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[ARCHIVED THREAD] - Trying to date women who have been abused in the past... (Page 1 of 5)

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:31:28 PM EDT

So I've been dating this girl who was married for 10 years to an abusive husband.

She has PTSD and any conversation you have with her about it she flies off the handle and starts bawling and it ends up being a huge fight.

She just wants to sit in her home, drink, and live in the past crying about what happened to her. I've told her I'm not like that and I'd like to begin a relationship with her and for her to move forward...but she just can't get past what happened to her.

I guess it's time to move on.

You just can't fix broken people.

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:32:08 PM EDT

[#1]

Yes

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:33:47 PM EDT

[#2]

bolt now

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:34:01 PM EDT

[#3]

Hell with that drama, sounds like she could still be in love with him.

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:34:14 PM EDT

[#4]

Pull that handle! You cant fix her.

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:34:50 PM EDT

[#5]

SIIHPAPP

then eject

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:36:14 PM EDT

[#6]

don't get that crazy pregnant.

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:36:23 PM EDT

[#7]

She stayed in that relationship for ten years.

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:36:46 PM EDT

[#8]

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:36:46 PM EDT

[#9]

Let her go.
Once you did so, she'll come look for you - deny yourself to her even then. It's going to take so many years to her (of hard work) to come out of it.

And that is if she starts working on herself.

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:36:55 PM EDT

[#10]

Run. There are plenty of women out there. Mostly all crazy but find one with a crazy level you can deal with.

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:36:56 PM EDT

[#11]

Better deal yourself a new hand quick

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:36:59 PM EDT

[#12]

Yes. Likely had problems before the wife beater too.

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:37:18 PM EDT

[#13]

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No, you certainly can’t. Get used to the roller coaster or find another ride. Up to you.

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:38:20 PM EDT

[#14]

Has she ever seen a therapist? Would she be willing to?

You cannot fix a broken person, especially if she isn't willing or able to help herself.

Sorry brother.

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:38:23 PM EDT

[#15]

That's a hard no from me dawg.

Im going to take a wild guess that the pussy is snapping though.

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:38:42 PM EDT

[#16]

I’d stay. It’s amazing what you can get away with!

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:38:51 PM EDT

[#17]

It sucks. I've been in a similar place to where you're at and I've been the broken one too (because I saw the signs and thought we could work through it). No matter what you do it won't be enough or right. She has to fix herself

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:39:20 PM EDT

[#18]

This comes from experience.... walk away..

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:39:47 PM EDT

[#19]

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Posted: 11/8/2019 11:41:41 PM EDT

[#20]

Literally 4 billion woman in the world bruh...…….

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:42:56 PM EDT

[#21]

Once someone decides to become a victim, they are the only one who can decide to stop.

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:43:13 PM EDT

[#22]

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:44:05 PM EDT

[#23]

I am sure that will hold water good as new

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:45:06 PM EDT

[#24]

She needs therapy. Also, eject.

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:45:56 PM EDT

[#25]

My late wife was married to an asshole that verbally and mentally abused her until she walked out.
We were married for 12 years. And it was the best thing I ever did. She was a fantastic lady.

Ed

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:46:39 PM EDT

[#26]

I'd rather choke my chicken.

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:48:51 PM EDT

[#27]

Never could get them to therapy, seemed they loved denial and had no faith in improving. bye.

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:48:52 PM EDT

[#28]

It is a no go situation.

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:49:00 PM EDT

[#29]

You should ask yourself why you were attracted to her in the first place.

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:50:50 PM EDT

[#30]

In all sincerity encourage her to seek help. Therapy, counseling. She should not have to go through life like that. But, this is not your job unless she’s your wife. Gently bail.

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:50:53 PM EDT

[#31]

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I live in a small town and I'm bored...

Fishing in a really small pond.

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:52:11 PM EDT

[#32]

Yeah I tried that OP. It doesn’t work out. Move on while you’re still young and before you knock her up.

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:54:14 PM EDT

[#33]

She needs help you can't give.

The sooner you move on, the much better you'll be.

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:54:50 PM EDT

[#34]

She's broken and you're just going to hurt yourself trying fix it.

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:55:12 PM EDT

[#35]

I personally wouldnt be patient enough to deal with that

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:55:12 PM EDT

[#36]

Attached File

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:55:41 PM EDT

[#37]

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Yeah I tried that OP. It doesn’t work out. Move on while you’re still young and before you knock her up.

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Btdt.

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:55:41 PM EDT

[#38]

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:56:13 PM EDT

[#39]

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Because the non abused ones weren't single.

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:56:25 PM EDT

[#40]

Not everyone who was abused made it out without scars.
Not everyone who claims they were abused is telling the truth.

At best it comes with challenges, even if they're open and honest about the abuse itself.

Posted: 11/8/2019 11:57:53 PM EDT

[#41]

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SPNI

Posted: 11/9/2019 12:00:07 AM EDT

[#42]

Same reason I don’t buy a car that’s been wrecked in the past - it don’t drive right ever again.

Soooo many women in the world so why buy a broken one?

Posted: 11/9/2019 12:00:46 AM EDT

[#43]

Get the fuck away from her as fast as you can. You aren't going to fix that.

Posted: 11/9/2019 12:03:11 AM EDT

[#44]

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Same here. Eject.

Posted: 11/9/2019 12:04:12 AM EDT

[#45]

Past time to move on.

Posted: 11/9/2019 12:04:17 AM EDT

[#46]

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I guess it's time to move on.

You just can't fix broken people.

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Yup.

Posted: 11/9/2019 12:04:31 AM EDT

[#47]

Posted: 11/9/2019 12:05:45 AM EDT

[#48]

Don't be a fucking quitter!

You can save her!
Keep trying, don't let her down, you can win!

She's counting on you!
You are the best thing that's ever happened to her, she needs you!

Don't let her down!

Posted: 11/9/2019 12:06:00 AM EDT

[#49]

Juice ain't worth the squeeze monica

Posted: 11/9/2019 12:07:49 AM EDT

[#50]

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I live in a small town and I'm bored...

Fishing in a really small pond.

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Did she live in Brier or close by, by any chance?

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