[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Single Moms (Page 1 of 6)
Posted: 2/28/2010 6:40:40 PM EDT
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What is the general consensus on pursuing a serious relationship with a single mom?
A huge number of them my age (early/mid twenties) are single Moms, most don't seem like "bad" people and some I consider good, close friends. Now for a total  WTF moment the specific girl I have in mind I have known and been friends (and slept with) before. She has since become independently wealthy and is now 4 months pregnant from in vitro fertilization. I know But off all the girls I have dated etc. she is the only one that I really could ever see myself with for more than maybe a year.
Anyways, where do you stand on this issue? And, IBTISSSMST (in before theI support single moms stripper t-shirt) |
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It can work out very well, but it can also be very fraught with peril.
A lot has to do with the reason that she is a single mom, her life experience, and what she is working toward today. I have been married to a former single mom for 24 years. It was a tough road at times, but got a lot better as we experienced life together and grew from those experiences. |
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A lot of single moms in their 20s? Certainly, I would say over 25% of the single female in the 20's population in my area is a mother. Of course a couple years back a neighboring HS of the one I attended broke the record for highest pregnancy rate per capita of students 
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What is the general consensus on pursuing a serious relationship with a single mom? A huge number of them my age (early/mid twenties) are single Moms, most don't seem like "bad" people and some I consider good, close friends. Now for a total WTF moment the specific girl I have in mind I have known and been friends (and slept with) before. She has since become independently wealthy and is now 4 months pregnant from in vitro fertilization. I know But off all the girls I have dated etc. she is the only one that I really could ever see myself with for more than maybe a year.
Anyways, where do you stand on this issue? And, IBTISSSMST (in before theI support single moms stripper t-shirt) How do you feel about raising little test-tube Jr? Do you think you might want to marry this girl? If it isn't on that level of seriousness don't get involved, the problem with dating women with kids is that the kids get attached, and you get attached to them, but you have zero rights. I raised a kid from 12-36 months and then never saw him again, and I know his Mom is a lunatic... it just isn't worth it. |
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A lot of single moms in their 20s? Certainly, I would say over 25% of the single female in the 20's population in my area is a mother. Of course a couple years back a neighboring HS of the one I attended broke the record for highest pregnancy rate per capita of students I definitely don't live in that type of area. 
I can understand having a kid in your 20s, but the couple tends to be together rather than split so soon. 'Bastard children' aren't common here. |
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Don't do it. The only way I'd consider it is if the daddy was gone for good or dead. Most single moms married the wrong guy (usually the popular, jock type dickhead from HS) and later found out what a stupid decision that was. Do you want to chain your fate to someone who demonstrates horrible decision making skills when it comes to life's most important decisions? She not only married (or dated) the wrong guy, she was irresponsible enough to get knocked up as well. |
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Now for a total WTF moment the specific girl I have in mind I have known and been friends (and slept with) before. She has since become independently wealthy and is now 4 months pregnant from in vitro fertilization. I know But off all the girls I have dated etc. she is the only one that I really could ever see myself with for more than maybe a year.
Sounds like you are starting to realize that you fucked up. No sense in chasing after a lost opportunity. You should be at least 5-10 years away from having to compromise. |
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Don't do it. The only way I'd consider it is if the daddy was gone for good or dead. Most single moms married the wrong guy (usually the popular, jock type dickhead from HS) and later found out what a stupid decision that was. Do you want to chain your fate to someone who demonstrates horrible decision making skills when it comes to life's most important decisions? She not only married (or dated) the wrong guy, she was irresponsible enough to get knocked up as well. +1 Most slutted around with badboy assholes, got a fucktrophy & now needs some sucker to leech off of. Fvck that noise, it's biologically counter-evolutionary to expend your time & effort supporting some other guys spawn. |
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You shouldnt feel backed into the single mom category until you're in your 30's.
I hope.  While I certainly am not backed into that catagory I'm not sure the prudent thing to do is catagoricly write off every single mom? When you are a little older you WILL see it as the "prudent thing." Trust me. "Single mom" is the product of "poor choices." There will be many more to follow. You are best off not being in the middle of them. |
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What is the general consensus on pursuing a serious relationship with a single mom? A huge number of them my age (early/mid twenties) are single Moms, most don't seem like "bad" people and some I consider good, close friends. Now for a total WTF moment the specific girl I have in mind I have known and been friends (and slept with) before. She has since become independently wealthy and is now 4 months pregnant from in vitro fertilization. I know But off all the girls I have dated etc. she is the only one that I really could ever see myself with for more than maybe a year.
Anyways, where do you stand on this issue? And, IBTISSSMST (in before theI support single moms stripper t-shirt) Lots of folks are talking before reading. From these details, she is not yet a mother, and is now having a child via artificial means. Doesn't sound like she fucked a bad boy and has a mistake to deal with to me. She's also not looking for a meal ticket, since she is already independently wealthy. If you don't mind my asking, how did she become independently wealthy? Lawsuit settlement? What was the case? I ask because it's insight into the person - does she have a chip on her shoulder/entitlement and work the system to screw someone or some company out of a lot of money? |
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Quoted: I for one read that. The "recently independently wealthy" in-vitro psycho is in a whole new class of crazy. If she's young, healthy, and not batshit crazy there is absolutely no reason to do something as radical as IVF. Quoted: What is the general consensus on pursuing a serious relationship with a single mom? A huge number of them my age (early/mid twenties) are single Moms, most don't seem like "bad" people and some I consider good, close friends. Now for a total WTF moment the specific girl I have in mind I have known and been friends (and slept with) before. She has since become independently wealthy and is now 4 months pregnant from in vitro fertilization. I know But off all the girls I have dated etc. she is the only one that I really could ever see myself with for more than maybe a year.Anyways, where do you stand on this issue? And, IBTISSSMST (in before theI support single moms stripper t-shirt) Lots of folks are talking before reading. From these details, she is not yet a mother, and is now having a child via artificial means. Doesn't sound like she fucked a bad boy and has a mistake to deal with to me. She's also not looking for a meal ticket, since she is already independently wealthy. If you don't mind my asking, how did she become independently wealthy? Lawsuit settlement? What was the case? I ask because it's insight into the person - does she have a chip on her shoulder/entitlement and work the system to screw someone or some company out of a lot of money? |
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You shouldnt feel backed into the single mom category until you're in your 30's.
I hope. While I certainly am not backed into that catagory I'm not sure the prudent thing to do is catagoricly write off every single mom? When you are a little older you WILL see it as the "prudent thing." Trust me. "Single mom" is the product of "poor choices." There will be many more to follow. You are best off not being in the middle of them. You know, sometime "Single mom" is the product of unfortunate circumstance. People die in accidents all the time. People die in war. |
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I for one read that. The "recently independently wealthy" in-vitro psycho is in a whole new class of crazy. If she's young, healthy, and not batshit crazy there is absolutely no reason to do something as radical as IVF. Agreed. Something ain't right in the bell tower. |
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You shouldnt feel backed into the single mom category until you're in your 30's.
I hope. While I certainly am not backed into that catagory I'm not sure the prudent thing to do is catagoricly write off every single mom? When you are a little older you WILL see it as the "prudent thing." Trust me. "Single mom" is the product of "poor choices." There will be many more to follow. You are best off not being in the middle of them. You know, sometime "Single mom" is the product of unfortunate circumstance. People die in accidents all the time. People die in war. How's he supposed to know if he doesn't give them a chance? Nope, can't be. Bad choices, or just a whore, but certainly batshit crazy. Arfcom has spoken. I wonder how the men here would categorize some of the single Dad's I know. Yeah, it happens. |
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You shouldnt feel backed into the single mom category until you're in your 30's.
I hope. While I certainly am not backed into that catagory I'm not sure the prudent thing to do is catagoricly write off every single mom? When you are a little older you WILL see it as the "prudent thing." Trust me. "Single mom" is the product of "poor choices." There will be many more to follow. You are best off not being in the middle of them. You know, sometime "Single mom" is the product of unfortunate circumstance. People die in accidents all the time. People die in war. And? How do most get that way? He asked about "single moms" not the one in one hundred. 
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What is the general consensus on pursuing a serious relationship with a single mom? A huge number of them my age (early/mid twenties) are single Moms, most don't seem like "bad" people and some I consider good, close friends. Now for a total WTF moment the specific girl I have in mind I have known and been friends (and slept with) before. She has since become independently wealthy and is now 4 months pregnant from in vitro fertilization. I know But off all the girls I have dated etc. she is the only one that I really could ever see myself with for more than maybe a year.
Anyways, where do you stand on this issue? And, IBTISSSMST (in before theI support single moms stripper t-shirt) i would like to hear more about this. she did not get "knocked up" so maybe she has her shit together and just wants a family. it might be worth your time to take a chance. IME prego girls like to have sex often and if she is clean you can raw dog it with no worry about getting her prego so atleast there is that. 
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Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: You shouldnt feel backed into the single mom category until you're in your 30's. I hope. While I certainly am not backed into that catagory I'm not sure the prudent thing to do is catagoricly write off every single mom? When you are a little older you WILL see it as the "prudent thing." Trust me. "Single mom" is the product of "poor choices." There will be many more to follow. You are best off not being in the middle of them. You know, sometime "Single mom" is the product of unfortunate circumstance. People die in accidents all the time. People die in war. How's he supposed to know if he doesn't give them a chance? Nope, can't be. Bad choices, or just a whore, but certainly batshit crazy. Arfcom has spoken. I wonder how the men here would categorize some of the single Dad's I know. Yeah, it happens. There are plenty of dipshit single dads who married skanky whore (ex)wives. I know several of them. That doesn't make every single mom the virgin Mary. Men and women are both capable of making horrible choices in who they marry. The smart ones at least wait until they are confident the marriage won't implode before they start squeezing out puppies. |
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Quoted: Quoted: A lot of single moms in their 20s? Certainly, I would say over 25% of the single female in the 20's population in my area is a mother. It seems like a requirement of Alaska native girls to be single mothers by age 20. It's really rare to meet one that isn't. |
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Don't do it. 95% of the time, there's a REASON SHE is a single mom...usually, because she's a manipulative, crazy bitch.
OK...so my brother married a single mom and after the wedding was over, it was like someone flipped on the PSYCHO switch...it ended in a very long, protracted 4 year divorce. There's a lady I work with, that's a single mom, because her husband died of cancer. She's 28 years old. I'd imagine that's a different deal from a divorcee or woman that got knocked up. I'll say this...after watching all of the bullshit my brother had to go through to extricate him from this crazy bitch...and listening to his divorce attorney tell us how she's seen a pattern of behavior with single moms...I'd tell you to run like the wind as far away as you can. Hax |
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Quoted: What is the general consensus on pursuing a serious relationship with a single mom? A huge number of them my age (early/mid twenties) are single Moms, most don't seem like "bad" people and some I consider good, close friends. Now for a total WTF moment the specific girl I have in mind I have known and been friends (and slept with) before. She has since become independently wealthy and is now 4 months pregnant from in vitro fertilization. I know But off all the girls I have dated etc. she is the only one that I really could ever see myself with for more than maybe a year.Anyways, where do you stand on this issue? And, IBTISSSMST (in before theI support single moms stripper t-shirt) Beat me to it in the OP. Am I so predictable?
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You shouldnt feel backed into the single mom category until you're in your 30's.
I hope. While I certainly am not backed into that catagory I'm not sure the prudent thing to do is catagoricly write off every single mom? When you are a little older you WILL see it as the "prudent thing." Trust me. "Single mom" is the product of "poor choices." There will be many more to follow. You are best off not being in the middle of them. You know, sometime "Single mom" is the product of unfortunate circumstance. People die in accidents all the time. People die in war. How's he supposed to know if he doesn't give them a chance? Nope, can't be. Bad choices, or just a whore, but certainly batshit crazy. Arfcom has spoken. I wonder how the men here would categorize some of the single Dad's I know. Yeah, it happens. Um, don't forget that "single mom" has a specific meaning. His reference to accidents and other causes of death would make the surviving spouse a widow. BIG difference in most cases. Divorced moms are also not properly referred to as a "single mom" BTW.
I'm not saying every single woman who gets knocked up outside of marriage is "bad" marriage material––but the odds are what they are.
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Sounds like a gal I went on a few dates with. Not a bad girl, but F'd in the head a bit. Married high school sweet heart, he is bipolar and offs himself. She dates around and gets knocked up with a differnt loser's kid. Names kid after dead husband and now hates the baby daddy now. Wants to raise the child as a single mom and came back around and wanted to date me some more with a 7 month old child.
Not on your fricken life! Great track record of fucked up decsion making. Wish her luck but I'm not buying into the life of drama. |
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Sounds like a gal I went on a few dates with. Not a bad girl, but F'd in the head a bit. Married high school sweet heart, he is bipolar and offs himself. She dates around and gets knocked up with a differnt loser's kid. Names kid after dead husband and now hates the baby daddy now. Wants to raise the child as a single mom and came back around and wanted to date me some more with a 7 month old child. Not on your fricken life! Great track record of fucked up decsion making. Wish her luck but I'm not buying into the life of drama. But, but she probably just hasn't met that "special guy" who can turn her life around. You could be that guy! You could make a complete project of fixing her! Do you like adventure?? Do you like drama?? Do you like having your eye gouged out with a spoon?? 
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| I'm 38 and will not go after single moms. Forget that. While I'd love to be a dad someday, dealing with that right off the bat is not something I want to indulge in. Thankfully there are some single women here in their 30's without kids but many of them aren't functional relationship material. They are too set in their ways. |