[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Quick question Edit: Pic added (Page 1 of 3)
Posted: 10/15/2012 4:20:20 AM EDT
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Is it appropriate for a woman in a serious relationship to let another man give her a kiss on the cheek?
Edit: My SO went home to visit family. Went out with her sisters to a local bar. She takes a picture of a guy we know giving her a kiss on the cheek while she is hugging him. She showed me the picture when she got home yesterday. At first I didn't care at all; I knew she thought it was harmless and innocent. But seeing another mans lips on my girl started to eat at me a bit. I knew it was silly of me and I shouldn't care, just wanted to confirm it. |
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Is it appropriate for a woman in a serious relationship to let another man give her a kiss on the cheek? Edit: My SO went home to visit family. Went out with her sisters to a local bar. She takes a picture of a guy we know giving her a kiss on the cheek while she is hugging him. She showed me the picture when she got home yesterday. At first I didn't care at all; I knew she thought it was harmless and innocent. But seeing another mans lips on my girl started to eat at me a bit. I knew it was silly of me and I shouldn't care, just wanted to confirm it. If it was a friend or relative or something, nothing wrong with it, but to stage a picture of it is questionable.. |
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Is it appropriate for a woman in a serious relationship to let another man give her a kiss on the cheek? Edit: My SO went home to visit family. Went out with her sisters to a local bar. She takes a picture of a guy we know giving her a kiss on the cheek while she is hugging him. She showed me the picture when she got home yesterday. At first I didn't care at all; I knew she thought it was harmless and innocent. But seeing another mans lips on my girl started to eat at me a bit. I knew it was silly of me and I shouldn't care, just wanted to confirm it. You have issues. Break it off before you drag her down as you crash and burn 
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That's not a peck on the cheek. 
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That's not a peck on the cheek.
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I think her wanting to go to a bar is worse than a kiss on a cheek. Personally, I spent too many years working in bars & clubs to ever allow my wife to go out with her single girl friends. In my view wanting a girls night out in a bar full of single "horny" guys is a BIG red flag to the possibility of relationship problems. After my wife & I married (almost 24 yrs ago), neither of us have ever had the desire to go back out to a bar or nightclub.
(It's a RESPECT issue not a jealousy issue. We don't go clubbing because we made a vow before God to RESPECT & HONOR each other.) My wife works in a man's world type of business. This has lead to her traveling & working with some good guys & some real creeps! (A "good" guy kissing or hugging my wife is a NON issue! But, I let her handle the "creeps".) I've come to understand there really isn't anything I can do about who my wife comes in contact with during her day. But, I can do something about my own insecurity. So, I just changed my attitude. ( I used to be the jealous & insecure type. Now, I'm more the don't give a "F" type) I think maybe your main concern should be "What about me makes me so insecure?" The next question I would ask is; "Is/Has anything in my relationship caused me to be less secure or trusting?" - |
Did she go home with him, or follow him into the men's room? Then who gives a shit? There's a similar pic of my wife getting a smooch on the cheek from some rando at a bar during her bachelorette party ( insert arfcom wailing and gnashing here). Sun rise, sun set.
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That no-good sumbitch tryin to make time with yoor woman.
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It's a fairly common greeting to many people. I never used to do that until I married a Lebanese woman, now it's just kind of habit.
On the other hand - getting a picture of it is kind of weird, and there are nuances in a "hug" that show up in pictures which you might not be verbalizing. I get a bit twitchy when men who aren't relatives are all hugs or cheek-kiss with my wife (when I hug or kiss a women, that's totally different) but keep quiet because I know it's overreaction. If that pic ends up as wallpaper on her phone/computer or gets longingly gazed at, go ahead and freak. |
| Just a quick hug and a peck on the cheek is cool. That seems a little too close for comfort. However, she probably wasn't even thinking about the encounter that way or she wouldn't have shown you the picture. Like I tell my wife, if a guy is talking to you, it means he wants to bang you. |
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That's not a peck on the cheek. Yep; I change my vote. |
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i might be the exception but i could care less.
if it goes farther than that, sure u have a reason to get mad. maybe its because im married and my give a fuck has gone out the door. and, i trust my wife. dont get all butt hurt and go crazy on her. show her u trust her and let it be. never hugged or had a girl kiss u on the cheek while w/ your SO? |
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i might be the exception but i could care less. if it goes farther than that, sure u have a reason to get mad. maybe its because im married and my give a fuck has gone out the door. and, i trust my wife. dont get all butt hurt and go crazy on her. show her u trust her and let it be. never hugged or had a girl kiss u on the cheek while w/ your SO? Negative, a quick "hello how are you" hug is it, anything else I consider inappropriate. |
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In general, not a big deal. In that picture, that's a big deal. That's not a peck. I just went & looked at the pick. She drinking beer & looks to be cuddling a little. If this guy isn't a long lost friend or a relative, you need to have a LONNNGG talk about your relationship and it's boundaries! - |