As you get older, do you slowly get to the point you don't want to be bothered by people?

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Posted: 9/17/2022 1:16:58 PM EDT

I'm 54. I have always been the social person and told I could strike up a conversation in a grocery line. I enjoy spending time with my wife and adult kids. I am not depressed and all fine mentally. The wife and I work around the property. Frankly I just want to be left alone. I have less than 2 years till retirement.

I am fully content with being just with immediate family or alone. Is this an age thing? FYI, my T level supposedly is normal.

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:19:27 PM EDT

[#1]

Short version, yes.

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:21:22 PM EDT

[#2]

Yep. I think it's normal. I frequently tell young co-workers to "Stay off my lawn unless you're here to mow it" or "I gotta go yell at some clouds".

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:22:13 PM EDT

[#3]

I hate people.

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:23:32 PM EDT

[#4]

People have always bothered me my entire life.

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:23:43 PM EDT

[#5]

Yes i dont even bother trying to make friends with new people anymore. Also see or talk to current friends less than before.

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:24:15 PM EDT

[#6]

Yep

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:25:08 PM EDT

[#7]

I have worked from home for a very long time now. Long before COVID. I will work 2-3 jobs from home if I have to, before I go back to a better paying job in an office.

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:25:10 PM EDT

[#8]

Traditionally...I'd say yes, but with the way people are now it has transitioned to more of a "hell yes" type of answer.

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:26:48 PM EDT

[#9]

Every single day. I’m in the people business. When I’m off the clock I don’t even mind if my family is not around. I think it’s just the beat down from life.

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:27:58 PM EDT

[#10]

LEAVE ME ALONE, OP!

TC

ETA: Honestly, at 64, the idea of getting a AWD Sprinter van and taking off out west by myself (with the pooch, of course) is looking REALLY inviting. The overlanding thread got me thinking…

Obligatory pooch pic:

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Posted: 9/17/2022 1:28:27 PM EDT

[#11]

Give it 10 more years OP, then you'll really prefer your own company.

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:30:10 PM EDT

[#12]

I’m 51 have always felt this way.

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:30:27 PM EDT

[#13]

Yes but only by certain people. I try to be cautious where I go in order not to run into certain types of people.

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:30:46 PM EDT

[#14]

Yes.

Hell yes...

Including my wife and offspring

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:31:51 PM EDT

[#15]

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Posted: 9/17/2022 1:31:58 PM EDT

[#16]

Yes and no. It takes a lot more effort to maintain friendships/acquaintances as I get older.

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:32:31 PM EDT

[#17]

That happened long before I started getting older.

I can easily go talk to whomever I wish though.
I'm also good at interviews & interrogations.

I can get bored being alone, but it takes a long time.

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:33:41 PM EDT

[#18]

Yes. Absolutely.

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:35:16 PM EDT

[#19]

I'm 54, as well. It's not happening slowly...

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:35:41 PM EDT

[#20]

I'm there myself OP. I have no patience for most people anymore and don't have any desire to small talk with people I don't know or care about that I have nothing in common with.

I don't even care to engage in all the BS male female verbal fencing when it comes to relationships. I do a pretty good job of telling [and killing the relationship] them that they are owned by the government they think [as a vast majority] is their lifesaver when they have personal financial issues. [extended UE, welfare/healthcare/insurance, daycare, ect]

YOU NEVER GET SOMETHING FOR NOTHING.

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:36:26 PM EDT

[#21]

First Post

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:36:44 PM EDT

[#22]

Never liked crowds, noticed that in my 20's. Now 61 and have no desire to go to any event with a crowd, unless I can stay away from them. Social distancing was awesome! Hate driving to the city as the traffic is crazy. People, in large groups, suck ass, they are selfish and rude.

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:37:39 PM EDT

[#23]

You're not alone. Think it comes with age and years of experience having to deal with your fellow man. Ive found myself this way, though didnt use to be this way when I was young. Now the effort is tiring and I dont care anymore.

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:39:11 PM EDT

[#24]

Definitely

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:39:16 PM EDT

[#25]

I've pretty much always been like that, but it has intensified with age.

Along with weapons, "get off my lawn" is part of my religion.

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:45:37 PM EDT

[#26]

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I'm 54, as well. It's not happening slowly...

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You know, Looking back the the past 10 years, it happened very slowly but maybe the last 4 it accelerated.

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:46:37 PM EDT

[#27]

Slowly? I was pretty much there from the beginning.

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:49:28 PM EDT

[#28]

I’ve learned over the years I am best with a good amount of alone time and then an occasional get together, shoot or bbq.

I’ need to get a few hours of alone time (even from family) a couple of times a week.

I then feel recharged and can give my family and friends my best.

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:49:57 PM EDT

[#29]

At least you made it to your 50's. I felt that way far before that point.

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:51:51 PM EDT

[#30]

Yes, is there any other way?

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:52:06 PM EDT

[#31]

I've been that way my whole life .

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:52:58 PM EDT

[#32]

By the way, I am content and happy. Don't like big crowds as I did before. What also didn't help how yesterday we got lectured by an attorney how trans people are a protected class and gender is what you feel. That just set me off.

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:56:19 PM EDT

[#33]

I don't even like watching people on TV anymore, let alone in person. I pretty much only talk to you guys and 2 family members.
51.

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...What also didn't help how yesterday we got lectured by an attorney how trans people are a protected class and gender is what you feel...

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That's a big part of it. I'm the same as I've always been, but people around me are... changing.

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:57:18 PM EDT

[#34]

Lot of us like you OP. I am 55 but have been this way for years. If I didnt have a wife and kids I would be living in a cabin somewhere in the mountains. Even with a wife, I keep trying to convince her to move into a remote area and spend the rest of our years there.

I can take people and a city for about a week, 2 weeks max then I start going crazy, getting very anxious and irritable.

Luckily I telecommute 90% of the time now and just sit on my farm. I run to the nearby little farming community when my beer/liquor runs low and thats about it.

I enjoy the peaceful outdoors and my dogs, I dont need any people around me.

Posted: 9/17/2022 1:59:11 PM EDT

[#35]

Most days I am a Hermit.

I try to go to town only once a month.

Posted: 9/17/2022 2:00:36 PM EDT

[#36]

Yes, and the COVID shutdown really solidified those feelings.

Posted: 9/17/2022 2:00:58 PM EDT

[#37]

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People have always bothered me my entire life.

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This. Most people are douches, shit birds and dicks.

Posted: 9/17/2022 2:02:09 PM EDT

[#38]

I've always felt that way. I pity people who constantly need social interaction.

Posted: 9/17/2022 2:02:32 PM EDT

[#39]

Yes, that's why I purchased land on an island, so i can build a house there when i retire.

Posted: 9/17/2022 2:03:33 PM EDT

[#40]

I prefer solitude.

Posted: 9/17/2022 2:04:40 PM EDT

[#41]

About 29

Posted: 9/17/2022 2:04:53 PM EDT

[#42]

But I was like that when I was young too. Lemme alone.

Posted: 9/17/2022 2:04:54 PM EDT

[#43]

Quoted:
I'm 54. I have always been the social person and told I could strike up a conversation in a grocery line. I enjoy spending time with my wife and adult kids. I am not depressed and all fine mentally. The wife and I work around the property. Frankly I just want to be left alone. I have less than 2 years till retirement.

I am fully content with being just with immediate family or alone. Is this an age thing? FYI, my T level supposedly is normal.

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100%

Since turning 50 I would rather only be around family.

The way people have behaving since COVID has only amplified it.

Posted: 9/17/2022 2:04:59 PM EDT

[#44]

I’m actually friendlier than I used to be.

Posted: 9/17/2022 2:05:19 PM EDT

[#45]

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People have always bothered me my entire life.

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Posted: 9/17/2022 2:05:38 PM EDT

[#46]

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LEAVE ME ALONE, OP!

TC

ETA: Honestly, at 64, the idea of getting a AWD Sprinter van and taking off out west by myself (with the pooch, of course) is looking REALLY inviting. The overlanding thread got me thinking

Obligatory pooch pic:

https://www.ar15.com/media/mediaFiles/197999/1495B1F7-5609-40B1-A6BB-CED3CB717CE1_jpe-2529457.JPG

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Posted: 9/17/2022 2:05:42 PM EDT

[#47]

You talked to random people in a checkout line, makes you one of them people who have annoyed me my entire life.

Posted: 9/17/2022 2:05:54 PM EDT

[#48]

One of the major reasons I bought my house was it being at the end of a dead end dirt road, with 2K acres of National forest behind so it can't be built on.

Posted: 9/17/2022 2:06:46 PM EDT

[#49]

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By the way, I am content and happy. Don't like big crowds as I did before. What also didn't help how yesterday we got lectured by an attorney how trans people are a protected class and gender is what you feel. That just set me off.

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I’ve never liked crowds.
Herd behavior leads to bad choices.

Posted: 9/17/2022 2:07:28 PM EDT

[#50]

Already reached that point and I'm under 40

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