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Posted: 12/18/2017 6:36:19 PM EST
I hate to air my dirty laundry on here but I would like to get some advice. After 27 years of marriage, and 6 years after the boob job, she doesn't want to be a wife anymore, she wants freedom. She wants to remain friends and I still love her but she is shattering my dreams.
I am not a perfect husband but I have always provided above and beyond for the family. We have decent cars that are paid for, a paid off house, and money in the bank. We are in our late 40s and my dream was to retire a little early and enjoy life. Now I am not certain what that dream should be. Probably going to get a lawyer soon and draw up separation papers. Any input would be appreciated. UPDATE 1/16/18: Divorce is filed. She is being pretty fair to me and we were able to do it without any lawyers, and remain on speaking terms. |
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Lawyer up, hide your firearms, get suspense orders on all joint accounts, and eject.
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When ever a someone says they still want to be friends, that's just code for "I want to use you"
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Freedom to ride the cock carousel
Does she have single friends at work? Best of luck , it does get better |
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If it were me, I'd be trying to get some personal time with her phone to find evidence. And/or hire a PI.
If she's cheating it won't go well for her in court. Best of luck to you OP. |
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Quoted: This. A "separation" is just time for her to drain the joint accounts for expenses. Then she gets half of what is left. View Quote |
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“She wants to remain friends”
Let me finish that for you..... “until our divorce is final” OP, you have now entered into the business phase of your imploding marriage. DON’T let your guard down. DON’T use the same attorney DON’T bargain shop for an attorney DON’T listen to 98% of the advice you are getting ready to get here Been through this. Stay strong, you are young and there is a hell of a life waiting for you on the other side of this. |
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When women gets boob jobs they get a lot of new attention from other men
The woman starts to think she has missed out and becomes unsettled in her relationship. You can either ride it out or eject. |
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Move all of your guns to a friends house, a friend you totally trust to give them back to you someday! Immediately! And any gold, silver coins, etc. If you have 25 guns, only admit to her lawyer that you had 5, and name the 5 lowest priced ones you have. Or, tell her lawyer you had to sell all of them to pay for your lawyer!
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Move all of your guns to a friends house, a friend you totally trust to give them back to you someday! Immediately! And any gold, silver coins, etc. If you have 25 guns, only admit to her lawyer that you had 5, and name the 5 lowest priced ones you have. Or, tell her lawyer you had to sell all of them to pay for your lawyer! View Quote |
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Divorce is always about one of two things, sex or money. Which one is it?
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I hate to air my dirty laundry on here but I would like to get some advice. After 27 years of marriage, and 6 years after the boob job, she doesn't want to be a wife anymore, she wants freedom. She wants to remain friends and I still love her but she is shattering my dreams. I am not a perfect husband but I have always provided above and beyond for the family. We have decent cars that are paid for, a paid off house, and money in the bank. We are in our late 40s and my dream was to retire a little early and enjoy life. Now I am not certain what that dream should be. Probably going to get a lawyer soon and draw up separation papers. Any input would be appreciated. View Quote |
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27 years. That's a long time. Damn.
Do you have any kids together? |
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This. A "separation" is just time for her to drain the joint accounts for expenses. Then she gets half of what is left. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
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Lawyer up, hide your firearms, get suspense orders on all joint accounts, and eject. Eject with EXTREME PREJUDICE..... |
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As my ex-mother inlaw said to me, "maybe it is just a really bad time of month?" Well, it wasn't. However, my life is much better by moving on.
As another has advised, hide your stuff with some remote rarely contacted friend/relative. Even lose your job ... punch your boss in the nose. You can't unring that bell, but you can apologize explaining circumstance after the divorce. Even relocate to a man divorce friendly state. Google it |
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Move all of your guns to a friends house, a friend you totally trust to give them back to you someday! Immediately! And any gold, silver coins, etc. If you have 25 guns, only admit to her lawyer that you had 5, and name the 5 lowest priced ones you have. Or, tell her lawyer you had to sell all of them to pay for your lawyer! View Quote |
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Mine came in the late 90s shortly after I came here .
After saying for better or worse. I wouldn’t be friends prepare for the worst |
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Being friends is total BS. Recognize that she is rejecting you. Accept that for what it is and at accordingly. Two facts of life: The cop who asks you questions is not your friend. The woman who is no longer wanting to sleep with you, live with you, watch tv with you....is not your friend, either. She is not prevaricating on her decision to dump you, she is dragging bait to see how much more she can finagle out of you. Rest assured, I know these things from personal experience.
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Lawyer up ASAP.
Disregard any hope of getting back together, despite what she says. You can play along, but make sure that you protect yourself in the background. Also, your instinct is to work a lot to offset lawyer fees, loss of income, and to take your mind off of it BUT those high hour checks will just be used to increase support when the court requests them. |
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Anyone that asks GD for divorce advice ......well, you know.
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Sorry bro....but, who is the other guy.... View Quote ETA: "Remain friends"?? Fuck that you're at war bud. Plan, act, and execute accordingly. Keep your chin up I'm sure this sucks for you emotionally. |
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Do you get to keep half of the tits that you paid for? it's only fair.
I'm sorry for your misfortune. |
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When ever a someone says they still want to be friends, that's just code for "I want to use you" View Quote The thing is, friends don’t betray relationships, so she has no interest in being your friend. Waaaaaay too many guys I know ( myself included ) fell for this ploy, it’s an attempt at keeping your guard down while she prepares to lower the fucking boom. You don’t have to be an asshole, but, the sooner you accept she is not and does not want to be your friend the better. You got to look out for yourself now homie, act now, terry not, lawyer up, get ahead of this ASA fucking P |
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When women gets boob jobs they get a lot of new attention from other men The woman starts to think she has missed out and becomes unsettled in her relationship. You can either ride it out or eject. View Quote She was already feeling she missed out....or her sexuality is waning and she wants to feel young/powerful again. IMHO, boob jobs by women well into their marriages is a display shit's going off the rails. |
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Sorry to hear that.
Staying friends is out of the question though. For a myriad of reasons. |
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If it were me, I'd be trying to get some personal time with her phone to find evidence. And/or hire a PI. If she's cheating it won't go well for her in court. Best of luck to you OP. View Quote The man gets thoroughly fucked in court, no matter what. |
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Move all of your guns to a friends house, a friend you totally trust to give them back to you someday! Immediately! And any gold, silver coins, etc. If you have 25 guns, only admit to her lawyer that you had 5, and name the 5 lowest priced ones you have. Or, tell her lawyer you had to sell all of them to pay for your lawyer! View Quote |
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I don't think it works that way anymore. The man gets thoroughly fucked in court, no matter what. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
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If it were me, I'd be trying to get some personal time with her phone to find evidence. And/or hire a PI. If she's cheating it won't go well for her in court. Best of luck to you OP. The man gets thoroughly fucked in court, no matter what. |
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