Posted: 4/28/2011 1:41:39 PM EDT
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I'm way over my head here and feel at a disadvantage here.
My ex refuses to get a real job. She works about 15 hours a week at her school library. She goes to Alverno full time as a philosophy major. She gets Quest card benefits and Badgercare. I've been paying support since the 1st of the year, (when she moved out) The support stipulation was amicable, not court ordered. Now I am forced to buy my daughters health insurance. Well, this is an unexpected circumstance. It adds nearly $200 a month I have to pay because of my ex's choices. I want to file for a change in payment amount to offset the health care expense. I think my ex is willing to go along with this, (though she hadn't commented on my proposal). She insists that the WI Dept. of Health & Human services won't let us make a change. I'm wondering why would she talk to DHHS about child support. Any helpful advice? Any lawyers that anyone knows of that could help and not rake me over the coals even more? |
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Quoted: I'm sure that there is a lot of information missing here. I will try to answer any questions as best as I can. First off, what did the judge say when you got divorced? Any set $$ amount you have to pay per month? Who has custody? What percent? Who has placement? What percent? Is health care your responsibility? Court ordered? did the judge tell your ex that if she agrees to what you're paying her she will be signing off on it til the child reaches his/her majority? Or can she take you back to court whenever she wants to to get support adjusted/raised? Who is ordered to pay what bills? One child? LOTS of blank holes. I've been to court many times on my divorce over the last ten years. I may have your answers. And I charge WAY less than your attorrney.  |
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Quoted: If your daughters mom has badgercare wouldnt she be covered under badgercare? what is it that is forcing you to have to cover your daughter? They may take in account his income. If the state believes dad can afford it, they will deny the daughter based on fathers income. Sucks. Kinda. |
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If your daughters mom has badgercare wouldnt she be covered under badgercare? what is it that is forcing you to have to cover your daughter? They may take in account his income. If the state believes dad can afford it, they will deny the daughter based on fathers income. Sucks. Kinda. Not really, if one of the parents can afford it then why should the taxpayers have ot pay for it? |
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I agree, but the politics of this isn't an issue in this thread.
What is an issue is that it came out of the blue and I had never figured it for a monthly expense. I make $18 an hour, drive 75 miles, 5 days a week to get to work, i pay rent, utilities, food, insurance, healthcare, and child support. There is not much left over, and it is impacting the quality of living for me, and most importantly my daughter the 3.5 days a week she is with me. My ex on the other hand, doesn't pay rent or bills because she moved into her former sociology professor's house. She gets Quest card benefits monthly and receives Badgercare. She doesn't even pay for up keep on the car her dad bought her. |
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Quoted: Quoted: Quoted: If your daughters mom has badgercare wouldnt she be covered under badgercare? what is it that is forcing you to have to cover your daughter? They may take in account his income. If the state believes dad can afford it, they will deny the daughter based on fathers income. Sucks. Kinda. Not really, if one of the parents can afford it then why should the taxpayers have ot pay for it? Thus the word Kinda... Plus what he said above. He can't afford to pay another penny, and she is probably making about $400-$500 per month in free food. And don't say bullshit. A guy I know with two kids makes over $700 per month in food alone. Plus free healthcare. She wins and he gets it in the cornhole.  |
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Change your name, move to another State and work for cash. It might be a meager existence but probably not any worse than you're doing now and you'll be free. Yeah, I know you won't do it. I would. Seriously? You realize that my little girl is the most important thing in the world to me. Why the f*** would I walk away from that? You and anyone else cna keep these self centered comments to yourselves. They have no place in this thread. |
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Quoted: As I said in our IM's, I think this thread has served its purpose. I think you have decent direction. Ask to have it locked, and good luck!Quoted: Change your name, move to another State and work for cash. It might be a meager existence but probably not any worse than you're doing now and you'll be free. Yeah, I know you won't do it. I would. Seriously? You realize that my little girl is the most important thing in the world to me. Why the f*** would I walk away from that? You and anyone else cna keep these self centered comments to yourselves. They have no place in this thread. |
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As I said in our IM's, I think this thread has served its purpose. I think you have decent direction. Ask to have it locked, and good luck!
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Change your name, move to another State and work for cash. It might be a meager existence but probably not any worse than you're doing now and you'll be free. Yeah, I know you won't do it. I would. Seriously? You realize that my little girl is the most important thing in the world to me. Why the f*** would I walk away from that? You and anyone else cna keep these self centered comments to yourselves. They have no place in this thread. I think you are right. Mods, Lock her down. PM any recommended attorneys. I would be much obliged. |
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Change your name, move to another State and work for cash. It might be a meager existence but probably not any worse than you're doing now and you'll be free. Yeah, I know you won't do it. I would. Seriously? You realize that my little girl is the most important thing in the world to me. Why the f*** would I walk away from that? You and anyone else cna keep these self centered comments to yourselves. They have no place in this thread. I can't imagine how so many guys find it acceptable to go through life as a doormat but there sure are a lot of them. I'm more a take no prisoners, nuke the bridge, scorch the Earth type. I won't post anymore in your thread. I've seen plenty of guys go through what you are over the years and I surely do wish you the best. |