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Posted: 4/14/2023 7:57:01 PM EDT
[#1]
Quote HistoryQuoted: And I will NEVER marry again! That’s the spirit!! |
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Posted: 4/14/2023 7:57:27 PM EDT
[#2]
Kind of depends, you have to accept the kid comes first.
A bigger issue would be WHY she is single, serviceman husband KIA is a lot different from THOT who got knocked up at a party. |
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Posted: 4/14/2023 7:58:03 PM EDT
[#3]
Quote HistoryQuoted: That seems fairly normal and healthy for you. I would like a juice box after banging Jessica Alba as well. 
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Posted: 4/14/2023 7:58:15 PM EDT
[#4]
I wouldn’t date a single mother because I’m not a lesbian.
If I were a man, there would be a lot of ifs in the scenario. Dating as a fling? I wouldn’t do this, but if one is, whether she’s a mother is largely irrelevant. It’s not meant to be permanent, and you’ll never be a father figure. Dating to find a wife? Why is she single? Is the kid’s dad involved, and what is his general character? Has she gone to therapy to resolve any issues she may have that lead to her being single as well as any issues that arise from her becoming single? Is she looking for a husband or a paycheck? How does she parent, and can she include you in the parenting picture in a way that lets you be an effective parental authority? How do her children behave? Can she demonstrate respect, constructive conflict, and effective conflict resolution skills? It’s always going to be more complicated than dating someone with no kids in tow. It wouldn’t be a dealbreaker on its own. |
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Posted: 4/14/2023 7:58:56 PM EDT
[#5]
Quote HistoryQuoted: i want my HookSingleMotherTM to resemble dark angel era jessica alba and not speak a word of english and chatter away at me en espanol the entire time before shooing me out post bang with the lunchable and capri sun pouch and some granola bars and a cookie.  Juice would be appropriate because her gut looks like a fucking orange peel. Gross. |
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Posted: 4/14/2023 7:59:23 PM EDT
[#6]
Absolutely, and currently dating a single mom. At 48, I don't want one that hasn't been married before or without kids. Huge red flag.
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:01:05 PM EDT
[#7]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I wouldn’t date a single mother because I’m not a lesbian. If I were a man, there would be a lot of ifs in the scenario. Dating as a fling? I wouldn’t do this, but if one is, whether she’s a mother is largely irrelevant. It’s not meant to be permanent, and you’ll never be a father figure. Dating to find a wife? Why is she single? Is the kid’s dad involved, and what is his general character? Has she gone to therapy to resolve any issues she may have that lead to her being single as well as any issues that arise from her becoming single? Is she looking for a husband or a paycheck? How does she parent, and can she include you in the parenting picture in a way that lets you be an effective parental authority? How do her children behave? Can she demonstrate respect, constructive conflict, and effective conflict resolution skills? It’s always going to be more complicated than dating someone with no kids in tow. It wouldn’t be a dealbreaker on its own. Exactly. That is a lot of work to try to figure out (and whatever im told is being taken with a HUGE grain of salt) when you can move on to the next and not have to deal with any of that. |
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:01:34 PM EDT
[#8]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Juice would be appropriate because her gut looks like a fucking orange peel. Gross.  Attached File |
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:03:18 PM EDT
[#9]
sure but I mean, she'd have to be ten times more charming than that Arnold on Green Acres.
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:04:37 PM EDT
[#10]
I’d love to say that I’ve learned from my past mistakes, but honestly I probably haven’t.
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:05:13 PM EDT
[#11]
Nope! I have and wouldn’t ever do it again.
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:13:22 PM EDT
[#12]
 The Fellas - Thot Mommies (Music Video) |
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:14:20 PM EDT
[#13]
Quote HistoryQuoted: No. I have options. I dont have to settle for that. I can see a lot of ways it will suck more than an relationship with one who isnt, and there is no plus side. @CastleBravo91 I’m curious. Are you saying you’d hold out for a woman who was never married or someone divorced with no kids, or are you saying something else? You didn’t state your age. |
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:14:35 PM EDT
[#14]
Default answer is no, however I could imagine very limited circumstances where it could happen (I.e., she was widowed, so no baby daddy drama).
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:16:15 PM EDT
[#15]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I'd love to say that I've learned from my past mistakes, but honestly I probably haven't.  Attached File |
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:19:22 PM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: I’d love to say that I’ve learned from my past mistakes, but honestly I probably haven’t. You still post in GD, so that is obvious |
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:20:38 PM EDT
[#17]
Depends on a lot of things dad around? age of kid? mom financially stable? number of kids? For me one kid not in diapers dad gone and mom has a decent job I would consider it. Three kids dad around all the time and mom drawing a check is a big no for me.
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:23:12 PM EDT
[#18]
Quote HistoryQuoted: @CastleBravo91 I’m curious. Are you saying you’d hold out for a woman who was never married or someone divorced with no kids, or are you saying something else? You didn’t state your age. Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: No. I have options. I dont have to settle for that. I can see a lot of ways it will suck more than an relationship with one who isnt, and there is no plus side. @CastleBravo91 I’m curious. Are you saying you’d hold out for a woman who was never married or someone divorced with no kids, or are you saying something else? You didn’t state your age. You would need to piss on the kids to establish dominance, which would most likely interfere with the relationship between you and the mom negatively. How do women not know these things |
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:23:18 PM EDT
[#19]
Chances are slim it will be a good move.
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:25:41 PM EDT
[#20]
INB4 "Irish twins"
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:26:49 PM EDT
[#21]
I married a single mom of three kids when I was in my early 30s. Looking back it was the worst decision of my life. Well, one of them anyway.
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:28:23 PM EDT
[#22]
hard no
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:28:47 PM EDT
[#23]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I married a single mom of three kids when I was in my early 30s. Looking back it was the worst decision of my life. Well, one of them anyway.  Attached File |
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:30:40 PM EDT
[#24]
You will always have a connection to your ex whom you formed a child with. I wouldn't 100% write off dating a single mom, but it's not a good bet.
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:31:13 PM EDT
[#25]
Quote HistoryQuoted: OP: you gonna shoplift the pootie or what, babe? @beitodesstrafe @WhiskersTheCat SHOP LIFT THE POOTIE |
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:34:57 PM EDT
[#26]
Quote HistoryQuoted: SHOP LIFT THE POOTIE SHOPLIFTED (mebe) |
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:35:14 PM EDT
[#27]
I don't date women but, dating a guy with kids would be dependent on several things.
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:35:38 PM EDT
[#28]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I don't date women but, dating a guy with kids would be dependent on several things. Mainly if he's bad ass |
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:36:27 PM EDT
[#29]
No, at this time I would not consider it.
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:37:14 PM EDT
[#30]
Quote HistoryQuoted: outlier here apparently. dated and married a single mom 26 years ago. still going strong - no issues. the 'you'll never be #1' thing is overblown. didn't need my wife to tie my shoes for me... we found a good balance. i will say this though -- some details DO matter. the age / mental state of the child. is the ex a dirtbag. how 'strong' is the woman. getting on the same page in terms of discipline, etc. |
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:37:39 PM EDT
[#31]
Quoted: I have a question for you all............ Would you date a single mom? If so inclined, please explain your reasoning. 10 reasons not to date a single mother: 1. You will always be her last priority. Her children will come first, her dog second and you will be last. 2. The children will never respect you and they will always tell you, "you're not my real dad" 3. Her scumbag ex will always be in the picture and you will have to interact with him. 4. She will always hold a torch for her scumbag ex and she may cheat on you with him. 5. If you have a good relationship with the child, when the woman leaves you--as she eventually will--you will also lose the relationship with the child. 6. She will expect you to support her children. Why should you pay for another man's child? 7. Why did she leave her ex? If the ex was a bad man, then you know that she has bad judgment. If she left a good man, then you know that she's a bad woman 8. Why is she a single mom? Did she intentionally get pregnant in an effort to trap the father into marriage? If so maybe she will do the same thing to you 9. If she intentionally got pregnant as a single mother, what does this tell you about her lack of judgment? 10. If a single mother wants you, chances are that she wants you not as a man but as an insurance policy for her children. |
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:37:47 PM EDT
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:38:15 PM EDT
[#33]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Mainly if he's bad ass Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: I don't date women but, dating a guy with kids would be dependent on several things. Mainly if he's bad ass My definition of a badass, heck yeah. I doubt the GD would agree with me on what that means though |
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:38:53 PM EDT
[#34]
Quoted: I have a question for you all............ Would you date a single mom? If so inclined, please explain your reasoning. Engaged to one. I’m a single father. Wasn’t my first choice but unfortunately women in their 30s that do not have children all wanted to as their biological clock was ticking.. my sons a teenager I’m done having kids, in my 40s. My fiancé is not my top priority, my son is and she knows it. And I don’t expect to be hers. Works for us. It will change when the kids are older but for now we make it work. |
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:39:35 PM EDT
[#35]
I did some science with women in my early 20s. The one question I got a 100% positive response to was this:
If you're at the beach and someone yells shark and a you see a guy run towards the water with a knife in his teeth and then after a few minutes he drags a dead shark he knifed onto the beach slightly out of breath, then points at you and says "You. Come on let's go" are you going to go with that guy? 100% yes Are you going to sleep with that guy? Weakest answer was "probably" |
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:39:49 PM EDT
[#36]
Quote HistoryQuoted: No, at this time I would not consider it.
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:40:02 PM EDT
[#37]
Quote HistoryQuoted: And you shouldn't be. If my wife died/divorced the new fling damn sure wouldn't be more important than my kids. You're logic is completely fucked up. Um, I didn't say it was bad, just that it is. It's a good thing to be aware of going in. My logic is 100% on target. Your reading something into my observation was fucked up though. |
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:40:22 PM EDT
[#38]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Mainly if he's bad ass 
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:40:29 PM EDT
[#39]
Quote HistoryQuoted: outlier here apparently. dated and married a single mom 26 years ago. still going strong - no issues. the 'you'll never be #1' thing is overblown. didn't need my wife to tie my shoes for me... we found a good balance. i will say this though -- some details DO matter. the age / mental state of the child. is the ex a dirtbag. how 'strong' is the woman. getting on the same page in terms of discipline, etc. This and so much this and on the second part...  |
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:41:07 PM EDT
[#40]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I did some science with women in my early 20s. The one question I got a 100% positive response to was this: If you're at the beach and someone yells shark and a you see a guy run towards the water with a knife in his teeth and then after a few minutes he drags a dead shark he knifed onto the beach slightly out of breath, then points at you and says "You. Come on let's go" are you going to go with that guy? 100% yes Are you going to sleep with that guy? Weakest answer was "probably" brah i'm working this into a future safety share.
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:41:26 PM EDT
[#41]
I'm 46, the Brazilian GF is 40 and has a 10 year old son.
She made me a priority when I was there visiting them. The reality is, women around the age that I would date, that want to date me, are going to likely be divorced and have kids. You just have to find a good one that doesn't have a shit attitude about relationships. |
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:42:39 PM EDT
[#42]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I'm 46, the Brazilian GF is 40 and has a 10 year old son. She made me a priority when I was there visiting them. The reality is, women around the age that I would date, that want to date me, are going to likely be divorced and have kids. You just have to find a good one that doesn't have a shit attitude about relationships.
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:43:00 PM EDT
[#43]
No. I chose not to have kids already, hell my marriage went south partially because she got baby fever and I had already told her 6 years previous I didn't want children.
I don't want to raise anyone else's kids, took a soft try at it and when she left me, I'm guessing her daughter was like "hey, where did he go?". Nope, not my deal. Course, at my age many women are dating after they were married for 10 years and had 2+ kids. Nope, not my thing, I'm sure someone else out there is good for it though. Funny enough, back when I was dating and not jaded, the ones who always wanted to get laid on the first date were the single moms. The ones who didn't have kids were much less captive to their desires, so to speak. |
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:45:05 PM EDT
[#44]
Depends if the dad is still in the picture. No dad no problem. Im not putting up with coparenting bs again and having to plan my weekends around baby daddy.
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:45:13 PM EDT
[#45]
Quote HistoryQuoted: Funny enough, back when I was dating and not jaded, the ones who always wanted to get laid on the first date were the single moms. The ones who didn't have kids were much less captive to their desires, so to speak. |
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:46:05 PM EDT
[#46]
Quote HistoryQuoted: can you afford to be that picky, my dude? Quote HistoryQuoted: Quoted: No, at this time I would not consider it. How's your unpickiness working out for you? 
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:46:23 PM EDT
[#47]
I was going to add, but forgot... if you're under 35 or so... yeah, I'd avoid single moms. You're likely going to be looking at women a few years younger. Finding one without kids shouldn't be too difficult.
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:48:55 PM EDT
[#48]
Quote HistoryQuoted: How's your unpickiness working out for you? focusing on saving as much money as possible and getting out of the rat race before merica collapses and/or civil war II starts.
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:48:59 PM EDT
[#49]
Quote HistoryQuoted: can you afford to be that picky, my dude? I did say "not at this time". I may reconsider in the future, but I have my reasons right now. I also don't think much good comes from abandoning one's not-unreasonable standards out of desperation. |
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Posted: 4/14/2023 8:49:51 PM EDT
[#50]
Quote HistoryQuoted: I did say "not at this time". I may reconsider in the future, but I have my reasons right now. I also don't think much good comes from abandoning one's not-unreasonable standards out of desperation. |
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