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9/4/2013 5:11:18 AM EDT
my wife and i are both believers.  been married for 3 years.

When I was 5 years old, I was sexually abused by a neighbor.  I don't remember it, but the memory is still there, kind of foggy though. I have never spoke about it to anyone.   I have tried to forget about it  but wanted to be honest with my wife.

well, last night I sat her down and talked to her about it.  She was immediately shocked and said "what do you want me to do with this information?"

I told her that I thought she should know because we share a life together and that was a traumatic event in my life.  So what's next?  She said she loves me and supports me, but for now it still seems like something is hanging over our heads still needing to be resolved.  I would have posted this in GD, but you know how they are over there.  Thanks for the input.
9/4/2013 5:30:52 AM EDT
[#1]
No mention of prayer in your post. Start there. Continue in prayer. IMO I would leave it where y'all finished unless she brings it up. If it is something that continues to be traumatic for you then maybe professional counseling would be an option for you.
9/4/2013 5:32:14 AM EDT
[#2]
So if it's affecting your life, particularly in the sack, go to a professional - probably pay cash, in the current climate.

If it's not affecting your life, don't worry about it.
9/4/2013 9:00:04 AM EDT
[#3]
I agree with the guys above, if it isn't causing problems then let it be. If you think it might be an issue you could start with a church counselor or you could go straight to a psychologist. On the positive side, now that she is aware, she may be able to notice certain things that you never have.
9/4/2013 10:11:20 AM EDT
[#4]
thank you all for the kind words

we spoke on our lunch break.  more than anything she is happy that I was able to tell her this thing that I have never told anyone else personally.



9/4/2013 1:40:19 PM EDT
[#5]
I was gonna say that over the coming weeks, a few more conversations about it will ease both of you.



It will soon be just one of those things that happened a long time ago, nothing worse than your first car wreck.  It will always be there but it won't be a problem anymore.
9/5/2013 8:31:37 PM EDT
[#6]
1 Peter 5:6-8

(ESV)6 Humble yourselves, therefore, under the mighty hand of God so that at the proper time he may exalt you,7 casting all your anxieties on him, because he cares for you. 8 Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.

Put God first in ALL things and it will be alright, He will keep you in perfect peace, IF you keep your mind on Him Isa 26:3. His salvation heals the mind, body, soul, marriage, family, job...He is my everything!!!
9/10/2013 8:54:56 PM EDT
[#7]
Take it ALL to the cross, please don't get involved with man made foolishness.

The Lord is the great mind regulator.  Put it all on Him.  Ask your wife to pray with you.  Trust in Jesus Christ.