Posted: 1/8/2002 9:17:14 AM EDT
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I have been talking to the Army about joining with them and all I have to do is pick my job and sign the papers right now. But I have a big problem I have a wife and one child and my wife just told me she is pregnant!! I don't know what to do now. I don't think if the Army know they will let me get in the military. But I can just play dumb and just say I did not know she was pregnant. But I don't know if I'd get in any trouble. She is about 6 weeks along by now and I would not be going to boot camp until Feb 2002. I don't know what do you guys think I should do? Just play dumb? Or not join at all and play it safe? See I don't know if I would get a dishonored able discharge for the military or what if they did find out. I know I saw some papers in there that did ask if you or your spouse was going to have a child in the next 9 months. If I sign it saying that me/or my spouse is noting to have a child in the next 9 months I'll be telling a lie and scared about getting in to trouble. Thanks for the help. |
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1. I don't know of any restrictions on wives and children for recruits. It was talked about years ago, particularly by the Marines. I saw many privates who already had families. But: Just because you're married, doesn't mean you will get Command Sponsorship (where they military lets you take your wife with you, particularly overseas). At best, you might get government housing (which can be likened to slums). 2. Don't lie. It could end up wasting your time and theirs, and cost you even more. 3. You are now a Husband and a Father (to be). Consider your reasons for joining the Army carefully. If you just want to go somewhere and blow things up and act like a young, SINGLE man, reconsider your motives. No matter HOW BAD the Army says it needs you, you have a family to consider. Technically, we're not really at war. 4. If this is a serious career move (lifer, training or college money), MAKE A PLAN AND STICK TO IT. Two years and out for college is a great option for many young people. Good Luck and don't believe everything they tell you. |
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Signing the "childing in the next nine months" in the negative sounds like taking the short route to a DD. My advice - don't do it. Be up front with your recruiter. If we REALLY NEED recruits THAT bad, he'll figger a way to get you in. But I don't beleive we are THAT bad off. After all, we have all these essential and irreplaceable woemn in their everyone keps telling us about (Okay, THAT was a cheap shot) I'll close with this thought, said better by someone else, so I'll quote: originally by SJSample: 3. You are now a Husband and a Father (to be). Consider your reasons for joining the Army carefully. If you just want to go somewhere and blow things up and act like a young, SINGLE man, reconsider your motives. No matter HOW BAD the Army says it needs you, you have a family to consider. Technically, we're not really at war. Raising a good family is FAR more important right NOW that fighting a war. Should it turn into WW3, thats another matter. |
| The correct decision in this case is to not join the service. Your family comes first, period. No married man with children should be in the service. It's bad enough when you get killed without making widows and orphans. Look back at the pics of the SF guy who got killed last week holding his kids. When he was bleeding out do you think he was feeling like it was worth it? Take care of your family. |
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Signing the "childing in the next nine months" in the negative sounds like taking the short route to a DD. My advice - don't do it. Be up front with your recruiter. If we REALLY NEED recruits THAT bad, he'll figger a way to get you in. But I don't beleive we are THAT bad off. After all, we have all these essential and irreplaceable women in their everyone keeps telling us about (Okay, THAT was a cheap shot) I'll close with this thought, said better by someone else, so I'll quote: originally by SJSample: 3. You are now a Husband and a Father (to be). Consider your reasons for joining the Army carefully. If you just want to go somewhere and blow things up and act like a young, SINGLE man, reconsider your motives. No matter HOW BAD the Army says it needs you, you have a family to consider. Technically, we're not really at war. Raising a good family is FAR more important right NOW that fighting a war. Should it turn into WW3, thats another matter. |
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If the Army wanted you to have a family, they would have issued you one!!! [(:)] It makes no difference to the Army whether your wife is pregnant. Do not expect, however, that you will be allowed to take leave from your Basic Training, AIT, or OSUT to be there for the birth of your child. Your wife delivering your child is not considered an emergency. |
| I believe the reason for asking is reference your GI medical Ins, wether or not it is a PRE-existing condition and the availability of coverage. Talk to your recruiter its not a big deal and wont keep you from enlistment just wether or not your newborn medical cost will be covered |
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