Posted: 11/12/2004 1:20:30 PM EDT
| when a relationship ends, should both sides come together and have a formal goodbye/closure talk, or should you just drop off the face of the earth and move on with no explanation? |
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If she has no desire to meet again, drop it off the face of the earth. I did that recently, and it sucked. The thing is, I opened my eyes to the possibilities, and I no longer have any idea how much it sucked. I only remember how the possibilities were ...uh, never mind 
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Let it lie. If she needs closure perhaps she'll come forward and say so. Sometimes it's just best to let go when the letting is good. There is no way to erase the past, but you CAN learn from your mistakes and improve the way you do things in the future. My heart feels for you and hopes yours heals quickly 
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It's pretty much already healed. It's just frustrating. We got into an arguement over NOTHING. It was stupid. I guess she was looking for an out. |
minor update...... so we talked late last night. After hearing the thought process (I use the phrase loosely) that went into it, I now wish I'd have let it lie. <-----backing slowly away.............. <-----kicking himself for not marrying the sane one 10 years ago.......... |
In my own experience, the better quality person you were involved with, the better you get along with them "after"... Though, nothing is 100%. Except: If you go play truck driver, women will run in the opposite direction. 
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Definitely depends on the situation and the person themself. There aren't too many guys I've dated that I've remained friends with. The ex in particular....well, I'm glad he decided to move to another state without telling me. How's that for closure? Jerkoff. I'm not bitter! |
I have one ex-girlfriend that I am still civil with. Even though she cheated on me. The worst part about it was I didn't find out from her, or her friends. At her 21st birthday party, I took "a guy" to get more Ice and beer, he starts talking about her and getting into detail. I thought he was gonna jump out of the truck when I said she was my girfriend.  Never the less I was friends with her brother and family before dating, so I stayed civil even after that.
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