Posted: 2/6/2009 1:32:25 PM EDT
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I have NEVER aired my personal business online, but I need all the prayers I can get. I have not always been the best husband; I have been far too flawed and human. A while ago, I put myself in a position that should never have been, and hurt my wife's heart becasue of my actions; it was the most horrendous of many mistakes I've made in my life. Things had been going good lately, we were talking and working through so many things. Just two nights ago, she held my hand and told me not to worry, that we were going to be alright. Then, yesterday afternoon, some twelve or so hours later, she called me and said she wasn't coming home, that she was done. I have not seen or heard from her since. I don't know where she is, but I know my heart is with her.
My wife means everything to me, and I had dedicated myself these last several months to showing her just how much she means to me. However, something changed yesterday, something I don't understand, and now I am alone in this house, this house where we have made our home. Everything reminds me of her, of us. I'm on my knees praying to God even as I am begging her. I come here because I just don't have many close friends in the world, and I know how wonderful you guys and gals are in times if crisis. Pray for us, please... that she might decide to come back and talk with me... that I might be the man I was when she fell in love with me... that this relationship I have dedicated nearly half my life to does not wither and die. Thank you all. Chris |
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I've got a couple of friends who've had a wife leave them. The good news is, you'll survive, even though you can't see past 5 minutes from now. If you ask around, I'm sure there are some good support groups in your area that can offer support/good advice.
We'll pray for you and your wife. |
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We will pray for you and your wife.
I hope that you can meet each other where you are now and work towards a happy and healthy friendship and marriage. It is constant hard work but worth every ounce you put into it. I haven't read much of it yet but if you two get another chance to work this out you might want to check out The Love Dare book (coincides with the movie Fireproof,which I have not seen yet) but I have heard good things about the book. We're here if you need us. Pat & Karen |
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i hope things work out for you and your wife.
however, i am no stranger to effing up with important women in my life, and my real advice is that sometimes we need to just pay for our sins. if she maintains no contact and radio silence, try not to spend too much time plumbing the depths of your grief. it's not healthy. it's best to spend the time examining how you got there and the decisions you have made. stay strong, brother. |
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I've got a couple of friends who've had a wife leave them. The good news is, you'll survive, even though you can't see past 5 minutes from now. If you ask around, I'm sure there are some good support groups in your area that can offer support/good advice. We'll pray for you and your wife. Having BTDT, I wholeheartedly agree. You feel that you just can't go on, but it does get better. Best wishes to you RedTA. |
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Prayers sent. I pray that you and your wife both get what you want and are happy. It will all work out, even though I'm sure it feels terrible right now.
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I haven't read much of it yet but if you two get another chance to work this out you might want to check out The Love Dare book (coincides with the movie Fireproof,which I have not seen yet) but I have heard good things about the book. We're watching Fireproof right now (about 10 mins in, and I had to take a pit stop break). So far, pretty lame acting (like reading cue cards). My church had a full month or so of Sunday school lessons that talked about the movie, but we never actually saw it until now. The theme of the movie is "don't leave your parter behind." Hope it gets better. ETA: It was okay. Great message, but comes off contrived and boring sometimes to make the point. The point? Treat your wife/husband with respect, love each other and Jesus, and don't mess around (with online porn or with a doctor at the hospital where you work). http://www.fireproofmymarriage.com/ -> URL shown at the very end of the movie. My wife and I got a lot more useful info from the Love Lanuages book and video. I always wondered why she said sometimes she didn't feel loved, when I was doing my best to show her all the time. I was doing words of affirmation and touching/hand holding, etc. (my languages), and she was wanting acts of service and gifts (how her parents always showed their love). We have a much better relationship now, although it wasn't so bad to start with. She just griped sometimes. 
When you get a chance, be sure to check out the Five Love Languages. It's so obvious after you read the book and then take the tests to see what your primary language is. We can't figure out how we didn't see this before. I do dishes and vacuum and surprise her wth small stuff like her favorite drink at the Sonic, and she's really happy. She tells me how great I am and gets more physical. Happy me. |