Posted: 11/6/2011 2:43:17 PM EDT
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Hi all,need some advice, hope you can help.Have a chance to relocate from NJ to TX to manage a company.Pay will be pretty much the same except the new company offers full benefits as well with the chance for profit sharing and various bonuses down the line as well as housing till my wife comes down.Now for the hard part,I'd be going to TX and leaving my wife behind for about a year till my youngest graduates high school,than she"ll be joining me.I'll also be leaving my 2 sons, my daughter and my grand kids who will be staying in NJ.
That being said of coarse they'll be coming down to visit,and we'll be going back to visit them as well.I believe the quality of life would be better as well as the cost of living difference seems like it would be like getting a decent size raise.I'm 44 and no more 18 degree days in the winter is another plus. What do you think?Think I'll be making the right move?What would you do? Thanks for the input. |
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I would say that living apart from your family for a year is a small price to pay for a drastic improvement in your standard of living. No kidding. Whenever the topic of travel came up when I was working in a job that required it, my response was always the same: "Millions of military families deal with it all the time and for a much smaller paycheck and with greater risk. Adjustments at home just need to be made." The idea that you're being forced to choose between a career and family (especially in this horrible economy) is just silly. Do the best for your family for the long term, and if taking a great job that pays well now, and likely will in the future, make the adjustments and get going. And yeah, leaving NJ for TX should be a no-brainer. |
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Family or your career. Decide what is more important to you. Sounds about right, it's not like the fruits of his labor could give his family a better life. Op I recently relocated from utah to texas to go back to a company I used to work for. My fiance is staying in utah for another month. It's been 8 months total and because i'm a good person (as i'm sure you are) she understands that i'm doing this for "her" and "us" not for myself. As long as your kids aren't really really young then I don't see a problem. If they are you might rethink it a bit. Sometimes you have to take a good deal when it pops up. I owned (and still own, have a manger running it) a landscaping company in utah, I got offered a good deal to come back to construction including more money, chance at any time to buy company stock, and my boss pays for my apartment and utilities. On top of that he is looking to get out in about 6 years and basically looks at me like his replacement to take over which is something that I want to do. I'm doing it so my fiance will be able to own her own salons (dream of hers) and I can help my kids get started in life when they hit that age. I never got that, i was shown the door at 17 because my parents hated me and despite being a 4.0 student I ended up with no college and working 140 hour weeks as a food grade welder. I sacrifice so that they can have more chances in life. Not given anything, no handouts, but have the chance there for them if they want to earn it. |
| Thanks all for the advice and please keep it coming.I do believe in the future I'd be able to give them more,and as far as my kids go there 26,24,22 and 16 and going on with there own lives be it with there own families or going to college, so no there not very young.My grand kids are little and yes I will miss them very much but hopefully the back and forth visiting will help. |
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Better decide quick, I've heard rumors that we are gonna build a fence to keep ya'll up there, and there will be a lengthy application process for new residents. Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile Christ you mean there are any left up there? 
They've all moved down here a long time ago. I figured it was empty except for maybe Boston/NY. 
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Whenever the topic of travel came up when I was working in a job that required it, my response was always the same: "Millions of military families deal with it all the time and for a much smaller paycheck and with greater risk. Adjustments at home just need to be made." That's solid advice. |
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If my dad had moved out NY when I was under his roof I would be in a much better position financially now. Took me a while to realize how fucked that region of the country is to try and start a life for yourself. All my friends and family around my age that are still up there are buried in debt and can't afford to start family's. I'm debt free other than a mortgage I EASILY pay on a kick ass house, have a load of toys and a baby on the way! Not only will your quality of life improve so will your boys I say do it! |
