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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:08:37 AM EDT
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I actually really like the girl she's a little different.
Has a tattoo of a Smith & Wesson model 19 on her inner arm... At least she has good taste. But I can't deal with her... Issues... |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:09:45 AM EDT
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So I've been dating this girl who was married for 10 years to an abusive husband. She has PTSD and any conversation you have with her about it she flies off the handle and starts bawling and it ends up being a huge fight. She just wants to sit in her home, drink, and live in the past crying about what happened to her. I've told her I'm not like that and I'd like to begin a relationship with her and for her to move forward...but she just can't get past what happened to her. I guess it's time to move on. You just can't fix broken people. 
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:10:19 AM EDT
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You have a real project there.
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:10:34 AM EDT
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Next.
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:10:34 AM EDT
[#5]
Sweep the leg....walk away.
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:11:16 AM EDT
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I actually really like the girl she's a little different. Has a tattoo of a Smith & Wesson model 19 on her inner arm... At least she has good taste. But I can't deal with her... Issues... |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:12:08 AM EDT
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:12:11 AM EDT
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Why would you want to? She has a rocking body and knows how to use it... |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:13:26 AM EDT
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There was a great post her a long time ago about what women you should never ever date, and it is spot on.
Abused women are one of them. |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:14:33 AM EDT
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Sex is a powerful motivator... She has a rocking body and knows how to use it... Quote HistoryQuoted:
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Why would you want to? She has a rocking body and knows how to use it... |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:15:29 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: So string her along for six months or until she super glues your dick to your thigh, whichever happens first. |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:15:35 AM EDT
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People who stay in an abusive relationship for years are damaged before they were ever abused and that seldom changes after the abusive relationship ends. People can change if they really want to but they seldom do change save for a small percentage.
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:17:07 AM EDT
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Eject.
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:20:08 AM EDT
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Has she ever seen a therapist? Would she be willing to? You cannot fix a broken person, especially if she isn't willing or able to help herself. Sorry brother. You only get ONE life. It's not your job to fix every broken woman (or man) out there. If you have kids and/or get married, you are betting your life and your happiness on that person in a big way. Picking a partner is one area where it is perfectly reasonable to be selfish and stone cold rational. There is absolutely no reason to take unnecessary risks when there are a million fish in the sea. You can worry about unconditional love, commitment and all that entails AFTER you find the right person. |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:21:55 AM EDT
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I live in a small town and I'm bored... Fishing in a really small pond. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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You should ask yourself why you were attracted to her in the first place. Fishing in a really small pond. It'll be a nice step up in stability. |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:22:16 AM EDT
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Run.
As fast as you can. |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:23:23 AM EDT
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Noppppe
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:23:24 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: If you're already at this point, might as well start dating strippers. It'll be a nice step up in stability. |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:25:12 AM EDT
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Sex is a powerful motivator... She has a rocking body and knows how to use it... Quote HistoryQuoted:
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Why would you want to? She has a rocking body and knows how to use it... |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:27:29 AM EDT
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Why would you want to? She has a rocking body and knows how to use it...  Attached File |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:28:14 AM EDT
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My mother had that happen to her. Ex was some black op in Army during Vietnam. The guy was sent to kill one person and get out alive to repeat it later. He can track anyone anywhere and show up anywhere and disappear just as fast. He used her as a beating post, he has problems. She let it go and married 2 guys who are opposite of what he was.
But if the female wants to live like that its time to move on you cant fix someone who isnt willing to move forward. They like drama, ive seen my share of drama from females. I just cant believe that they feed off it like a baby does sucking on a tit. |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:28:33 AM EDT
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Sex is a powerful motivator... She has a rocking body and knows how to use it... Quote HistoryQuoted:
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Why would you want to? She has a rocking body and knows how to use it... 
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:33:41 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: Sex is a powerful motivator... She has a rocking body and knows how to use it... Hold up. Post pics so we can give informed advice. |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:34:28 AM EDT
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Why would you want to? She has a rocking body and knows how to use it... Maybe I wouldn’t get it. I think i’m ok with that. |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:38:29 AM EDT
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You either love the person and are willing to go through hell with them or you don't. It's not easy. Considering you are not married I understand considering the out.
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:39:39 AM EDT
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Eject quick
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:42:18 AM EDT
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You can't save her.
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:42:35 AM EDT
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Eh. Guy could be hot as the sun with a magic dick, and he still wouldn’t be worth that nonsense. Maybe I wouldn’t get it. I think i’m ok with that. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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Why would you want to? She has a rocking body and knows how to use it... Maybe I wouldn’t get it. I think i’m ok with that. |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:43:18 AM EDT
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She was probably married to a really nice guy and this is just her alcohol induced psychologically suicidal self that destroyed the last relationship and all that follow.
RUN ....................(don't care how hot she looks) Danger Will Robinson |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:43:32 AM EDT
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You either love the person and are willing to go through hell with them or you don't. It's not easy. Considering you are not married I understand considering the out. |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:45:25 AM EDT
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Quote HistoryQuoted: No, it's not at the L word yet. They are just dating. Evidently she can sling her fun tunnel better than OP has encountered, but that just leads to more questions, not a declaration of devotion. |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:47:44 AM EDT
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Just a joke, you are of course right. Quote HistoryQuoted:
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Why would you want to? She has a rocking body and knows how to use it... Maybe I wouldn’t get it. I think i’m ok with that. 
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:55:47 AM EDT
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She had issues before the abuse.
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Posted: 11/9/2019 12:58:42 AM EDT
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 Run |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 1:08:43 AM EDT
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There are women out there that are good in bed and aren't fucking crazy.
Try to find one of those instead. |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 1:15:01 AM EDT
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RUN!!! run as fast as you can... don't pass go don't collect $200... GTFO NOW!!!!
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Posted: 11/9/2019 1:28:57 AM EDT
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So I've been dating this girl who was married for 10 years to an abusive husband. She has PTSD and any conversation you have with her about it she flies off the handle and starts bawling and it ends up being a huge fight. She just wants to sit in her home, drink, and live in the past crying about what happened to her. I've told her I'm not like that and I'd like to begin a relationship with her and for her to move forward...but she just can't get past what happened to her. I guess it's time to move on. You just can't fix broken people. Not to take anything way from her. People have to want to get better to be better. The tragedy becomes their life and then becomes them because they need the stimulation from it. Without the want and a healthy replacement they will just fucking stand there frozen in time. Just fucking holding on to this event(s). If they show no will to let go and move on there’s nothing you can do. |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 1:34:16 AM EDT
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It's not your job to fix her. But it is your choice to stick around until she decides to help herself move forward.
That's a tall order, and only you can make the decision of how much you are able to tolerate. |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 1:37:35 AM EDT
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I dealt with many of those types in my previous occupation. They actually want abusers for relationships in most cases. If you are kind and decent to them they usually will come to disrespect or dislike you and will treat you like shit. It is better to just ghost them and be done with it. Very likely she will not even care or contact you which says it all.
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Posted: 11/9/2019 1:39:41 AM EDT
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Not about fixing broken people, its about their unwillingness to change through therapy.
RUN MOTHERFUCKER! |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 1:54:55 AM EDT
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broken is broken. life is too short.
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Posted: 11/9/2019 2:05:32 AM EDT
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Sounds like my brothers type of gal. He’s getting ready to start marriage #3 to yet another.
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Posted: 11/9/2019 2:12:48 AM EDT
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I like dating women with daddy issues.
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Posted: 11/9/2019 2:13:20 AM EDT
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Eh. Guy could be hot as the sun with a magic dick, and he still wouldn’t be worth that nonsense. Maybe I wouldn’t get it. I think i’m ok with that. |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 2:23:12 AM EDT
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Eject.
Plenty of young single women who don't have mental issues. she can't change her past but until she takes responsibilities for her actions and takes steps to better her life like going to therapy I would avoid being with her. FWIW there are broken men out there too. Hey usually identify as MGTOW. They think all women are evil because they had a bad breakup with some crazy b***h Edit: also take a look at yourself and who you date. I know a lot of guys who attract women like this. These women tend to be very insecure and require minimal work to get in bed and some men gravitate towards that. Good women require a lot of work up front, their filter is designedly to reject like 99% of men and you have to bust your ass to break down those walls and build trust But once you do it's a solid relationship. Broken women let anyone in which is great short term but once that honeymoon phase wears off, usually a few months you realize the two of you are not compatible and it's a nightmare trying to make it work. |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 2:28:01 AM EDT
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You either love the person and are willing to go through hell with them or you don't. It's not easy. Considering you are not married I understand considering the out. Date a Borderline/Bipolar and get your back to me. |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 2:41:16 AM EDT
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In my experience, women like that tend to use their past as an excuse to do all kinds of fucked up shit, including treating you like dirt at times.
"you don't know what I went through" "you don't know what it's like" and my personal favorite... "you acting just like he did" |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 2:41:52 AM EDT
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Eject
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Posted: 11/9/2019 2:47:23 AM EDT
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"STFU or I'll give you something to cry about."
Just kidding. Run. |
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Posted: 11/9/2019 3:00:50 AM EDT
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Run, run, run.
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