I use a flat tip screwdriver ground down to a little rectangle tip that gives a good square stake. looks like the factory stakes and is big enough to hold up, but not to big to look bad or keep you from being able to get it off again later. I start at an angle in to get it started, set up the stake then roll it over straight to finish it up. Just go slow and easy and you will get a feel for it.
Put the edge or tip of whatever your staking tool of choice just past the center of the plate, leaning back towars the reciever, so the strike drives material rearward toward the slot in the nut. Give it a good tap, see where your at, put it back in the dent at the same angle, and give it a tap roll it more upright, tap, a little more, tap, and then tap it straight up. Creates a very good, solid stake that looks good too.
I do 3. One at the closest slot at 6 0'clock, then 2 more at about 10- 2 or 3-9 depending on where the castelations line up. Best part is is easy and free, except for the screw driver part. A little screwdriver is too thin, but a regular sized snap-on 6 in is perfect. And if you have an older or off brand nut, it may have half moon castelations, just use a small round punch in the same way and it will come out nice as well for that type.