How long after a divorce is it ok to get married again??? - Page 2

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Posted: 7/19/2009 6:45:04 PM EDT

[#1]

If you start thinking about getting married again, put your dick in your desk drawer and slam it shut

So you'll remember what it was like the first time.

Posted: 7/19/2009 7:22:30 PM EDT

[#2]

Mrs Ryder was a major help in preparing my divorce papers after my ex was escorted out of "the home" by several ( I counted 8, but there may have been more) LEO's.

I still to this day cannot figure out why they did not take her Ruger Security Six .357 Magnum at the same time. It was in her name, and I wanted it gone.

Oh shit, I'm digressing.

You can get married 10 seconds after you divorce.

But I cannot recommend it.

Take your time.

Posted: 7/19/2009 7:24:34 PM EDT

[#3]

Why the hell would you want to do that again for so soon? Glutton for punishment?

Posted: 7/19/2009 7:26:52 PM EDT

[#4]

Quoted:

Quoted:
5-6 HUNDRED YEARS

+1

Posted: 7/19/2009 7:49:51 PM EDT

[#5]

The real question is how soon you can trust your judgement as to whether you should get married or not. Here's a tip that I have learned by watching a lot of divorced people... you will probably think your judgement is fine pretty soon. You will probably be wrong.

Posted: 7/19/2009 8:02:32 PM EDT

[#6]

Quoted:
Very simple answer from someone has made that mistake.

NEVER get married again. There is no need to have a piece of paper from the government to be with the one you love.

Sound advice.

Posted: 7/19/2009 8:05:00 PM EDT

[#7]

Quoted:
87 Day's, of course

/thread.

This time just make a better choice before you do something stupid again

Posted: 7/19/2009 8:10:20 PM EDT

[#8]

Pace your self, don't be in a hurry. No need to marry at this point. you don't want to on the rebound for both your sakes. Enjoy.

Posted: 7/19/2009 8:13:27 PM EDT

[#9]

Quoted:

Quoted:
"A second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience."

Dude, thats deep. Now I'm really stumped.

Because Sam Johnson first said it, not Torqued.

Posted: 7/19/2009 8:19:19 PM EDT

[#10]

Quoted:
Never...

I'm dead serious.
I'm never doing this again. Been doing it for 23 years, if it doesn't work out, I proved I could sustain it awhile...no need to prove it again.

That's exactly the same thing the wife and I said to each other while we were "dating".

ETA: Both of us were married for over fifteen years the first time around and "dated"/lived together for five years before tying the knot again.

Posted: 7/19/2009 8:26:48 PM EDT

[#11]

You want to marry before she can remarry.....its sort of a grudge marriage thing!

Posted: 7/19/2009 8:27:59 PM EDT

[#12]

I was remarried within 11 months.

Posted: 7/19/2009 8:30:01 PM EDT

[#13]

This thread is full of FAIL!

The correct answer is .... WTF were you thinking getting married in the first place?

Posted: 7/19/2009 8:31:31 PM EDT

[#14]

Quoted:
"A second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience."

Do you have political aspirations? Sounds like something a politician would say to his electorate.

Posted: 7/19/2009 8:38:56 PM EDT

[#15]

Quoted:

right after you sign the papers

THIS

Posted: 7/19/2009 8:48:59 PM EDT

[#16]

8 months.

And just passed 7 years this time around and couldn't be happier.

Posted: 7/19/2009 8:50:54 PM EDT

[#17]

Depends on when you two want to.

My dad married my mom about a month after his first divorce was final.

33 years this August.

Posted: 7/19/2009 8:54:09 PM EDT

[#18]

never again

Posted: 7/19/2009 8:55:21 PM EDT

[#19]

Quoted:
Same day the divorce is final.

No kidding. I went with my new girlfriend to her final divorce hearing. I wound up being a WITNESS to her final divorce papers. (Just a signature). Married her about 18 months later, 9 years after that she died. Met my latest GF 11 months after wife's death, we're living together.

Posted: 7/19/2009 9:02:43 PM EDT

[#20]

You are already in the courthouse..............Like when to resume sex after your woman has a baby........depends whether she is in a private room or a ward......

Posted: 7/20/2009 6:22:49 AM EDT

[#21]

Quoted:
To a different, much better woman that is.......

So, didn't learn your lesson the first time, eh?

Posted: 7/20/2009 6:23:57 AM EDT

[#22]

As soon as post-divorce amnesia sets in.

Posted: 7/20/2009 6:29:02 AM EDT

[#23]

Quoted:
5-6 HUNDRED YEARS

righton

Posted: 7/20/2009 6:35:20 AM EDT

[#24]

Sure, go ahead and get married again. Then when she divorces you and takes half your shit like the first one did, you'll be left with a half of a half of what you started with.

DUH!

Posted: 7/20/2009 6:39:43 AM EDT

[#25]

Quoted:
why in the holy-blue-hell would you want to do it again? slow learner?

http://aeonex.files.wordpress.com/2009/06/forrest-gump.jpg

^This.

I was stupid once. I will know better next time.

Posted: 7/20/2009 7:02:13 AM EDT

[#26]

Only as long as it takes to draft a prenup!

Posted: 7/20/2009 7:02:41 AM EDT

[#27]

Quoted:

To a different, much better woman that is.......

NEVER AGAIN

Posted: 7/20/2009 7:08:29 AM EDT

[#28]

Dr. Laura says you should date a person at least a year before becoming engaged. If you have children from your first marriage you should wait until those children are 18 before beginning dating.

Just out of curiosity, how long were you married? Do you have any children? How long have you been divorced?

Posted: 7/20/2009 7:11:10 AM EDT

[#29]

Quoted:
Long enough to really think about what the fuck you're about to do this time. That's for damned sure!

The Lorax speaks the truth.

Posted: 7/20/2009 7:32:37 AM EDT

[#30]

Posted: 7/20/2009 7:41:00 AM EDT

[#31]

Quoted:

Quoted:

"A second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience."

Dude, thats deep. Now I'm really stumped.

I'll tell ya what happened to me...

Was going through my divorce and met a gal at work

who was going through a divorce as well.

Both of our divorces were finalized within a few months of each other. We were very fortunate that we didn't have any children from our previous relationships!

We ended up getting separate apartments in the same apartment complex.

After about 9 months....

we moved into an apartment together. (What did you think I was going to say?

)

About a year after that, we bought a house together.

Several months after buying our house, we ran off to Las Vegas and got married on the floor of the Grand Canyon on Halloween. We figured that since the "traditional" way of getting married didn't work so well, that we'd try something a little different.

All of the time leading up to our marriage, we had a LOT of discussions about why our past marriages failed, what it was we really wanted out of being married, and extensive discussions on topics such as how to manage finances, philosophies on raising kids, division of work in the household, views on religion/spirtuality, views on sex guns, motorcycles, etc.

She is a 7th generation Texan... shot her first deer when she was 10... is a good cook... and really smart... so much so that I don't mind letting her out of the kitchen to help me with stuff.

We have been together now for over 8 years and have a wonderful 3.5 year old daughter.

I can honestly say that I have never been happier than I am now. I wish I had known this woman and married her the first time around!

There are good women out there... take your time and be smart about it and learn from your mistakes!

Good luck.

Posted: 7/20/2009 7:41:56 AM EDT

[#32]

Quoted:

Quoted:
5-6 HUNDRED YEARS

+1

+ 5-6 HUNDRED

Posted: 7/20/2009 7:42:32 AM EDT

[#33]

Never ever again. Think about what made you get married in the first place. You know you screwed up and now you want to do it again! I have been married 25 yrs and I will never ever get married again. I was a way from home a lot is why it has lasted so long and now that I'm not. Just shoot me

I will cut it off and feed it to the fish before I ever say I do again

Posted: 7/20/2009 7:42:56 AM EDT

[#34]

Quoted:
"A second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience."

I still remember O_P saying that to me when I got rehitched.

It's working out much better this time, though.

Posted: 7/20/2009 7:55:38 AM EDT

[#35]

Quoted:
"A second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience."

Very well said

OP, I'd give it a couple of years but thats just me. Too easy to jump into something fucked up after a divorce. You think its better than the last one so its good enough, don't settle. Give yourself time to figure out what you really want.

Posted: 7/20/2009 8:03:08 AM EDT

[#36]

Quoted:
The real question is how soon you can trust your judgement as to whether you should get married or not. Here's a tip that I have learned by watching a lot of divorced people... you will probably think your judgement is fine pretty soon. You will probably be wrong.

Exactly. The way I see it, I was fooled for a LONG fucking time by my wife. The next one is going to have to work for my trust

Posted: 7/20/2009 8:03:52 AM EDT

[#37]

Quoted:
Never...

I'm dead serious.
I'm never doing this again. Been doing it for 23 years, if it doesn't work out, I proved I could sustain it awhile...no need to prove it again.

+1

Posted: 7/20/2009 8:11:56 AM EDT

[#38]

Quoted:
At least wait 24 hours.

Meh.

If you're already down at the courthouse anyway...

Posted: 7/20/2009 8:42:48 AM EDT

[#39]

Quoted:
Dr. Laura says you should date a person at least a year before becoming engaged. If you have children from your first marriage you should wait until those children are 18 before beginning dating.

So....according to Dr. Laura, I should have waited 16 years before I'm allowed to date??? I'm fine with the "not getting married thing" but 16 years is a long time...

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