+1 on the monolithic dome...if you're willing to spend ~$150k as you say, it may be possible to go that route. I imagine that one large enough for your professed needs would be difficult to accomplish in that price range, however.
Rammed earth construction is labor intensive, but again, a consultation with an engineer may help you determine if the soil type in your area is appropriate for that method, and if the cost figures will work out.
Containers do have a certain appeal, but I second the puzzlement at so many windows....if you stacked on a traditional basement, then perhaps any criticisms for defensibility would be addressed...
Have you considered green features? Things such as solar water heat, small-scale wind power, ground-source cooling, rainwater collection, and graywater recycling, will not cost much additional if you design from the start for them––and they have the dual benefits of saving you money, as well as increasing your survivability in an emergency. This could be especially important if you are planning on building in a remote area.