I just hope my daughter doesn't end up with a giant shit head. that's all I am asking for. He could even be a little retarded as long as he treats her properly

At 14, you have very little control over her.  Hopefully you raised her right.

Your daughter is in a relationship with a good kid from a good family that grew out of a friendship. And you’re tolerating it? I’d think you’d be overjoyed! Or were you hoping for a lesbian or a nun?


ETA: Not that there’s anything wrong with being a nun or a lesbian.

Mine sorta 'dated' at 13.  Which really meant had a boy she talked to in school and chatted with.  A couple 2 and 3 date wonders around dances at 15/16.  She has met a guy she really likes and been with him for a bit under 2yrs. Telling the truth she is incredibly picky so by the time they make it through her filter I'm not likely to hate them.  Current guy is decent, friendly, a good student, and respects her boundaries and goes out of his way to be there when she needs something so I approve.  No, it's not at all easy to see the development of your 'little girl' into a woman but we think we did a decent job and I don't have any grandkids as she graduates high-school this month so fairly happy with the outcomes here.

Nothing wrong with them starting to have some opposite sex relationships in early teens.  Set limits that open up as trust and responsibility are demonstrated and I guess hope you don't get a nightmare kid personality!

This so much this lol. Here's a few other great ideas too that you can implement until she moves out...

Remove the door(s) to her bedroom.
No cellphone unless on way to work or school and no smartphones and parental locks.
No social media accounts.
Only approved television programming 15 minutes a day.
Up by 6:30am in bed by 8:15pm so she can read a pre selected book prior to sleep seven days a week.
Only approved clothing choices.
Friends have to pass through a twenty two point checklist.
Random unspecified room and property searches 4x weekly.
Then go ahead and hire a school kid to keep tabs on her and report back to you at least 2x weekly.

When I was 19 I had a gf that said at first that she was 16, she wanted sex pretty bad but before we had the opportunity, she admitted she was only 13.
I dodged that bullet, but I'm sure she found someone to take care of her needs.

It doesn't seem that unusual to me, for the most part that's my daughter's attitude too, and we've had conversations about "dating market value" and how much better her options are going to get if she continues to focus on school and her music, gets into a good school, etc.

Whether that lasts once she gets to high school is a whole other question. In 8th grade there's lots of variability, some girls are fucking, some more are trying really hard to attract boys, some aren't really or are only interested in one in particular.

I can tell which of her friends are which pretty easily.

Seems to me keeping them busy helps a lot too.

I'm really not as prudish as I probably sound though, I just have a daughter who has big plans she needs to stay focused on to realize, so maybe she does fall into your Olympian category. It isn't stopping her from having a little crush on the nicest boy she knows though so I figure it'll be OK.

Yep!  Never be too friendly with the dad too soon or you will lose the girl.

I had one dad like me too much and it prevented her from dating me.  

Boyfriend in the common understanding of the term?  Never.

Be courted by a man?  When she's mature enough to raise children.  Actual age can vary.

Pretty much this.

I don't think you have much control over what age you can only offer guidance.

Agreed. It's also antithetical to what makes a responsible gun owner and the anti-gunners use shitheads like that to justify gun control.

Any father who tries to intimidate his daughter's boyfriend with a gun is too irresponsible to be a father nor a gun owner.