to want to eat to much fast food. Where are you originally from? I'm inclined to think English isn't your first language. What? I was reading the thread and noticed she typed funny. I like her sense of humor, but she accidentally the whole thread
As for the matter at hand, uh.. Tell the guy to stop playing with himself so much, let the tank fill up a bit, you know? That's all I could think of. If it's a problem on your end... In Vitro? |
|
AlphaMom (LINK to preconception articles) is a great place to check out before you conceive as well as after, because there is a zero-to-fourty calendar where she talked about how her body was changing during her entire pregnancy week by week. She talks about breast feeding, hot flashes, swollen ankles and morning sickness. She's a woman's woman. Very honest, easy to read and entertaining with a lot of information.
Eat right, maybe start exercising (walk a mile with hubby after work when it's cooler outside). De-stress a little. I've also found articles suggesting that having sex every day is better than every other day when you're trying to conceive because it helps get hubby's levels up and improves quality of his "stuff." Best of luck! P.S. I also learned a lot about fertility when I read about Natural Family Planning (NFP). Check out this site http://www.nfpandmore.org/nfphowto.shtml and read the chapters. You'll learn a lot about eachother which will also make this whole process more special. If you have any questions feel free to IM me for more info, but everything I know about NFP I've read (and re-read, and studied, and practiced) myself and it's all info I got from that site right there. |
|
Yes, your husband's high blood pressure can have an effect. (Learned this recently researching my husband's blood pressure spikes). The fast food isn't good for the blood pressure either unfortunately. Not preaching. I know how tough it is to get the guy to change his habits to healthier ones. He has to want to, ya know? We're going through that––just for health's sake––right now. Him with his eating and both of us with our exercise. As to the "why do middle class women have trouble getting pregnant" thing...I think it's stress. I have no first hand experience, but I have at FOUR friends who could not get pregnant, tried EVERYTHING, then adopted a baby, and within two to four months of adoption, got pregnant. There is just no explanation other than they relaxed after they adopted their children. They got happy. And happy got them pregnant. Not scientific, but I believe stress is a killer. An energy killer, a creativity killer, a HEALTH killer, and yeah––a fertility killer. I don't have an answer for destressing though. If I did, I'd apply it to myself. |
I wish I could do more than second seeing your doc and wish you luck.  Didn't plan either of mine. I have a friend who's had a pregnancy with four different birth controls. <shrug>I would say be careful not to sweat it too much. Pressure/stress is bad joojoo. And, of course, lots of "practice".
|
Guy answering here. My first wife and I had trouble conceiving our first child. Test were pretty routine. I had a semen test done. They were lazy just like their owner  . I was put on some kind of pill which I can't remember to pep them up. She had different hormones checked to which we found she had a higher then average percentage of a male hormone which I also forget (new that full beard wasn't normal ) The doctors put her on Progesterone I think and within 2 months I believe she conceived. That's been 16 years ago now, so I don't know how much has changed but figure that will probably be the route that you and your hubby will take. Also, if hubby wears tighty whities tell him to stop. The boys don't like them that much. Good luck.
|