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Posted: 5/26/2017 1:31:48 PM EDT

Well, it has been 10 weeks now and I can't take it anymore. Wife has been on the "mini pill" for 2 weeks today, so it's time for some fun.

Honestly, I'm a little nervous. She had a "stage 2" tear which apparently isn't that bad. I've seen the healing, it looks mostly normal. But I'm still hesitant for some reason. Not to be too graphic, but before the baby she was uh....very tight. It was (being honest here) one of the things that made our sex life so great. She just had an amazing vagina.

Anyway, this is a serious thread about a serious topic. How did you first time after a kid go? Anything to watch out for? Were you disappointed because it felt differently? Did it feel just as good?

Fill me in and ease my mind, please.

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:33:20 PM EDT

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Hot dog =============> Hallway

Seriously though, it will be fine. Vaginas are marvelous things.

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:33:49 PM EDT

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First

Damn beat by 29 seconds

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:33:58 PM EDT

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Rules

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:35:14 PM EDT

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cover your shit up, women are SUPER fertile after having a baby.

Trust me, I know.

My 2 youngest are 367 days apart.

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:35:38 PM EDT

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Pregnancy does funny things to women's bodies. Be gentle and expect more time for foreplay - wife's had 2 via C-section and still was tender 6 weeks out. Welcome back to the game

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:35:56 PM EDT

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Well, it has been 10 weeks now and I can't take it anymore. Wife has been on the "mini pill" for 2 weeks today, so it's time for some fun.

Honestly, I'm a little nervous. She had a "stage 2" tear which apparently isn't that bad. I've seen the healing, it looks mostly normal. But I'm still hesitant for some reason. Not to be too graphic, but before the baby she was uh....very tight. It was (being honest here) one of the things that made our sex life so great. She just had an amazing vagina.

Anyway, this is a serious thread about a serious topic. How did you first time after a kid go? Anything to watch out for? Were you disappointed because it felt differently? Did it feel just as good?

Fill me in and ease my mind, please.

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Don't worry, my wife had a big tear during the birth but everything was ok the first time. Imho is no more tight as before but personally I don't care.

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:35:58 PM EDT

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I banged a chick that had 2 kids and it all looked fine down there and was still great

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:36:09 PM EDT

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It will be fine. But she may have pain.

Dryness is what I would worry about so get some lube just in case.

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:36:28 PM EDT

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Don't expect it to happen. If she tore, she may not be ready for a loooong time.

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:36:30 PM EDT

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No looser yet different. Astroglide may help things go a little easier.

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:37:15 PM EDT

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As long as you wear the helmet from your avatar you will be fine. Congrats on the newborn!

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:37:30 PM EDT

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cover your shit up, women are SUPER fertile after having a baby.

Trust me, I know.

My 2 youngest are 367 days apart.

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I have a SIL who's two youngest are less than a year apart.

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:37:53 PM EDT

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cover your shit up, women are SUPER fertile after having a baby.

Trust me, I know.

My 2 youngest are 367 days apart.

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I don't think that's usually the case. Particularly if they breastfeed.

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:37:59 PM EDT

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Anal is your answer

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:39:08 PM EDT

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I don't think that's usually the case. Particularly if they breastfeed.

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Ive always heard that they are super fertile after a kid too.

My older brothers first two are back to back due to this

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:39:58 PM EDT

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That didn't take long..

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:40:36 PM EDT

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Did you have intercourse while she was pregnant?

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:40:38 PM EDT

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cover your shit up, women are SUPER fertile after having a baby.

Trust me, I know.

My 2 youngest are 367 days apart.

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Wtf. Scariest post in this thread so far....

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:41:01 PM EDT

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She'll let you know when she's ready.

No excuse/reason/line of bullshit you give her will make her want to have sex with you before she's ready.

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:41:11 PM EDT

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Don't worry, my wife had a big tear during the birth but everything was ok the first time. Imho is no more tight as before but personally I don't care.

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Thanks man, that's good to know. I appreciate you chiming in and I'm glad things went well for you guys.

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:41:36 PM EDT

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Did you have intercourse while she was pregnant?

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Up until about 6 months.

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:41:36 PM EDT

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I don't think that's usually the case. Particularly if they breastfeed.

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I had a couple of friends in junior high school. Brothers. In the same grade. Not twins. Their birthdays were 9 months and two days apart. Neither were premature.

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:42:42 PM EDT

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She'll let you know when she's ready.

No excuse/reason/line of bullshit you give her will make her want to have sex with you before she's ready.

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Thankfully, she's just as ready as I am.

Supposedly breastfeeding is a huge libido killer, but for her it's almost the exact opposite. Not sure why?

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:42:45 PM EDT

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That didn't take long..

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Lucky

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:42:50 PM EDT

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Congrats on the new baby OP.

Girl or Boy?

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:43:00 PM EDT

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That didn't take long..

http://i.imgur.com/7M4NF1W.jpg?1

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Damn, arfcom has a lot of blind chicks for wives.....

Grats buddy

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:43:05 PM EDT

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YEAH ! THREESOME !

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:43:06 PM EDT

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After waiting so long your so f'in hard up it won't matter. "I get hard when the wind blows." Eddie Murphy in 48hrs.

Astroglide or some other lube is good to have handy in case you need it. After our first I used lamb skin condoms for a while until chances of Irish twins dropped. If your worried about Irish twins, lamb skin is the best choice.

JPK

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:43:44 PM EDT

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No looser yet different. Astroglide may help things go a little easier.

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That's good to know, and not the first time I've heard that.

I guess it stays tight, but the shape changes? Sort of a miracle if you think about it....

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:44:25 PM EDT

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I was like I had to wait for 3 weeks, her idea.
Ours are 13 months apart, her idea.
Could have easily been closer in age.

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:44:56 PM EDT

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I asked the Dr to put in an extra ditch or two

My wife was an anal freak during preg..i am not though..

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:45:31 PM EDT

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Congrats on the new baby OP.

Girl or Boy?

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Thanks! A beautiful baby girl, 10 weeks as of today!

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:46:03 PM EDT

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Damn, arfcom has a lot of blind chicks for wives.....

Grats buddy

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+1

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:46:29 PM EDT

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I asked the Dr to put in an extra ditch or two

My wife was an anal freak during preg..i am not though..

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Does not compute.

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:46:59 PM EDT

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Damn, arfcom has a lot of blind chicks for wives.....

Grats buddy

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Thanks man.

Luckily, that's not me in my avatar. Hahaha

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:47:32 PM EDT

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Ive always heard that they are super fertile after a kid too.

My older brothers first two are back to back due to this

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Yea, they are, and back to back pregnancies happen enough they have a knick name: Irish Twins, because the predominantly Catholic Irish of yesteryear would not use birth control because of the church's proscription.

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:47:55 PM EDT

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You won't notice a bit of difference.

ETA: your wife is beautiful. Your little girl is as well.

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:48:28 PM EDT

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That didn't take long..

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I am imagining that women and your avatar together and it does not compute.

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:48:35 PM EDT

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Thanks! A beautiful baby girl, 10 weeks as of today!

http://i.imgur.com/J5XAkZa.png?1

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Cute kid! Now forget about the damned Tide and raise her up right. She clearly looks like a UGA fan!!

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:49:47 PM EDT

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You won't notice a bit of difference.

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Glad to hear that!! This thread is making me feel a bit better about it honestly.

A bunch of you guys are saying pretty much the same thing.

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:50:18 PM EDT

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Thanks! A beautiful baby girl, 10 weeks as of today!

http://i.imgur.com/J5XAkZa.png?1

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congrats man

you guys getting any sleep yet?

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:50:34 PM EDT

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Wtf. Scariest post in this thread so far....

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cover your shit up, women are SUPER fertile after having a baby.

Trust me, I know.

My 2 youngest are 367 days apart.

Wtf. Scariest post in this thread so far....

It's bullshit, as long as she's breast feeding.

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:51:21 PM EDT

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Cute kid! Now forget about the damned Tide and raise her up right. She clearly looks like a UGA fan!!

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I wish my name wasn't related to football.... I was in college at UA when I made my account, and I guess I wasn't that creative.....

She can root for whoever she likes!

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:51:56 PM EDT

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I am imagining that women and your avatar together and it does not compute.

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Doesn't compute for me either. That's not me in the avatar.

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:51:57 PM EDT

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This should have been posted in Team, OP. That said, in *my* experience things were restored to normal.

What you're going to find out, quickly I might add, that sexy time will go on the back burner for a while. Baby needs to feed, baby needs changing, baby is fussy, "baby, I'm exhausted." The first year will be somewhat Zombie land for both you and the wife; sleep will become a priceless luxury.

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:52:47 PM EDT

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This should have been posted in Team, OP. That said, in *my* experience things were restored to normal.

What you're going to find out, quickly I might add, that sexy time will go on the back burner for a while. Baby needs to feed, baby needs changing, baby is fussy, "baby, I'm exhausted." The first year will be somewhat Zombie land for both you and the wife; sleep will become a priceless luxury.

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This guy knows what he's talking about.

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:52:58 PM EDT

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congrats man

you guys getting any sleep yet?

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Thanks man. :)

And yeah! Just this week she started sleeping anywhere from 5-8 hours each night. It's amazing! Especially since up until that point we were lucky to go 2 hours between feedings.

Posted: 5/26/2017 1:53:12 PM EDT

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before the baby she was uh....very tight. It was (being honest here) one of the things that made our sex life so great. She just had an amazing vagina.

Anyway, this is a serious thread about a serious topic.

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Yeah, sure.