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16 years married, and every day I find new reasons to love him. Divorce has never crossed my mind. I doubt it ever will.

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So for those of you that agreed to joint bank accounts, credit cards, finances, etc.; what drove you to this decision and would it have made a difference during the eventual divorce?

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So for those of you that agreed to joint bank accounts, credit cards, finances, etc.; what drove you to this decision and would it have made a difference during the eventual divorce?

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Ive been single now for 3 months, taking a break for awhile to figure out why I pick such shitty women and closing on a house at the end of this month.

Going to focus on me for awhile.

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Six pages and not one 'The baby came out the wrong color'.

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I've never been married, but had a few close calls.

SNIP

After I moved out, she came over one night to rekindle things.  There we were in missionary, when I was reminded of how horrible the sex had been/was.  I stopped, looked her straight in the eye, and said, "No.  This isn't working.  You have to leave now."

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Six pages and not one 'The baby came out the wrong color'.

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Do we know the same people? This exact thing happened to a friend of mine.

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Not exactly a rare phenomena when homely white girls who don't get a lot of attention at home go to an environment where they get axed out all the time.

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If she can't keep her "little comments" to herself, I will probably post another comment in this thread...

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driving home after another 12 hr workday to make money she had already spent, I was
listening to Skynerd`s "Gimme Back My Bullets" & realized he was talking to me.
I went home, loaded my guns and Harley and went back where I came from. let her keep
all the useless shit we had bought together. best thing I could have done for me and for her.

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These stories make me nervous as fuck about getting married.

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married to my first wife, I was stricken with the flu over the Christmas break. she brought me chicken soup.
set it on the floor. pushed it closer to me.  with a stick. left the house.

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I chronicled the unhappiness at the beginning of my marriage here and was advised to run screaming from the relationship.

I stuck it out.

She was disagreeable, messy, frigid for another year. Sex WA less than once a month for the first two years of marriage, which was bad enough on its own, but compounded with the fact that she'd make promises that she had no intention of keeping... That destroyed me. I used to go in the basement and scream my throat raw in anger every day after work.

December 2016 I went to a shrink about half a dozen times. She said "there's nothing I can do for you, you're normal, your wife is the problem, you need to issue her an ultimatum and hold her to it."

1/2/17 we had most of our windows replaced to the tune of a significant amount of my yearly take-home and she bitched me out for several hours about not staying home to make sure they used the right sealant.

1/3/17 she quit her job because it was too stressful.

I kicked her out of bed and didn't speak to her for a month.

The absolute final straw came in early April 2017. We got a nice hotel on discount for the weekend(partially to celebrate her getting a new job) and agreed to spend it having sex. We attempted sex once and she complained, and she spent the rest of the time watching tv or playing games on her cellphone.

I seethed inwardly for the rest of the month. When her car took a crap later that spring, I told her that she needed to be very careful with replacing it because she needed to start looking for a new place to live too. I told her I was sick of feeling not just unloved, but hated and disrespected, and I want getting anything out of our relationship. She no longer made me happy and I didn't want her to tell me she loved me anymore because I didn't believe her. She had until the end of the summer to turn it around and then I was getting rid of her.

And I would have too, except she started making an effort.

Slowly, not as fast as I would like, but the last 8 months have been far better than the first two years. I'm still mad that we're not GOOD at sex because she basically withheld for the first 2/3s of our marriage. We suck at it, we're learning what the other likes. I feeling like a stupid fumbling teenager trying to figure out or because she delayed us. But we're much more intimate more than we were and getting better. We've had sex more in the last four months than we did from when we got married in 2015 to the end of 2017.

And she actually treats me like she loves me now. We're getting there.

But I absolutely would've told her to get out at the end of the summer of she hasn't started making an effort. I've never felt as worthless and unloved as she made me feel last April.

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I might have the best one:

With my ex wife she had fucked us financially more than once and at that point I had one foot out the door, I was just waiting for our daughter to finish highschool and go off the college.

One day my daughter handed me her mothers ipad to show me she was Cat fishing boys my daughter was going to highschool with! I was done and disgusted.

A 37 year old women acting like a college girl from montana lmao what a tool I filed that day.

After divorce I dated a girl who had alot of good qualities but I slowly started to learn she was a functional cocaine addict. I called her out on it and she went crazy pushing me and grabbing me. I was out the door and never looked back as I saw domestic violence in my future with that girl.

Ive been single now for 3 months, taking a break for awhile to figure out why I pick such shitty women and closing on a house at the end of this month.

Going to focus on me for awhile.

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When she killed our baby.

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It's interesting you say that.  My wife and I were each others first real boyfriend/girlfriend.  I had not so much as kissed another girl before dating her.  When we got married, the sex was really bad--neither of us knew what we were doing.  I just figured we'd eventually figure it out.  Turns out she was severely bipolar (but wasn't properly diagnosed for the next 15 years).  She disliked sex very much, so from the honeymoon on, it pretty much stopped.  Once a month, maybe two months--perfectly normal.  Now, 23 years later, on the rare occasion we do have sex, I'm still really bad in bed, and I still don't know what I'm doing, because she refuses to talk to me about it and tell me what she wants/needs. Every time felt like the first time--and not in a good way. She says I'm a guy, and should just figure it out.  It broke me.  I have no desire to have sex again.  I just don't care anymore.  I'll actually avoid it if I feel like she is trying to throw me some pity sex, because the whole act is depressing and I know she doesn't really want to.

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There we were in missionary, when I was reminded of how horrible the sex had been/was.  I stopped, looked her straight in the eye, and said, "No.  This isn't working.  You have to leave now." [img]http://www.ar15.com/images/smilies/smiley_abused.gif[/img

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...The other chick took at least 70 minutes to cum every time. She also demanded the full works (foreplay, licking the cat, AND front, back,up, down, left, right,  from the back intercourse) every, single time we had sex and she wanted to do it like that every day.  I say all of that to say, that shit got old quickly. I'm sure her current husband loves that about her, but it wasn't for me. I'm glad I got to know that about her BEFORE marrying her.

YOU Need to experiment! Sleep with 5or 6 different women, figure out what you like, experiment,  try new shit...  pay for it if you have to! My 50 year old cousin died a few days ago, life is way too short for such misery...

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"I feel nothing when you're inside of me".

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You're complaining that your former girlfriend wanted frequent sex?
Ok then..........

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It's interesting you say that.  My wife and I were each others first real boyfriend/girlfriend.  I had not so much as kissed another girl before dating her.  When we got married, the sex was really bad--neither of us knew what we were doing.  I just figured we'd eventually figure it out.  Turns out she was severely bipolar (but wasn't properly diagnosed for the next 15 years).  She disliked sex very much, so from the honeymoon on, it pretty much stopped.  Once a month, maybe two months--perfectly normal.  Now, 23 years later, on the rare occasion we do have sex, I'm still really bad in bed, and I still don't know what I'm doing, because she refuses to talk to me about it and tell me what she wants/needs. Every time felt like the first time--and not in a good way. She says I'm a guy, and should just figure it out.  It broke me.  I have no desire to have sex again.  I just don't care anymore.  I'll actually avoid it if I feel like she is trying to throw me some pity sex, because the whole act is depressing and I know she doesn't really want to.

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At a certain point you will make all poor choices because after XX YOA  the great options are taken. Men can usually tell a great woman when they know her a little while. Certainly by the mid twenties men have already tried to lock down the good ones. And if you have 75%+ of men all going after that select group of women it's not going to be too long until one of them gets her.

So if you don't find her by a certain age for whatever reason the odds of ever finding her continue to go down unless you find a way to put yourself at the head of the pack; ie gorgeous, rich, famous.  It's all a numbers game unfortunately.

IMO after 30 your best option is to find a fishing hole that hasn't been fished out already. Easier said than done because there are lots of men and they've thought of everything.

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No pussy for months on end. Generally treating me like a roommate. No affection.

The straw was forgetting fathers day and my birthday a week later.
That is when I lost all hope and pulled the plug.

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Why would she be upset over a grand mother's grocery getter.

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married to my first wife, I was stricken with the flu over the Christmas break. she brought me chicken soup.
set it on the floor. pushed it closer to me.  with a stick. left the house.

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I don't think you know what you're looking at.

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OK - I'll bite. @DangerJ I have no idea the implication of this pic - but then I'll admit I'm old as fuck and have been married since God made dirt (1976). My best guess is the car was found at this location - soon to be ex-wife was not with the car - car was brought home by soon to be single husband. Am I close ??