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Posted: 1/25/2019 9:05:18 AM EDT
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I was making a joke and had no idea it actually was a fuck buddy. Wasn’t putting anyone on the spot intentionally Quote HistoryQuoted:
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Maybe try not being an ass and putting her on the spot like that There is a reason we “date” women before we marry them. Need to figure and sort all this shit out. |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 9:05:25 AM EDT
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She came clean pretty quickly showing that she has a conscience and is not a sociopath. You might have just ruined a great future relationship with a great girl due to your insecurities.
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Posted: 1/25/2019 9:09:29 AM EDT
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Posted: 1/25/2019 9:10:44 AM EDT
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Everyone has a past. Ever heard of the book called the Keylogger? Go look it up on Amazon. A guy put a keylogger on his girlfriends computer and found out what they really do. IMO the guy was a loser for doing this but it does show how women think.
Leave her past alone unless you want problems. |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 9:10:58 AM EDT
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You're not the only trump train she's been riding.
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Posted: 1/25/2019 9:13:13 AM EDT
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The GF needs to eject.
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Posted: 1/25/2019 9:16:12 AM EDT
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Posted: 1/25/2019 9:18:30 AM EDT
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Choose your battles.
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Posted: 1/25/2019 9:19:14 AM EDT
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You weren’t “making a joke.” You were fishing. And you don’t like what you caught. |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 9:24:29 AM EDT
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contrary to popular belief, eating pizza rolls in the basement with your mom is not a "date" |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 9:25:42 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: Thats not what the documentaries over at the ‘Hub say... |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 9:26:00 AM EDT
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Maybe try not being an ass and putting her on the spot like that |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 9:26:17 AM EDT
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She lied, thought better of it quickly, and fessed up. That's not the kind of thing that speaks badly of someone's character. Holding a resentment over that is childish.
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Posted: 1/25/2019 9:28:37 AM EDT
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I was making a joke and had no idea it actually was a fuck buddy. Wasn’t putting anyone on the spot intentionally |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 9:30:21 AM EDT
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Maybe try not being an ass and putting her on the spot like that |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 9:31:19 AM EDT
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Correct, Let it go, stop being a douche. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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It’s a natural thing to lie about and it sounds like she came clean on her own shortly after. You also phrased the question in a way that doesn’t invite an honest answer. I wouldn’t get too worked up over it. |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 9:32:10 AM EDT
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Posted: 1/25/2019 9:32:11 AM EDT
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You were rude to say that. You were insinuating that she is a whore. You should have left it alone.
She lied at first because it was a shitty situation, but she came clean quick. She cried all night over it which should show remorse and you ignored her. |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 9:35:06 AM EDT
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I was making a joke and had no idea it actually was a fuck buddy. Wasn’t putting anyone on the spot intentionally 
One fateful day, a similar situation will develop with a former acquaintance of yours. Except on this 13th time you will lie to her and she with catch you on it. You better hope that resulting passive aggressive revenge does not involve credit cards or that secret stash of cash you have in the house. |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 9:37:08 AM EDT
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Posted: 1/25/2019 9:44:40 AM EDT
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She came clean within 60 seconds. You are overreacting. Lying to me would have lasted longer than 60 seconds. She is showing remorse, and continued to do so for hours afterwards. To me, you are being unreasonable.
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Posted: 1/25/2019 9:46:30 AM EDT
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You were rude to say that. You were insinuating that she is a whore. You should have left it alone. She lied at first because it was a shitty situation, but she came clean quick. She cried all night over it which should show remorse and you ignored her. |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 9:46:53 AM EDT
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I'm split between two conclusions.
First that she was still screwing him when you guys started dating, breaking it if sometime between them and now. How long have you been seeing this girl? Second thought it's that she is still screwing him, and probably blew him right before your date. At that time she probably mentioned where you guys were going for dinner tonight. he showed up to fuck with her. Because he's, you know, alpha as fuck. Her reaction just doesn't seem appropriate unless the real issue is much bigger than just a little fib like that. |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 9:55:01 AM EDT
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Some of you guys are ridiculous calling the OP out. Yes his choice of wording in his joke was crass. But a stranger comes up to my girlfriend with an obvious close relationship, yea, I am going to be wanting to know who that is. But there is way more to this story on her part is my feeling.
What woman is going to start crying an hour later about telling a lie and then immediately coming clean about a prior relationship? My gut feeling is there is a lot more going on. I am just glad I don't have to deal with drama like this. |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 9:58:30 AM EDT
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Teh OP should seek out and anally intrude on GF’s ex-fuck buddy.
Take pics. Present them to GF to assert his dominance and kick her to the curb. Then get back on his Grindr app. |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 10:00:41 AM EDT
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She cries all night. I shower and go to bed. Am I dumb for being pissed she lied to me? |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 10:01:54 AM EDT
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Yep, make it up to her with flowers and get some makup sex!
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Posted: 1/25/2019 10:03:29 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: You're shacking up with a girl who was screwing someone else a month or two ago? I figure you're getting what you shopped for. |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 10:04:07 AM EDT
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Maybe try not being an ass and putting her on the spot like that |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 10:04:29 AM EDT
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She should have gotten up and walked out.
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Posted: 1/25/2019 10:15:33 AM EDT
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She should have gotten up and walked out. Who's the Alpha Male now, OP? |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 10:20:02 AM EDT
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You got cucked by the ex and there wasn't shit you could do about it. She probably cried knowing that she wasn't going back with him after dinner and instead is stuck with someone who asks if a dude is an old fuck buddy in a public place. Get your shit together.
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Posted: 1/25/2019 10:22:20 AM EDT
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I was making a joke and had no idea it actually was a fuck buddy. Wasn’t putting anyone on the spot intentionally Quote HistoryQuoted:
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Maybe try not being an ass and putting her on the spot like that |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 10:28:35 AM EDT
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Maybe try not being an ass and putting her on the spot like that You expect her to detail every guy she fucked before meeting you? The fact that she didn't trust you to be an adult about it combined with the way you acted is telling though. |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 10:31:40 AM EDT
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This thread did not go the way OP thought it would!
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Posted: 1/25/2019 10:34:26 AM EDT
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OP will not be growing old with this woman.
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Posted: 1/25/2019 10:43:24 AM EDT
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I'm split between two conclusions. First that she was still screwing him when you guys started dating, breaking it if sometime between them and now. How long have you been seeing this girl? Second thought it's that she is still screwing him, and probably blew him right before your date. At that time she probably mentioned where you guys were going for dinner tonight. he showed up to fuck with her. Because he's, you know, alpha as fuck. Her reaction just doesn't seem appropriate unless the real issue is much bigger than just a little fib like that. While your delivery and approach lacked - asking who he was could have been handled better, I prefer a simple direct approach "Who was he" and see from there what your gut tells you based on her reaction That being said - if your relationship involves a back and forth dialogue that includes a bit a shit giving back and forth with yoru GF - then maybe its not out of the norm to make a jest like asking is that a fuck buddy - you know your relationship better than anyone on GD - and we don't know even how long you have been with your GF - as that is to me a huge factor in whats really going on and her reaction - if you are very recently a couple - then even more so a greater chance one of the two scenarios or a combination of them are playing out. Based on her reactions - off the cuff I will go with she is still seeing the guy - or was very much recently - even if you are a couple Good luck |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 10:44:34 AM EDT
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You reacted poorly.
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Posted: 1/25/2019 10:46:49 AM EDT
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That dude came over knowing she was with a guy and he did it to show YOU op. He let her know what's up and wasn't intimidated by you being there. Sounds like she got played and dropped, you're the rebound. Cuck thread |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 10:51:49 AM EDT
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A few points if I may. The EX coming up was an asshole move on his part. He deliberately put her in a bad spot KNOWING you were going to grill her when he left. And you OP took the bait.
Next. Your phrasing of your so-called ‘joke’ was passive aggressive AND ungentlemanly. You COULD have referred to him as an ex bf. You’d have probably gotten an honest answer. But that wouldn’t have satisfied your desire to make her feel and appear slutty. She may well have been screwing him the same time she was you during your early dating phase. So what ? Unless You’d both agreed to an exclusive early on it doesn’t matter. I seriously doubt they’re still fucking. He wouldn’t have wanted to call attention to their relationship if it was still Going on. You want to fix this and stay with her, or break up. Do one or the other honestly. You DO value honesty, right? Wanna stay together and fix things? Pick up flowers, wine and light some candles and discuss why you were a jerk. Then get the real, whole story from her. Tell her why and how it made you feel. Or don’t. Just try not to be a crass classless boor either way. |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 10:57:23 AM EDT
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No, you shouldn't be pissed.
She was shocked and kinda panicked cause she got caught off guard and then she came clean. That's totally normal. She just didn't want to get yelled at and was scared Let go of it if you like her |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 10:59:18 AM EDT
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Maybe try not being an ass and putting her on the spot like that |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 11:01:01 AM EDT
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Has anyone suggested your GF should eject from a shitty relationship with an asshole?
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Posted: 1/25/2019 11:05:45 AM EDT
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That's not something I would let my lady cry all night about while I go to sleep angry.
Not necessarily wrong to be bothered by the fib on the spot. Should have dropped it and worked it out as soon as she came clean, had some make up fun and woke up to a good day. If you really let her cry all night over what you described, you lose either way because that shit is now filed away to be used against you later, or she's already in the process of getting rid of you. It's a miracle to find a woman that will admit she was wrong and apologize. Rubbing her nose in it after that fact is never a winning strategy. |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 11:06:03 AM EDT
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One of the ARF gals should do a parody thread.
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Posted: 1/25/2019 11:06:27 AM EDT
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Three pages and still no pics of OP's woman or her FB
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Posted: 1/25/2019 11:08:39 AM EDT
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She was probably embarrassed the fuckhead came over to the table like that and just tried to dismiss it as quickly as possible. You can tell it immediately bothered her that she lied and she came clean... I'd drop it Probably took her that long to process what the fuck just happened. Unless there are other red flags that we are unaware of, this is a nothing burger. |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 11:08:40 AM EDT
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She was probably embarrassed the fuckhead came over to the table like that and just tried to dismiss it as quickly as possible. You can tell it immediately bothered her that she lied and she came clean... I'd drop it |
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Posted: 1/25/2019 11:11:03 AM EDT
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OP is crass and would be wise to find a woman that isn't going to spend all night crying because she got caught in a little white lie.
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Posted: 1/25/2019 11:11:13 AM EDT
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Maybe try not being an ass and putting her on the spot like that |
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