Posted: 2/11/2003 2:52:46 PM EDT
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I don't know if this would be better in the general discussion or here so if It would be better posing in GD, please move for me. My brother has been being "stalked" by a girl that goes to school with him. She seems to have developed a fantasy world with my brother and her, in her head. She has made false claims that him and her have been sexually active together among other claims. She has filed a sexual harrassment complaint with the district and my brother was told to sign an agreement between him and her that he would not have any sexual contact with her or the sexual harrassment charges would go to court. Given the choices he chose to sign the agreement even though he had not had any sexual contact with this girl. Since then, this girl has continued to follow him and still make claims of harrasment. My brother was told to tell the principal if she continued to follow him and he has talked to the principal but he says he can not do anything (it might be because of the fact that this stalker is a "minotity" and he doesn't want to step on any toes. I have sugested that my brother take out a restraning order against her before she can do the same to him. Is this good advice? would it require her to change schools, or would my brohter need to change school? how much work is involved in getting a restraning order, and does it cost a lot? any advice that could be given about the situation woulf be greatly apprecieated. |
| a restraining order on him, would definitely kill any chances of owning a gun as long as its in effect ( and even after it expires, as experienced by a buddy of mine ), so i think its prudent that he beat her to the punch and get a restraining order against that crazy bitch. |
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Negative - only "domestic violence" restraining orders cause a firearms disability - although such an order against him might impair his ability to get a CCW or a security clearance, and cause him to always get "delayed" on NICS checks. In order for a restraining order to be considered "domestic violence", the brother must have shared a domicile with the woman/girl in question, which is not here the case. |
| My ex-wife got an Emergency Protective Order on me a couple of years back, while we were going though our divorce. She still followed me and called me daily on her cell phone. With my and her cell phone company they keep a record of the outgoing calls. In court right after the judge asked her if she is "still in fear of her life from me." She said "yes." I really embarrassed her and her family friend the County Attorney when I motioned that she called me on a daily basis even after the EPO was served, some times three or four times a day. After mentioning this to the judge and submitting my phone records, that did not have her phone number on it, and assuring him that her records would have my number on it. He asked her if this was true. And she admittedly said "yes." I busted her ass in court. Is there any chance she has a cell phone and your his phone number? It looks especially good if she calls late at night. |
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This is a legal situation. Your brother needs legal help. A restraining order is a good idea, but can't realistically be done without legal assistance if your brother is a minor. If so, he needs to get his parents and an attorney involved and shut this down before it turns into anything that will leave a trail, even in juvenile records. The girl sounds like a definite head case who will only get worse, if this is the whole story. If he isn't a minor, the above is even more necessary (parents part is optional, but highly recommended). But he shouldn't sign ANYTHING ELSE. Regardless of what he is told, signing the agreement can be considered an admission of guilt that can be used against him, and it can be used to build a case if things go further. And with head cases, you never know. If he can't afford legal help, he should get as far away as he can, right now, because the female in these cases automatically has everyone on her side unless she has a record of some sort. |