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Quoted: Am I just the last person on the planet who didn't know this... View Quote Probably so. I saw that movie when I was a kid. Trailer; Gaslight (1944) Official Trailer - Charles Boyer, Ingrid Bergman Movie HD Full movie; Gaslight - Full Movie - GREAT QUALITY 720p (1940) |
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I was called a gaslighter a year ago by a lady. I didn’t know what it meant until I googled it.
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After seeing it everywhere, typically in replies to "news" stories, I finally had to look it up as well.
My take away was that it's more akin to astroturfing than mindfucking viewers. I could see how it would be a mix of the two. |
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Quoted: Great movie.... A good watch I'll give you a good example of "gas lighting" Dude takes your favorite necklace and hides it...you go to look for it and it's not there, so you ask him about it. He "claims that you're losing it and you last had it"....Mind you, while you're searching the house, he puts the necklace right back where he took it from/where you normally keep it and calls you a loon and says it was there the whole time. ETA: Lifetime had started a series called Phrogging - where some of the weirdoes that were living in people's home (without them knowing) would do shitty things like that to fuck with the people. They'd leave a cabinet door open, move things around in the refrig, etc. - not cuz they were in the home, just to fuck with the people's sanity. [color=#ff0000]I mean, it's not just house stuff. Let's say your bf came home late cuz he's fucking your friend....you see they are all chummy when together and the both of them call you crazy - although you can just "tell" something's not right. That's also gaslighting. View Quote [/color] I've had this very experience. I desperately wanted to believe. |
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Quoted: It's a horrible thing to do to another person. They try to make a person think they aren't living in reality and can't trust themselves or their decisions. My ex was a master of it and taught me to trust myself rather than anyone else. Only evil people use this form of manipulation. DK. You probably would have learned it sooner had you been in unhealthy surroundings. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted: It's a horrible thing to do to another person. They try to make a person think they aren't living in reality and can't trust themselves or their decisions. My ex was a master of it and taught me to trust myself rather than anyone else. Only evil people use this form of manipulation. DK. You probably would have learned it sooner had you been in unhealthy surroundings. @jungatheart Yes, gaslighting is an insidious form of psychological manipulation and abuse. It can absolutely make you question your own reality. I am all too familiar with gaslighting, although I didn't know it had a name at the time. My ex-wife is a master gaslighter and manipulator. I don't have a great memory for some things (thanks, ADHD). Once she realized this, she started taking advantage of it. It often starts out with little things: "No, I said to meet at 6:15, not 6:30, why are you late?" (when she actually said 6:30), and "I already told you that yesterday" (no, she didn't). Then over time it gets worse, and worse, and eventually you start thinking you need to record all the conversations you have with someone, because it seems like your recollection of event and what they said is entirely different than how they describe it later. Then if you mention how you feel like you need to record your conversations, you're accused of not trusting them. For a long time I deferred to her in situations where I couldn't remember certain things, knowing that my own memory wasn't great and hers is usually pretty good. Unfortunately part of "my memory not being great" was actually due to her manipulation: Over the course of several years, she convinced me that my memory was worse than it actually was (my memory might not be great, but I'm not an alzheimer's patient, either ), simply through gaslighting. Quoted: It's not just a lie.......It's a directed & repeated lie done with contempt to alter the other persons reality (make them think they are the crazy one.) The example of "the sky is blue" and "no it's not, it's red", while very simple, is a good one. No one is going to believe that, but think about that 100 times a day on the most random things--especially past events. Narcissists use it to control their codependent spouse, family member, employee, whatever. The codependent one thinks they're losing it, unworthy, drain on the relationship, etc and the narcissist make them feel like they are schlepping the codependent along.......when most of the time it's quite actually the opposite. The codependent one is the one taking care of everything and the keeping the only sanity and stability in the relationship. Narcissists and co-dependent attract like magnets--they're tough to get apart, and when they do it's not a pretty situation. @delorean Congratulations, you summed up my marriage to a covert female narcissist and master gaslighter/manipulator in 3 sentences. I am so happy to be out of that marriage. The part I underlined perfectly describes the final few years of my marriage: I did probably 80-90% of the household chores, because my wife (now ex-wife) made substantially more money than I did (4-5x as much, some years), and we set up our lives for her to concentrate on making as much money as possible and not having to worry about doing anything else. Even so, she constantly complained about how I "wasn't contributing enough", and how everything I was doing "wasn't good enough" or "wasn't being done fast enough", so I kept doing more and more in an effort to save my marriage, and eventually I was practically killing myself every day to do everything around the house (plus work my full time job). Meanwhile, she was mocking me behind my back to her family and friends the whole time, for years. |
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Quoted: @jungatheart Yes, gaslighting is an insidious form of psychological manipulation and abuse. It can absolutely make you question your own reality. I am all too familiar with gaslighting, although I didn't know it had a name at the time. My ex-wife is a master gaslighter and manipulator. I don't have a great memory for some things (thanks, ADHD). Once she realized this, she started taking advantage of it. It often starts out with little things: "No, I said to meet at 6:15, not 6:30, why are you late?" (when she actually said 6:30), and "I already told you that yesterday" (no, she didn't). Then over time it gets worse, and worse, and eventually you start thinking you need to record all the conversations you have with someone, because it seems like your recollection of event and what they said is entirely different than how they describe it later. Then if you mention how you feel like you need to record your conversations, you're accused of not trusting them. For a long time I deferred to her in situations where I couldn't remember certain things, knowing that my own memory wasn't great and hers is usually pretty good. Unfortunately part of "my memory not being great" was actually due to her manipulation: Over the course of several years, she convinced me that my memory was worse than it actually was (my memory might not be great, but I'm not an alzheimer's patient, either ), simply through gaslighting. @delorean Congratulations, you summed up my marriage to a covert female narcissist and master gaslighter/manipulator in 3 sentences. I am so happy to be out of that marriage. The part I underlined perfectly describes the final few years of my marriage: I did probably 80-90% of the household chores, because my wife (now ex-wife) made substantially more money than I did (4-5x as much, some years), and we set up our lives for her to concentrate on making as much money as possible and not having to worry about doing anything else. Even so, she constantly complained about how I "wasn't contributing enough", and how everything I was doing "wasn't good enough" or "wasn't being done fast enough", so I kept doing more and more in an effort to save my marriage, and eventually I was practically killing myself every day to do everything around the house (plus work my full time job). Meanwhile, she was mocking me behind my back to her family and friends the whole time, for years. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted: Quoted: It's a horrible thing to do to another person. They try to make a person think they aren't living in reality and can't trust themselves or their decisions. My ex was a master of it and taught me to trust myself rather than anyone else. Only evil people use this form of manipulation. DK. You probably would have learned it sooner had you been in unhealthy surroundings. @jungatheart Yes, gaslighting is an insidious form of psychological manipulation and abuse. It can absolutely make you question your own reality. I am all too familiar with gaslighting, although I didn't know it had a name at the time. My ex-wife is a master gaslighter and manipulator. I don't have a great memory for some things (thanks, ADHD). Once she realized this, she started taking advantage of it. It often starts out with little things: "No, I said to meet at 6:15, not 6:30, why are you late?" (when she actually said 6:30), and "I already told you that yesterday" (no, she didn't). Then over time it gets worse, and worse, and eventually you start thinking you need to record all the conversations you have with someone, because it seems like your recollection of event and what they said is entirely different than how they describe it later. Then if you mention how you feel like you need to record your conversations, you're accused of not trusting them. For a long time I deferred to her in situations where I couldn't remember certain things, knowing that my own memory wasn't great and hers is usually pretty good. Unfortunately part of "my memory not being great" was actually due to her manipulation: Over the course of several years, she convinced me that my memory was worse than it actually was (my memory might not be great, but I'm not an alzheimer's patient, either ), simply through gaslighting. Quoted: It's not just a lie.......It's a directed & repeated lie done with contempt to alter the other persons reality (make them think they are the crazy one.) The example of "the sky is blue" and "no it's not, it's red", while very simple, is a good one. No one is going to believe that, but think about that 100 times a day on the most random things--especially past events. Narcissists use it to control their codependent spouse, family member, employee, whatever. The codependent one thinks they're losing it, unworthy, drain on the relationship, etc and the narcissist make them feel like they are schlepping the codependent along.......when most of the time it's quite actually the opposite. The codependent one is the one taking care of everything and the keeping the only sanity and stability in the relationship. Narcissists and co-dependent attract like magnets--they're tough to get apart, and when they do it's not a pretty situation. @delorean Congratulations, you summed up my marriage to a covert female narcissist and master gaslighter/manipulator in 3 sentences. I am so happy to be out of that marriage. The part I underlined perfectly describes the final few years of my marriage: I did probably 80-90% of the household chores, because my wife (now ex-wife) made substantially more money than I did (4-5x as much, some years), and we set up our lives for her to concentrate on making as much money as possible and not having to worry about doing anything else. Even so, she constantly complained about how I "wasn't contributing enough", and how everything I was doing "wasn't good enough" or "wasn't being done fast enough", so I kept doing more and more in an effort to save my marriage, and eventually I was practically killing myself every day to do everything around the house (plus work my full time job). Meanwhile, she was mocking me behind my back to her family and friends the whole time, for years. We should form a club. I'm still upset with myself for what I let her get away with. |
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Quoted: I've been hearing it more and more in the past few years, but had NO IDEA wtf it means. I finally decided to spent the ten seconds typing it into Google, and looked it up. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting Basically, it's a tactic for manipulating someone in a way that makes them question their own reality or sanity. Am I just the last person on the planet who didn't know this, or are there plenty of others who also didn't know? View Quote DK-PROF didnt know what "gaslighting" was? Attached File Middle school vocabulary test bro. |
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Quoted: [/color] I've had this very experience. I desperately wanted to believe. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted: Quoted: Great movie.... A good watch I'll give you a good example of "gas lighting" Dude takes your favorite necklace and hides it...you go to look for it and it's not there, so you ask him about it. He "claims that you're losing it and you last had it"....Mind you, while you're searching the house, he puts the necklace right back where he took it from/where you normally keep it and calls you a loon and says it was there the whole time. ETA: Lifetime had started a series called Phrogging - where some of the weirdoes that were living in people's home (without them knowing) would do shitty things like that to fuck with the people. They'd leave a cabinet door open, move things around in the refrig, etc. - not cuz they were in the home, just to fuck with the people's sanity. [color=#ff0000]I mean, it's not just house stuff. Let's say your bf came home late cuz he's fucking your friend....you see they are all chummy when together and the both of them call you crazy - although you can just "tell" something's not right. That's also gaslighting. [/color] I've had this very experience. I desperately wanted to believe. Actually, I had one a few months ago.... A former "friend" of mine sends me a link for a hotel where she said she was having her birthday party (I created a thread about it here)....where the link didn't say what room it was in; what time; if you had to bring your own food, purchase dinner and/or she'd have it catered.... Mind you it was on a Friday - where without knowing what hours, how would I know to ask for time off of work or not. When I pointed it out to her (along with other reasons I'm ending our "friendship") her response was that she sent the same informal invite to family.... She like to play stupid games like that - like, she kept inviting me to stay by her and her husband when I was house searching - despite the fact that her husband doesn't like dogs. IMO, she was using me to passive/aggressively get back at him for whatever shit he did/does (spends up their money, neglects her, etc.). I fucking can't stand people who play fucking games in a RL.... |
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The problem is lack of context
The talking heads who throw it around rarely know what they’re saying. “Gaslighting “ is the new “paradigm”. |
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Quoted: I've been hearing it more and more in the past few years, but had NO IDEA wtf it means. I finally decided to spent the ten seconds typing it into Google, and looked it up. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting Basically, it's a tactic for manipulating someone in a way that makes them question their own reality or sanity. Am I just the last person on the planet who didn't know this, or are there plenty of others who also didn't know? View Quote Of course you know what is it. Don't lie to us |
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yea,had no idea..and still dont know about jenuflecting either,,lol
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It's one of those words I've known for long enough that I can't remember why I know it. Likely it was used in a book I've read at some point, but who the fuck knows.
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Gaslighting is being done on a huge scale now especially for the virus that shall not be mentioned in GD.
Changing the actual definition of a word, for example. We saw this with "fascism" and "vaccine." "We never said the vaccine would keep you from being infected." "Masks work and if you don't believe us you are anti-science." (Never mind virology for the past 100+ years has demonstrated over and over that they don't) You can find a lot of examples just by looking at the media-pharma-gov trilogy behavior over the past few years. |
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Quoted: I've been hearing it more and more in the past few years, but had NO IDEA wtf it means. I finally decided to spent the ten seconds typing it into Google, and looked it up. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting Basically, it's a tactic for manipulating someone in a way that makes them question their own reality or sanity. Am I just the last person on the planet who didn't know this, or are there plenty of others who also didn't know? View Quote Didnt know till the post. Behold, my field of fucks. It is barren. |
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Gaslighting has been happening to us ever since the medical-industrial complex convinced mama to cut a chunk off her baby boys dick.
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It has become a common term because it describes what government and media are doing.
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A common thread here (true for me personally) is that people that were married/dated borderline personality disorder women were introduced to the topic of gaslighting by being accused of it.
Meanwhile, we were being gaslighted. Fuck the term period, and run like hell if a woman accused you of it. |
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That reminds me of the newfound usage of the term "copacetic" in the 1980s. Punk teenagers thought they invented some brand new shit. Little did they know it was in use long before they were born, like from the first part of the 20th century or before.
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Quoted: I've been hearing it more and more in the past few years, but had NO IDEA wtf it means. I finally decided to spent the ten seconds typing it into Google, and looked it up. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting Basically, it's a tactic for manipulating someone in a way that makes them question their own reality or sanity. Am I just the last person on the planet who didn't know this, or are there plenty of others who also didn't know? View Quote That’s exactly what someone from the CIA would want us to believe |
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Just a stupid buzzword that means nothing to anyone. The idiots that think they are coining something of importance are simply idiots.
No one should care about anything these idiots think up to be “en vogue” |
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Quoted: That reminds me of the newfound usage of the term "copacetic" in the 1980s. Punk teenagers thought they invented some brand new shit. Little did they know it was in use long before they were born, like from the first part of the 20th century or before. View Quote Guy I used to know adopted "copasetic" shortly before I stopped talking to him. If I did something that irritated him he'd tell me "you need to be a little more copasetic bro. You need to be a little more copasetic." Except he was THE LEAST copasetic person I knew. Not sure why I put up with him for so long. Always pissed me off when he said it. Now I really hate that Local H song. |
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Quoted: Guy I used to know adopted "copasetic" shortly before I stopped talking to him. If I did something that irritated him he'd tell me "you need to be a little more copasetic bro. You need to be a little more copasetic." Except he was THE LEAST copasetic person I knew. Not sure why I put up with him for so long. Always pissed me off when he said it. Now I really hate that Local H song. View Quote |
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Gaslighting and narcissism are liberal female buzz words. Usually used anytime someone tries to hold them accountable.
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Quoted: It’s just a buzzword these days. It’s usually over exaggerated or used out of context the same way anything anyone doesn’t like or any uncomfortable situation is now “toxic”. View Quote This here. Applied correctly, it's a good descriptor for common manipulative behavior. However, it's been misused to the point of uselessness by people desperate to claim victimhood. |
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Quoted: I've been hearing it more and more in the past few years, but had NO IDEA wtf it means. I finally decided to spent the ten seconds typing it into Google, and looked it up. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting Basically, it's a tactic for manipulating someone in a way that makes them question their own reality or sanity. Am I just the last person on the planet who didn't know this, or are there plenty of others who also didn't know? View Quote Dude, We had a long talk about it on one of the Hunter Station hikes. We were talking about it in context of medical care for our parents. |
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Quoted: Dude, We had a long talk about it on one of the Hunter Station hikes. We were talking about it in context of medical care for our parents. View Quote View All Quotes View All Quotes Quoted: Quoted: I've been hearing it more and more in the past few years, but had NO IDEA wtf it means. I finally decided to spent the ten seconds typing it into Google, and looked it up. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gaslighting Basically, it's a tactic for manipulating someone in a way that makes them question their own reality or sanity. Am I just the last person on the planet who didn't know this, or are there plenty of others who also didn't know? Dude, We had a long talk about it on one of the Hunter Station hikes. We were talking about it in context of medical care for our parents. ^^^ Example of gaslighting.^^^ |
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I thought I knew what it meant, but now days it seems to get thrown around for so many different things.
I have never heard the word used in person though, or if I did, I just ignored it. |
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I had to look it up when it started being used a lot.
Then I mostly forgot what it meant. |
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yep, been hearing it a lot over the past year, then finally looked it up a few months back.
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It used to be that you would learn the term if you had to deal with a narcissist and needed to figure out their screwed up ways.
Within the past 5 years it has become more common and is applied to the spectrum of democrats and the left. |
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You know what the worst thing Is about all you glorious assholes trying to gaslight me in this thread?
It's almost working , because I know I have a fucking terrible memory! I hate you and love you! |
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Quoted: You know what the worst thing Is about all you glorious assholes trying to gaslight me in this thread? It's almost working , because I know I have a fucking terrible memory! I hate you and love you! View Quote We aren't gaslighting you. How could you accuse us of such a thing?! You're gaslighting us! This whole thread was a setup! |
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I only learned it recently. Same way as you. I seem to see it more and more.
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I started hearing it in semi-common use when Trump was campaigning. The first time I actually heard it used was by Dennis Miller in the '96 movie "Bordello of Blood".
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It’s a psychological ploy that we use when our wives catch us with a new gun that we hadn’t previously told them about.
“This old thing? Had it for years. You really don’t remember it? Pfffttt” |
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Quoted: I actually Googled it for the first time myself about a month ago. How is it that with more access to information than ever before in history we have less and less truth? View Quote Used to you had to ride your bike a couple miles to the library to find a book relevant and credible to your question, which was itself published in print form, carried as physical inventory in a brick and mortar store before being purchased by or for the library. There was a cost to distribute and access information, money talked and bs walked. Now days any idiot can blast hist thoughts out for free, where they can also be accessed for free. Also everyone dogpiled Brandon's YouTube appearances with down votes so they just took them away all together. So now when you need to fix your Honda's ignition you have to take an hour to watch five videos and decide which four are crap instead of checking the likes/dislikes and watching one three minute video. |
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