Posted: 12/15/2004 2:58:25 PM EDT
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What really spoils kids and what do you do prevent them from being spoiled? I keep my kids working hard, I yell at them when they do bad things and I make them work for their own Money. And if they can't abide by the rules......THEY BELONG TO UNCLE SAM |
| ive grown up with a board across my ass if i did something wrong. actually spanking your child instead of saying "dont do that" or putting them in time out is out of the question. i dont have kids yet so i cant say first hand but i believe in spanking a child that acts up. |
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Well if it gets too out of hand and you cut your losses and call it a lost cause, you can always do what I do: Steal her favorite stuffed duck and send it around the world for pictures to be taken of it. Wandering Duck |
don't feed the troll |
I take them away from asshats like you. SGatr15 |
| Sounds like you're doing a good job with the kids. Priviliges need to be earned, love is unconditional, and that is why they need to be corrected when bad and praised when good. Oh yeah they don't earn money by doing what's expected. Chores / jobs around the house build character. |
Parents who let themselves be a doormat or buy the kid whatever they want to avoid a public temper tantrum. Personally, if I see another kid tell their parent to shut up, I think I might go crazy. Oh yeah, and 8-year-olds with cell phones? Not unusual out here. |
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My parents punished us when we needed it, and then talked to us about why they punished us. They did not punish out of anger. That would be a huge mistake. They generally did not give things to us just because we wanted them, but only if we earned it and if it wasn't bad for us (for example, they never bought us sugary cereal, and hardly ever bought us candy). Of course gifts, like during birthdays and Christmas, don't count. For about half of my life, kind of on and off, we were not allowed to watch TV except perhaps once a week, or if there was something educational on, or if we needed the TV to watch a home schooling video. My dad once explained to me that most parents tell their kids what not to do, but he and my mom only told us what we must do. They also did NOT treat us like army recruits. I think that's the wrong way to raise a kid. That's what has come to mind right now. We all turned out all right. |
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1] Spend time with them and play with them. Kids crave your playtime. 2]Teach them 3]Listen to them 4]But remember, you are not their friend, you are their parent. They can have all the friends they want but they only have you for a father. It is essential that you fill that role. This is where alot of parents screw up these days. 5]They do not have to like you all of the time. 6]You have to do what is best for them, not what they want or like 7]Punishment should fit the crime. Physical discipline is a last resort and should be meted out judicially. A little imagination will usually result in a proper punishment.  8]You and your spouse cannot disagree in front of the children on punishment or discipline issues, NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU MAY DISAGREE. Keep it to yourselves. This is one that alot of Moms have real problems with. 9]Teach respect for other people, especially adults and respect for others property. 10] Daily and regular chores teach responsibility |