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Your kid may be having sex. They may not. But you don't know. Even if they're "too busy with school" or "interested in sports" or whatever people always say in these threads.
I can't imagine what the number of partners must be for some young men and women now with Snapchat, Twitter, Tindr, and all the other social media. I lived in a flop house after I got out of the Navy. Bunch of guys renting it, rotating cast of crashers. Party every night. A bunch of my roommates had high school girls coming over when they were supposed to be in school, or after school, or on weekends. Some of them lived there for periods of time. One guy's girl moved in halfway through her senior year and stayed. They lived together for a few years. |
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OP has no idea what it's like to have his heart walking around out there outside of his chest. When I went through the academy, I had the story of Jenni Lyn Watson told to me (first hand) by one of my instructors, Undersheriff Warren Darby. Changed my life forever. Jenni Lyns Dad speaks View Quote I can tell you that her father is easily 5X stronger than i am. |
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Please knock it off with the whole "you hurt my daughter, i kill you" crap. comes across as weak. Was talking on phone with girl I had one date with, but respect enough for more. Unbeknownst to me, her family is there and her dad asks to speak with me. Then proceeds with the whole 'what do you want with my baby girl" tripe... and you absolutely cannot say it over the phone and be convincing, you are not Liam Neeson. I was polite but even if he was joking like he claimed at the end of the talk, he still sounds like a douchebag. The fact he's not a Frank Sinatra fan didn't help him either. I don't blame him for being protective, I would be the same but there are better ways of going about it. For starters, this should have been done in person. Rant off.. View Quote meh. Kid stuff, |
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Older sister had a bf who hit her once.
Once. A dad does what needs to be done when it involves his little girls. Txl |
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Personal observation, but the daddies that are most likely to do that are the least likely to deserve respect or to receive it. From their daughters or their daughters' dates. They're also the most likely to be wrapped around their little princesses' fingers and utterly blind to the girls' faults. They shield their daughters from consequences and raise manipulative, overly indulged young ladies.
There's nothing wrong with being protective, but the lessons learned from behavior like that aren't necessarily the lessons you might think they are, nor are they the lessons you necessarily want your daughters or their dates learning. |
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Personal observation, but the daddies that are most likely to do that are the least likely to deserve respect or to receive it. From their daughters or their daughters' dates. They're also the most likely to be wrapped around their little princesses' fingers and utterly blind to the girls' faults. They shield their daughters from consequences and raise manipulative, overly indulged young ladies. There's nothing wrong with being protective, but the lessons learned from behavior like that aren't necessarily the lessons you might think they are, nor are they the lessons you necessarily want your daughters or their dates learning. View Quote Appreciate your insight Naamah, and I agree with you Earlier today I took my daughter to lunch, and I ended up being the shoulder to cry on over a problem that will probably end her relationship with her current boyfriend. I actually thought of this discussion while I was listening to her to talk over sushi and lo mein. Long story short, the current BF is suffocating her and has become a jealous little turd - even though he has absolutely nothing to be jealous about. Despite her assurances to the contrary to him, she feels the relationship is becoming toxic over this systemic insecurity. I'm very pleased and proud that she has the sense to eject when someone starts to treat her like a possession. I was also ... grateful ... that she sought me out for both my advice and my shoulder. Although there were plenty of tears, her dignity and self-respect remained fully intact. That's my girl. |
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Wow, did not expect this thread to jump 5 pages in a day....
As for accusing me of abandoning this thread, I have this thing called "work" that I do at a job where internet browsing is looked down upon. Then there is also the sleep, eating etc. I no longer live to surd ARF'com every minute. If it was 2 months down the road, then yeah, it's thread abandonment. And the reason I do that occasionally is when I realize others are determined to be stupid rather than listening. I'm not wasting my time with fools, there is me telling the way it is & that's it. As for the girl she is 26 & my understanding is that she doesn't live at home just was over there for a family gathering. As for the dad, my complaint was not that he wanted to be protective of his child I understand that perfectly. She is a woman worthy of respect & I know this from reasons I'll not post here. My complaint was that he wanted to try to be intimidating over the phone without having even seen my appearance* or asked any questions about my nature or family background/etc. Ironically she texted me later saying he thinks I'm ok & the only thing I said was me & him had similar tastes in music. Both Johnny Cash fans. *I do not dress like a ghetto-goblin. |
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Appreciate your insight Naamah, and I agree with you Earlier today I took my daughter to lunch, and I ended up being the shoulder to cry on over a problem that will probably end her relationship with her current boyfriend. I actually thought of this discussion while I was listening to her to talk over sushi and lo mein. Long story short, the current BF is suffocating her and has become a jealous little turd - even though he has absolutely nothing to be jealous about. Despite her assurances to the contrary to him, she feels the relationship is becoming toxic over this systemic insecurity. I'm very pleased and proud that she has the sense to eject when someone starts to treat her like a possession. I was also ... grateful ... that she sought me out for both my advice and my shoulder. Although there were plenty of tears, her dignity and self-respect remained fully intact. That's my girl. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
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Personal observation, but the daddies that are most likely to do that are the least likely to deserve respect or to receive it. From their daughters or their daughters' dates. They're also the most likely to be wrapped around their little princesses' fingers and utterly blind to the girls' faults. They shield their daughters from consequences and raise manipulative, overly indulged young ladies. There's nothing wrong with being protective, but the lessons learned from behavior like that aren't necessarily the lessons you might think they are, nor are they the lessons you necessarily want your daughters or their dates learning. Appreciate your insight Naamah, and I agree with you Earlier today I took my daughter to lunch, and I ended up being the shoulder to cry on over a problem that will probably end her relationship with her current boyfriend. I actually thought of this discussion while I was listening to her to talk over sushi and lo mein. Long story short, the current BF is suffocating her and has become a jealous little turd - even though he has absolutely nothing to be jealous about. Despite her assurances to the contrary to him, she feels the relationship is becoming toxic over this systemic insecurity. I'm very pleased and proud that she has the sense to eject when someone starts to treat her like a possession. I was also ... grateful ... that she sought me out for both my advice and my shoulder. Although there were plenty of tears, her dignity and self-respect remained fully intact. That's my girl. Sounds like you done good. Some of the other posters remind me of the male version of the helicopter mom with her mama's boys tied to her apron strings. No girl is good enough for her special snowflake and she goes out of her way to sabotage her sons' relationships. That sort of parent/child relationship isn't healthy, no matter the genders involved. |
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My daughter is not old enough to date, but when she is if a guy feels that he does not need to answer a question from me it is over. If I catch a disrespectful little dick doing something he should not be doing I will press charges. If that does not work then I would let it slide. Yea, like do nothing and walk away. Yea really. I will always have an alibi. View Quote LOL shut up. |
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In all seriousness, all you are doing with your faggoty speech is intimidating the "nice guys" and selecting for the players. Good job, shitheads.
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Wow, did not expect this thread to jump 5 pages in a day.... As for accusing me of abandoning this thread, I have this thing called "work" that I do at a job where internet browsing is looked down upon. Then there is also the sleep, eating etc. I no longer live to surd ARF'com every minute. If it was 2 months down the road, then yeah, it's thread abandonment. And the reason I do that occasionally is when I realize others are determined to be stupid rather than listening. I'm not wasting my time with fools, there is me telling the way it is & that's it. As for the girl she is 26 & my understanding is that she doesn't live at home just was over there for a family gathering. As for the dad, my complaint was not that he wanted to be protective of his child I understand that perfectly. She is a woman worthy of respect & I know this from reasons I'll not post here. My complaint was that he wanted to try to be intimidating over the phone without having even seen my appearance* or asked any questions about my nature or family background/etc. Ironically she texted me later saying he thinks I'm ok & the only thing I said was me & him had similar tastes in music. Both Johnny Cash fans. *I do not dress like a ghetto-goblin. View Quote Oh snap, is you black bro? |
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Wow, did not expect this thread to jump 5 pages in a day.... As for accusing me of abandoning this thread, I have this thing called "work" that I do at a job where internet browsing is looked down upon. Then there is also the sleep, eating etc. I no longer live to surd ARF'com every minute. If it was 2 months down the road, then yeah, it's thread abandonment. And the reason I do that occasionally is when I realize others are determined to be stupid rather than listening. I'm not wasting my time with fools, there is me telling the way it is & that's it. As for the girl she is 26 & my understanding is that she doesn't live at home just was over there for a family gathering. As for the dad, my complaint was not that he wanted to be protective of his child I understand that perfectly. She is a woman worthy of respect & I know this from reasons I'll not post here. My complaint was that he wanted to try to be intimidating over the phone without having even seen my appearance* or asked any questions about my nature or family background/etc. Ironically she texted me later saying he thinks I'm ok & the only thing I said was me & him had similar tastes in music. Both Johnny Cash fans. *I do not dress like a ghetto-goblin. Oh snap, is you black bro? Just from the waist down. |
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Please knock it off with the whole "you hurt my daughter, i kill you" crap. comes across as weak. Was talking on phone with girl I had one date with, but respect enough for more. Unbeknownst to me, her family is there and her dad asks to speak with me. Then proceeds with the whole 'what do you want with my baby girl" tripe... and you absolutely cannot say it over the phone and be convincing, you are not Liam Neeson. I was polite but even if he was joking like he claimed at the end of the talk, he still sounds like a douchebag. The fact he's not a Frank Sinatra fan didn't help him either. I don't blame him for being protective, I would be the same but there are better ways of going about it. For starters, this should have been done in person. Rant off.. View Quote If your post above represents how you conduct yourself in public and with fathers of girlfriends, you better not come around to my house. You will be shown to the property line and asked never to come back ever again. You will get one polite request, but no more. |
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Please knock it off with the whole "you hurt my daughter, i kill you" crap. comes across as weak. Was talking on phone with girl I had one date with, but respect enough for more. Unbeknownst to me, her family is there and her dad asks to speak with me. Then proceeds with the whole 'what do you want with my baby girl" tripe... and you absolutely cannot say it over the phone and be convincing, you are not Liam Neeson. I was polite but even if he was joking like he claimed at the end of the talk, he still sounds like a douchebag. The fact he's not a Frank Sinatra fan didn't help him either. I don't blame him for being protective, I would be the same but there are better ways of going about it. For starters, this should have been done in person. Rant off.. View Quote Dad obviously isn't a member here, if he had read your threads over the years he would know he had nothing to be worried about |
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My daughter is 3 months old. At this point if you hurt my daughter then I very well may hurt you.
But yeah the billy badass dad thing dont work. Neither does playing the cool dad. Just love your kids and instill values and it'll all work out fine. |
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Sounds like you done good. Some of the other posters remind me of the male version of the helicopter mom with her mama's boys tied to her apron strings. No girl is good enough for her special snowflake and she goes out of her way to sabotage her sons' relationships. That sort of parent/child relationship isn't healthy, no matter the genders involved. View Quote • My Mother was exactly like that. When I began dating as a teenager she was openly hostile to my girlfriends. What she didn't know at the time was that her actions made those girlfriends forbidden fruit to me. For obvious reasons, that made me want to see them more. Looking back, I think it had the exact same effect on my girlfriends as well. Forbidden Love, Romeo and Juliet, Wuthering Heights, Water for Elephants, The Notebook et al ... all rolled into one The parallels between my Mother's actions and those of an overbearing Father were not lost on me when I myself became a parent. |
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Personal observation, but the daddies that are most likely to do that are the least likely to deserve respect or to receive it. From their daughters or their daughters' dates. They're also the most likely to be wrapped around their little princesses' fingers and utterly blind to the girls' faults. They shield their daughters from consequences and raise manipulative, overly indulged young ladies. There's nothing wrong with being protective, but the lessons learned from behavior like that aren't necessarily the lessons you might think they are, nor are they the lessons you necessarily want your daughters or their dates learning. View Quote Well said. |
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I set the example with her mother and her.
I open and hold doors, say yes ma'am, thank you, treat them both with respect. Slowly through inculcation she is learning the right way to be treated. An to treat others. That being said she is strong and strong willed, just like her mother. I have confidence she would kick the shit out of anyone that tried anything with her she wasn't willing to do. At least they better hope she does because I don't know if i could hold mamma back. |
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Damn. I knew I shouldn't have clicked on this thread. All it's done is depress me. My father hates women, hated me from birth because I'm female, beat my mother and me, told me I'm worthless, ugly, stupid, and useless, and in general did his best to destroy me. You don't know what I would give to have had a good father instead of the piece of shit life handed me.
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Damn. I knew I shouldn't have clicked on this thread. All it's done is depress me. My father hates women, hated me from birth because I'm female, beat my mother and me, told me I'm worthless, ugly, stupid, and useless, and in general did his best to destroy me. You don't know what I would give to have had a good father instead of the piece of shit life handed me. View Quote I'm so sorry, it breaks my heart to hear that You don't know me, but I hope that as an adult you realize that your Father was a monster - and that you aren't any of those things he said to you. You are a worthwhile person, and you deserve better than the shitty hand you were dealt. Just as importantly, you need to know that it's not your fault that he was a monster. You are better than he is. Much better. If there was any good to come out of your Dad, it might be that his actions serve as a template for what not to do to the people you care about. I'm so sorry |
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Just take them to the purity ball. They will pledge that until marriage, "Jesus Christ is my husband and dad is my boyfriend"
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To all the guys snarkily asking the age of OP;
I recently dealt with similar bullshit at the age of 29. The girl was 19 and in college. Some "rich girls" are dependent on their parents until they finish college or even grad school. OP could be dating a chick that is 24 or 25. Oh, and if anybody wants to play the "OMFG what are you doing dating a girl that young" my response is: stfu and register yourself for jelly school. I'm not going to apologize for still being able to get hot undergrads. |
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My daughter is not old enough to date, but when she is if a guy feels that he does not need to answer a question from me it is over. If I catch a disrespectful little dick doing something he should not be doing I will press charges. If that does not work then I would let it slide. Yea, like do nothing and walk away. Yea really. I will always have an alibi. Haha i was lmao at this tough guy too |
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When I called my wife's dad to ask for his blessing (he lived outta town) he thought I was trying to sell him cable (old pilot, can't hear shit) and he still said yes. She was the youngest.
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Please knock it off with the whole "you hurt my daughter, i kill you" crap. comes across as weak. Was talking on phone with girl I had one date with, but respect enough for more. Unbeknownst to me, her family is there and her dad asks to speak with me. Then proceeds with the whole 'what do you want with my baby girl" tripe... and you absolutely cannot say it over the phone and be convincing, you are not Liam Neeson. I was polite but even if he was joking like he claimed at the end of the talk, he still sounds like a douchebag. The fact he's not a Frank Sinatra fan didn't help him either. I don't blame him for being protective, I would be the same but there are better ways of going about it. For starters, this should have been done in person. Rant off.. View Quote Tell him you respect the fact that his daughter only does anal (on the first date) and is saving herself for marriage.......... |
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GD logic is awesome. OP thinks the tough-guy father act is dumb, which it is, and that means he knows nothing about women. LOL. The tough guy act never works. That young lad is being respectful to your face, then burying every inch of his tongue into that sweet pussy the minute they are alone. Instead of trying to intimidate him, how about befriending him and getting him to like you? Become a second father figure, a good influence. That will go much further. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
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Why do you start so many threads and abandon them? I mean this one is understandable because it's obvious that you know nothing about women, fathers, intimidation or anything else in your OP. Just curious. GD logic is awesome. OP thinks the tough-guy father act is dumb, which it is, and that means he knows nothing about women. LOL. The tough guy act never works. That young lad is being respectful to your face, then burying every inch of his tongue into that sweet pussy the minute they are alone. Instead of trying to intimidate him, how about befriending him and getting him to like you? Become a second father figure, a good influence. That will go much further. This. I've had the tough dad routine pulled on me once. I walked in, introduced myself, "Nice to meet you Mr.____." He responded with all the tough dad talk. I turned around and walked out of the house never to return. Every other father I've met has tried to get to know me and vice versa. Never any problems with dads since. |
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MIne hasn't started dating yet. When she does, I don't think I will feel the need to give the young man any type of warning.
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My Daughter grew up with a twin Brother. She knows how to deal with boys and their bullshit. She's pretty, she's smart, she's low maintenance and zero drama, she has an amazingly level head on her shoulders, and she's tough. Boys at her school like her, respect her, and, sometimes, fear her. I have very few worries.
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If your post above represents how you conduct yourself in public and with fathers of girlfriends, you better not come around to my house. You will be shown to the property line and asked never to come back ever again. You will get one polite request, but no more. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
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Please knock it off with the whole "you hurt my daughter, i kill you" crap. comes across as weak. Was talking on phone with girl I had one date with, but respect enough for more. Unbeknownst to me, her family is there and her dad asks to speak with me. Then proceeds with the whole 'what do you want with my baby girl" tripe... and you absolutely cannot say it over the phone and be convincing, you are not Liam Neeson. I was polite but even if he was joking like he claimed at the end of the talk, he still sounds like a douchebag. The fact he's not a Frank Sinatra fan didn't help him either. I don't blame him for being protective, I would be the same but there are better ways of going about it. For starters, this should have been done in person. Rant off.. If your post above represents how you conduct yourself in public and with fathers of girlfriends, you better not come around to my house. You will be shown to the property line and asked never to come back ever again. You will get one polite request, but no more. I don't understand. OP said she is worthy of respect, and even though her dad acted like an ass he was polite to him. Sounds like he conducted himself pretty well. IMO OP is right. Those "speeches" dads give don't do any good whatsoever. They make things worse....and you don't come across as the big scary guy you think you do. |
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Why the fuck would I tell them I want to kill them if they touch my daughter? That's called pre-meditated murder, instead of just manslaughter.
My daughter knows the amount of respect and trust that I have for her, and she knows that I would lay down my life for hers, no questions asked. She made the mistake of dating one douchebag, and slapped the shit out of him when he made a nasty remark about her mother. After that she has become more circumspect in her boy choices, and they generally seem to be decent enough human beings, so I guess we raised her right. Most of them do seem to be scared of me though... My daughter refuses to tell me what she said to them before the first visit. It is stupid though OP, I agree... When I was dating and heard that shit, I assumed the dude made a sport out of drinking and beating his wife. |
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My Daughter grew up with a twin Brother. She knows how to deal with boys and their bullshit. She's pretty, she's smart, she's low maintenance and zero drama, she has an amazingly level head on her shoulders, and she's tough. Boys at her school like her, respect her, and, sometimes, fear her. I have very few worries. View Quote A few years ago a future Rhodes Scholar at my daughter's school threatened to shoot her and a friend with an Air soft gun. Rather than make a fuss, my daughter whipped out her smart phone and showed him a video of her clearing a pin table with her LE6920. He hasn't bothered either of them since Posted Via AR15.Com Mobile |
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This. I've had the tough dad routine pulled on me once. I walked in, introduced myself, "Nice to meet you Mr.____." He responded with all the tough dad talk. I turned around and walked out of the house never to return. Every other father I've met has tried to get to know me and vice versa. Never any problems with dads since. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted:
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Why do you start so many threads and abandon them? I mean this one is understandable because it's obvious that you know nothing about women, fathers, intimidation or anything else in your OP. Just curious. GD logic is awesome. OP thinks the tough-guy father act is dumb, which it is, and that means he knows nothing about women. LOL. The tough guy act never works. That young lad is being respectful to your face, then burying every inch of his tongue into that sweet pussy the minute they are alone. Instead of trying to intimidate him, how about befriending him and getting him to like you? Become a second father figure, a good influence. That will go much further. This. I've had the tough dad routine pulled on me once. I walked in, introduced myself, "Nice to meet you Mr.____." He responded with all the tough dad talk. I turned around and walked out of the house never to return. Every other father I've met has tried to get to know me and vice versa. Never any problems with dads since. You are lucky you bailed on the asshole dad and his daughter. I would have bailed as well. I'm sure she had all the decent boys bail and is not stuck with some first class scumbag. |
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To all the guys snarkily asking the age of OP; I recently dealt with similar bullshit at the age of 29. The girl was 19 and in college. Some "rich girls" are dependent on their parents until they finish college or even grad school. OP could be dating a chick that is 24 or 25. Oh, and if anybody wants to play the "OMFG what are you doing dating a girl that young" my response is: stfu and register yourself for jelly school. I'm not going to apologize for still being able to get hot undergrads. View Quote I like your style. The young ones are fun. I'm 25, love going back to college girls 18/19/20 |
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I have two daughters. Ones married, the other is 18 .
I'm a regular guy , I treat everybody with respect until you fuck that up. I'm a non scary kinda guy. Every fucking guy who comes to my house is fucking petrified. Like they can barely talk......yeesh buddy. My youngest had a first date with a guy , who while being a nice enough young guy, wasn't too motivated...as in he didn't have a car ...or a job..... So, my kid was driving for the night.....I fall asleep in my recliner......get woken up at 12:30 by daughter...... Daaaaadd, we don't know how to get to his house to take him home...... I get in truck, drive them to his house.....on the way I ask two questions of him, just stuff like are you going to college next year? Do you like to fish.....normal stuff. I get "mumble" That's it, one mumble ...... I figure fuck it , he's weirded out emberassed, I'll keep quiet. It was silence for the rest of the ride, bout 25 minutes. On the way home daughter is all, OMG dad that silence was so awkward ..... I'm laughing my ass off, tell her it was hilarious . She was not amused. As for my oldest, hell it took about three years for her husband to actually talk in coherent sentences with me. I think its all hilarious. Lighten up Francis' |
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I have a shotgun and a shovel and know how to use both. Fuck off OP.
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The only time the relative intimidating thing actually gave me pause was when I was dating a girl long ago. We got to get lace and a 6 foot Marilyn Monroe look alike came waltzing down the street, the girlfriend introduced me to her brother, who promptly told me not to fuck up, because he would kick my ass while wearing heels and looking fabulous.
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seriously OP - 1: how old are you? if you're 18 (and been here since you were 11) its to be expected. 2: if you're much older than that...and she is much older than that... I think dad was just trying to be funny. its dad humor. Respect him for it. you'll have the same humor some day. View Quote You've never seen SAH's other threads? |
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