[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Single Guys Over 30 Chime in ! (Page 1 of 9)
Posted: 12/4/2009 11:30:17 PM EDT
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Is it just me, or does it seem like the more you learn about women, the less you seem inclined to get married? I'm 36, have never had any problem getting laid, have had more girlfriends than I can remember and still can't find one single reason why I would want to get married. I have a girlfriend right now that wants me to marry her.
It just seems like the older I get and the more I learn how women think, the less interested I become in comitting the rest of my life with one. Long story short, the more you live, the more you learn just how selfish and cold people can be. To all the happily married guys out there, cheers to you. I wish I could find a woman with old-fashioned standards, loyalty and faithfulness. Just seems like the more women I date, the more it seems like the same-old same-old. All I can say is "I'm glad I never married!" |
In the "No Mam" club too.
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I kept telling myself, "I'am going to wait until I turn 30 to get married". That was two years ago, I have been a little bit of a man whore over the past couple years.
I would really like someone to settle down with. Someone reliable that I can feel comfortable with. But so many American chicks are just head fucked right now. I just don't know. |
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I kept telling myself, "I'am going to wait until I turn 30 to get married". That was two years ago, I have been a little bit of a man whore over the past couple years. I would really like someone to settle down with. Someone reliable that I can feel comfortable with. But so many American chicks are just head fucked right now. I just don't know. I didn't wanna be the first one to say it, but I honestly think that's what it is.Thanks American Culture. |
I think the womens lib generation has fucked up the generations that followed. Classy girls are gone, now all of them want to act like they have a dick but you are supposed to treat them like a lady. This generally ends up with the guy getting fucked (not laid) for being a man. Men are supposed to be the leaders in a marriage but that has been labeled "oppression". Good luck finding one worth a shit!
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Quoted: I wish I could find a woman with old-fashioned standards, loyalty and faithfulness. This is what you seek. This is what I seek. But it's hard when you go from girl to girl getting the bad ones, or actually have a good one and losing her. You lose the determination and get discouraged. I try to convince myself that I'm just fine and content by myself, and right now I am, but the older we get the more it will suck. Who wants to get old and die all alone. The thought of that scares the shit out of me. I'd like to have a great woman, couple kids to raise up right to continue with strong work ethics... Being alone sucks.. Comning home from work to an empty apartment. Holidays are here where people are having fun around family and friends, your ALONE in your apartment. Friends are great, but it just doesn't fill the void.
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I wish I could find a woman with old-fashioned standards, loyalty and faithfulness. This is what you seek. This is what I seek. But it's hard when you go from girl to girl getting the bad ones, or actually have a good one and losing her. You lose the determination and get discouraged. I try to convince myself that I'm just fine and content by myself, and right now I am, but the older we get the more it will suck. Who wants to get old and die all alone. The thought of that scares the shit out of me. I'd like to have a great woman, couple kids to raise up right to continue with strong work ethics... Being alone sucks.. Comning home from work to an empty apartment. Holidays are here where people are having fun around family and friends, your ALONE in your apartment. Friends are great, but it just doesn't fill the void. But why would you setlte for that when you could have a nagging, unfaithful wife who needs and depends on you with nothing substantial in return because she was taught all her life that her pussy is worth 1 million dollars and that you should bow to her every need? See where I'm going with this? There are guys like me and there are suckers. |
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I wish I could find a woman with old-fashioned standards, loyalty and faithfulness. This is what you seek. This is what I seek. But it's hard when you go from girl to girl getting the bad ones, or actually have a good one and losing her. You lose the determination and get discouraged. I try to convince myself that I'm just fine and content by myself, and right now I am, but the older we get the more it will suck. Who wants to get old and die all alone. The thought of that scares the shit out of me. I'd like to have a great woman, couple kids to raise up right to continue with strong work ethics... Being alone sucks.. Comning home from work to an empty apartment. Holidays are here where people are having fun around family and friends, your ALONE in your apartment. Friends are great, but it just doesn't fill the void. Try being alone, 45, unemployed......the holidays especially suck for me because when the family is together I feel like a loser..my younger brother is married and makes 130,000+ a year working on Apache helicopter upgrades at Boeing. Life sucks, why bother. |
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I wish I could find a woman with old-fashioned standards, loyalty and faithfulness. This is what you seek. This is what I seek. But it's hard when you go from girl to girl getting the bad ones, or actually have a good one and losing her. You lose the determination and get discouraged. I try to convince myself that I'm just fine and content by myself, and right now I am, but the older we get the more it will suck. Who wants to get old and die all alone. The thought of that scares the shit out of me. I'd like to have a great woman, couple kids to raise up right to continue with strong work ethics... Being alone sucks.. Comning home from work to an empty apartment. Holidays are here where people are having fun around family and friends, your ALONE in your apartment. Friends are great, but it just doesn't fill the void. I know what you mean. Thats why I have 27 cats. 
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I wish I could find a woman with old-fashioned standards, loyalty and faithfulness. This is what you seek. This is what I seek. But it's hard when you go from girl to girl getting the bad ones, or actually have a good one and losing her. You lose the determination and get discouraged. I try to convince myself that I'm just fine and content by myself, and right now I am, but the older we get the more it will suck. Who wants to get old and die all alone. The thought of that scares the shit out of me. I'd like to have a great woman, couple kids to raise up right to continue with strong work ethics... Being alone sucks.. Comning home from work to an empty apartment. Holidays are here where people are having fun around family and friends, your ALONE in your apartment. Friends are great, but it just doesn't fill the void. Maybe you two should give it a go 
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Quoted: Quoted: I wish I could find a woman with old-fashioned standards, loyalty and faithfulness. This is what you seek. This is what I seek. But it's hard when you go from girl to girl getting the bad ones, or actually have a good one and losing her. You lose the determination and get discouraged. I try to convince myself that I'm just fine and content by myself, and right now I am, but the older we get the more it will suck. Who wants to get old and die all alone. The thought of that scares the shit out of me. I'd like to have a great woman, couple kids to raise up right to continue with strong work ethics... Being alone sucks.. Comning home from work to an empty apartment. Holidays are here where people are having fun around family and friends, your ALONE in your apartment. Friends are great, but it just doesn't fill the void. Of course, not everyone feels this way.
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I wish I could find a woman with old-fashioned standards, loyalty and faithfulness. This is what you seek. This is what I seek. But it's hard when you go from girl to girl getting the bad ones, or actually have a good one and losing her. You lose the determination and get discouraged. I try to convince myself that I'm just fine and content by myself, and right now I am, but the older we get the more it will suck. Who wants to get old and die all alone. The thought of that scares the shit out of me. I'd like to have a great woman, couple kids to raise up right to continue with strong work ethics... Being alone sucks.. Comning home from work to an empty apartment. Holidays are here where people are having fun around family and friends, your ALONE in your apartment. Friends are great, but it just doesn't fill the void. Of course, not everyone feels this way.
Exactly my point. This wasn't a rant, but more of a hypothetical question . I've reached the point in my life where I feel like I have all of my bases covered. Sex, family, happiness. It's all covered. I don't envy the happily married guys. I wish them the best and am happy for them. Just seems like all the women I seem to meet have some kind of issue they are trying to sell that I don't think is worth my while. I am content at this point in my life. I think this is where my point comes in. I think most women think men NEED them in our lives. At this point, I really don't. I quit thinking with my dick a LOOONG time ago. |
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Hey, just cause I bought the ring doesn't mean I'm gonna use it.
I'm thinking about it, but the more I think about it, the more I'm kinda talking myself out of it. Although, we may just get engaged and stay that way. Fuck I don't know. Back to your regularly scheduled asshattery. |
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Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: I wish I could find a woman with old-fashioned standards, loyalty and faithfulness. This is what you seek. This is what I seek. But it's hard when you go from girl to girl getting the bad ones, or actually have a good one and losing her. You lose the determination and get discouraged. I try to convince myself that I'm just fine and content by myself, and right now I am, but the older we get the more it will suck. Who wants to get old and die all alone. The thought of that scares the shit out of me. I'd like to have a great woman, couple kids to raise up right to continue with strong work ethics... Being alone sucks.. Comning home from work to an empty apartment. Holidays are here where people are having fun around family and friends, your ALONE in your apartment. Friends are great, but it just doesn't fill the void. Maybe you two should give it a go I'm calling dibs on the "giver" not the "taker"  |
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Some say that their partner is the light of their day, but ignorance is bliss to me!  Figures the light(woman) would be there during the day(when its not needed). All is good until the bulb burns out and shatters in your hand as you attempt to remove it from your life. 
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When I was 23 I had it good. My g/f at the time was a MILF, she was 36 and her 3 oldest daughters were closer to my age than her.
I was unemployed and she made decent money, she took care of the bill when we went out. I guess what Im sayin is, she knew she made more than me and took care of me so I was happy. Just how us males take care of the females so they are happy. |
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to the OP, while i am not a woman hater by any means, i do feel the same way you do. I enjoy my freedom. i like spending my money where and on what i want to. and also being able to go on vacations when and where i want to... i really am hard pressed to find a reason to get married. nope, still cant find a reason....
being single > being married and 50/50 chance of divorce with some chick taking half of my stuff.... dont know maybe i will "eat" those words some day, but it wont be tomorrow.... S |
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I now see women as meat bags. Good for nothing but for a cum dumpster. There arent any good ones left in the market anymore. I hate my ex wife...Wasted all them years on a f&ckin lying wench. OK, So I have had a few beers and letting my feelings flow... I feel bad for you. My marriage ended because of infidelity, but I assure you there are good women out there. I hope your outlook changes for your sake. No sense in being pissed at all of them because of a couple of scandalous whores. |
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It's good to have a few constants in one's life. I know I can get on ARFCOM most any time, day or night, and find the usual whining and woman bashing. I'll confess initially it annoyed me, now I just feel sorry for you guys; no, seriously, I do.
I think many of you would be happier if you just accepted the fact that you are missing the "relationship gene", that thing, whatever it is, that enables normal adults to form and maintain satisfying, mutually rewarding relationships with the opposite sex or if you just threw in the towel and admitted that you're gay. Whatever your problems are, I truly feel badly for you. That relationships that have brought so much joy, pleasure, and contentment to me should be a source of frustration, unhappiness, and bitterness for you is just ineffably sad. Jane |
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It's good to have a few constants in one's life. I know I can get on ARFCOM most any time, day or night, and find the usual whining and woman bashing. I'll confess initially it annoyed me, now I just feel sorry for you guys; no, seriously, I do. I think many of you would be happier if you just accepted the fact that you are missing the "relationship gene", that thing, whatever it is, that enables normal adults to form and maintain satisfying, mutually rewarding relationships with the opposite sex or if you just threw in the towel and admitted that you're gay. Whatever your problems are, I truly feel badly for you. That relationships that have brought so much joy, pleasure, and contentment to me should be a source of frustration, unhappiness, and bitterness for you is just ineffably sad. Jane DIE EVIL SCUM! 
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It's good to have a few constants in one's life. I know I can get on ARFCOM most any time, day or night, and find the usual whining and woman bashing. I'll confess initially it annoyed me, now I just feel sorry for you guys; no, seriously, I do. I think many of you would be happier if you just accepted the fact that you are missing the "relationship gene", that thing, whatever it is, that enables normal adults to form and maintain satisfying, mutually rewarding relationships with the opposite sex or if you just threw in the towel and admitted that you're gay. Whatever your problems are, I truly feel badly for you. That relationships that have brought so much joy, pleasure, and contentment to me should be a source of frustration, unhappiness, and bitterness for you is just ineffably sad. Jane Since when did relationship=marriage? I've known my girlfriend since I was 13 and have been with her exclusively for 7 years. I see no reason to look for another woman, but I certainly don't need to be married either. |
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Most of my married friends, and their spouses, will act like everything is fine when they're together in public, but when I'm just with them and no wife in sight, they tell me it's miserable.
There are a few exceptions. I know a couple guys who seem genuinely happy, but it seems like they have to be willing to do everything the wife says, acting more like another child under her control, in order for her to reward them with a happy enivroment. |
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It's good to have a few constants in one's life. I know I can get on ARFCOM most any time, day or night, and find the usual whining and woman bashing. I'll confess initially it annoyed me, now I just feel sorry for you guys; no, seriously, I do. I think many of you would be happier if you just accepted the fact that you are missing the "relationship gene", that thing, whatever it is, that enables normal adults to form and maintain satisfying, mutually rewarding relationships with the opposite sex or if you just threw in the towel and admitted that you're gay. Whatever your problems are, I truly feel badly for you. That relationships that have brought so much joy, pleasure, and contentment to me should be a source of frustration, unhappiness, and bitterness for you is just ineffably sad. Jane Unfortunately, it takes 2 commited people to make a relationship work. If one of those people suffers from what I like to call "The Princess Complex" ussually the male will be the only one putting forth the effort / money / house work. This complex unfortunately is extremely pervasive in most women born after 1960. |
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It's good to have a few constants in one's life. I know I can get on ARFCOM most any time, day or night, and find the usual whining and woman bashing. I'll confess initially it annoyed me, now I just feel sorry for you guys; no, seriously, I do. I think many of you would be happier if you just accepted the fact that you are missing the "relationship gene", that thing, whatever it is, that enables normal adults to form and maintain satisfying, mutually rewarding relationships with the opposite sex or if you just threw in the towel and admitted that you're gay. Whatever your problems are, I truly feel badly for you. That relationships that have brought so much joy, pleasure, and contentment to me should be a source of frustration, unhappiness, and bitterness for you is just ineffably sad. Jane I hear ya. Now go make me a sammich. 
Seriously, relationships take work. I think a lot of people (both guys and girls) nowdays think it should be easy, like in the movies. |
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This is why I picked a foreign model.
I was 35 before I found her though. Classic. Your woman is a model. Model. as in type, pattern, mold or design. Not a model as in Victoria's Secret. I find her attractive though.
I have found that many foreign women still have femininity and have no problem with different gender roles, unlike American women. Not to say my wife is a pushover, she and I butt heads a lot. But she isn't scared to be or act like a female. |
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It's good to have a few constants in one's life. I know I can get on ARFCOM most any time, day or night, and find the usual whining and woman bashing. I'll confess initially it annoyed me, now I just feel sorry for you guys; no, seriously, I do. I think many of you would be happier if you just accepted the fact that you are missing the "relationship gene", that thing, whatever it is, that enables normal adults to form and maintain satisfying, mutually rewarding relationships with the opposite sex or if you just threw in the towel and admitted that you're gay. Whatever your problems are, I truly feel badly for you. That relationships that have brought so much joy, pleasure, and contentment to me should be a source of frustration, unhappiness, and bitterness for you is just ineffably sad. Jane Unfortunately, it takes 2 commited people to make a relationship work. If one of those people suffers from what I like to call "The Princess Complex" ussually the male will be the only one putting forth the effort / money / house work. This complex unfortunately is extremely pervasive in most women born after 1960. This is precisely why there are so many men here constantly whining; you all take it as an article of faith that any and all relationship dysfunction is the woman's fault. Flash: men who consider women "cumdumpsters" will probably never attract quality women. Men who believe that the key to relationship success is to treat woman like shit will probably never attract quality women. Men for whom "hawtness" is the primary selection criteria will probably never have a satisfactory relationship. I could continue at some length, but the SO slept over last night and I want to get in the kitchen and fix him breakfast.
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It's good to have a few constants in one's life. I know I can get on ARFCOM most any time, day or night, and find the usual whining and woman bashing. I'll confess initially it annoyed me, now I just feel sorry for you guys; no, seriously, I do. I think many of you would be happier if you just accepted the fact that you are missing the "relationship gene", that thing, whatever it is, that enables normal adults to form and maintain satisfying, mutually rewarding relationships with the opposite sex or if you just threw in the towel and admitted that you're gay. Whatever your problems are, I truly feel badly for you. That relationships that have brought so much joy, pleasure, and contentment to me should be a source of frustration, unhappiness, and bitterness for you is just ineffably sad. Jane I hear ya. Now go make me a sammich. I'm gonna let you get away with this cuz I like you.
Seriously, relationships take work. I think a lot of people (both guys and girls) nowdays think it should be easy, like in the movies.
Yep, just so. The modern obsessions with "me" and instant gratification don't help much either. Jane |
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39, never married, quite happy with my life including my social life with girlfriends. And I spend more time teaching and mentoring other peoples' kids than many parents today spend with their own, so I don't think I'm missing out there either.
I think I agree with the "most born after 1960" comment about a sense of entitlement, wanting the cake and eating it too, etc. I will say it is not unique to women, and lots of men have it too. The entire 50% divorce rate is no coincidence. So for me, it is a matter of "most contemporary American women aren't suited to be in a marriage I would want to be in". I will agree that the same could be said for men, but I don't care about the dudes, I'm not interested in one of them.
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Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: It's good to have a few constants in one's life. I know I can get on ARFCOM most any time, day or night, and find the usual whining and woman bashing. I'll confess initially it annoyed me, now I just feel sorry for you guys; no, seriously, I do. I think many of you would be happier if you just accepted the fact that you are missing the "relationship gene", that thing, whatever it is, that enables normal adults to form and maintain satisfying, mutually rewarding relationships with the opposite sex or if you just threw in the towel and admitted that you're gay. Whatever your problems are, I truly feel badly for you. That relationships that have brought so much joy, pleasure, and contentment to me should be a source of frustration, unhappiness, and bitterness for you is just ineffably sad. Jane Unfortunately, it takes 2 commited people to make a relationship work. If one of those people suffers from what I like to call "The Princess Complex" ussually the male will be the only one putting forth the effort / money / house work. This complex unfortunately is extremely pervasive in most women born after 1960. This is precisely why there are so many men here constantly whining; you all take it as an article of faith that any and all relationship dysfunction is the woman's fault. Flash: men who consider women "cumdumpsters" will probably never attract quality women. Men who believe that the key to relationship success if to treat woman like shit will probably never attract quality women. Men for whom "hawtness" is the primary selection criteria will probably never have a satisfactory relationship. I could continue at some length, but the SO slept over last night and I want to get in the kitchen and fix him breakfast. Jane I humbly submit that you have no idea what you're talking about for so many of the men on here who now hate women. Do you have any idea how many men here have been good, loyal, honest, loving, hard-working husbands only to be told, "I cheated because you don't make me happy, I love you, but i'm not IN love with you"? Marriage, honor, commitment, loyalty means nothing to so many people today. Do you think couples 100 years ago were happier with each other than they were today? No, but they had a greater sense of commitment and shame from a failed marriage, today it is something to be celebrated when people divorce. Don't believe me? Let me google that for you. http://lmgtfy.com/?q=divorce+party
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It's good to have a few constants in one's life. I know I can get on ARFCOM most any time, day or night, and find the usual whining and woman bashing. I'll confess initially it annoyed me, now I just feel sorry for you guys; no, seriously, I do. I think many of you would be happier if you just accepted the fact that you are missing the "relationship gene", that thing, whatever it is, that enables normal adults to form and maintain satisfying, mutually rewarding relationships with the opposite sex or if you just threw in the towel and admitted that you're gay. Whatever your problems are, I truly feel badly for you. That relationships that have brought so much joy, pleasure, and contentment to me should be a source of frustration, unhappiness, and bitterness for you is just ineffably sad. Jane Aww hun I want a relationship. I didn't come out of my shell til just recently after losing 80 pounds. Before I had no self esteem and the women I did choose to be with weren't anything to be proud of. The last GF for example turned out to have a real nice addiction to pills. Hundreds of them a month to be exact. I'm not bitter, jaded, or gay but my choices are very limited these days it seems. But the most important thing is I haven't given up and I'm meeting lots of women but not the one that's right for me just yet. And when I do find her you can be assured I know what to do. It does seem to me though that many women I do encounter are lost though. I went out on a date with one recently that had met someone a month earlier, had sex the first night with him and continued to do so for a few more weeks only to be told he didn't see it going anywhere. And then she wonders why she can't find anyone. |
I'm 39, and just divorced. I still like 'em, call me crazy. All but a few of my relationships were with good women, instead of the shrewish insane harpies some of you seem to look for and then hate when they turn out to be insane shrewish harpies. Sadly, I seem to be the common element in all my failures!
I'm not thinking about relationships much anymore. Mostly I'd just like a steady supply of friendly sex these days. I have plenty of good friends who are women... and it'd be okay if they wanted to have sex with me. I wouldn't mind, really. I'm just that good of a friend, I'd do that for them!
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43, single, happy, the key is friends with benefits...
I figure, if I do meet that woman and I get hit with the marrige bug, thats cool, if not, thats cool to....as of now I alot of nieces and nephews who get to have the the uncle 1shott experiance, I am that nutty uncle that makes life interesting... its all good.... |