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Posted: 12/18/2017 8:47:00 PM EDT
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1) She already has a boyfriend.
2) The house and money are about to leave you. 3) She doesn't really want to be friends. 4) She's going to take you for every penny possible. 5) Hide as many assets as possible. |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 8:48:09 PM EDT
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Go get marriage counseling with a professional counselor somewhere and try to get her to work on the marriage with you. Assing you're a decent guy, she's a fool to throw it all away by thinking the grass is greener elsewhere. That's a big lie.
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Posted: 12/18/2017 8:50:26 PM EDT
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That sucks man. As most have said, get a lawyer and don't let her convince you to share to save money or whatever BS. Also, people that stay "friends" are full of shit unless they both wanted out.
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Posted: 12/18/2017 8:53:05 PM EDT
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She promised that she would not ask me for any of my gun stuff, and I have a decent collection with lots of reloading gear. Trust me, she is not cheating, but I think she wants the life of some of her younger girlfriends. All she asked for is what she is entitled to by law. Is that 50% of the assets? If so, that is going to hurt even though I have been the primary breadwinner for most of the years, bringing home at least 75% of the income, at times 100%. I realize that that it isn't all about income but I also do a lot around the house, helping wherever I can. I wanted financial freedom and she wants to be free of being a wife. Kids are grown so child support is not an issue. |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 8:54:36 PM EDT
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Go get marriage counseling with a professional counselor somewhere and try to get her to work on the marriage with you. Assing you're a decent guy, she's a fool to throw it all away by thinking the grass is greener elsewhere. That's a big lie. 
Once the wench tells you straight up she wants a divorce, there's no going back. Maybe do this to buy time to prep before pulling the eject lever, but no, hell no. You don't reward betrayal with forgiveness, not after 20+ years. |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 8:54:37 PM EDT
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When dreams are shattered and hopes are dashed,
goals upon the shoals have crashed, when gladness is but a memory dear let us endeavor to persevere. |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 8:59:07 PM EDT
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Sorry bro but it happens. Lawyer up. Once it is over your life will dramatically improve. As folk age the power shifts from the pretty young girls to the older settled and established man.
It is good to be an older single guy. 
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Posted: 12/18/2017 8:59:09 PM EDT
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Could be worse. You could have paid for a pussy rejuvenation as well.
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:03:16 PM EDT
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She promised that she would not ask me for any of my gun stuff, and I have a decent collection with lots of reloading gear. Trust me, she is not cheating, but I think she wants the life of some of her younger girlfriends. All she asked for is what she is entitled to by law. Is that 50% of the assets? If so, that is going to hurt even though I have been the primary breadwinner for most of the years, bringing home at least 75% of the income, at times 100%. I realize that that it isn't all about income but I also do a lot around the house, helping wherever I can. I wanted financial freedom and she wants to be free of being a wife. Kids are grown so child support is not an issue. Before this is over you will think of the "west desert option". |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:03:48 PM EDT
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Welp, if she wants an even split then good for you. Stay friendly till its over so she doesnt get indignant and greedy.
Sux this is happening to you, but when its over cut ties, dont try that "friends" bullshit. |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:04:58 PM EDT
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Pray. Get help from church. I almost ruined my marriage and God, prayer, and the church helped us, we are stronger then ever with another child on the way. It is not easy but it can work.
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:07:14 PM EDT
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Freedom to ride the cock carousel Does she have single friends at work? Best of luck , it does get better |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:08:21 PM EDT
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Damn that is harsh. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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Freedom to ride the cock carousel Does she have single friends at work? Best of luck , it does get better |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:09:41 PM EDT
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Harsh but true. |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:10:05 PM EDT
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Get legal advice. There is a program called Spector. If legal in your area, put it on your machines. It's invisible to the user. It will email you (to another computer) a copy of everything that goes in or out of your home computer. It screen shots the computer. You can have a complete inventory of everything that happens.
I would be at work and receive a real time copy of every email my dearly beloved sent and received from her boyfriend. We were together 17 years. Be really careful if she is religious. Mine was a member of a sect that did not believe in divorce. So, if that's what your girlfriends believe, and you want a divorce, what do you do? Answer- accuse your husband of abuse. I went through 4 years of that. But I made it through. It was hell, and it almost killed me. In fact, one of the emails I intercepted was from her auxiliary cop boyfriend who promised to take care of me after she whined about what a beast I was. After living through that torture, including being arrested and jailed, we went to trial and I got physical and legal custody of my sons, use and possession of the house, automobile and furnishings, and child support from the unemployed and "disabled" ex. |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:10:08 PM EDT
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She promised that she would not ask me for any of my gun stuff, and I have a decent collection with lots of reloading gear. Trust me, she is not cheating, but I think she wants the life of some of her younger girlfriends. All she asked for is what she is entitled to by law. Is that 50% of the assets? If so, that is going to hurt even though I have been the primary breadwinner for most of the years, bringing home at least 75% of the income, at times 100%. I realize that that it isn't all about income but I also do a lot around the house, helping wherever I can. I wanted financial freedom and she wants to be free of being a wife. Kids are grown so child support is not an issue. Agree with her about moving on, tell her that if she's done there's no point in pining after a lost cause and shove divorce papers in front of her with assets split as close to 50% as you can get. The longer you wait, the more variables enter the picture. |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:10:47 PM EDT
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Anyone married in Utah is a fool.
Under the "family friendly" vanier are extremely powerful groups of rabid anti conservative man hating progressives.....that believe it is their sacred duty to destroy this country one man at a time. |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:13:08 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: She wants to remain friends so you can keep paying for her to bang new guys. I am so sorry. Hang in there. Get a lawyer tomorrow. Follow the lawyers advice. Sadly from this point forward, you can no longer trust the woman that was your partner for 27 years. It is soulcrushing but true. Be strong. |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:19:34 PM EDT
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Sorry to hear.
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:23:06 PM EDT
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Never trust a woman that had a boob job. Fuck her a lot but don't trust her.
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:23:24 PM EDT
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Life got boring, never let life get boring
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:25:10 PM EDT
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If she truly feels that way right now, pound that divorce through ASAP. Like set your pen on fire type get on it now. Agree with her about moving on, tell her that if she's done there's no point in pining after a lost cause and shove divorce papers in front of her with assets split as close to 50% as you can get. The longer you wait, the more variables enter the picture. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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She promised that she would not ask me for any of my gun stuff, and I have a decent collection with lots of reloading gear. Trust me, she is not cheating, but I think she wants the life of some of her younger girlfriends. All she asked for is what she is entitled to by law. Is that 50% of the assets? If so, that is going to hurt even though I have been the primary breadwinner for most of the years, bringing home at least 75% of the income, at times 100%. I realize that that it isn't all about income but I also do a lot around the house, helping wherever I can. I wanted financial freedom and she wants to be free of being a wife. Kids are grown so child support is not an issue. Agree with her about moving on, tell her that if she's done there's no point in pining after a lost cause and shove divorce papers in front of her with assets split as close to 50% as you can get. The longer you wait, the more variables enter the picture. |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:25:42 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: My divorce is about mental illness and abuse. Sex and money issues were just two of the many casualties. 
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:25:56 PM EDT
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Move on and good luck. |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:28:06 PM EDT
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We have decent cars that are paid for, a paid off house, and money in the bank. |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:28:18 PM EDT
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I'm in Alabama, went through a divorce a few years ago and my lawyer told me the same thing. Said I could have HD video for the judge and it likely would have no impact. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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If it were me, I'd be trying to get some personal time with her phone to find evidence. And/or hire a PI. If she's cheating it won't go well for her in court. Best of luck to you OP. 
Good luck OP! Pick your battles. In the end a lot of things you believe matter now won't once you've spent thousands on attorney fee's and years in court. |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:29:40 PM EDT
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"Let's be friends" is a disarming technique. Don't fall for it.
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:29:46 PM EDT
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When ever a someone says they still want to be friends, that's just code for "I want to use you" |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:30:27 PM EDT
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When women gets boob jobs they get a lot of new attention from other men The woman starts to think she has missed out and becomes unsettled in her relationship. You can either ride it out or eject. Hide your valuables and money, and get a good lawyer like yesterday. Right now is not the time for emotions, later. Right now focus on getting whats yous in court , period. Dont mt let yourself be manipulated in these shitty times. |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:30:58 PM EDT
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Life got boring, never let life get boring And keep that wallet open. |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:31:01 PM EDT
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Go get marriage counseling with a professional counselor somewhere and try to get her to work on the marriage with you. Assing you're a decent guy, she's a fool to throw it all away by thinking the grass is greener elsewhere. That's a big lie. |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:31:18 PM EDT
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And now let's get the rest of the story, you asked for help, there is a shit ton more than just this, whatcha do man?
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:34:09 PM EDT
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And now let's get the rest of the story, you asked for help, there is a shit ton more than just this, whatcha do man? Let this be a lesson to any men thinking of marrying. All women are like that. |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:35:54 PM EDT
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Judge flat out told my lawyer and I if we did prove adultery he wasn't going to do anything about it. He wanted to make sure that he got that out of the way so we weren't wasting everyone's time.
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If it were me, I'd be trying to get some personal time with her phone to find evidence. And/or hire a PI. If she's cheating it won't go well for her in court. Best of luck to you OP.
Good luck OP! It will get better. |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:37:20 PM EDT
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Sorry to hear that. Kids involved or not? If not, fuck her just cut and move on.
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:38:23 PM EDT
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She already has a stable full of young new fuck toys.
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:39:12 PM EDT
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1) She already has a boyfriend. 2) The house and money are about to leave you. 3) She doesn't really want to be friends. 4) She's going to take you for every penny possible. 5) Hide as many assets as possible. |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:39:29 PM EDT
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I'll tell you what dad told me.
"I know it's not in your nature son, but you gotta get mean. As mean as a son of a bitch. She ain't your friend no more and damn sure not your lover, so forgot about all that stuff and move on. Mostly though just get mean." |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:39:37 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: believe it or not, these things are less important than you might think. 
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:40:35 PM EDT
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sorry to hear that sm68
Its been in the works from her end much longer than shes been letting on Chicks never let go of 1 branch until they have firm hold on another The lets be friends game is a ploy to further exploit you emotionally and financially Contact the best divorce attorney in town and follow their advice and instructions to the T best of luck 
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:40:56 PM EDT
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believe it or not, these things are less important than you might think. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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We have decent cars that are paid for, a paid off house, and money in the bank. OP, your woman cannot be trusted from here on out btw, dont talk to her unless its through your lawyer. |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:42:04 PM EDT
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Dance monkey, dance! And keep that wallet open. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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Life got boring, never let life get boring And keep that wallet open. |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:43:26 PM EDT
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When ever a someone says they still want to be friends, that's just code for "I want to use you" |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:43:53 PM EDT
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This is how you handle this, trust me:
1. Make your personal happiness a priority in your life. Starting right now. 2. Be nice to her and don't expect anything from her. Regarding #1: When I went through this I was certain that I could not live without her. Approval from her was the most important thing in my life and I was willing to do anything to get it. This, of course made me miserable and solidified in her that I wasn't worth any kind of compromise or patience. As soon as I started valuing myself and my happiness, what she thought of me stopped mattering at all. I pursued my own interests and self improvement. To quote cyclist Phil Gaimon, "Don't change. Just get better." Self-worth, self-improvement, fitness, and learning helps with.... (#2) being nice to her. The more you try to make her feel bad about her boobs, her life, her choices, or the marriage, the more you're validating the fact that she's better off without you. Facts don't matter. If she doesn't want to be with you, stop trying to talk her out of it. It took me a while to realize that I was trying to win an argument that I would be better off not winning. If she wants out then you deserve the peace of a complete life without her. Let her walk. If you're meant to be together, the only thing that will illuminate that is your willingness to let her choose her path in peace. If this is a Princess Bride Scenario, it'll all work out in the end. If it's not, the sooner you're a complete healthy person without her, the better. Sorry to hear about this. For me, it was less than a year from the boob job. As I was languishing in misery, a good friend told me, "It will get better. You'll be fine." I didn't believe it, but he was exactly right. Be yourself. Find happiness, it's out there. |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:44:31 PM EDT
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start leaving the seat up brochacho.
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:44:53 PM EDT
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All she asked for is what she is entitled to by law. Is that 50% of the assets? If so, that is going to hurt even though I have been the primary breadwinner for most of the years, bringing home at least 75% of the income, at times 100%. I realize that that it isn't all about income but I also do a lot around the house, helping wherever I can. I wanted financial freedom and she wants to be free of being a wife. Sounds like she wants out of it quickly. Use that to your advantage. It sounds like your wife may be a good person and decent. I know mine was, she just wanted other things, there was no infidelity involved. It just happens. We sat down, spoke about it openly, and divided it all up on paper. I was the bread winner, so I made the case for what I thought we each should walk away with. It was OK for a couple of months, then her father probably talked to her, and she wanted more money right before it was final. It wasn't much, so I said, yes, that is fair and refinanced my mortgage. I knew she wanted out quickly, so I had a little bit of leverage. Most guys on here will say go nuclear, and I agree with them if it's contested outright, or kids are involved, but it's possible to do it amicably and uncontested. I would advise trying that road first.. it's cheaper, faster and you BOTH walk away with more money. At the end of the day, you have to live with your decisions, and I found it easier to commit to exhausting all uncontested means before getting into legal Armageddon. My ex and I are both doing well, and I see her every now and again. Life is too short for enemies.. if you can help it. MOST IMPORTANTLY... keep your head straight. Hit the gym, meditate, hike, run in circles for an hour, work harder at your job, find a new hobby, find god, go to church, whatever! Divorce can really fuck you up, you need to commit to your mental health first and foremost. Good luck bro. |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:48:50 PM EDT
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Also this. What was once your most trusted partner is no more trust worthy than a random person walking down the street....but they have access to your entire life with force of law to prevent you from stopping them. Shields up Captain!!! regards, 3 beer Bounce |
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:49:06 PM EDT
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Maybe find one that’s already had her boob job and mid life crisis before marrying is the answer?
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:49:51 PM EDT
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Can you get a refund on the boobs?
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Posted: 12/18/2017 9:50:42 PM EDT
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Depends, some women don't know the combo to the safe. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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Do you get to keep half of the tits that you paid for? it's only fair. I'm sorry for your misfortune. Quoted:
Hiding marital assets is stupid fucking advice. mine has absolutely no idea whats inside and never displayed any interest,if she were to suddenly have an interest I would take it as a red flag |
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